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The Great Porn Experiment (TEDxGlasgow)
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For anyone else who hasn't seen that thread yet and is trying this challenge:
Don't go into that thread.
NotTheGuyYouKill
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It's too late. I went to that thread. I opened some GIFs. I saw some porn.
And I fucking resisted.
I might not be able to hold out 90 days this time... but I held out tonight.
Never delete man!!!! Just store it some place where access is a pain in the ass. Like a thumb drive that you keep in a lockbox for example. And hide the key on a shelf that's really high, so you need to always get the ladder out of the basement to reach it. This is totally not exactly what I am doing myself.
That's just the headline-grabber.
The sad truth is that there are many symptoms. Join the 90 day challenge!
It's hard man. I've been exposed to porn 3 times since I started, but I told myself just to forget it.
NotTheGuyYouKill
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I logged onto a site earlier today, and then immediately shut it off and went to do something else, but it nags at the back of my head.
Now I have women constantly on my mind.
I'm folding my laundry now. Doubly effective: can't sleep without clearing it off my bed, and it's about as unsexy as you can get.
Haha, good point. Though it's 3 am right now so I think I'll just hit the bed.
Another thing that's on the back of my mind right now; don't use the fall of others in this thread as an excuse to do it yourself. It's hard, but when I see people saying they caved in, deep down it gives me an "ah, fuck it" attitude. Then I remind myself I'm in it for me.
Well hey, looks like you can maintain self-control even while thinking about women. That's gotta count for something, no? It's practices like these that I'll make use of when I do finish the 90 days.
Dear Diary,
I have currently gone 11 minutes, but it feels like an eternity. With every second that passes I feel myself tempted to return to my former life. I can't think of anything but internet porn, I believe that my efforts maybe in vein. I don't know how much longer I can go on like this, it's maddening. The mad man in charge of this experiment is the devil himself. I will press on but I don't know how much longer I can last.
I have currently gone 11 minutes, but it feels like an eternity. With every second that passes I feel myself tempted to return to my former life. I can't think of anything but internet porn, I believe that my efforts maybe in vein. I don't know how much longer I can go on like this, it's maddening. The mad man in charge of this experiment is the devil himself. I will press on but I don't know how much longer I can last.
FallingEdge
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Anytime I go longer for a day, I get urges. The messed up part is that damn near anything can set me up. Record for me is 9 days. I will try 30 and see what happens from there.
Just so you guys know, I'm doing another 90 days as solace for you newbies. Hopefully I can help keep you guys going as I do. This is day 5 for me.
sole exceptions will be when I meet up with my occasional lover. She was understanding the first two times around, but I doubt she will be as such when I don't have problems needing fixing.
So as a 25 year old male who has had internet access for around a decade, I suppose I could benefit from this experiment.
The video doesn't actually give any guidelines. I'm happy to stop looking at pornography for 90 day (I'll give it a crack, at least). I'm also willing to not... well, you know. That said, I'm currently not having sex on any kind of regular basis.
I don't quite understand what the whole 90 day thing is about. No sex? Sex but no porn? No porn but you're allowed to fap? No orgasm for 90 days?
So what is it? I cannot be arsed to read the whole thread.
The video doesn't actually give any guidelines. I'm happy to stop looking at pornography for 90 day (I'll give it a crack, at least). I'm also willing to not... well, you know. That said, I'm currently not having sex on any kind of regular basis.
I don't quite understand what the whole 90 day thing is about. No sex? Sex but no porn? No porn but you're allowed to fap? No orgasm for 90 days?
So what is it? I cannot be arsed to read the whole thread.
You can have sex with your partner. But no solo time with yourself. Meaning no porn, masturbation to porn or orgasm to porn. By doing this your requiring your brain to want the real thing all the time, rather than relying off the novelty porn does to your brain.
Others will chime in if you want a clear understanding. As a matter of fact Reddit has a 90 challenge of no PMO going also.
For more information, check this link out. It gives you a very thorough walk through on what porn does to the human brain.
http://yourbrainonporn.com/node/79
Understood. Interested to see if I see any changes.
If you don't mind me asking...
But do you find more enjoyment masturbating to porn, watching porn than having sex with your partner? This will show addiction if you say yes to this question.
And how many times in a day, week, or month do you have relations with your partner i.e. cuddling, foreplay, intercourse, etc.?
TAJ
Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that.
The Last Wizard
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Just thinking about orgasming and the feeling of pleasure is killing me. Still going though.
The Last Wizard
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I miss her assets...
The duck with the bait.
Having come out successfully of the 90 day program last week I have met up with a lady friend a couple of evenings and I've masturbated twice. What's somewhat surprising to me is bucketloads I'm cumming each time (my friend also commented this). I always thought pornstars were on special diets like eggs and bananas and whatnot but I'm at their level now.
Bay Maximus
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lol, Suairyu with the masterful troll.
