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I found out I got a girl pregnant, advice?
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anarckitty
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I was posting from my phone, so I wasn't trying to come across like that on my first post. It's definitely something he needs to look into if she does decide to keep the baby though.
I'd imagine a lot of people would actually be jealous of your position, what with all the sex during that period.
Yeah dude sex is not a joke. It can come with serious consequences and if she decides to keep it then you be there for her and the kid and be a man. This is literally the most critical thing you can do in your life if this happens and you have a responsibility.
Also an abortion can be a very traumatic experience and she needs more support than a text message can give. This should be obvious, but go talk to her, she might cry, have her back no matter what she chooses and explain what the options are then.
Also an abortion can be a very traumatic experience and she needs more support than a text message can give. This should be obvious, but go talk to her, she might cry, have her back no matter what she chooses and explain what the options are then.
ThisGuy
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Depends, are you in college? Going to college? Young?
Just kidding, doesn't matter where you are. Abort that mission. You gotta convince her you guys would be shit parents and would miss out on some responsibility free life.
Be savvy, but seriously, this is a life sentence, if you don't want it be slick and talk her out of keeping it.
Just kidding, doesn't matter where you are. Abort that mission. You gotta convince her you guys would be shit parents and would miss out on some responsibility free life.
Be savvy, but seriously, this is a life sentence, if you don't want it be slick and talk her out of keeping it.
Tesseract
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i would be ok with this it's her body stuff if the dude was relieved of all responsibility, otherwise it's just selfish and sadistic.
this seems like a 20th century attitude, i don't like it.
bananafactory
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I have a pair of friends who became pregnant despite using both a condom and birth control.
No contraceptive is 100%. Should you expect to have a kid when having protected sex? Of course not. But anyone who is sexually active should at least be aware of the fact that things like this and STDs are still something they may have to deal with, and by deciding to have sex should be prepared to deal with the consequences that may arise.
CloudyTuba
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watch the juno movie
I am always pro-life especialy if you love her,
can you imaging a little mini you a reflection or your love
It's so cute man,
I hope you guys give the little girl or guy a chance
Movies are not real life, nobody said anything about love, and watching Ellen Page pretend to be pregnant does not turn a fuckbuddy into a wife. OP just got way drunk and had stupid sex with some girl he had no relationship interest in.
I'm not saying what I think they should do either way, I'm just saying your post is silly
nonsense
Hate to say it and it isn't going to be easy (especially if it turns out that it really is yours), but they're right. If it was really only two weeks between the sex and her telling you she's pregnant, confirm paternity.
Oh and congrats on the sex.
Wiktor
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If she decides to keep the child not doing the dna test would be pretty damn stupid. Even doing one when one's married is a good idea, let alone for single hook up screw up
Tesseract
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yup.
anarckitty
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I'm 17 weeks now, and looking back I had that same feeling about 2 weeks in as well. That's why I was so surprised the first test I took 7 days earlier was negative.
Quiet down you misogynist.
Regulus Tera
Romanes Eunt Domus
He should voice his concerns, but at the end of the day she's the one carrying the little bastard for nine months.
Im just in school, and work. I basically live paycheck to paycheck and have a dead end job. She is in school to be a hair stylist and lives with her parents. When she told me she was pregnant she made it very clear she was broke which is kind of a trend for her.
Rubbish King
The gift that keeps on giving
Go with the flow man, but jesus christ be real with her, tell her to get an abortion. You can refer to my previous threads for experience
Tesseract
Banned
not sure if maybe serious
so? he's financially hooked for 18 years, putting aside all the time raising a kid he didn't want. his life is over.
entremet
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Lmao oh man
lol
Because like it or not, she gets the final say. Even if some guy wanted to keep it, and she didn't, guess who wins.
peanutbutterlatte
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I mean I'm not saying persuade or coerce her, but just make her aware how much raising a baby costs.
And at the end of the those nine months, that little bastard will be his to deal with for the rest of his life.
I don't think you're obligated to sit back and say "do whatever." Ultimately it's her choice but remind her choosing to keep it would have long term ramifications for both of you AND the child. So I think it's fair to try to convince her that an abortion would be best if you don't want anything to do with the kid. If she's concerned about feeling bad afterwards, you can show her that study that says 95% of women have no remorse. Also offer to put up all the money of course.
BluenoseGames
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Have you tried talking about other options like adoption if abortion is of the table?
But yeah get it tested first to make sure its yours.
But yeah get it tested first to make sure its yours.
Rubbish King
The gift that keeps on giving
but seriously dont be a cunt about it, if she wants to keep it you have nobody to blame except yourself
Strangelove77
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Just go into hiding. Works for DMX all the time.
dragonzdogma
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I mentioned it will be really hard for them, but I believe it's worth the sacrifice they will go through in the next year.
They are people and agencies that could help
Here are some numbers
Care Net/Heartbeat 800-712-HELP
Crisis Pregnancy Hotline 888-4-OPTIONS
Birthright 800-550-4900
National Life Center Pregnancy Hotline 800-848-LOVE
Bethany Christians Services 800-238-4269
America’s Crisis Pregnancy Helpline 800-67-BABY-6
Nurturing Network 800-TNN-4MOM
Good Counsel Homes 800-723-8331
Several Sources Foundation 800-NO-ABORT
www.pregnancycenters.org - Online help offered by Women and Children First
I'd say give the kid a chance
Just typical poor advice
TC you should be honest now, say what you really think. Because there wont be another time to say it. No matter how unpopular your opinion is, you have to let her know what you think of it.
Do not just blindly agree to whatever she says. You are a human being too.
Wiktor
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If he wants to be a father...great, but forcing yourself when you don't want to is terrible idea. Children need to be loved, not have a father that is miserable whenever he has to spend time with them.
Fathers need to provide financially for their kids. Everything else is entirely up to them. It's best if they want to be a part of child's life, but some people are just not suited for that.
it's her body and her choice. She's gonna have to deal with emotions for the rest of her life while this dipshit will just stick his dick into another drunken chick in a few months
ghostofsparta
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Plus maintenance. Lots and lots of maintenance.
He decided to possibly take on that responsibility when he chose to have unprotected sex, he can say he would prefer an abortion but at the end of the day he has no say what she decides to do with her body.
ThisGuy
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Lol and her. You can blame her just as much. In fact you can blame her more for keeping it.
Shoulda put those swimmers under contract op.
well, if he's not gonna be part of his/her life, it'll just be a payment.
Regulus Tera
Romanes Eunt Domus
So what should he do if he wants her to abort but she wants to keep it?
She is screwed as well.
xDUMPWEEDx
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Obligatory.
Also, call up Maury to get on a future paternity test episode.
Also, call up Maury to get on a future paternity test episode.
The state will hook them up every month with some money. Doesn't seem like much at first, however if he has a couple more babies with her, that's when the money starts adding up.
Bay Maximus
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The Maury Show 888-456-2879
t-storm
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I like this.
ryutaro's mama
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The possibility of nightmare scenarios like this is why I got a vasectomy--closed the factory before it even opened.
Good luck, OP.
I don't get why two people would upend their lives and complicate future romantic relationships (or even forego them entirely) because a mistake that can be easily remedied. There is so much societal pressure on women to carry pregnancies to term it's insane. There's nothing preventing her from having a baby with an active partner several years down the line, in fact, her chances may be better if she doesn't have this baby.
Tesseract
Banned
she took on the responsibility too.
she's screwed because she wants to be, options out are available to her.
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