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Conservatives defend Mike Pence not interacting with women cause they might have sex

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levious

That throwing stick stunt of yours has boomeranged on us.
I think that's a gross oversimplification and Pence is getting a lot of unfair hatred because he's part of the Trump administration rather than having the situation judged on its merits. I know of a person who went on a business trip with a person of the opposite gender and they had to get separate rooms because of the fact. If they had shared the same room but slept in separate beds would that have been appropriate even though it was purely business and non sexual? People have their own boundaries and if Pence doesn't want to put himself in a position where he is having dinner with a female associate on his own then he should be allowed to.


Bigots will be heavily scrutinized. Don't waste time crying for him.
 

Borgnine

MBA in pussy licensing and rights management
Honestly, this is fine. I think it's silly but it's not like he's trying to pass a law or something. It's his life, he can do what he wants.
 

dpunk3

Member
Does this mean I should be worried about going to conventions with scantily clad cosplayers, after all I might just cheat on my girlfriend!

Fucking weirdos.

Like, whatever, he doesn't eat with females. Not a huge deal on it's own. It's the weird way conservatives are trying to say this is deserving of praise.
 

azyless

Member
I think that's a gross oversimplification and Pence is getting a lot of unfair hatred because he's part of the Trump administration rather than having the situation judged on its merits. I know of a person who went on a business trip with a person of the opposite gender and they had to get separate rooms because of the fact. If they had shared the same room but slept in separate beds would that have been appropriate even though it was purely business and non sexual? People have their own boundaries and if Pence doesn't want to put himself in a position where he is having dinner with a female associate on his own then he should be allowed to.
Lol not wanting to share a room with a work colleague isn't the same as generally not interacting with women and that has everything to do with privacy and nothing to do with sex.
And if poor Mike Pence wanted to not be judged based on what he does with his relationships, maybe he should stop wishing torture on gay people for what they do with theirs :)
 

Lmo911

Member
This reminds of me that "hillbilly-pop" (I don't know what to call that bullshit) song about that guy saying he shouldn't drink anymore because then he'll cheat on his girl.

"Oh no, honey, I'm good
I could have another but I probably should not
I got somebody at home and if I stay I might not leave alone"

I mean as a guy, I'm kind of offended. Have some self control.
 

yLEFTy

Member
When it's expected that professionals be treated like professionals regardless of their sex, of course something like this is going to get attention.
Is going to a one on one business dinner a requirement for professional treatment? I'm not saying it's wrong to do at all, but this is a guideline that he and his wife have come up with inside of their relationship. Its not like he's proposing legislation that will make this a law.
 

rataven

Member
As a woman, it's super irritating that men who think like this seem to see all woman as temptresses dangling potential flings and sexual encounters in front of them like some sort of carrot. Never mind all the hard work and effort we put into our jobs and relationships that we already have. All we really want to do is ensnare these poor married men in our clutches for......who knows. Most women I know want nothing to do with married peen. Is it seriously that hard for men to casually dine or chat with a woman without wanting to bone her? Dear god.
 
Honestly, this is fine. I think it's silly but it's not like he's trying to pass a law or something. It's his life, he can do what he wants.

He's the VP. Other legislators hold this view.

They make laws about women's bodies and sexual harassment/discrimination

His personal views are a problem since they clearly influence his public policy and are based on his own inability to not control himself
 
Lol, sharing a fucking room and having a 1:1 meeting are not at all the same thing.

Yes on a business trip you would not share the same room with a female colleague, for privacy reasons, not a potential concern about having sex.

They aren't the same thing but I'm just making the point that a persons gender can influence the way you behave with someone. If I was going on a trip with a work colleague I would potentially have no issue with sharing a room with a male colleague but I wouldn't share it with a female worker. It doesn't mean I wouldn't be able to control myself and want to sleep with her it just comes down to boundaries at the end of the day.
 

