Pankratous
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My girlfriend doesn't drive and it is definitely the worst thing. If you live/work in or near a city though, then I don't see it as necessary.
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I don't drive and makes me feel terrible about my self-esteem
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Stereogatari
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Don't worry OP. You are saving yourself from the next step. "I don't drive a new/expensive car and makes me feel makes me feel terrible about my self-esteem."
True Savior
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Drive alone OP. A lot. Have you done it?
AdventureRacing
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Even if I lived somewhere where driving wasn't necessary I'm glad I have the skill at least. I think to drive as little as necessary though. I wish I could get rid of my car all together, it's a huge money sink.
Gave up on driving because I got very awful panic and anxiety attacks. I just can't do it and prefer to spend money on Uber and shit.
At this point, I really don't give a fuck I'd that's a turnoff for women, which is something that was a huge concern for me. Hope everything gets better for you, OP. I really do.
At this point, I really don't give a fuck I'd that's a turnoff for women, which is something that was a huge concern for me. Hope everything gets better for you, OP. I really do.
Since it bothers you , you should probably start driving OP. But it's really no big deal if you can't afford a car. Nobody is really going to judge you since you are just 20.
I got my license around your age, 6 years later I drive only when I have to. It's kinda boring but definitely a useful skill to have.
I got my license around your age, 6 years later I drive only when I have to. It's kinda boring but definitely a useful skill to have.
depths20XX
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Where do you live though?
DarkCronos
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my girlfriend didn't get the licence until she was 25. And after that she was so scared of driving she never took the car for 3 years. She had to start this year only because she got a job in a slightly remote place and I couldn't drive her everyday.
If you live in a big city with good public transportation it's not a big deal, but when you are on a more rural area it's really important to drive. You should really force yourself to learn, otherwise you are handicapping yourself and you are forcing yourself to count on others even for the most trivial stuff
If you live in a big city with good public transportation it's not a big deal, but when you are on a more rural area it's really important to drive. You should really force yourself to learn, otherwise you are handicapping yourself and you are forcing yourself to count on others even for the most trivial stuff
LeroyPantwether
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Do any of the posters in here who don't drive have children?
Gonna agree on the last part. I absolutely loathe to drive and all, but if it's an absolute emergency, I can get someone to a hospital or that kind of stuff. Not being able to drive my mom a few years ago and having to wait until an ambulance arrived because of a health scare she had is something I will never, ever forgive myself.
AppleSeason
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I stopped driving years ago. Heck, I don't even have a car anymore. The joys of living in an area with every possible kind of public transport, and no parking spots.
I feel guilty about using a car since it means I'm burning fossil fuels and generating CO2, so i won't care until electric cars and electrity coming 100% from renewable sources is a reality.
So until then, I'm just the backup driver in case friends (which I rarely see) get drunk, or if we have to make turns in a long road drip. Which doesn't happen a lot since it's cheaper to get a train or bus and we don't have to worry about baggage space. Not to mention if the city we travel to has car restrictions due to smog levels.
I feel guilty about using a car since it means I'm burning fossil fuels and generating CO2, so i won't care until electric cars and electrity coming 100% from renewable sources is a reality.
So until then, I'm just the backup driver in case friends (which I rarely see) get drunk, or if we have to make turns in a long road drip. Which doesn't happen a lot since it's cheaper to get a train or bus and we don't have to worry about baggage space. Not to mention if the city we travel to has car restrictions due to smog levels.
AntiFacebook
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Don't worry, in the not so far future no one will drive.
NoFaceNico
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The state told me not to drive for the next three years but I still do! I believe in you, OP!!
/jk
Kain-Nosgoth
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don't worry OP, i'm 29 and i'm just getting my licence now
don't bother about what other people think, they're not important, you are!
If these people can't accept that you don't drive, then, they're not for you
don't bother about what other people think, they're not important, you are!
