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LGBTQIA+ |OT9| The Return of the Queen

Yado

Member
I don't think I have anything. I have used condoms almost every time I've had sex. But if I did, I wouldn't want to know. I would rather just die mysteriously

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but...why?
 

whitehawk

Banned
I don't think I have anything. I have used condoms almost every time I've had sex. But if I did, I wouldn't want to know. I would rather just die mysteriously
Almost...

And although condoms do reduce the risk, you can still contract things like herpes or HPV.

I side with the other guy, it's people like you who make me weary of experimenting with guys after recently realizing I'm bi. But I'm sure you'll be able to find someone who also doesn't care about their sexual health like yourself. I'd say this guy dodged a bullet.
 

JCX

Member
If you started seriously dating a guy you met off of a dating app, would you think it's weird for you and your partner to stay on the apps still?
 

Yado

Member
If you started seriously dating a guy you met off of a dating app, would you think it's weird for you and your partner to stay on the apps still?

I suppose it depends on what you guys are using it for. Some people are just on there to casually chat/look at nudes etc

I wouldn't use the app while seriously dating and I wouldn't be comfortable with my partner using it because I know I wasn't on there looking for friends.
 

Gibbs

Member
I would rather just die mysteriously

No ones likes a faded Crayon. =(


If you started seriously dating a guy you met off of a dating app, would you think it's weird for you and your partner to stay on the apps still?

If it was me in that position, both of us would have to delete our profiles. Yeah, you're supposed to trust your partner, but to be honest, if you have me, you do not need to be on there.

I get you can strike up conversation and such, but most times its just not that.
 

DOWN

Banned
If you started seriously dating a guy you met off of a dating app, would you think it's weird for you and your partner to stay on the apps still?
If you are monogamous yeah there’s not a good reason to have the apps anymore
 

Crayons

Banned
Almost...

And although condoms do reduce the risk, you can still contract things like herpes or HPV.

I side with the other guy, it's people like you who make me weary of experimenting with guys after recently realizing I'm bi. But I'm sure you'll be able to find someone who also doesn't care about their sexual health like yourself. I'd say this guy dodged a bullet.
And I'd say that you're a huge jerk and that I'm not forcing anyone to have sex with me.

It's not like I lied to anyone
 
And I'd say that you're a huge jerk and that I'm not forcing anyone to have sex with me.

It's not like I lied to anyone

I would say at the very least you should be completely understanding of others not wanting to have sex with you if you don't know your status after having some unprotected sex

Maybe consider prep? Although they do require checks every few months.
 

Crayons

Banned
I would say at the very least you should be completely understanding of others not wanting to have sex with you if you don't know your status after having some unprotected sex

Maybe consider prep? Although they do require checks every few months.
I have considered prep but from what I understand it is very expensive and not for the low class of people (me)
 

Gibbs

Member
Go fuck yourself you dumb cunt

I get you're upset but have you considered that people here care about you, your health, and safety?

I like you crayons, you're a great person but it sucks seeing this. I get a vibe you're afraid to get tested. No, I'm not judging you, telling you what to do but just know some of us care.
 
Just wanted to say special thanks to Crayons for the gift he sent me. :3

I will never stop fighting.

Whereever you are crayons I hope you are well!!

EDIT: Oh dear did not see what happened here. >.>
 

Ambient80

Member
I know this is a personal thing for every person and as such it’s always different, but I’m really having a rough time deciding how/when to tell my core group of friends about me. I dunno, it’s just we’ve been really close for the better part of a decade and two of them are really conservative people. The third I feel like will either just go with whatever the other two do, or just step out and not say anything. It’ll either be “Yeah dude we know whatever,” or “Ok well bye.”

Any words of advice?
 
I know this is a personal thing for every person and as such it’s always different, but I’m really having a rough time deciding how/when to tell my core group of friends about me. I dunno, it’s just we’ve been really close for the better part of a decade and two of them are really conservative people. The third I feel like will either just go with whatever the other two do, or just step out and not say anything. It’ll either be “Yeah dude we know whatever,” or “Ok well bye.”

