Oh for god sakes.
They shouldn't have to "specify"
What for god's sake? Can't I share my personal experience? What is the issue?
Oh for god sakes.
They shouldn't have to "specify"
You seem pretty sure it's not..why is that? Can anything ever be just racist? Seems like no..
What for god's sake? Can't I share my personal experience? What is the issue?
A little bit shocked that is so bad in San Francisco, similar to rest of country. I dunno if it has been answered in rest of thread, but does the reaction at all change by the type of clothing you are wearing, ie, is it a black man in a hoodie effect or do you get the same reactions no matter what you wear?
A little bit shocked that is so bad in San Francisco, similar to rest of country. I dunno if it has been answered in rest of thread, but does the reaction at all change by the type of clothing you are wearing, ie, is it a black man in a hoodie effect or do you get the same reactions no matter what you wear?
Slightly related. Made me think of the statement by Rza.
The stinklith hath spoketh.I'm a middle aged white guy and I feel confident telling the OP that he's just paranoid and everything in America is fine.
And thus racism ended.
Bout time geezAnd thus racism ended.
What for god's sake? Can't I share my personal experience? What is the issue?
So a PoC finally gets the "its a mental issue" excuse from people. It just happens to be paranoia and anxiety because racism couldn't possibly be that bad.
I don't think that is racism, personally for some reason, maybe call it anti-social, I don't want to sit next to anyone, I rather stand than sit next to strangers no matter the race, religion or whatever and from people I have talked with, many do it. So yeah don't be so sure that is racism.
I wrote a poem about just this. Happens all the damn time. I feel you, op. My wife doesn't want me to go outside.
You immediately assumed it probably wasn't racism based on nothing but your personal preference that you then universalized.
Messofanego shared his experience of being avoided by white people due to the color of his skin, and you came in here saying that you avoid everyone. The issue is that you came off as preemptively defending yourself from something that didn't even apply to you in the first place.
Also, only 6.8% of Americans suffer from social anxiety disorder and up to 10% suffer from it in the UK, and you're assuming that something like that is more likely than racism when almost half of US voters supported Trump and half of UK voters supported Brexit. So what's more likely: the idea that black and brown people often experience racism, or that they all just happened to bump into people with anxiety disorders multiple times over the course of their lives?
Sources on SAD:
https://adaa.org/about-adaa/press-room/facts-statistics
https://www.nice.org.uk/guidance/cg159/documents/social-anxiety-disorder-final-scope2
I know others have addressed you but also consider: you are one person rationalizing, or attempting to, based on your one-person experience. What are the odds every single person OP and others in this thread have encountered are exactly like you in a world designed for a majority that is NOT like you? (As in seats next to other seats, etc.)
That's just a numbers game, my dude.
And I tell you commuters avoiding sitting next to each other is a common thing. There has been a study even for it that proves it true http://eu.wiley.com/WileyCDA/PressRelease/pressReleaseId-104368.html Messofanego at his original post said people just prefered to stand instead of sitting next to him, I tried to tell him that maybe it is because of the above common phenomenon. He later added that people would sit next to a white person as soon as they had the opportunity and not him and I admitted that yeah then it is racism. Why do you all gang up on a person who diverts from the common idea? Just because I dared to share my personal experience?
It's not the same. (ETA: I'm not disputing people prefer not to cram in. I'm disputing you denying that there is also a pervasive element of racism.)
There may be some overlap. It's still not the same.
Insisting it is doesn't make it the same.
If you can't extrapolate logically, there's research on this. Go read.
Did you miss this sentence?It's not the same. (ETA: I'm not disputing people prefer not to cram in. I'm disputing you denying that there is also a pervasive element of racism.)
There may be some overlap. It's still not the same.
Insisting it is doesn't make it the same.
If you can't extrapolate logically, there's research on this. Go read.
He later added that people would sit next to a white person as soon as they had the opportunity and not him and I admitted that yeah then it is racism.
After muslim women have been pushed into trains on the London tube, I'm wary of being close to the yellow line. Even though I'm a dude who doesn't keep a big beard and looks quite westernised. I'd rather keep my distance from the edge, to be safe than sorry.
Have had it happen a lot of times where people don't want to sit next to you when it's the only available seat and they'd rather stand being shaken around. But those times I'm like thanks for your weird racism, more space for me! It's not as much racism as in the USA and not as frequent as what OP has to go through on a regular basis. Sucks, man.
Why do you all gang up on a person who diverts from the common idea?
Mental issues over acknowledging racism, so still the same narrativeSo a PoC finally gets the "its a mental issue" excuse from people. It just happens to be paranoia and anxiety because racism couldn't possibly be that bad.
