Shame on the house of NeoGaf for deleting their accounts over this nothing burger.
Those Simpson pics were apt. The gummy bear episode ones.
Bring back OT please. This shit is over with.
This is disgusting.
Shame on the house of NeoGaf for deleting their accounts over this nothing burger.
Those Simpson pics were apt. The gummy bear episode ones.
Bring back OT please. This shit is over with.
That's usually how sex works. We present ourselves, and the woman decides.
Dude was probably building up the guts to do it, not even noticing that she was puking, finally does it, gets shot down and walks away with his tail between his legs.
It's a funny story. If a male friend did it to me, I would laugh so hard he'd be really offended. I can't think of anyone I know in real life who would take offense here.
IT HAPPENS ALL THE TIME.
It's a way to divest the shame and guilt of being sexually assaulted while trying to regain some agency in their own lives. It's an actual defense mechanism to the crippling issues that bombard victims of sexual abuse.
It doesn't have to make sense on paper, it's literally a thing that happens all the time to people in disadvantaged positions and minorities.
Your logic is what others in the past foolishly used to criticize women who remain in violent relationships. That line of thinking was incorrect then and it's incorrect now. Read up on the experiences of women in these situations and then you'll see what the dynamic actually looks like.
Sàmban;252771148 said:Stockholm syndrome. It doesn't make any fucking sense but it's true. In this particular situation, it is hard to tell whether this was the case. I'm not sure that some dude you were drinking with joins you in the bathroom naked, you tell him to leave, he leaves...is enough to develop Stockholm syndrome. It's possible that the nature of their relationship was more toxic/abusive than either of them have revealed and she very well could have developed some bizarre attachment to him
Go ask any woman in your life if it would be traumatic for her to suddenly have someone she has not consented to show up in her shower naked.
You tell this story to 100 women and 100 will think that's sexual assault.
You're either inexperienced with women or you're not being genuine.
What bothers me the most is Tylers handling of this. Is it so hard to admit he was being a drunken idiot that night? And not say the victim is a mentally ill person with malicious intent.
Possibly? What if they had been men? What if they were women you found unattractive? What if you were in a relationship and didn't want it?
Living in San Francisco, I've had multiple instances where guys would expose their dicks to me or show me their visible boners through their pants (while riding on the train of all places) hoping to get me to react. Am I a victim of sexual assault?
Living in San Francisco, I've had multiple instances where guys would expose their dicks to me or show me their visible boners through their pants (while riding on the train of all places) hoping to get me to react. Am I a victim of sexual assault?
No bullshit.
You're high off your own drama still guy.
Exposing yourself to a woman in.an attempt to get her affections is a bold play.
It doesn't violate her. There's a difference between presenting and asserting.
So you could say to a woman "I want to grab you by the pussy" that would be ok to do.
Because there's time for the woman to react adversely or positively.
As opposed to violating her space with your hand and groping. That's assault. As soon as you take the choice away. Its assault.
She had a choice she had a voice. She said . leave. He left.
When you get assaulted you don't have fucking agency to do anything.
Again you're a fucking moron. If I didn't say it before.
Keep getting high off the drama though.
This is disgusting.
This site is dead though and it has been dying for some time. To me the reason it's dying is it's always 10 on 1 and it's fucking toxic.
I've been here since the gaming age and I'm out, not because of Evilore. I'm out because I'm sick of people just piling on and no one ever sticking up for anyone.
There is not a single guy who has not tried to make a move and been shot down before. Maybe we weren't as awkward about it as Evilore was, but we've all been there before.
You can't call another poster a fucking moron
Possibly? What if they had been men? What if they were women you found unattractive? What if you were in a relationship and didn't want it?
Why, in your mind, does he only need consent after already partaking in a sexual act that she didn't consent to?
You're right, people don't always get affirmative consent in every situation, but they fucking should. Not only because it's morally the right thing to do, because jumping naked unannounced into a shower with a woman can be a terrifying thing especially to some women, but to protect yourself, too.
What matters is that he didn't get that consent. He didn't try to touch her or grope her after she refused consent, but he had already violated her consent by being there naked in the first place.