Any words of advice?

I say do it individually? Maybe that'd help? Since you said your third friend depends on the other two, telling them private may help with that

When I did it, I just told people individually but in a natural way... so when the topic of Girlfriends came up I was like "yeah about that... I don't swing that way". It helped and what helped more was that my friends suspected me already so that softens the blow a little bit if that helps? :)
 

Ambient80

Member
Little Mons†er;248408528 said:
I say do it individually? Maybe that'd help? Since you said your third friend depends on the other two, telling them private may help with that

When I did it, I just told people individually but in a natural way... so when the topic of Girlfriends came up I was like "yeah about that... I don't swing that way". It helped and what helped more was that my friends suspected me already so that softens the blow a little bit if that helps? :)


Yeah I suppose so. Didn’t really consider doing it on an individual basis. I guess we’ll see. I don’t get to see them in person often because we were separated by where we did our medical residencies but I’m on XBL with them all the time.
 

Yado

Member
Yeah I suppose so. Didn’t really consider doing it on an individual basis. I guess we’ll see. I don’t get to see them in person often because we were separated by where we did our medical residencies but I’m on XBL with them all the time.

I feel like it would be better to tell them all at the same time, if that's unlikely then just start with the one you think will have the best reaction to it.
 

Gibbs

Member
Crayons got banned? Ugh. I am torn between wanting to be supportive to him, and wanting to smack some common sense into him. Sometimes I feel like he's a child

Sex is risky and dangerous with or without a condom. You need to know who you're having sex with before you initiate in it. I mean, if he prefers to float from guy to guy, that's on him but he needs to remember his actions will impact everyone from himself, to his slave, to a guy he goes on a date with. If you sleep with one person, you slept with everyone they have. It's a continuous, vicious cycle. Eventually an innocent guy will pay for his carelessness. That's my problem with the entire thing.

STDs and other things aren't always visible and you could destroy someone's life by infecting them. I still say he is terrified of being tested. He is showing the classic signs of it. Maybe he believes he's already infected? I don't know but as someone who cares, you take care of yourself, get a support system and push forth.

My ex believed he may have been infected and we dealt with it together. It was hell on him, and it affected our relationship but together we worked through it and he got tested, and he was negative.

As much as I like crayons, he needs to grow up and take responsibility for his actions. It sucks seeing him snap on people here who clearly care and have helped and supported him in the past.

Perhaps he felt attacked? Things escalated quickly... All in all, I think we can all agree we just wanted what's best for him, his sexual health, and such.

I don't care if I wasn't supposed to comment but who gives two shits. Now excuse me while I return to the Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt.
 

RatskyWatsky

Hunky Nostradamus
get tested crayon!

I could be wrong, but I believe some of the non-100% safety comes from improper usage or breakages. In addition, since condoms only cover a very limited part of the human body, for STIs that can be transmitted via skin contact (e.g. HPV) or broken skin contact (i.e. you have a scrape and you brush against a blister), you still have to be careful when using condoms about STI transmission.

(I am not a medical professional, so don't trust me blindly. My deepest apologies if I've spread misinformation.)

.
 

Beth Cyra

Member
Damn this has been a rollercoaster the last few pages.

Well I hope Crayons is okay and like Gibbs said gets tested and knows that we here really only want him to be safe and happy.
 

yepyepyep

Member
Crayons got banned? Ugh. I am torn between wanting to be supportive to him, and wanting to smack some common sense into him. Sometimes I feel like he's a child

Sex is risky and dangerous with or without a condom. You need to know who you're having sex with before you initiate in it. I mean, if he prefers to float from guy to guy, that's on him but he needs to remember his actions will impact everyone from himself, to his slave , to a guy he goes on a date with. If you sleep with one person, you slept with everyone they have. It's a continuous, vicious cycle. Eventually an innocent guy will pay for his carelessness. That's my problem with the entire thing.
...

