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[NotTheGuyYouKill]

The opposite's happening now. The first 7 and a half days last week, I didn't feel anything, so it was easy to go that long without... doing anything. And then Sunday, I had to restart. It's Day 3 now, and sex is constantly on my mind, and the urge doesn't go away. It was so much easier last week.

 

[Booya]

Day 56. The last couple of days have been terribly hard (yep...).
The big difference i have now when i compare it to two months ago is that i dont crave porn but im really horny for real girls. my brain seems to be okay with the idea that porn aint no option no more. gotta try hard in that dating world right now

 

[Suairyu]

I hope you guys realise Diablo III releases in three weeks. That'll keep the porn cravings at bay with loot obsession.

 

[TAJ]

I failed dozens of times. Then I deleted all of my readily available porn. I still have a lot, but I'd have to go buy a SATA-to-USB enclosure to watch it.
At seven days now, which is a lot longer than I've ever gone, even staying at relatives' places with no privacy.

 

[BeesEight]

I hope you guys realise Diablo III releases in three weeks. That'll keep the porn cravings at bay with loot obsession.

Not for all of us.

 

[Mr. Fix]

The opposite's happening now. The first 7 and a half days last week, I didn't feel anything, so it was easy to go that long without... doing anything. And then Sunday, I had to restart. It's Day 3 now, and sex is constantly on my mind, and the urge doesn't go away. It was so much easier last week.

Dude, I know that feel. I'm on day 12 right now, and on day 10 I just kept thinking about sex/porn. Hell I've even got names lined up for when I go back. But it's too soon!

Day 56.

I say GAT DAMN!

 

[cdyhybrid]

I hope you guys realise Diablo III releases in three weeks. That'll keep the porn cravings at bay with loot obsession.

Until you find some loot that sells for a couple hundred bucks and you immediately pop wood.

 

[Peterthumpa]

Holy shit just found out about this thread today and I'm kinda fascinated by the so called results of porn abstention. I usually fap twice per day (sometimes once) for the past what... 8, 10 years? Not always by watching porn anyway.

Stopping right now. Let's see how long can I make it and what are the benefits... I have a girlfriend though, albeit lately we bang only 2, 3 times per month. Am I eligible to see big differences?

 

[Plywood]

Day 56. The last couple of days have been terribly hard (yep...).
The big difference i have now when i compare it to two months ago is that i dont crave porn but im really horny for real girls. my brain seems to be okay with the idea that porn aint no option no more. gotta try hard in that dating world right now

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8vzKgD89oOE

 

[ecurbj]

Holy shit just found out about this thread today and I'm kinda fascinated by the so called results of porn abstention. I usually fap twice per day (sometimes once) for the past what... 8, 10 years? Not always by watching porn anyway.

Stopping right now. Let's see how long can I make it and what are the benefits... I have a girlfriend though, albeit lately we bang only 2, 3 times per month. Am I eligible to see big differences?

How do you feel after ejaculation? Do you experience anxiety, wanting to be alone, etc.? Does it take you awhile to get it up when you are having sex with your significant other? Masturbation itself isn't bad. It's the fantasy and porn + masturbation = decrease in libido.

 

[Ferrio]

Sadists.

 

[Peterthumpa]

How do you feel after ejaculation? Do you experience anxiety, wanting to be alone, etc.? Does it take you awhile to get it up when you are having sex with your significant other? Masturbation itself isn't bad. It's the fantasy and porn + masturbation = decrease in libido.

It depends really. Sometimes I get a really good feeling, sometimes I do it just to sleep well. When having sex with the girlfriend it's also a mixed bag, sometimes pretty great, sometimes average, but I guess that that's to be expected from an 8+ years relationship.

 

[ecurbj]

It depends really. Sometimes I get a really good feeling, sometimes I do it just to sleep well. When having sex with the girlfriend it's also a mixed bag, sometimes pretty great, sometimes average, but I guess that that's to be expected from an 8+ years relationship.

Okay, I hear you. But I'm more concerned about are you addicted to porn. Like do you rely off of it to masturbate? If you can't masturbate without porn then you are addicted. Your brain is getting weak and requires rapid amounts of dopamine to keep you going.