What part of being drunk in a hotel room is affirmative consent?
If your male friend who has at least 50 pounds on you became sexually aggressive while drunk, you'd just laugh it off?
Who gets into a shower with a naked girl who's puking?"
Thats the kind of fuckboy you clowns are tripping all over yourselves to defend here.
A community built on denying an assault victims claims is going to be so healthy and full of great people.
I've been chased and targeted by a murdering pedophile, son. I've seen the face of evil and it looks fucking nothing like this.
Trust me this shit isn't anything but a nothing burger. People derp up a whole lot in life.
It's a drama hurricane with no real drama.
Sàmban;252774538 said:Relevant story: One day I was hanging out with this girl whom I thought was really cool. We ended up super drunk at my apartment and she decided to take a shower. She took so long I fell asleep.
Eventually we were up in a relationship. One day, she told me that she almost thought I wasn't into her because that night she was trying to make it super obvious that I should come into the bathroom with her but I fell asleep.
I'm not saying this to validate Tyler's behavior. Just to say that human beings are complicated. It's always better to be on the safe side and respect people's boundaries but mistakes can happen.
They weren't just hanging out in a cafe. They were alone, in a hotel room, getting drunk together. By any and all definitions, that's a sexually charged setting ripe for a misunderstanding. No matter how comfortable you are with someone as a friend, being alone in a hotel room together is an uncomfortable situation for that reason. This wasn't just a random pussy grab, the way you put it. I wouldn't let my girlfriend share a hotel room with a guy for this exact reason, nor would my girlfriend let me share a room with a woman.
I loved GAF, but I just can't support this site anymore owned by a fucking maniac. We'll I gues I have to move on.
Its hilarious that you're accusing me of not having an open mind. I never denied this person's take on the story. Even though they adamantly deny it could be any other way. I'm iust presenting a scenario that could exist. Because if that other persons scenario was 100% the truth all the pieces regarding this whole thing and the statement Evilore made would fit. Yet there are some obvious red flags that contradict everything. Where are the mods? Why aren't they speaking up on Evilore's behalf and why did they all mostly leave if he did nothing wrong? Why did he try to bury discussion about this statement before the site went down??Sàmban;252773482 said:This is a valid question, but I think if you really approach this question with an attempt at having an open mind instead of just being outraged, you'll realize that it's entirely possible that he did not have her vulnerability in mind like you're implying. Maybe if he got in there and saw that she wasn't coherent enough, he would have gotten out and tried to call for help. We don't know. It is valid to assume that might have had bad intentions, but it is also valid to think maybe he was just drunk and misread the situation. I mean, they did sleep together later on (an no, the events do not fit the profile of Stockholm syndrome).
That's usually how sex works. We present ourselves, and the woman decides.
Dude was probably building up the guts to do it, not even noticing that she was puking, finally does it, gets shot down and walks away with his tail between his legs.
It's a funny story. If a male friend did it to me, I would laugh so hard he'd be really offended. I can't think of anyone I know in real life who would take offense here.
Leaning in for a kiss or something along those lines and getting shot down, of course.
But are you telling me there's little difference in that and getting naked to jump into a shower with an unsuspecting girl? That is far beyond "awkward".
The last 10 months alone have taught me that having a mentality like this is a mistake.Bringing me to my last point, BRING BACK OFF-TOPIC FORUMS. Talk like this has no business in a forum dedicated to video games
Living in San Francisco, I've had multiple instances where guys would expose their dicks to me or show me their visible boners through their pants (while riding on the train of all places) hoping to get me to react. Am I a victim of sexual assault?
Why do so many people post this?
Just fucking leave then lol. Thats your prerogative but I dont understand the point of proclamation posts.
Who gets into a shower with a naked girl who's puking?"
Thats the kind of fuckboy you clowns are tripping all over yourselves to defend here.
A community built on denying an assault victims claims is going to be so healthy and full of great people.
To let evilore know that he's losing valued community members.
Is it really that fucking sexually charged or uncomfortable? Not for normal people.