And I tell you commuters avoiding sitting next to each other is a common thing. There has been a study even for it that proves it true http://eu.wiley.com/WileyCDA/PressRelease/pressReleaseId-104368.html Messofanego at his original post said people just prefered to stand instead of sitting next to him, I tried to tell him that maybe it is because of the above common phenomenon. He later added that people would sit next to a white person as soon as they had the opportunity and not him and I admitted that yeah then it is racism. Why do you all gang up on a person who diverts from the common idea? Just because I dared to share my personal experience?
Mental issues over acknowledging racism, so still the same narrative
A little bit shocked that is so bad in San Francisco, similar to rest of country. I dunno if it has been answered in rest of thread, but does the reaction at all change by the type of clothing you are wearing, ie, is it a black man in a hoodie effect or do you get the same reactions no matter what you wear?
I had this happen to me once, it's pretty long time ago but I still remember it since I was quite offended and even bit hurt. I'm white, so that's probably why it has only happened once. And I can't imagine how it would be to be treated like that on a regular basis. Well probably fucked up, but still.I'm the least intimidating black guy you will ever meet and I've had those ridiculous experiences as well. People walking to the other side of the street to avoid walking past you, women grabbing their (cheap) purses tight as if I want to steal from them, I've gotten so many DWBs it's not even funny. Being black in the US is exhausting.
I would just like to point out that we have topics about a neighbor walking out and about naked and someone recording conversations for God knows what and no one questions their validity of their respective OPs. And before you ask, I believe those guys are telling the truth.
One black man made a topic about being upset of discrimination towards him and a higher ratio of GAFers don't believe him, think he's exaggerating, or is blaming him like this quote.
It REALLY makes you think.
Last semester where, after the election, almost every white classmate of mine in my IT class came out as Trump supporters (even the Professor!)
Goddamn... that must be simultaneously frustrating, aggravating, and awkward as hell all at the same time. I can't even imagine.
Exactly, its really tiring trying to share your experience only to get it dismissed and diagnosed by armchair psychologists as anxiety.
Whats the point of even having a discussion on racism if your going to be told that your experience is imaginary.
My daughter was laughing at the last Cavs game we went to once I pointed it out to her. We were sitting on the end of the row and people would NOT ask me to stand up so they could get to their seats. They stop an extra row down, ask them and then climb up to their seats. Shits crazy.
I know you don't mean any harm but.... ! I am 100% jeans and button up in public yet i still might as well be an open carry AK-47 wielding person at night. I literally saw a blonde haired blue eyed white girl with a fitted hat and hoodie on my block last week and was a little bit annoyed and made a mental note on how its considered cute or "different" on her but its gang affiliation for me when I wear the same, even though I am an attorney.A little bit shocked that is so bad in San Francisco, similar to rest of country. I dunno if it has been answered in rest of thread, but does the reaction at all change by the type of clothing you are wearing, ie, is it a black man in a hoodie effect or do you get the same reactions no matter what you wear?
I don't get that feeling when I just go outside day to day due to my location being mostly black, but when I'm in come of my college classes where my classmates are predominantly college age white males, I can't help but feel super uncomfortable. Last semester where, after the election, almost every white classmate of mine in my IT class came out as Trump supporters (even the Professor!), I can't help but feel uneasy when it's mostly white people around me. I don't know where there allegiances lie, y'know?
The study of racism and it's mental effects are just recently began being looked into
https://www.nytimes.com/2015/06/24/magazine/racisms-psychological-toll.html
What is race-based stress and trauma?
Its a natural byproduct of the types of experiences that minorities have to deal with on a regular basis. I would argue that it is pathological, which means it is a disorder that we can assess and treat. To me, that means these are symptoms that are a diagnosable disorder that require a clinical intervention. It goes largely unrecognized in most people, and thats based on my experience as a clinician..
Over the weekend, I received several distressing emails and texts from friends who were suffering from feelings of anxiety and depression. Do you think we should all be in treatment?
I think everyone could benefit from psychotherapy, but I think just talking to someone and processing the feelings can be very effective. It doesnt have to be with a therapist; it could be with a pastor, family, friends and people who understand it and arent going to make it worse by telling you to stop complaining.
What do you think about the #selfcare hashtags on social media and the role of Black Twitter as resources for people who may not have the resources they need to help process this? Are online interactions like that more meaningful than they initially might seem?
Online communities can be a great source of support, of course with the caveat that even just one hater can be stressful for everyone, and thats the danger of it. But if you dont have a friend or a family member, just find someone who is sensitive and understanding and can deal with racial issues.
Thank you very much for the link!
More to the point...
SO FUCKING STOP COMING TO THE THREAD AND TELLING THE OP TO STOP COMPLAINING OR GASLIGHTING THEM THX!
Sorry... just how I feel...