StanleyStutters
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lol. Thanks, man. I think I got rules 2-3 down, I mean I think I'm pretty cool so I must be, right?
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lol. Thanks, man. I think I got rules 2-3 down, I mean I think I'm pretty cool so I must be, right?
I posted real advice on the last page, I think. But, I just started OKC a couple of weeks ago too, so take anything I say with a grain of salt.
tl;dr: Basically, everyone is going to by lying to some extent on there. It's the same thing as Facebook: people post only about the cool shit they do, so people look at them and think they're the most amazing people in the world. So, basically just talk yourself up, bend the truth, fuck it, outright lie if you want, as long as you think you can back it up when you meet.
StanleyStutters
Member
Sounds good. I figured I should stretch the truth a little to make myself look better. I'll look back and find some other posts and see what works. Thanks.
megamerican
Member
Don't overthink the profile stuff. Focus on getting good pictures. Send short messages to girls that are funny / relate to their profile. Don't get discouraged.
A Human Becoming
More than a Member
I want to take some new pictures for my profile. I'm thinking one dancing poorly and the other running on a treadmill. Thoughts?
StanleyStutters
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thomasmahler
Member
I actually tried OKCupid over the last week and a half or so and just got my first uber-nutty response.
Chatted to a girl that I'm not really into judging by her profile pictures and her profile in general.
After the 6th message, she casually dropped the fact that I seem like a 'dominant guy' and that she's into things like 'getting peed on'.
What.
In.
The.
Fucking.
World.
I don't even know if I should respond to that.
Other than that, it seems like a cool way to get dates.
Chatted to a girl that I'm not really into judging by her profile pictures and her profile in general.
After the 6th message, she casually dropped the fact that I seem like a 'dominant guy' and that she's into things like 'getting peed on'.
What.
In.
The.
Fucking.
World.
I don't even know if I should respond to that.
Other than that, it seems like a cool way to get dates.
Rollo Tomasi
Member
So I didn't end up hanging with the girl yesterday but we did talk on the phone for a while. What I forgot to mention in my last post was that she works 3 jobs and unfortunately had to work yesterday morning. She also lives in the city and I live in the suburbs probably about 25-30 mins away. The weather was shit and since they flexed the GB game to 4pm, I even had reservations about hanging out. We decided to hang out on New Years Eve instead after work, when she will be at the job she has closer to my job. I think its a positive sign that she called me after I texted her. I'm certainly have no intent to rush into anything anyway. She did apologize for being flakey, so who knows.
In the meantime I'm still messaging other girls on OKC so I'm not putting all my eggs in one basket to so speak.
In the meantime I'm still messaging other girls on OKC so I'm not putting all my eggs in one basket to so speak.
Finally gonna try doing this for real, made a profile and everything on POF. Probably not the best idea since I'm not looking for hookups but it's the most accessible one.
I sent 3 messages to the same girl today. Bad move? Feels like that goes against all the timing tips you hear. One guide I saw even said to wait a day between messages.
She's responded each time so why not! It's all seemed really natural and easy with this one, though her latest message went a bit weird with "I like that you like your food though... It's attractive".
Ok then....!
I sent 3 messages to the same girl today. Bad move? Feels like that goes against all the timing tips you hear. One guide I saw even said to wait a day between messages.
She's responded each time so why not! It's all seemed really natural and easy with this one, though her latest message went a bit weird with "I like that you like your food though... It's attractive".
Ok then....!
StanleyStutters
Member
I just started sending out some messages tonight. I tried the My Best Face thing on OKC, and I've definitely been using the wrong profile pic. I submitted a couple more to try and find my best one.
Just revisited an okcupid profile I made awhile ago and actually filled it in, put pics in etc...and holy shit the search returns bullshit. I'm asian so looking for an Asian girl and it returns about 14 results within 100kms of me one of which is a transsexual and most of whom are ugly.
Make it rain dude. Mad in the head=bad in the bed.
thomasmahler
Member
I didn't respond. Kinda thinking that she was trolling me at that point, at least I hope that's the case. Totally not into peeing all over people.