Umm, he has a slave???
 

berzeli

Banned
Perhaps he felt attacked? Things escalated quickly... All in all, I think we can all agree we just wanted what's best for him, his sexual health, and such.
I did get a touch catty, but as much as we should strive to be a welcoming and supportive community we shouldn't support everyone in absolutely everything they do no matter what. If someone posts about engaging in dangerous behaviour like not getting tested or something worse, like listening to Zara Larsson, we should call them out on it.
And if the best counterargument they have is literally "I'm not a rapist", then we probably should call them out on that as well.

But yeah, not the finest moment of this thread.
Now excuse me while I return to the Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt.
This however is excellent.
 

Gibbs

Member
I did get a touch catty, but as much as we should strive to be a welcoming and supportive community we shouldn't support everyone in absolutely everything they do no matter what. If someone posts about engaging in dangerous behaviour like not getting tested or something worse, like listening to Zara Larsson, we should call them out on it.
And if the best counterargument they have is literally "I'm not a rapist", then we probably should call them out on that as well.

But yeah, not the finest moment of this thread.

This however is excellent.

I'm not condoning what he said or does. I'm simply trying to find a line in the middle and be fair, to be supportive towards him as he clearly needs it.. It was that or me blasting the place and I tend to be more friendly and level headed.

I still believe things escalated quickly. Crayons is easily triggered. It's no one's fault but his.
 

Zeusy

Member
Hello, not sure if I've posted here before but I lurk sometimes. Anyway I need advice, I'm so stuck on guy "A" but things didn't work out, but I still miss him and care for him. Total bae. Anyways things got messy it ended I moved and graduated from school. Boom 2 days into my job meet guy "B" Total sweetheart, but man I cannot for the life of me know if he's gay. We've hung out multiple times he's said he enjoys hanging with me and has dropped hints, but I don't know. Examples of hints "I love sausage"(but we were talking about pasta) another time I forgot what we were talking about he told me we should wrestle over it. Like I said the hints are there. but he also talks about his old hook ups with girls from his college days. Idk are we just good friends or is this a possibility? Also he's bomb af and just as bae as "A" or even better ;)
 

RatskyWatsky

Hunky Nostradamus
Hello, not sure if I've posted here before but I lurk sometimes. Anyway I need advice, I'm so stuck on guy "A" but things didn't work out, but I still miss him and care for him. Total bae. Anyways things got messy it ended I moved and graduated from school. Boom 2 days into my job meet guy "B" Total sweetheart, but man I cannot for the life of me know if he's gay. We've hung out multiple times he's said he enjoys hanging with me and has dropped hints, but I don't know. Examples of hints "I love sausage"(but we were talking about pasta) another time I forgot what we were talking about he told me we should wrestle over it. Like I said the hints are there. but he also talks about his old hook ups with girls from his college days. Idk are we just good friends or is this a possibility? Also he's bomb af and just as bae as "A" or even better ;)

just ask if he's into dudes
 

Dany

Banned
I did get a touch catty, but as much as we should strive to be a welcoming and supportive community we shouldn't support everyone in absolutely everything they do no matter what. If someone posts about engaging in dangerous behaviour like not getting tested or something worse, like listening to Taylor Swift, we should call them out on it.
Exactly. He is being dumb by actively being sexually ignorant.

Also eff snakes
 

Ambient80

Member
I did get a touch catty, but as much as we should strive to be a welcoming and supportive community we shouldn't support everyone in absolutely everything they do no matter what. If someone posts about engaging in dangerous behaviour like not getting tested or something worse, like listening to Zara Larsson, we should call them out on it.
And if the best counterargument they have is literally "I'm not a rapist", then we probably should call them out on that as well.

But yeah, not the finest moment of this thread.

This however is excellent.


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