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Adventures in confidence

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Durden77

Member
Confidence is such an important tool in life. How confident are you? Like, in general. Whether it be when you wanna put yourself out there in some way, or whether it being you doing the thing you know best?

I am confident in some shit. Hard core. But my confidence can be broken if hit in the right points. And since I'm so confident about the shit in the first place like I said, when it breaks, it can fall a long ways.

This extends from Street Fighter to suggesting a movie at times. Most of the time I get away with it because of my confidence, but if I don't, damn.

List your confidence level here. CONFIDENCE LEVEL.
 
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cryptic

Member
I have a disorder that means I will never have a stable sense of identity so I don't develop as a normal person would I.e. Gaining faith in oneself through experience; it's like everyday is a fresh start.
Every work day is: how the duck will I do this 'cos I'm not sure I can even do this?
Fuck, it's not working like it did in that dream/memory I have, time to panic.
New environment?
Oh fuck how do I live?
New person? Oh shit+ depression=self defeat, they already hate me.
It was the tone of voice I used, that look of hers and her tone made it obvious.

If I had confidence I'd actually be a person.
 
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M52B28

Banned
I have a pretty high confidence to the point where lots of people look to me when they have a question. I guess it's my stature and the way that I carry myself. Have the tendency to walk with my back straight and my chest somewhat out, so that really gives me a forward and pressing stance. That posture doesn't exactly change in most environments. I can walk into a completely foreign place and still retain a pretty stout look. It's amazing what confidence can do to someone's stature.

Now, I can't say that I am really sure of the possibility on things, and I admit to people that expect certain things from me that i am not sure, but can possibly be right.

And considering the Dunning-Kruger effect, it's not that I am not aware of the potential ineptitude, I openly communicate that I am sometimes not the right person to speak to on many subjects.

The only place where I have serious problems is with my OCD. I t can hurt me if I feel it coming along or triggering. That's when I start to question everything.
 
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Fat4all

Banned
I have abnormal levels of confidence in my own life, bred from a crucible of being a fatty fatto my whole time living.

Not entirely sure why, not on any medication or anything. I think being able to objectively see how people would approach me and how they reacted to me gave myself a great amount of self appreciation or sommit. Never had depression or anything like that. Not to say that I can't be unhappy, but I never feel entirely hopeless if that makes sense.

No religion or anything like that.
 
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Syf

Banned
Very confident to the point that some people see me as arrogant. But it's whatever, I've earned it. I carry myself well, don't stand for anyone's shit, and have proven successful in many areas of life. No reason to doubt myself.
 
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TAJ

Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that.
I'm not confident about anything, but there are some things that I've become certain of.
 
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stenbumling

Unconfirmed Member
I'm basically the king of the world until I face something, virtually anything challenging. Like realizing I forgot my gloves at a friends place ("you're worthless, you can't even take responsibility for your gloves"). Not immediately coming up with the right word ("you can't even think"). Spilling coffee on the floor ("you should just move back home, you incompetent child").

I exaggerate somewhat, but I really am easily swayed in my mood and confidence.
 
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slider

Member
I'm occasionally a cocky SOB but generally I'm just comfortable in my skin. Generally nothing unsettles me (meeting royalty/"VIPs", talking to strangers, new/dangerous situations). Except, I suppose, public speaking in anything above semi formal. I have to have the right amount of time to prep. Too much and I'll screw it up. Too little and I'll, you guessed it, screw it up.
 
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faridmon

Member
I am never confident except in 2 situations

1) When I am with friends
2) When I have conversation with people about music
 
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PaulloDEC

Member
In the few things I've been doing long enough to build confidence, I am moderately confident.

In everything else, not very confident at all.
 
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agm2502

Member
I would love to have confidence, I mean I do have it but it only comes when I know people or used to where I am. I worked my way up in my current job from just a bottom of the line worker to supervisor as I am very capable of doing a good job and good at people management etc. but now I am being made redundant and i'm having to look for other jobs, it seems if your not 'Mr confidence' then you will struggle to get the job.

It is soul destroying, I know I am more than good enough for the jobs I am applying for, just can't translate that across in interviews. I've had good feedback from people above and below me in my old position and never really put a foot wrong in what I do. I just can't sell myself as well as others could with the same experience & skills that I have, people say I should "fake it until I make it" but i just come across all wrong. I've got a family relying on me at the moment and it's a lot of pressure. Part of me thinks I may have to go back to being just a bottom of the pyramid employee and try to work my way up again.