8 years and sex 3 or 4 times a month is pretty bad. Do you guys cuddle or anything at all? Or do you hit it and quit and move on and if that's the case how is the relationship holding up well? It seems the sexual interest is decreasing if your getting very little from her but more sexual release through masturbating to porn.

 

[Peterthumpa]

Okay, I hear you. But I'm more concerned about are you addicted to porn. Like do you rely off of it to masturbate? If you can't masturbate without porn then you are addicted. Your brain is getting weak and requires rapid amounts of dopamine to keep you going.

8 years and sex 3 or 4 times a month is pretty bad. Do you guys cuddle or anything at all? Or do you hit it and quit and move on and if that's the case how is the relationship holding up well? It seems the sexual interest is decreasing if your getting very little from her but more sexual release through masturbating to porn.

I can't say I'm addicted, usually in the shower there's no Internet around and I can go on with it, no problems. It's just that when there's porn available, I do it with porn.

About the relationship, I think that's more her problem than mine. She usually just "dies" after cumming and the moments before that are really "natural sex", i.e., there's no fantasy at all, just the desire to do it and that's it. She's been really busy with university and job matters lately, so I usually try to blame those kind of things first, but it's been a pretty long while in this same situation, so sometimes I think if I'm not kidding myself into thinking that there's nothing wrong.

 

[cdyhybrid]

I can't say I'm addicted, usually in the shower there's no Internet around and I can go on with it, no problems. It's just that when there's porn available, I do it with porn.

About the relationship, I think that's more her problem than mine. She usually just "dies" after cumming and the moments before that are really "natural sex", i.e., there's no fantasy at all, just the desire to do it and that's it. She's been really busy with university and job matters lately, so I usually try to blame those kind of things first, but it's been a pretty long while in this same situation, so sometimes I think if I'm not kidding myself into thinking that there's nothing wrong.

Do you picture porn in your head when whacking it in the shower?

 

[Ferrio]

Do you picture porn in your head when whacking it in the shower?

Opposed to what... dirty laundry?

 

[Apophenia Overload]

I can't seem to create a new thread in this forum right now, but I'd like to mention something related to this experiment. As the OP states, Stanford psychologist Philip Zimbardo had his own TED talk, The demise of guys?

It's only five minutes long but his main point is arguing that today's boys and young men have become less masculine and more addicted to virtual pursuits. Porn, video games, the internet are all mentioned. What I feel about this is that all of this comes down to novelty. Electronic media allows almost instantaneous return of information and entertainment. We can be continuously entertained and the reward circuitry of our brains triggered.

So I'm wondering, can this same sort of experiment be done to other media? Certainly there would be big differences- I think the main issue about porn is that it leads to orgasm, that the sex hormones and chemicals involved are very powerful. Internet use or gaming... not so much. But the same idea behind novelty is there. I also think to bring up earlier points, modern day pornography is instantaneously-acquired, unlike Playboys and so forth. Same idea holds for non-sexual novelty from the internet. (I don't think the same issue applies to video games, unless they're like online games that continuously generate new content.)

So how about some sort of challenge to moderate internet use? How about something that targets other sources of modern day first-world novelty?

 

[Peterthumpa]

Do you picture porn in your head when whacking it in the shower?

Nope, just the usual sex with her, though with some fantasies that we unfortunately don't make in the real thing.

 

[Booya]

for everyone that needs a lill peptalk. here are some things that changed and things you should think about when you are confronted with the choise to relapse.
been jerkin since 14 years (27 now) so i see myself as upper tier problem. first real "addiction" i try to quit, could never fathom to stop smoking for example, although god knows i tried. when it comes to quitting cigarettes i would imagine to be fitter, but i didnt realy care for it. the tie-in to the nofap is that after 2 months without it, i want more and more to be fit and can imagine that it will motivate me enough to stop smoking. the fap-quitting is easier for me because there is a highly motivational goal there. i was somehow never one to look girls in the eye much in coversations, now im basically just talking via eye-contact in conversations. the datinglife is higher than normal and im taking geniun pleasure out of it. without beeing to corky, i take pleasure out of normal stuff i wouldnt normally.
but lets be realistic, there are days you will go almost insane, especially if you are a nocturnal creature like me. your brain will try to go apeshit on phantasy, it shifts from flashback-porn scenes to girls you have contact in everyday life. so there is constant danger cause i take it we all will have a frisky brain bombarding us with nice brain-pictures to cave in [insert that douche-brain meme with a clever caption here]
all in all, dont cave in guys, its worth the torture!