I prefer to call it "tough love" - I will see you all through this but you must be tested! I don't want my flock to ScarJo out on me.
indeed. Though eggs and bananas (and then pineapples to improve the flavour) does actually work.
I am well aware of her ample talents and have journeyed down that road in the past. It will take more than that to defeat me!
I find this to be false and not even rational. I might like to drink coke more than I drink water, but preference has nothing to do with addiction.
What if my partner is terrible in bed? What if she sounds like she's getting raped or cries (Japanese style)? What if she just lays there and acts like she's dead?
There is such a thing as a porn addiction but just because someone prefers porn to sex, it doesn't mean he/she's addicted.
FallingEdge
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I'd say you are having the wrong sex more than anything.
No, it means the husband and wife have absolutely shit communication, which is indicative of a terrible relationship.
Yep, the motion of her ocean can cause quite the commotion.
The Last Wizard
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If sex is allowed how about phone sex?
No, it's not okay, but you can still venture online and put on your robe and wizard hat.
Sorry for the late reply.
That is a tough question. Both I enjoy equally, I'd say. Sometimes one more than the other, depending on circumstances. Still, without delving to deep into my personal life, I can say I don't see myself having sex within the next 90 days anyway.
So.. Yeah, it's going to be difficult.
NotTheGuyYouKill
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Good job being judgmental. Porn has several advantages that sex doesn't have that could easily lead one to prefer it to actual sex.
NotTheGuyYouKill
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How so?
Can't believe I'm saying this but think I'll give this a shot. Planned on doing p90x over the summer to better myself physically, I might as well try this and see if I can't better myself mentally/emotionally too. Hope this will help me work out some of my... other issues.
Edit: So it's my understanding that for this "detox" to work effectively, I can't beat it at all for the next 90 days? Aren't there some physiological negatives to that? I've heard that there are many health benefits to getting at least one erection a day, anyone know if this is true?
Have sex maybe once a month on average and I haven't been able to "finish" in about a year. Feels bad man 
Edit: So it's my understanding that for this "detox" to work effectively, I can't beat it at all for the next 90 days? Aren't there some physiological negatives to that? I've heard that there are many health benefits to getting at least one erection a day, anyone know if this is true?
Master Milk
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Can't believe I'm saying this but think I'll give this a shot. Planned on doing p90x over the summer to better myself physically, I might as well try this and see if I can't better myself mentally/emotionally too. Hope this will help me work out some of my... other issues.Have sex maybe once a month on average and I haven't been able to "finish" in about a year. Feels bad man
Edit: So it's my understanding that for this "detox" to work effectively, I can't beat it at all for the next 90 days? Aren't there some physiological negatives to that? I've heard that there are many health benefits to getting at least one erection a day, anyone know if this is true?
You're not going to die or anything. Whatever negative side effects there are, if there are any, can't be worse than the problem you're already having.
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Seriously. What advantages are those?
Don't get me wrong: there are some (rare) occasions where I think, "Today I'd prefer to watch a good porno and do it myself," but that's like the occasional times you don't want to hang with friends on the weekend and would rather play videogames all day by yourself. Everyone needs to self-love every now and again.
But it being better than sex on a more permanent basis? I'd say there was a problem there.
But I'll stand by my statement - if you feel your partner isn't good in bed then you don't have good communication as a couple. There's no such thing as someone who isn't good, just someone who isn't doing it right for you yet.
Question:
You said there's a period where your urges just die off completely. Does this mean I won't be motivated to approach women? I'm going on a trip Memorial Day weekend and I'd like to have my current mojo at that point. I'm on week 3, so that would be...the end of week 7. Am I doomed to just get drunk and not give a fuck about even making out with someone?
There is no timetable for what will happen when. Everyone has individual periods of this and i guess there are some cases where it does not happen at all. two weeks ago was my "week 7" and believe me my mojo was more than normal.
I'd say if it'll happen, than it will be rather around the end of the first month, but as i said, no clear timetable.
TAJ
Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that.
I think it happened on day 8 for me, lol. But it's extremely difficult for me to make it even a few days.
you get used to it, believe me, just push through.
also, its not like you have 1-2 days with no mojo and everything will be dandy from there on. it can scale up and down on a daily basis in certain weeks. but seeing how you really looking forward to that memday weekend i wouldnt worry too much.
The ups and downs are really signs of withdraw. Because your bring is use to that high dopamine shot day in, day out.
I'm doing quite well. I completed 3 days and then working on day 4 right now.
Feels good. No withdraw symptoms. It's highly impossible to avoid sexual stimuli because there is an abundance of it around us. So I have seen probably a good 30% unintentional these past few days. But I still feel strong.
Day 4 and still chugging. Here goes.
Errr, I have not heard of this. The potential health benefits of a daily erection will not be missed for 90 days.
Starting week 3. Feels... mundane now.
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