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My girlfriend is a lesbian.
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nVidiot_Whore
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So she told you she wants to seek a relationship with a female?
Why are you saying you'll have to be the one to "let her go"?
You are still being confusing as hell.. SPELL IT OUT.
And use bisexual / lesbian appropriately, or indicate what you've meant this entire thread by lesbian.
Why are you saying you'll have to be the one to "let her go"?
You are still being confusing as hell.. SPELL IT OUT.
And use bisexual / lesbian appropriately, or indicate what you've meant this entire thread by lesbian.
frankie_baby
Member
Having a girlfriend that likes girls = very very good
Having a girlfriend that likes girls more than she likes sausage = get a new girlfriend
Having a girlfriend that likes girls more than she likes sausage = get a new girlfriend
Wow, this thread is something else.
I'll just say this before I grab the popcorn and enjoy the show - If she didn't know this until recently then she is likely going through quite a lot more than you. Yes, it certainly sucks on your end but coming out is not the easiest thing for someone to go through. If you don't feel like the bridge has been burned and (presumably) you both do care for each other you should try and see if you can't help her through this. Then you can count yourself lucky for having an attractive lesbian friend.
On the other hand, if she just destroyed your heart it might be good to just count your losses, sever and move on. There's really nothing you can do to change things.
I'll just say this before I grab the popcorn and enjoy the show - If she didn't know this until recently then she is likely going through quite a lot more than you. Yes, it certainly sucks on your end but coming out is not the easiest thing for someone to go through. If you don't feel like the bridge has been burned and (presumably) you both do care for each other you should try and see if you can't help her through this. Then you can count yourself lucky for having an attractive lesbian friend.
On the other hand, if she just destroyed your heart it might be good to just count your losses, sever and move on. There's really nothing you can do to change things.
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ZombieFred
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Just cut her out of your life and go back to your friends and enjoy the hobbies you had fun and improve on yourself, perhaps even working on learning new skills to go further in a career you wanted to do? Just keep your mind occupied, you deserve better when you find the next person.
black_vegeta
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Get some blow and hookers, life will then be good
freenudemacusers
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oh man, I need to sit down now.
T.M. MacReady
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Well just because she is into girls doesn't mean she is automatically a full blown lesbian. My GF discovered she was bi after a couple of years of wondering if she was, but that hasn't doomed our relationship. I let her explore, she got confirmation, I got to watch, it was all pretty cool, and now it's done because even though she is attracted to other girls, she loves me, and is a big fan of my penis. Now we get to check out girls together in public, which is pretty cool.
If she has said to you "well I'm just a full-blown lesbian now and don't like guys anymore" it probably means more that she doesn't want to be with you anymore, because I find it hard to believe that a woman could just switch from one extreme to the other so quickly.
If she has said to you "well I'm just a full-blown lesbian now and don't like guys anymore" it probably means more that she doesn't want to be with you anymore, because I find it hard to believe that a woman could just switch from one extreme to the other so quickly.
She said she felt constrained by the relationship. She's admittedly not had good sexual experiences (and I don't mean bad sex), so she wanted to explore.
I say if because she's confused by this realization that she doesn't know herself, but it's clear where she leans right now. She has hinted she doesn't quite see guys in a sexual manner, which makes me wonder what she saw in me.
For clarification, we just broke up within this hour. I'm trying to cope with that so responses are garbled and I'm having difficulty keeping up.
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Deleted member 81567
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Should have been first post.
the only way you could've convinced her she likes both cock and vagina was by having a big black cock.
I know she's had to go through a lot. Even before we started dating, and we were just friends, I knew she had suffered more than I ever have and probably ever will.
I don't want to burn bridges. I'm choosing to remember all the good memories we have, and there are a lot. I still love her, but I guess not in the romantic sense anymore. I will support her and want to still be friends.
However, I'm at the epicenter right now, with the news happening within the hour. I'm trying to find ways to cope.
Dark Octave
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Someone tells you that they want to date other people/open relationship and you stick around like a puppy at the window waiting for them to come back and tell you if they are willing to stay with you or not?
C'mon, dude...
C'mon, dude...
Time heals all wounds, you will start to feel better in a few minutes.
No, you're absolutely right. My last post was just me venting. This is exactly the reason, and she told me as such. The sex was good though :\
This is the common response, to bail. But I know her and you don't, and I wasn't hesitant in saying yes because it appealed to me as well. I felt the emotional connection was strong enough. Granted, I guess I'm wrong, but it is what it is.
