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LGBTQIA+ |OT9| The Return of the Queen

I had the most awkward moment ever tonight when I wad out on what I thought was a date only to turn out he thought I was straight and we were just hanging out.
 

Kater

Banned
I find it's important during these moments to disconnect for a moment and to focus on the right here, right now.
Isn't that the opposite of what you'd want to do? You want to connect, and be in the here and now. If you disconnect your neglect problems, and then things pile up. Just my experience though.
 

daripad

Member
So I arrived very early at the hospital today and I asked my father to pick me up to have breakfast with him. We went to have (real!) tacos in a place near a sports center.

I was having my delicious (real) tacos and then I saw a not so good looking guy, like he didn't have the best facial features but he had a super hot gym body, not so muscular but not so lean, a good balance of muscularity and gut and then a realization came to me: I need to go to the gym.

The thing is, the one time I went to the gym I was too scared and stopped going because I didn't feel comfortable there, specially with all the hot people around me. Plus, I don't even know what I will do there. Why am I so timid? ☹️
 
So I arrived very early at the hospital today and I asked my father to pick me up to have breakfast with him. We went to have (real!) tacos in a place near a sports center.

I was having my delicious (real) tacos and then I saw a not so good looking guy, like he didn't have the best facial features but he had a super hot gym body, not so muscular but not so lean, a good balance of muscularity and gut and then a realization came to me: I need to go to the gym.

The thing is, the one time I went to the gym I was too scared and stopped going because I didn't feel comfortable there, specially with all the hot people around me. Plus, I don't even know what I will do there. Why am I so timid? ☹️

I'm in the same position, too scared to go to the gym.

The best solution is to workout from home but that can be quite expensive...
 

JCX

Member
So I arrived very early at the hospital today and I asked my father to pick me up to have breakfast with him. We went to have (real!) tacos in a place near a sports center.

I was having my delicious (real) tacos and then I saw a not so good looking guy, like he didn't have the best facial features but he had a super hot gym body, not so muscular but not so lean, a good balance of muscularity and gut and then a realization came to me: I need to go to the gym.

The thing is, the one time I went to the gym I was too scared and stopped going because I didn't feel comfortable there, specially with all the hot people around me. Plus, I don't even know what I will do there. Why am I so timid? ☹️

Little Mons†er;231918521 said:
I'm in the same position, too scared to go to the gym.

The best solution is to workout from home but that can be quite expensive...

The people at all the gyms I've been to have been generally nice. I know all the big guys are intimidating, bu they're all really just nerds about lifting. I've been lifting regularly now for about 3 years. It's become one of my favorite things to do, and a nice break from sitting at a desk all day at work.


Here is about 2.5 years ago
8jNWsQHm.jpg


Here is this morning
hoUvKiTm.jpg


Also nice to just have something going on as like a running project.

I suggest either getting a trainer short term to show you the ropes or ask a gym-going friend to walk you through it. Gym people like talking about lifting like Gaffers like talking video games, so it shouldn't be too tough to find some help.
 

Bladenic

Member
So I arrived very early at the hospital today and I asked my father to pick me up to have breakfast with him. We went to have (real!) tacos in a place near a sports center.

I was having my delicious (real) tacos and then I saw a not so good looking guy, like he didn't have the best facial features but he had a super hot gym body, not so muscular but not so lean, a good balance of muscularity and gut and then a realization came to me: I need to go to the gym.

The thing is, the one time I went to the gym I was too scared and stopped going because I didn't feel comfortable there, specially with all the hot people around me. Plus, I don't even know what I will do there. Why am I so timid? ☹️

You can always start doing push-ups, squats, and ab exercises at home :) you'll still notice a difference and maybe you'll get more confident to go to the gym after a while.
 

daripad

Member
You can always start doing push-ups, squats, and ab exercises at home :) you'll still notice a difference and maybe you'll get more confident to go to the gym after a while.

That actually sounds like a good idea to gather some confidence. I'll YouTube some videos for these kind of workouts tomorrow.


Edit: Awesome progress JCX :)
 
Getting really sick of pancakes or waffles for sunday breakfast.

The people at all the gyms I've been to have been generally nice. I know all the big guys are intimidating, bu they're all really just nerds about lifting. I've been lifting regularly now for about 3 years. It's become one of my favorite things to do, and a nice break from sitting at a desk all day at work.


Here is about 2.5 years ago
8jNWsQHm.jpg


Here is this morning
hoUvKiTm.jpg


Also nice to just have something going on as like a running project.

I suggest either getting a trainer short term to show you the ropes or ask a gym-going friend to walk you through it. Gym people like talking about lifting like Gaffers like talking video games, so it shouldn't be too tough to find some help.

What happened to the glasses?
 

Astral Dog

Member
So I arrived very early at the hospital today and I asked my father to pick me up to have breakfast with him. We went to have (real!) tacos in a place near a sports center.