 

[Etrian Oddity]

Depends - what are your reasons for taking this challenge? If it's because you've noticed difficulties during intercourse then nocturnal emissions aren't an issue. If it's to cut back on your porn consumption this is also not a problem. If it's to challenge yourself... well there's only so much willpower you can exert while unconscious.

I don't think you'll have wet dreams every four days though. Keep with it.

It's to build up more testosterone: more motivation to work out and lose weight this summer [35 lb goal], and to change my situation with girls and empower me to approach more. I was doing freaking great the past couple days--totally unafraid to make eye contact with strangers, approaching, etc--so I can't help feel I got jipped by my mojo being taken away so quickly against my will. XD

 

[cdyhybrid]

Opposed to what... dirty laundry?

Clearing your mind of fantasies and just focusing on the sensation.

 

[NotTheGuyYouKill]

I am on Day 3, but I keep gravitating back towards porn. I don't do anything cause I sort of have an internal battle before shutting it off and screaming "YOU DON'T CONTROL MEEEEEEEE", but man, this is sort of... sucking.

 

[Grakl]

Opposed to what... dirty laundry?

real-time washer physics

ohh yeah baby spin that right round

 

[Master Milk]

Don't browse OT much as of late, so I just stumbled onto this thread.

I'm in. Uhh, currently on Day 7.

I'll shoot for at least 100.

 

[NotTheGuyYouKill]

Don't browse OT much as of late, so I just stumbled onto this thread.

I'm in. Uhh, currently on Day 7.

I'll shoot for at least 100.

Throwing down the gauntlet, huh?

 

[Master Milk]

Throwing down the gauntlet, huh?

Go big or go home.

 

[TAJ]

Throwing down the gauntlet, huh?

I'm seriously fucked up. I've fapped at least three times almost every day for the last 27 years.
I don't think 90 days is going to do the job.

 

[Ferrio]

Clearing your mind of fantasies and just focusing on the sensation.

Okay... sounds stupid but whatever.

 

[wondermega]

Clearing your mind of fantasies and just focusing on the sensation.

um... can that be done?

So how about some sort of challenge to moderate internet use? How about something that targets other sources of modern day first-world novelty?

yikes. that would be particularly hard. I was able to quit for about a week, some years ago. But it's tough when one's job so heavily relies on internet connectivity.

 

[Keavy_Rain]

Week two done. Gauntlet has been thrown down, as this week was pure hell, with insomnia and mood swings that nearly drove me insane. I got a great night's sleep last night and my mood has evened out, for the most part, but the thought of going through this from the beginning is keeping me from relapsing.

Pushing through it and I've stopped making excuses and signed up for a dating site. I'm casting a wide net, as I want to work on my social skills. My last relationship was a LTR and my friend set up our first date six years ago, so I'm really rusty on that part.

All that said, I'm doing this for me. I've spent too long feeling sorry for myself and not taking care of myself since I was dumped. I'm tired of not living!

 

[toxicgonzo]

I'm seriously fucked up. I've fapped at least three times almost every day for the last 27 years.
I don't think 90 days is going to do the job.

Every now and then I read about people who do this and at first I thought they were just joking.
But I've read one too many stories for it to not be true.

What is it? Do some men produce that much testosterone? Or is it forced to the point where a little flag comes out that says "bang"?

 

[grumble]

Every now and then I read about people who do this and at first I thought they were just joking.
But I've read one too many stories for it to not be true.

What is it? Do some men produce that much testosterone? Or is it forced to the point where a little flag comes out that says "bang"?

It's an addiction, like a drug addiction. That's the point.

 

[cdyhybrid]

Every now and then I read about people who do this and at first I thought they were just joking.
But I've read one too many stories for it to not be true.

What is it? Do some men produce that much testosterone? Or is it forced to the point where a little flag comes out that says "bang"?

Sometimes people get bored.

 

[NotTheGuyYouKill]

Go big or go home.