Calion

Member
Had an old co-worker who was like that. Guy was a god-fearing, 2nd amendment worshiping youth pastor. Couldn't go out to dinner 1-on-1 with the opposite sex because of "temptations".
 

levious

That throwing stick stunt of yours has boomeranged on us.
As a woman, it's super irritating that men who think like this seem to see all woman as temptresses dangling potential flings and sexual encounters in front of them like some sort of carrot. Never mind all the hard work and effort we put into our jobs and relationships that we already have. All we really want to do is ensnare these poor married men in our clutches for......who knows. Most women I know want nothing to do with married peen. Is it seriously that hard for men to casually dine or chat with a woman without wanting to bone her? Dear god.

Well when your origin story involves the "weaker" sex giving in to temptation and then corrupting her male counterpart, it makes sense that every other facet of life gets warped by that sort of thinking.
 
Lol not wanting to share a room with a work colleague isn't the same as generally not interacting with women and that has everything to do with privacy and nothing to do with sex.
And if poor Mike Pence wanted to not be judged based on what he does with his relationships, maybe he should stop wishing torture on gay people for what they do with theirs :)

Isn't the article just saying he wouldn't have dinner with another female if they were alone? So if there was another person there then he would go ahead with it?
 
There is so much to unpack here I don't even know where to start. It's crazy, and one of the better examples of how many conservatives and religious folks dehumanize women.
 

Borgnine

MBA in pussy licensing and rights management
He's the VP. Other legislators hold this view.

They make laws about women's bodies and sexual harassment/discrimination

His personal views are a problem since they clearly influence his public policy

Well when the bill is proposed to ban men and women eating together let's discuss it.
 

ZOONAMI

Junior Member
Isn't the article just saying he wouldn't have dinner with another female if they were alone? So if there was another person there then he would go ahead with it?

Yes, and you don't see that as a problem?

It's saying, look, I can't see you as anything other than a sexual temptation unless another person is here with us.

It's fucked up.
 
Not only is he not a monster, he sounds like he’s a smart man who understands that infidelity is something that threatens every marriage and must be guarded against.

All these people mocking Pence for the protections he puts on his behavior must not know the people I know or suffer the temptations I face. They must not read the headlines about marriages ending due to infidelity. I have far too many friends who found their inhibitions lowered by alcohol and distance from a spouse. The end result of their lapse in judgment has in some cases been the destruction of their marriage.

Women are sirens and men have absolutely no control over or responsibility for their own actions.
 
I honestly understand him doing this. It's not a religious thing; it's a conservative thing. There are a ton of people I know this same way and I'm one of them - It's my illusion of giving respect to my wife. My rules are a little different; for instance, if my boss (female) wanted to have a 1 on 1 lunch, it's fine. But if an old female friend of mine wanted to have lunch or dinner, I'd ask for another person join us. I don't know why; it just feel like that's the way it should be. Has nothing to do with sex at all, it just feels like that's the proper way to respect my wife.
 
Yes, and you don't see that as a problem?

It's saying, look, I can't see you as anything other than a sexual temptation unless another person is here with us.

It's fucked up.

I think calling it "fucked up" is a bit extreme. He obviously doesn't want to put himself in a certain situation out of respect for his values. He isn't hurting anyone in this case so I think the outrage is a bit over the top. What's an example of a scenario where he can't get something done unless it's over a one on one dinner with another female?
 

louiedog

Member
I honestly understand him doing this. It's not a religious thing; it's a conservative thing. There are a ton of people I know this same way and I'm one of them - It's my illusion of giving respect to my wife. My rules are a little different; for instance, if my boss (female) wanted to have a 1 on 1 lunch, it's fine. But if an old female friend of mine wanted to have lunch or dinner, I'd ask for another person join us. I don't know why; it just feel like that's the way it should be. Has nothing to do with sex at all, it just feels like that's the proper way to respect my wife.

If the one person needs a chaperone to keep honest or the other person needs one for trust I feel like the respect is already gone.
 

Dryk

Member
Something that I've noticed lately is that people aren't really equipped to deal with outside attraction when they're in a relationship. I don't get it. It's normal, it happens, and it doesn't have to lead to anything. Get over it.