I literally missed this entire explosion on Gaf because I was at twitch con, being drunk in a hotel room one on one with two seperate married women that are friends of mine. Nobody made any remotely sexual advance on anyone else, nobody was hurt, nobody was sad. Gee, it's almost like just because I become drunk I dont' turn into a sexual predator.
So you guys do realize that exposing yourself to another person without consent is a crime that can land you on a sex offenders list in some states, right?
Is it really that fucking sexually charged or uncomfortable? Not for normal people.
I literally missed this entire explosion on Gaf because I was at twitch con, being drunk in a hotel room one on one with two seperate married women that are friends of mine. Nobody made any remotely sexual advance on anyone else, nobody was hurt, nobody was sad. Gee, it's almost like just because I become drunk I dont' turn into a sexual predator.
So you guys do realize that exposing yourself to another person without consent is a crime that can land you on a sex offenders list in some states, right?
You wanna talk real shit? Come to Mexico and see how many times you can hold your manliness in your paints before shitting it all after having a gun pointed at your face and seeing friends and family disappear only to show up dead weeks and months later.
One thing doesn't excuse the other, you're experience is yours to be dealt with. Stop being a condescending douchebag about the whole deal and accept that people face this type of stuff in very, very different ways.You don't get to decide if the girl should feel assaulted or not, the facts are stated and the silence from the perpetrator has made crystal clear that he's a piece of shit and broke a girls trust looking to get some at the expense of her.
If you, of all people as you claim to have been molested, can't understand it, I know now why Donald Trump made it all the way to the Presidency of your Country.
Also, fuck the guy that's using a tv show as an excuse for this type of behavior. That's just a complete childish, idiotic, incredibly blank way to try and defend the inadmissible. And fuck the new mods for warning before banning a fellow user for trying to talk some sense into some people that dismissed groping as a non-sexual threat.
Were the married women sleeping with you in the hotel room, or just hanging out?
You really owned that contextless strawmanSo you guys do realize that exposing yourself to another person without consent is a crime that can land you on a sex offenders list in some states, right?
maybe the mod team quit because they were hearing the batshit excuses EL was coming up with before his public "statement" and wouldn't stand for it.Name a single time when gaf didn't automatically take the side of the accuser. The mod team quit before any of the facts were out, almost like the facts didn't matter to them.
Seriously.
I've been in a hotel room drinking with the opposite sex. My wife has been. Previous girlfriends have been. A lot of business trips happen in hotel rooms. Dumb backwards ass 'implications' do not mean consent.
I'm a straight male, and I've been in all of these situations. They weren't sexual assault, because none of them kept pressing the issue after I made it clear I wasn't interested.
But this fantasy world where no one ever makes an advance without receiving prior consent to do so only exists on the internet. In real life, 99% of scenarios fall within the grey area. All you can do as a responsible person is try to judge the situations to the best of your ability, and immediately leave the other person alone if they do not reciprocate or give consent.
There is not a single guy who has not tried to make a move and been shot down before. Maybe we weren't as awkward about it as Evilore was, but we've all been there before.
You really owned that contextless strawman
Seriously.
I've been in a hotel room drinking with the opposite sex. My wife has been. Previous girlfriends have been. A lot of business trips happen in hotel rooms. Dumb backwards ass 'implications' do not mean consent.
1) She wasn't a victim of sexual abuse. She didn't even allege that he *touched* her.
2) She wasn't in a longterm relationship with him at the time and there was no history of violence, so Battered Women's Syndrome comparison doesn't apply.
3) "Disadvantaged" people, minorities, and women don't have some weird separate psychology that no-one can possibly understand. Gosh golly the way those ladybrains work is sure confounding but you can't blame em for being irrational! They're still victims! Men and women react in very similar ways in such circumstances.
4) I've been sexually assaulted a few times, and my reaction wasn't 'dayum lemme hop on that dick right quick'. It was to get as far away from the person as possible and excise them from my life, because that is an actual defense mechanism.
Well I don't. Sorry.
At my company, if a man and a woman shared a hotel room on a business trip they'd both be fired. It's explicitly forbidden for members of the opposite sex to share a hotel room.
Sleeping in the same room as someone implies consent?