 

[Zzoram]

Diablo 3 is the answer to this thread.

 

[BeesEight]

It's to build up more testosterone: more motivation to work out and lose weight this summer [35 lb goal], and to change my situation with girls and empower me to approach more. I was doing freaking great the past couple days--totally unafraid to make eye contact with strangers, approaching, etc--so I can't help feel I got jipped by my mojo being taken away so quickly against my will. XD

You should be fine. Just keep up not doing it and you're mojo should remain.

 

[Salsa]

I once found myself having sex and not being able to finish, and maybe i was a bit drunk, or who knows, but i started thinking of porn, and it worked. I started thinking about porn as if i was masturbating in my bed when i was having sex with a hot girl in real time.

This shit shattered me and i seriously stopped masturbating for a while, i thought i had ruined myself or something.


I kinda associate it to the fact that if you go some time masturbating without having sex you actually sorta.. prefer it? dont get me wrong, not in the literal sense, but in the fact that you become so used to pleasuring yourself that when you cant keep the same pace during intercourse it can discourage you. Either that or you end up associating having an orgasm with watching a sex act on your mind's eye, or whatever. I guess its more related to masturbation than porn (unlike this video). Its fucked up.

 

[Canuck76]

I am on Day 3, but I keep gravitating back towards porn. I don't do anything cause I sort of have an internal battle before shutting it off and screaming "YOU DON'T CONTROL MEEEEEEEE", but man, this is sort of... sucking.

Stay strong my man. Each day is a new challenge. Finished a Day 1 right now. Getting into a good habit of after classes, going to the gym everyday and just shooting around. My handles and shot are getting better and i come home tired.

Just try to manage your day wisely. Make a plan for the day, i do this at 2 this at 3 this at 4. Don't give yourself time to fall

 

[Plywood]

I can't seem to create a new thread in this forum right now, but I'd like to mention something related to this experiment. As the OP states, Stanford psychologist Philip Zimbardo had his own TED talk, The demise of guys?

It's only five minutes long but his main point is arguing that today's boys and young men have become less masculine and more addicted to virtual pursuits. Porn, video games, the internet are all mentioned. What I feel about this is that all of this comes down to novelty. Electronic media allows almost instantaneous return of information and entertainment. We can be continuously entertained and the reward circuitry of our brains triggered.

So I'm wondering, can this same sort of experiment be done to other media? Certainly there would be big differences- I think the main issue about porn is that it leads to orgasm, that the sex hormones and chemicals involved are very powerful. Internet use or gaming... not so much. But the same idea behind novelty is there. I also think to bring up earlier points, modern day pornography is instantaneously-acquired, unlike Playboys and so forth. Same idea holds for non-sexual novelty from the internet. (I don't think the same issue applies to video games, unless they're like online games that continuously generate new content.)

So how about some sort of challenge to moderate internet use? How about something that targets other sources of modern day first-world novelty?

This is interesting, I'm probably going to make a thread for it after I finish watching the vid in 3 minutes.

 

[BeesEight]

I once found myself having sex and not being able to finish, and maybe i was a bit drunk, or who knows, but i started thinking of porn, and it worked. I started thinking about porn as if i was masturbating in my bed when i was having sex with a hot girl in real time.

This shit shattered me and i seriously stopped masturbating for a while, i thought i had ruined myself or something.


I kinda associate it to the fact that if you go some time masturbating without having sex you actually sorta.. prefer it? dont get me wrong, not in the literal sense, but in the fact that you become so used to pleasuring yourself that when you cant keep the same pace during intercourse it can discourage you. Either that or you end up associating having an orgasm with watching a sex act on your mind's eye, or whatever. I guess its more related to masturbation than porn (unlike this video). Its fucked up.

So... is this you accepting the challenge?

If I had to guess, masturbating frequently will reduce your sex drive as you have that release pretty constantly. So when you're actually having sex, you've got less gas in the engine - so to speak. The best way to finish off is the way that you know works.

But I'm not an expert or anything.

 

[Salsa]

So... is this you accepting the challenge?

If I had to guess, masturbating frequently will reduce your sex drive as you have that release pretty constantly. So when you're actually having sex, you've got less gas in the engine - so to speak. The best way to finish off is the way that you know works.

