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[Krauser Kat]

Getting digits after going to a concert is easy. The follow up is hard as fuck. They are always just in the moment.

Jokab
I would still say have a conversation about it and see where it goes. You want to see some passion in her for something other then yourself. Maybe she has some, talk about it, sit on it and then make a decision.

Either we are all here for you when you get back out their and starting getting all the dates. or if you want to work on yourself.

 

[afroguy10]

Had 6 dates now, stayed at hers on Friday. The texting has gone up to 'most of the day, every day' and heavy flirting is now a daily occurrence.

This is going v. well!

Awesome! One of the best feelings is getting past the awkward initial dating stage and when things are getting a bit more serious.

 

[LookAtMeGo]

Just cut it off, bro. Cut it all off.

Spoiler

join us

Soon enough man. I dont think I'll make it to next summer but I will try. It had basically stopped thinning for a while but now its ramping back up. I can pull it off by keeping it really short but I can see that stupid fucking island happening fast.

 

[Ozorov]

Maybe you're the dog?! ��

She actually had a dog. I thought we were just going for a shorter walk but damn we walked 14 km. I'm dead now

 

[Krauser Kat]

She actually had a dog. I thought we were just going for a shorter walk but damn we walked 14 km. I'm dead now

This is amazing. That is a long walk and some good time to talk.

 

[gaiages]

Only in the bedroom or when it's playful fooling around, sorry for any confusion. I like it when a woman is assertive in the bedroom and the occasional scratches and such can be pretty hot.

Oh okay, that's pretty normal for a guy to want lol

I was a little worried for you for a second there

 

[Ozorov]

This is amazing. That is a long walk and some good time to talk.

Yeah it was pretty cool. But I don't think I made any good impression on her well well

 

[Spoiled Milk]

My neighbour is a contortionist.

I thought you two were never gonna go at it lol

 

[Jokab]

Thanks for the advice guys. I'll let it sit for a bit longer and then decide.

 

[LookAtMeGo]

I thought you two were never gonna go at it lol

Lol we're not. Just last time she was over having drinks and we were talking about hobbies and stuff shes like "I'm a contortionist" I was like "oh yeah thats cool" then I lost my train of thought.

 

[Messofanego]

Had 6 dates now, stayed at hers on Friday. The texting has gone up to 'most of the day, every day' and heavy flirting is now a daily occurrence.

This is going v. well!

Does she like QOTSA?

 

[protomouse]

Any recommendations for a board game suitable for a date? Two players, an hour or less.

They are eliminating themselves from your selection, helping you find someone who does like you OR time to reflect on what you might not be doing as well as you could.

You're getting first dates (are you?), that's good. However you're not getting second dates. So, why? Dont blame the girls for ghosting, ask yourself why don't they want a second date.

Yeah, getting dates is not an issue, thankfully. The short answer is that my social skills need improving. The long answer is improving my body language and speaking more clearly, trying to get better at reading social cues. Also I have to dare not to be the nice guy all the time. Again, being better at reading social cues. I think the girl I was with last time might have wanted a kiss. As we were parting, she got on her toes and sort of fell into me. I'm tall, but she wasn't exactly too short to hug. Then she went in for another hug. I didn't realize this until the day after.

I have some disabilities that I'll just have to endure, like a crippled sense of self-worth, and a failing memory that fucks with my ability to add to conversations.

Thanks for the feedback.

 

[toadsworth]

What? How about that hour between doors and start of the concert where everyone who came alone just stands/sits around and stares at their phone with a beer in their hand? I'm talking about small clubs here. How is that any different than anywhere else that isn't a bar?

I guess I was thinking of larger shows where everyone is in a group with their friends.

I think I need to update my profile. I tried to make it funny but its probably just cringey. I don't really have any good recent photos either.

 

[always crazy bacon]

https://youtu.be/l8FdF5wh4HQ?t=3

 

[always crazy bacon]

https://youtu.be/l8FdF5wh4HQ?t=3

 

[jdstorm]

Any recommendations for a board game suitable for a date? Two players, an hour or less.