If these people can't accept that you don't drive, then, they're not for you
I'm 42 and don't drive as I am medically disqualified. I have a wife and two daughters and although I am afraid that they're missing out on some things, the money I save means that it can be spent in other areas.
Also, if you're afraid that not having a car/licence means that people won't want to date you, then doesn't that say more about them than about you?
Also, if you're afraid that not having a car/licence means that people won't want to date you, then doesn't that say more about them than about you?
depths20XX
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This is basically irrelevant. Depending on where you live you absolutely need a car, or you're just inconveniencing others.
LeroyPantwether
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Isn't it generally better to call an ambulance in an emergency rather than drive? The ambulance can get to you faster than you'll Be able to get to a hospital. Furthermore ambulance come stocked with medical professionals and life saving technologies, stuff I assume your vehicle does not have.
Horseticuffs
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I didn't get my driver's license until my 35th birthday and it absolutely became an all-consuming shame that hobbled my personal development and traumatized me for years. If you are like me you will find ways to shape your life and world around not driving and you'll waste lots of time and energy doing it, but it'll just be a precarious house of cards that will ending up costing you so much more time and energy than just getting your license.
You'll also be at the mercy of people, which leaves you open to exploitation and manipulation. I suffered years of emotional abuse at the hands of my ex-wife due to being at her mercy. I always caution people in this situation; manipulative people have a way of finding you and exploiting your weakness.
http://www.neogaf.com/forum/showthread.php?t=866153&highlight= Here is the thread from the day I got my license. It is still a watershed moment in my life and opened so many doors which never would have been opened if I hadn't done this. Please consider getting your driver's license post haste. I hate to see something like what I went through happening to people.
You'll also be at the mercy of people, which leaves you open to exploitation and manipulation. I suffered years of emotional abuse at the hands of my ex-wife due to being at her mercy. I always caution people in this situation; manipulative people have a way of finding you and exploiting your weakness.
http://www.neogaf.com/forum/showthread.php?t=866153&highlight= Here is the thread from the day I got my license. It is still a watershed moment in my life and opened so many doors which never would have been opened if I hadn't done this. Please consider getting your driver's license post haste. I hate to see something like what I went through happening to people.
MetalliCabombination
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I learned to drive when i was 14 and 10 years later i still hate it unless its about driving on a highway down country roads. I live in a metropolitan city with a fuck ton of traffic and ill pick the subway or an uber any fkn day than deal with it myself.
H.Protagonist
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I'm 35 and I haven't driven in...15+ years? I've always taken mass transit, but I'll have to start again eventually now that I have a kid. I feel your reluctance, though. I'd honestly rather walk a marathon to wherever I need to go than get behind the wheel. I don't generally ask for rides, and if I do I put towards gas, or drinks, food, etc., but overall it's not fair to others in the end. So, as much as it shouldn't tank your self-esteem, it is probably a necessary reminder to do that thing we know we should do. It's really just a matter of biting the bullet for the both of us, I'd say.
Completely the opposite for me. I find driving a good way to relieve stress, and sometimes the long way to my destination just because driving around gives me time to relax.
I understand your point completely. Thing is, my mom was still able to move when she was taken to ER, which isn't really far from here, then she got worse and was moved to a hospital.
Luckily things went well and she's alright now, but I felt really useless in that situation.
Annoying Old Party Man
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I'm 35. I'm an account director at a successful agency. I've traveled all around the world.
I don't drive.
I don't care.
People seem to find it weird, but I guess it just goes along with my quirky personality ¯\_(ツ_/¯
OP if you're not in the US (where for the most part you're pretty much screwed if you don't drive), don't even blink about it. It should be the least of your worries.
I don't drive.
I don't care.
People seem to find it weird, but I guess it just goes along with my quirky personality ¯\_(ツ
_/¯OP if you're not in the US (where for the most part you're pretty much screwed if you don't drive), don't even blink about it. It should be the least of your worries.