I was having my delicious (real) tacos and then I saw a not so good looking guy, like he didn't have the best facial features but he had a super hot gym body, not so muscular but not so lean, a good balance of muscularity and gut and then a realization came to me: I need to go to the gym.

The thing is, the one time I went to the gym I was too scared and stopped going because I didn't feel comfortable there, specially with all the hot people around me. Plus, I don't even know what I will do there. Why am I so timid? ☹️
i get you i feel so uncomfortable too,like why am i there? Specially because i tried to go to the gym many times and left after a few months for not feeling well.

But you know what? You have to go,force yourself and you get used to it eventually, nobody is going to judge you or care do it not because you want a perfect body or anything,but because its healthy.Fun,and will make your mind feel better.
Going through emotional roller coasters is the worst fuckin' thing, I cannot stay in a stable state of mind, it jumps from day to day, hour to hour, minute to minute, I hate it, one minute I'm fine, the other I I feel like crap.
Aww you will be fine, keep up.breath excercises,fitness,go to the doctor if neccessary.stay well :(
 
Going through emotional roller coasters is the worst fuckin' thing, I cannot stay in a stable state of mind, it jumps from day to day, hour to hour, minute to minute, I hate it, one minute I'm fine, the other I I feel like crap.

Same off and on for the past year :[
 
Second hand smoking is the worst.

Cigarettes are the worst and I don't understand people

I have never tried it because I don't see the point. Like, is a small nicotine high (which I've had from cigars) really worth bad breath, yellow teeth/fingers, addiction, high monetary cost, and an increased chance of cancer and heart disease? And it (thankfully) doesn't look "cool" anymore either.

I've had two exes now that smoked. This is what I felt like doing every time they came in from having a smoke and wanted to kiss:

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Going through emotional roller coasters is the worst fuckin' thing, I cannot stay in a stable state of mind, it jumps from day to day, hour to hour, minute to minute, I hate it, one minute I'm fine, the other I I feel like crap.

I'm in the exact same energy and head space, right now.

Anxiety is a bitch, isn't it?

I find it's important during these moments to disconnect for a moment and to focus on the right here, right now.

Hey me too! We all need to strive for the physical sturdiness displayed in this gif but in emotional terms.

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I totally feel you guys, having gone through a lot of ups and downs very recently. But know it'll get better, that your problems are mostly centered in your head, and that you can overcome anything -- especially with the support system we have here. I know I'm always ready to talk whenever someone needs a hand, or even just someone to vent to. Lord knows I've used this personally -- and to great effect.

You are all loved, believe me. <3
 
Little Mons†er;231918521 said:
I'm in the same position, too scared to go to the gym.

The best solution is to workout from home but that can be quite expensive...

That actually sounds like a good idea to gather some confidence. I'll YouTube some videos for these kind of workouts tomorrow.


Edit: Awesome progress JCX :)
Maybe these vids from the lean machines could be useful to start with:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZLzKJEclj48
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_EZ0g8stCL0

They have some other stuff on their channel if they're not what you're looking for. Plus 10 mins is easier to get motivated for. There's also darebee.
 

Crayons

Banned
I have never tried it because I don't see the point. Like, is a small nicotine high (which I've had from cigars) really worth bad breath, yellow teeth/fingers, addiction, high monetary cost, and an increased chance of cancer and heart disease? And it (thankfully) doesn't look "cool" anymore either.

I've had two exes now that smoked. This is what I felt like doing every time they came in from having a smoke and wanted to kiss:

tumblr_inline_mrfep2Zla21qz4rgp.gif
You mean you don't like guys smelling like cigarettes and whiskey?
 

RatskyWatsky

Hunky Nostradamus
The thing is, the one time I went to the gym I was too scared and stopped going because I didn't feel comfortable there, specially with all the hot people around me. Plus, I don't even know what I will do there. Why am I so timid? &#9785;&#65039;

Little Mons&#8224;er;231918521 said:
I'm in the same position, too scared to go to the gym.

The best solution is to workout from home but that can be quite expensive...

Bros, I'm literally the most timid awkward creature in existence and even i go to the gym. all of your fears are in your mind - no one at the gym gives a shit what you look like, what you're wearing (you can make them jelly by dressing fab, though), what work outs you're doing, etc. They may offer advice if you're doing something wrong, but that's it. Just go, take it slow, learn the exercises and forms, and you'll be fine.

also diet is a huge part of fitness so work on that too

You mean you don't like guys smelling like cigarettes and whiskey?

the smell of whiskey + chewing tobacco on a guys breath = insta boner. bonus points if hes covered in dirt/motor oil
 

KmA

Member
Here's a secret, every person who is super fit is either an athlete or LOVES going to the gym (or both). Like they actually enjoy it. If you go with the mindset that you're punishing yourself because you don't like your body, then you're going for the wrong reason. I'm kind of speaking from experience because that's basically why I started going to the gym. And it's not even a remotely healthy thing to do even though the goal is to get healthier lmao.