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Agreed, saying that you couldn't have ONE business dinner is ridiculous. However, choosing to limit those interactions because you know what they can lead to IS NOT ridiculous.
To me limiting the proportion of people you could be close friends with like that is ridiculous.
 
If the one person needs a chaperone to keep honest or the other person needs one for trust I feel like the respect is already gone.

I wouldn't categorise myself as a conservative but I can't agree with your statement. If you're in a relationship I don't see why you would want to be spending leisure time alone with a person of the opposite gender. It just seems inappropriate to me. Like I said people have their own boundaries.
 

see5harp

Member
Man how do all of these people go their entire day without having sex with all of these beautiful women that aren't their wives? I really don't understand.
 

azyless

Member
I honestly understand him doing this. It's not a religious thing; it's a conservative thing. There are a ton of people I know this same way and I'm one of them - It's my illusion of giving respect to my wife. My rules are a little different; for instance, if my boss (female) wanted to have a 1 on 1 lunch, it's fine. But if an old female friend of mine wanted to have lunch or dinner, I'd ask for another person join us. I don't know why; it just feel like that's the way it should be. Has nothing to do with sex at all, it just feels like that's the proper way to respect my wife.
How exactly is that showing respect to your wife ?

If my girlfriend ever told me she doesn't want to interact with people one on one out of "respect" for me I would seriously wonder about the state of our relationship. (And if she ever told me to stop I would show her the door immediately)

Seen the same logic all over GAF relationship threads.
Yep.

I wouldn't categorise myself as a conservative but I can't agree with your statement. If you're in a relationship I don't see why you would want to be spending leisure time alone with a person of the opposite gender. It just seems inappropriate to me. Like I said people have their own boundaries.
Because... they're friends and you enjoy their company ? what a bizarre line of thinking.
 

HvySky

Member
I think that's a gross oversimplification and Pence is getting a lot of unfair hatred because he's part of the Trump administration rather than having the situation judged on its merits. I know of a person who went on a business trip with a person of the opposite gender and they had to get separate rooms because of the fact. If they had shared the same room but slept in separate beds would that have been appropriate even though it was purely business and non sexual? People have their own boundaries and if Pence doesn't want to put himself in a position where he is having dinner with a female associate on his own then he should be allowed to.

Nah, son.
 

Alavard

Member
I wouldn't categorise myself as a conservative but I can't agree with your statement. If you're in a relationship I don't see why you would want to be spending leisure time alone with a person of the opposite gender. It just seems inappropriate to me. Like I said people have their own boundaries.

So by your logic, since I'm bisexual and in a relationship, me being spending leisure time with anyone else one-on-one seems inappropriate?
 

louiedog

Member
I wouldn't categorise myself as a conservative but I can't agree with your statement. If you're in a relationship I don't see why you would want to be spending leisure time alone with a person of the opposite gender. It just seems inappropriate to me. Like I said people have their own boundaries.

So many weird things about this. It assumes if you're straight you can't have a good platonic friend of the opposite gender. And what if you're somewhere else along the sexuality spectrum, no single dinners with anyone?
 

jelly

Member
I bet there's nothing that Pence fears more than having sex with a woman.

It wouldn't surprise me, they can't all be straight. I've always suspected some people who are that blinkered, ignorant and hateful usually have skeletons in the closet, whether it be gay, extreme kinks or illegal stuff.
 
I'm married. Have had lunch / dinner with women. However, if I were politician I wouldn't be alone with a woman. Accusations alone (even if not made by her) would be a hastle.


For the record, Pence is an idiot.
 
I wouldn't categorise myself as a conservative but I can't agree with your statement. If you're in a relationship I don't see why you would want to be spending leisure time alone with a person of the opposite gender. It just seems inappropriate to me. Like I said people have their own boundaries.

You don't have friends of the opposite gender?
 
So by your logic, since I'm bisexual and in a relationship, me being spending leisure time with anyone else one-on-one seems inappropriate?

Glad you brought this up because I've seen it mentioned a ton of times. This whole phenomena completely ignores how it makes absolutely no sense if you're bi, gay or lesbian. You can apparently only spend time with people if you aren't attracted to that entire group of people.
 
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