But I'm not an expert or anything.

sounds about right, but ussually people refer to this as erectile dysfunction, and that has never been an issue for me.

as for accepting the challenge, im not really addicted to porn. I havent masturbated in more than a week i think, but part of this is because i know i'll be getting laid friday or saturday, and that accident terrified me, lol.

 

[Apophenia Overload]

yikes. that would be particularly hard. I was able to quit for about a week, some years ago. But it's tough when one's job so heavily relies on internet connectivity.

No need to quit, but some sort of self-imposed limits could be done.

 

[BeesEight]

sounds about right, but ussually people refer to this as erectile dysfunction, and that has never been an issue for me.

as for accepting the challenge, im not really addicted to porn. I havent masturbated in more than a week i think, but part of this is because i know i'll be getting laid friday or saturday, and that accident terrified me, lol.

Psh, you don't need to be an addict to take the challenge. But if you've got a lady lined up, there's really not much point.

 

[cdyhybrid]

I'm in week 3 and I'm being tempted left and right. I used to see a picture of an actress or something and pay it no mind unless she were topless or something. Now I see one wearing normal clothes and I'm 75% of the way to losing my shit. Shit is rough, man. Staying strong, though.

 

[NotTheGuyYouKill]

I'm in week 3 and I'm being tempted left and right. I used to see a picture of an actress or something and pay it no mind unless she were topless or something. Now I see one wearing normal clothes and I'm 75% of the way to losing my shit. Shit is rough, man. Staying strong, though.

I think that's a good thing. The longer I try and do this, the more I realize...

I don't appreciate women and natural beauty as much as I should.

 

[Suairyu]

I'm in week 3 and I'm being tempted left and right. I used to see a picture of an actress or something and pay it no mind unless she were topless or something. Now I see one wearing normal clothes and I'm 75% of the way to losing my shit. Shit is rough, man. Staying strong, though.

This is good. You're returning to being 13. With porn around, the average playboy centrefold doesn't tend to do it anymore. This is a situation that must be fixed.

Stay strong! You're getting close to all your urges dying off.

 

[Riggs]

I once found myself having sex and not being able to finish, and maybe i was a bit drunk, or who knows, but i started thinking of porn, and it worked. I started thinking about porn as if i was masturbating in my bed when i was having sex with a hot girl in real time.

This shit shattered me and i seriously stopped masturbating for a while, i thought i had ruined myself or something.


I kinda associate it to the fact that if you go some time masturbating without having sex you actually sorta.. prefer it? dont get me wrong, not in the literal sense, but in the fact that you become so used to pleasuring yourself that when you cant keep the same pace during intercourse it can discourage you. Either that or you end up associating having an orgasm with watching a sex act on your mind's eye, or whatever. I guess its more related to masturbation than porn (unlike this video). Its fucked up.

Join the club bro. I would be with a nice looking girl and not able to cum. I'd have to close my eyes and think about fucking porn. So ironic and sad. I've tried not jerking off for days, it's a lot easier to cum the next time you are with your partner. It truly works, just sucks not being able to jack off whenever I want hah.

The nice part of all this is your sex drive goes up 10000%. Say you jerked off the day before, or even the day you are having sex with your partner. You may be horny, but it's like I am just going through the motions in a way. I am still into her and enjoying myself, but man when you don't jack it for 10 days it's sooooo different. It's the way it's supposed to be. Or something ...... going back to playing AC so I don't think about chicks, later!

 

[Salsa]

Join the club bro. I would be with a nice looking girl and not able to cum. I'd have to close my eyes and think about fucking porn. So ironic and sad. I've tried not jerking off for days, it's a lot easier to cum the next time you are with your partner. It truly works, just sucks not being able to jack off whenever I want hah.

oh man, first time i hear about someone who had the same thing happen to him

sad-bro-fist

 

[BlueTsunami]

That MaxGIF thread is fucking my shit up. So many porn gifs. This thread is my beacon and shit.

 

[Riggs]

oh man, first time i hear about someone who had the same thing happen to him

sad-bro-fist

We must stay strong!

That MaxGIF thread is fucking my shit up. So many porn gifs. This thread is my beacon and shit.

Ya I saw like the best blow job just now on MaXGIF, must not click anymore.