Plus gay men just have that extra added pressure to feel like their body has to be perfect in comparison to straight men. If your goal is to get more men with your new gym bod, just remember all men are trash. No exceptions.
 
I have no trouble getting laid. I have trouble finding a place to do it.

Those three hours I had a naked guy hiding in my closet waiting for my dad to leave werent very pleasant
A thing I learned from a Sex, Gender and Family course in uni is in social contexts where people don't have a private space to do things (eg lots of people living in one shared space during the great depression), people would do sex in public more. Despite being in 'public', it was more 'private' because the people around were strangers.

Problem solved.
 

Crayons

Banned
A thing I learned from a Sex, Gender and Family course in uni is in social contexts where people don't have a private space to do things (eg lots of people living in one shared space during the great depression), people would do sex in public more. Despite being in 'public', it was more 'private' because the people around were strangers.

Problem solved.
Yeah I tried that too. Was balls deep in this Twink for about ten seconds before we got flashlights pointed at us. Not worth it.
 

RatskyWatsky

Hunky Nostradamus
A thing I learned from a Sex, Gender and Family course in uni is in social contexts where people don't have a private space to do things (eg lots of people living in one shared space during the great depression), people would do sex in public more. Despite being in 'public', it was more 'private' because the people around were strangers.

Problem solved.

that sounds interesting. any links for further reading?
 

Crayons

Banned
How romantic
We actually got caught twice that night. He wanted to try again but I told him I didn't want to go to jail. And he had to go home before it was too late because his parents expected him


And that's why I'm never going to try having sex in central park again

I told him next time I'm just gonna rent a hotel room.
 
that sounds interesting. any links for further reading?
George Chauncey “Privacy Could Only Be Had in Public: Gay Uses of the Streets” [1995] can be read here: https://books.google.com.au/books?i...lic: Gay Uses of the Streets” [1995]&pg=PA202

A summary:
Historian George Chauncey describes how oppression and privilege are intertwined in the way that gay men were not able to meet or create private space at the turn of the 20th century in New York City. At the same time, gay men drew upon society’s encouragement of working-class men to occupy public and semi-public spaces such as parks, docks, beaches, bath houses, and movie theaters (see figure at the beginning of Section 6). Through encounters in these spaces, gay men were able to create modes of access and to develop a culture, supporting Chauncey’s argument that, for this group, “privacy could only be had in public.” His work sparks thinking about marginalization, not only of specific groups in public space, but also of their rights to private spaces and privacy. Public and private are not equally accessible, but depend upon sexuality, gender, economic status, age, and other markers of identity and behavior.
http://peopleplacespace.org/toc/section-6/
 
We actually got caught twice that night. He wanted to try again but I told him I didn't want to go to jail. And he had to go home before it was too late because his parents expected him


And that's why I'm never going to try having sex in central park again

I told him next time I'm just gonna rent a hotel room.

Such a casanova.
 
Thanks! I have so much further to go.



Just wasn't wearing them lol. Actually though, the ones from the first pic got too loose as I lost weight. Got new ones that fit better.

You near-sighted or far-sighted? I ask because I'm near-sighted and couldn't take a pic of myself without my glasses since everything would be way too blurry.
 

JCX

Member
You near-sighted or far-sighted? I ask because I'm near-sighted and couldn't take a pic of myself without my glasses since everything would be way too blurry.

Umm I think near-sited (far off stuff is blurry). The mirror is close enough to see without glasses

What is everyone doing for St. Patricks day? Getting hammered I hope.

;)

I haven't celebrated St. Patty's day in a legit manner since my one and only Chicago one broke me.
 

RatskyWatsky

Hunky Nostradamus
Which Final Fantasy XV Character is Your Soul Mate? (Men and Women)

im bi so i did it twice, first for women and then for men, but both times i got Cindy~

You got Cindy!
Hoo boy, what a lucky one you are. With as many admirers as Cindy has, it's a wonder anyone had a chance at all. But she chose you, and you'd best be prepared for all she has to offer!
Cindy is an incredibly sweet soul, and that sweetness won't stop now that you're together. As your girlfriend, she is understanding and attentive. Even if she can't quite understand where you're coming from, she'll go out of her way to see you happy.
With a career as demanding as hers though, she can get scarce every now and then. don't be surprised when she seems to disappear into her work for a few days; this is her reprieve, and she'll come back from it happier than ever. If you really want to connect, ask her about the latest car she's been working on, and she'll be ecstatic to teach you a thing or two.

What is everyone doing for St. Patricks day? Getting hammered I hope.

;)

im make pineapple/tequila sherbet~ >:]
 

Cosmic Bus

pristine morning snow
What is everyone doing for St. Patricks day? Getting hammered I hope.

;)

Working, typical. I'm part Irish and my goddamn name is Patrick, but I can't recall ever getting the holiday off lol.

Plus it's Lent, so I won't even be able to have corned beef (only fish on Fridays)
 
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