Yeah, getting dates is not an issue, thankfully. The short answer is that my social skills need improving. The long answer is improving my body language and speaking more clearly, trying to get better at reading social cues. Also I have to dare not to be the nice guy all the time. Again, being better at reading social cues. I think the girl I was with last time might have wanted a kiss. As we were parting, she got on her toes and sort of fell into me. I'm tall, but she wasn't exactly too short to hug. Then she went in for another hug. I didn't realize this until the day after.

I have some disabilities that I'll just have to endure, like a crippled sense of self-worth, and a failing memory that fucks with my ability to add to conversations.

Thanks for the feedback.

Nothing wrong with being a nice/good guy. Just remember to try and be assertive and charming while you are at it.

 

[PancakeBurglar]

Nothing wrong with being nice to people, you just need to also be able to stand up for yourself too. "Nice guys" are a problem though as those are the people who claim to be nice but then talk shit about people because they can't get women.

 

[always crazy bacon]

https://youtu.be/l8FdF5wh4HQ?t=3

 

[PancakeBurglar]

Just don't be an over attentive simp, women smell that desperation a mile off. Behaviours like constantly checking if they are OK, holding doors open as if it gives you credit for being a gentleman. Being over complimentary. All that type stuff.

The way I see it is be a good person because you want to be a good person, don't act nice for the sole purpose of expecting something in return.

 

[Advocatus Diaboli]

The way I see it is be a good person because you want to be a good person, don't act nice for the sole purpose of expecting something in return.

Yep, this is it.

I don't mind holding doors for people. I instinctively walk closer to the street. After my date last weekend, I called her an Uber home because she was walking in ridiculous heels.

Basically, it's about acting authentically. (If you're a dick to your waiter but hold your date's door, the hypocrisy is pretty obvious.) And, as you said, it's about not treating social interactions like Bioware RPGs.

 

[always crazy bacon]

https://youtu.be/l8FdF5wh4HQ?t=3

 

[Spoiled Milk]

Lol we're not. Just last time she was over having drinks and we were talking about hobbies and stuff shes like "I'm a contortionist" I was like "oh yeah thats cool" then I lost my train of thought.

Ok you KNOW what we're all gonna think if you randomly post "she's a contortionist" without any extra context!

I think I need to update my profile. I tried to make it funny but its probably just cringey. I don't really have any good recent photos either.

Take better photos, remove the one that's trying to be cute. Taste will vary but your profile comes off a little too goofy.

 

[LookAtMeGo]

Every day I thank my Luck with my genes.

I guess I'm thankful that I have kept my hair longer than any of the other boys in my family. They all went fully bald in their mid 20's. Fucking genetics man. I have an OK shaped head and a thick beard so its manageable. I look like a convict with a shaved head though.

Ok you KNOW what we're all gonna think if you randomly post "she's a contortionist" without any extra context!

Haha I can see that. Never been with a contortionist. I bet thats fucking awesome.

 

[Subpar Scrub]

And, as you said, it's about not treating social interactions like Bioware RPGs.

Hey Dating Gaf, I heard girls really dig the Renegade path. Is this true? I'm not some beta, paragon loser, y'know.

I think I need to update my profile. I tried to make it funny but its probably just cringey. I don't really have any good recent photos either.

I can't see your profile for some reason. Do you need an okcupid account to view profiles?

 

[The_Joker1721]

So thankful for my long Mexican hair genes... so last night I had a two and a half hour conversation at 3 in the morning with the main girl I've been talking to. Barring any stupidity from me I think something might come out of this. She kept telling me how she thinks I'm trouble for her 🤐. She said she doesn't want to go out next time we chill and to pull up to watch Netflix on our next day off.

Also got two comments today at work that I'm looking slimmer, I don't care if they gassing me up fam I'll take it!

 

[Stopdoor]

So I went on a date with this girl who was alright but didn't have a lot of pics to go on, just wasn't feeling it when I met her. But what really weirded me out especially at first was she constantly made this sound, like an "eee" sound kind of like a "squee" reaction but more quiet and reserved. She hummed a lot. It was really odd, I couldn't tell if it was a language tick? She was native from Thailand, but seemed to know English really well. But she also apparently picked up some Japanese to watch anime, so I dunno if that does imply it was mannerisms from a weirder direction.

Just odd.

 

[LookAtMeGo]

So I'm with the neighbour for her bday. Shes got some cute friends visiting from Ireland. I guess I'll have some fun tonight.