Really sorry to hear that. Still not getting one thing: She wants to explore. That doesn´t neccessarly deny the possibility of being interested into you.
Well, since this has happened within the hour, you really need to some time to gather your thoughts. These are the sort of details we need at the start.
I'd suggest hanging out with friends, doing something you enjoy and just generally getting out of the situation/space right now. If you share a place, take an evening out on the town and clear your head. Honestly, spending time with friends is probably the best thing you can do right now.
And don't worry about where things will go from here right now. All that can be dealt with once the initial burn is over.
I thought I was friend zoned by her. Then she asked me if she thought I thought she did so, because she felt she wasn't given a fair shot.
So not quite I guess. At least I got some? Is that what I'm supposed to say?
SugarDaddy
Member
That's what she said, but for now the relationship is over. That much is fact.
God I didn't expect my first thread to be this shitshow of emotions. I expected it to be something punny.
Takamura-San
Member
People deny their sexuality all the time and try to pretend to be heterosexual. Often they don't even realize this themselves because being heterosexual is the "norm" and they can't imagine that it could be any other way unless they start letting themselves actually think about it.
ha someone got a link to this thread?
I didn't. She did.
I've known her for 1.5 years, been going out for about 7 months. So yea in the grand scheme of things at least it was short. I had a friend whose girlfriend broke up with him after 8 years. That shit's gotta sting.
polyh3dron
Banned
i'm dumb she's a lesbian
i thought i had found the one
we were good as married in my mind
but married in my mind's no good
ohhhh pink triangle on her sleeve
let me know the truth
let me knoooow the truth
also,
she just needs some deep dicking.
i thought i had found the one
we were good as married in my mind
but married in my mind's no good
ohhhh pink triangle on her sleeve
let me know the truth
let me knoooow the truth
also,
she just needs some deep dicking.
Messypandas
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Dark Octave
Banned
I've been with my wife for over 11 years. We've been through a lot together, I love her to death and her and our child together are the most important people in my life, but I told her that if she ever had doubts that she wanted to remain with me, that she shouldn't hesitate to leave. I'd be crushed, but I would never want to be with someone who isn't crazy about me, or someone who is interested in someone else, just going through the motions or see's me as expendable. I personally couldn't live like that and not saying that you don't but I'd like to think that I have too much self respect than to put up with something like that.
Don't get me wrong, this is know what I have to do, and I'm moving on with my life even as I type this. I'm not going to cling on to her in hopes things will change. Maybe they will and she'll decide she still has feelings for me the romantic manner, but this is the path we've chosen, and we're gonna live with the consequences.
In my haste I typed a thread title that didn't match the actual content. I'm sorry.
Devolution
Member
How old are you and the gf and how long have you been together? If this was answered earlier, my bad I missed it.
BadAss2961
Member
Still better than that pre-rendered friendzone.
22-23. It's hella young and I know there's a huge chunk of life left to live, but I was kinda on the wild side first few years of school so I guess I was ready to settle.
Yea it's true. I don't hold it against her, and her struggle must have been terrible and terrifying.
Oh well. Life will get better.
I guess the plus side to this thread is that I have GAFers whom I've never talked to posting in my thread.
Tears For Fears
Banned
Wow, the betrayal. If I were you I would be seething in anger right now if I were you.
The Return of
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Lmao fucking ice cold satch
Devolution
Member
22-23? She probably feels like she still has a lot of ground to cover before settling and only just realized this. Plus if she hasn't really explored her sexuality and feels she's not being completely honest with herself, there's that mountain to climb as well.
With any other girl and in another situation, I probably would be too. However, she's been through a lot of tough times. I want her to be happy, and if this is what's to happen then I guess I'm ultimately happy.
I don't know about where you guys live, but the sun is bright in Chicago
2 on the same week ?
Will only believe if OP has awesome red shoes
Sexuality is a much more complicated thing than putting labes like heterosexuality and homosexiality makes it look.
A person CAN be lesbian and love a man or love masculinity and prefer butch girls ... people minds are not that simple.
It is NOT your fault, there was nothing you did or avoided to do that would have changed this.
Cheerish the memories of the good times you had and move on with your life.
She probably is in a way more complicated state of mind than you, so give her all support you can. It is not everyday you discover that you belong to a minority without equal rights and huge prejudice in most places.
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