I didn't know anything about why Neogaf went down this weekend until reading about it later, but this is what I personally think.
The situation was handled poorly for sure, although at the same time the speed where everything went boom is a little too fast too imo. We hear about one side and suddenly everything just goes boom over a -very- short period of time, that's honestly what many people think about GAF in the first place, really kneejerk to many things and sometimes that results in unpleasantness that might be unwarranted.
As for my thought on the actual issue, I honestly don't sympathize automatically with the woman, I'm skeptical; ok ok I know this makes me a terrible person. I understand that people say many things like "people don't believe woman when they come out so that's why so many of them don't talk about it!" and things like that, I understand that, but her actions after the incidents felt weird to me. I mean he probably misread the situation in the beginning and went offensive on the wrong time, which I'm sure has happened to everyone... He got out, maybe she also felt that the situation was just misread so she decided to continue hanging out with him and then later they got together for a bit. So she comes out now saying what he did was wrong, but it felt like she accepted it for a bit but after break up and some time decided that no it wasn't and decided to talk about it. This is actually something I see on the news all the time in Taiwanese news, where sometimes woman would come out and accuse a man of rape and it destroys that man's life. We call it "God Hopping", sometimes they might find evidence that the woman did consent to it at that moment. They would maybe go home and think about it, and then change their mind and think that it wasn't ok. If they can't find these information then the guy would be labeled a sex offender and basically his life would be gone(criminal record of sex offender) and a big sum of money. That's why there's a saying "free sex is the most expensive sex" there and many people joke about making a consent form that both parties need to sign for a hookup because it is relatively very easy for the guy to be fucked over. I'm not saying that this is what happened, but I think it's worth thinking about.