"God make me right for I canna change me mind"

🙏

 

[Dr.Parity]

So I'm with the neighbour for her bday. Shes got some cute friends visiting from Ireland. I guess I'll have some fun tonight.

"God make me right for I canna change me mind"

🙏

dont think of the land down under

 

[Spoiled Milk]

Haha I can see that. Never been with a contortionist. I bet thats fucking awesome.

There was an amazing Seinfeld episode about this (The Gymnast).

 

[Salamando]

So I'm with the neighbour for her bday. Shes got some cute friends visiting from Ireland. I guess I'll have some fun tonight.

"God make me right for I canna change me mind"

🙏

Its not just the hangover talking but I'm taking a break for a while now. Summers over. Celibacy time.

Uh-huh.

 

[LookAtMeGo]

Uh-huh.

Im editing that fuckin thing. I think slowing the fuck down would be more accurate. I'm still behaving myself. Im just not going to get loser pissed and try to pick up a hooker tonight. At least I hope not.

 

[Messofanego]

Im editing that fuckin thing. I think slowing the fuck down would be more accurate. I'm still behaving myself. Im just not going to get loser pissed and try to pick up a hooker tonight. At least I hope not.

Uh huh

Its not just the hangover talking but I'm taking a break for a while now. Summers over. Celibacy time.

it's like we're your conscience

 

[LookAtMeGo]

GET OUT OF MY HEAD!!

If you wanna get technical Terry, its still summer.

 

[dreamcastmaster]

GET OUT OF MY HEAD!!

If you wanna get technical Terry, its still summer.

I dont think so!

 

[EchoChamber]

I finally asked her number 😌 😌 😌,I guess after a long hiatus I'm back in the game, hopefully this time I don't fuck it up.

 

[Messofanego]

I finally asked her number 😌 😌 😌,I guess after a long hiatus I'm back in the game, hopefully this time I don't fuck it up.

Back In The Game

 

[always crazy bacon]

https://youtu.be/l8FdF5wh4HQ?t=3

 

[always crazy bacon]

https://youtu.be/l8FdF5wh4HQ?t=3

 

[LookAtMeGo]

Here's a handy linkable .JPG for you all

Also

I resent this post


Did anybody actually take "celibacy" seriously? Like.. come on brehs.

 

[always crazy bacon]

https://youtu.be/l8FdF5wh4HQ?t=3

 

[Messofanego]

Did anybody actually take "celibacy" seriously? Like.. come on brehs.

Nope, just like any talk about quitting drinking XD

 

[Xun]

I have a second date with the girl who thought I looked like Eddie Redmayne this Saturday.

She's a big gamer and wants a Switch for Mario Kart/Zelda, so maybe I'll get the chance to show her how far gaming has come... 😏

Spoiler

Albeit on the Wii U...

 

[Subpar Scrub]

Spoiler

Albeit on the Wii U...

I'd rather tell a girl I have anime body pillows everywhere than show her

Spoiler

a Wii U

.

 

[AndersK]

I'd rather tell a girl I have anime body pillows everywhere than show her

Spoiler

a Wii U

.

But then how Would you explain that it's not a Wii and no you can't play tennis on it? This is important people!

 

[Subpar Scrub]

But then how Would you explain that it's not a Wii and no you can't play tennis on it? This is important people!

Exactly! The most fun I've had on game consoles with girlfriends or just girl friends in general is playing wii-sports and wii play while drunk haha

 

[Llyranor]

I've... I've used the Wii U for NSMB coop, and VC SF2 (she just spammed Cammy attacks)

 

[Meifu]

I've got a weird one for you guys.

Went to a friends party last weekend, met a really cute girl, we were making out at the bar we all went to afterwards. get her number and we make a soft agreement to hang out this week.

Shoot her a text monday saying nice to meet you, how was the rest of your weekend etc..

She responds in kind, seems enthusiastic. Next text I send with some more light banter and extend an offer to grab drinks....radio silence


So I grow some balls and call her last night after m y work happy hour. Straight to voicemail, which is full -okay maybe her phones dead? I try her again about 15 min later, same deal.

Then 10 min later i get a call from her, pick up and then the phone hangs up. I call her back, same thing as before, straight to voicemail.

I shoot her another text "whats up with your phone?"