Get the license. practice practice practice and get it.
After that, drive occasionally, to keep up your skills.
But if you don't need to own a car, dont own a car.
As someone who lives alone and has never made more than about $2100 per month: I have $15,000 in the bank. And I attribute that completely, to not paying car payments, insurance, gas, parking, or unexpected repairs.
I actually fully own a vehicle ( so no payments) but it sits uninsured and undriven, for most of the year.
After that, drive occasionally, to keep up your skills.
But if you don't need to own a car, dont own a car.
As someone who lives alone and has never made more than about $2100 per month: I have $15,000 in the bank. And I attribute that completely, to not paying car payments, insurance, gas, parking, or unexpected repairs.
I actually fully own a vehicle ( so no payments) but it sits uninsured and undriven, for most of the year.
mysocksarepink
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I'm 26 and don't drive
Afro Thunder
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I'm 36 and have a license since 1999. I don't drive since 2001. My wife drives and take me everywhere when needed, like a reverse Driving Miss Daisy.
24 here. There's a few things that lower my self-esteem. Not having a license isn't one. Train/tram/bus is too chill tbh.
I don't think there's ever been a car ride with my sister where she didn't have an outburst because of the traffic. It's tragic.
I don't think there's ever been a car ride with my sister where she didn't have an outburst because of the traffic. It's tragic.
RPG_Fanatic
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29 here and no driving license here. I use public transportation to get to work and such. Never had any real interest in driving. I just never felt comfortable behind the wheel.
I got a G1 license before for the sake of having ID, but after I found out there was an alternative, I just let my license and got that instead.
I got a G1 license before for the sake of having ID, but after I found out there was an alternative, I just let my license and got that instead.
27 here and I don't have a license. I actually used to be really self conscious about this in my early 20s. My dad and mom were both kind of pressuring me to get a license. I just never were interested and now I don't give a fuck and neither of them have even mentioned about it for years. The way things are (unemployed) I wouldn't be even able to afford keeping a car. The costs are ridiculous. There has been and will be instances where owning a car and being able to drive it would have been super handy, but it's a compromise I'm fine with. I do believe that I'm reducing my chances of dying when I'm not driving everyday like many of my friends are. Just in time to witness the birth of self-driving cars as well.
Also, no one has ridiculed me not having a license. I'm actually surprised how many people my age don't have a license either.
Enter The 36 Chambers
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In my experience girls like guys that drive. It's definitely a social achievement. Like having your own place.
Learn to drive b.
Learn to drive b.
Maybe teenagers but grown women don't really care. I mean, most people learn how to drive so it's not seen as that much of a an achievement at least where I live. I would learn how to drive for practical reasons which there are lots of.
I'm 26 in the UK and still haven't even begun learning to drive. I want to start next month. It's just it's so expensive, I can't really afford a car on top of my rent, but then I live in an area with decent public transport.
I'd save myself time being able to drive though as it'd cut 15 minutes off my journey and I could leave home later/get home earlier which is nice, but I don't think I can budget for it. Everyone else I know can drive, including in the office I work at and some guy keeps pointing out the fact I'm not driving is a bad thing.
It sucks :/
I'd save myself time being able to drive though as it'd cut 15 minutes off my journey and I could leave home later/get home earlier which is nice, but I don't think I can budget for it. Everyone else I know can drive, including in the office I work at and some guy keeps pointing out the fact I'm not driving is a bad thing.
It sucks :/
Massive Duck. C.M.
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cabs, uber, lyft, trains, etc.
you'll be fine, especially if you live in a decent city.
you'll be fine, especially if you live in a decent city.
Depending on where you live, needing to drive is a huge part of your independence. That's why I moved to the city... I don't have to drive, nor do I want to drive. Hopefully sometime in the next 10 years I can get a self-driving car or something, that might be nice. Until then... naa, i'm good. If you are able to change your living situation it could do wonders for you.
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