Doesn't help with my landlord wanting to sell meaning I need to earn a decent wage to get a mortgage for the place as we don't want to move out. Guess I only have to be lucky once and have someone look past my lack of confidence and see my true qualities. It is demoralising though.
 
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Disxo

Member
If 1 is little confidence and 10 a lot.
I would rate myself 6 on a bad day, 8 on a good one and 10 after finishing a workout.
 
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Jeronimo Jones

Member
I'm usually confident in my intelligence, my ability to complete mental or physical tasks, but not as confident in my abilities to remain confident in uncomfortable social situations.

My confidence measures in at around 210 g/cm^3 normally.
 
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Brandson

Member
Timeaisis said:
I am very confident about things I am certain of and not confident about things I am not.
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Confidence comes from knowledge and experience. Sometimes faking confidence can help you get that.

Although personally, the more over-the-top confident someone projects themselves to be, the less I tend to trust what they're saying. Everyone should have some doubt about whether what they themselves are saying is correct or not, and should be open to being proven wrong. If you close yourself off to the possibility that you're wrong, then your confidence is doing you a disservice.
 
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Poppy

Member
im only confident in things that are required of me

if i have to do something for work, or i have to do something to keep living my life, i basically just adopt the mindset that i cannot fail

but for everything else nahhhhhhh man
 
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SomTervo

Member
In my experience confidence is fake.

Or, at best, it's denial.

Denial of your anxiety and feelings (of inadequacy, etc). Denying they exist entirely. Just switch your brain onto a different track that doesn't see/acknowledge them and press ahead. It's partly about momentum.

Depending on context, health, and a variety of other factors this can be easy or hard.
 
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white dynamite

Member
cryptic said:
I have a disorder that means I will never have a stable sense of identity so I don't develop as a normal person would I.e. Gaining faith in oneself through experience; it's like everyday is a fresh start.
Every work day is: how the duck will I do this 'cos I'm not sure I can even do this?
Fuck, it's not working like it did in that dream/memory I have, time to panic.
New environment?
Oh fuck how do I live?
New person? Oh shit+ depression=self defeat, they already hate me.
It was the tone of voice I used, that look of hers and her tone made it obvious.

If I had confidence I'd actually be a person.
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What's the disorder called? It sounds like you have anxiety or severe imposter syndrome.
 
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Zaru

Member
SomTervo said:
In my experience confidence is fake.

Or, at best, it's denial.

Denial of your anxiety and feelings (of inadequacy, etc). Denying they exist entirely. Just switch your brain onto a different track that doesn't see/acknowledge them and press ahead. It's partly about momentum.

Depending on context, health, and a variety of other factors this can be easy or hard.
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I wouldn't go that far, but it's certainly easy to observe that a large part of the total "confidence" floating around in this world is unjustified.
There are countless people we all know in our lives who think highly of themselves without deserving it. Worst of all, confidence has a halo effect on competence, getting tons of fakers into positions they shouldn't have.
This common overconfidence results in a package of all kinds of bad personality traits that make life worse for everyone around them.
 
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illusionspark

Member
Zaru said:
I wouldn't go that far, but it's certainly easy to observe that a large part of the total "confidence" floating around in this world is unjustified.
There are countless people we all know in our lives who think highly of themselves without deserving it. Worst of all, confidence has a halo effect on competence, getting tons of fakers into positions they shouldn't have.
This common overconfidence results in a package of all kinds of bad personality traits that make life worse for everyone around them.
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One word: Trump.
 
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gatling

Member
I'm very confident in myself in my head when it comes to being in my own skin, but thats only inward thoughts about being a "good" person. Nothing like vanity or overconfidence in intelligence though. I will never be completely confident in any skill I'm good at. I never think I'm that good at anything even when given compliments about it. Theres so many way better people out there and always will be so go find them instead lol
 
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Dereck

Member
Not confident.

Mainly due to low self-esteem, so low that I don't have a proper grasp on what confidence actually is, it's a word that's in the dictionary that people use, but I don't seem to possess it or use it.
 
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