So bizarre, is this girl just dodging me, or do you think her phone is totally out of whack? Either way I'm totally chilling on it for now, not much more I can do I think..she seemed to like me so I'm mad confused

 

[Advocatus Diaboli]

I've got a weird one for you guys.

Went to a friends party last weekend, met a really cute girl, we were making out at the bar we all went to afterwards. get her number and we make a soft agreement to hang out this week.

Shoot her a text monday saying nice to meet you, how was the rest of your weekend etc..

She responds in kind, seems enthusiastic. Next text I send with some more light banter and extend an offer to grab drinks....radio silence


So I grow some balls and call her last night after m y work happy hour. Straight to voicemail, which is full -okay maybe her phones dead? I try her again about 15 min later, same deal.

Then 10 min later i get a call from her, pick up and then the phone hangs up. I call her back, same thing as before, straight to voicemail.

I shoot her another text "whats up with your phone?"


So bizarre, is this girl just dodging me, or do you think her phone is totally out of whack? Either way I'm totally chilling on it for now, not much more I can do I think..she seemed to like me so I'm mad confused

You made out with a (probably) drunk girl at a bar and made a plan to "hang out" at "some point."

After she didn't immediately say "yes" to your offer, you were on the path to blowing up her phone, but I'm glad you stopped yourself.

I'm not going to say she's probably not interested (but she very well could be) since you met at a friend's party and presumably actually talked a bit. (On my end, I chalk random making out in bars and clubs up to just that; they rarely go anywhere.)

Just leave it be for a while. "What's up with your phone?" is fine. If she's interested, she'll get back to you. You've expressed your interest well enough.

Also, no one's phone dies. Come on. She could be busy, she could be asking any of your mutual friends what you're like, or she could've been like, "OK, I recognize this number, but I don't feel like dealing with this now ... oh, okay, let me call back." Who knows.

Either way, ball's in her court.

 

[vern]

I've got a weird one for you guys.

Went to a friends party last weekend, met a really cute girl, we were making out at the bar we all went to afterwards. get her number and we make a soft agreement to hang out this week.

Shoot her a text monday saying nice to meet you, how was the rest of your weekend etc..

She responds in kind, seems enthusiastic. Next text I send with some more light banter and extend an offer to grab drinks....radio silence


So I grow some balls and call her last night after m y work happy hour. Straight to voicemail, which is full -okay maybe her phones dead? I try her again about 15 min later, same deal.

Then 10 min later i get a call from her, pick up and then the phone hangs up. I call her back, same thing as before, straight to voicemail.

I shoot her another text "whats up with your phone?"


So bizarre, is this girl just dodging me, or do you think her phone is totally out of whack? Either way I'm totally chilling on it for now, not much more I can do I think..she seemed to like me so I'm mad confused

Just remember not every girl you kiss or even fuck actually likes you or wants to see you again. There are plenty of girls out there, don't get hung up on a random drunk encounter.

You shouldn't have even called tbh, but it is what it is. If she feels like seeing you again she will message you.

 

[Meifu]

You made out with a (probably) drunk girl at a bar and made a plan to "hang out" at "some point."

After she didn't immediately say "yes" to your offer, you were on the path to blowing up her phone, but I'm glad you stopped yourself.

I'm not going to say she's probably not interested (but she very well could be) since you met at a friend's party and presumably actually talked a bit. (On my end, I chalk random making out in bars and clubs up to just that; they rarely go anywhere.)

Just leave it be for a while. "What's up with your phone?" is fine. If she's interested, she'll get back to you. You've expressed your interest well enough.

Also, no one's phone dies. Come on. She could be busy, she could be asking any of your mutual friends what you're like, or she could've been like, "OK, I recognize this number, but I don't feel like dealing with this now ... oh, okay, let me call back." Who knows.

Either way, ball's in her court.

All very accurate. I mean her phone didnt even ring, straight to voicemail, that why i thought maybe something was up. If a girl doesnt want to pick up, shit usually will get a couple rings, were all human. Also the call back from her followed by me picking up and then the call dropping was very strange...

And like a said her text response seemed very receptive. But yeah, one of those situations where I gotta say fuck it and if she gets back to me great, if not, maybe ill run into her again at some point, and handle it then