Here's my profile, btw:
http://www.okcupid.com/profile/what-evertron?cf=profile
Seems like a fun site, I get quite a bit of response, but not really from anyone I'd go out with yet. Got around 8 unsolicited messages so far, most of these girls are either too young or have no idea of what to do with themselves (been through that before, hated it). Kinda getting the feeling that OKC is generally mainly used by students.
Wondering if me working in the games industry is the reason why only younger (19-23) girls seem to respond or message me. Fucking games, man, they take away your life.
I wrote on my dating profile that I understood girls got lazy and lewd messages like hey/hi/show me your tits and girls may feel reluctant to send a well-thought out message. or any message so I didn't mind if girls just say hello. A girl sent me a message saying she wouldn't mind showing me her tits. I initially thought it was a spam bot but we talked and let's just say I saw more than her tits.
I'm having a tough time getting follow-up messages lately. Getting the first one is fairly easy, but some of them don't make much effort to converse. I've actually gotten 3 replies from a girl recently, but they all just answer the question I threw into my message and didn't offer any extra content or questions for me. So it feels awkward to ask her out if she hasn't expressed a lot of interest in the conversation, but surely she won't keep replying too much longer.
If the girl is not making an effort to maintain an interesting conversation, then she's simply not interested in you, and you should move on asap. Not worth talking with people who only reply with one-liners.
johnny_park
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This girl who I've been texting with from okcupid sent me a screenshot of her profile. She had 616 unread messages in her inbox.
I had a similar experience recently, she seemed well keen, she'd text me back like right away everytime, she removed her profile afterwards and was texting me multiples times a day. But the conversation sucked! She literally didn't ask me any questions, I was doing all the leg work and eventually I got bored of her! She was texting me pictures of her out eating etc but the conversation just wasn't there. The thought of a date with her repulsed me!
She was pretty as well, probably prettier than usual for me.
On the flip side a new girl is really keen, but I don't know what to do! Her profile pic has her with sunglasses and her body looked hot. We have a fair bit in common and she's already hinted at spending time together.
But I looked up her pictures on fb and without the sunglasses she just seems kinda..ugly! Face I'm not attracted to but body and personality I kinda am. It's making me feel really shallow. Should I just push ahead and see what happens? Or should I break it out given I don't fancy her so much?
Mystic Theurge
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Unless you really don't like her looks, I think you should push on and see what happens.
What's the worst that could happen?
What's the worst that could happen?
HP_Wuvcraft
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So you're telling us you're hitting on Ms. Marvel?
peteykirch
Member
I shouldn't complain about getting a response from a lady, but when they add nothing to the conversation it's just a complete bore.
I mean I guess it's my fault, I'd just expect someone to add something more to a conversation.
I mean I guess it's my fault, I'd just expect someone to add something more to a conversation.
^Yeah that's the same kind of stuff I've been getting.
Yeah, I'll at least toss the girl my number, not expecting anything. Even if you go out with her and it sucks, having a hot date is still something of an ego boost
Yeah, I'll at least toss the girl my number, not expecting anything. Even if you go out with her and it sucks, having a hot date is still something of an ego boost
stn
Member
I got a story. Two girls messaged me: one that is a stunner but very lame, and the other is just cute but has brains (music, love for animals, volunteer work, etc...). I mostly responded to her because her message was funny, told myself I should target girls with personality.
We had agreed to meet up. Two nights or so before I texted her asking which day worked. We agreed on the day. She then asked me if I live downtown, I said no but nearby. It was very late at night and we still didn't agree on the place, so I figured I'd find a nice coffee shop in the morning. So, I sent a message saying I'd text her the next morning with some options for a place.
I put the phone away and went to watch a bit of my TV shows. I check my phone before sleep and I see this: "I gotta be honest, you give off a sketchy vibe". I literally thought "WTF?" for a moment. I looked through all the texts I exchanged with her--there were only 4 over a span of days--and confirmed that I didn't actually do anything weird.
So yeah, the irony. Its too bad because we actually had a lot in common. And I messaged her because of her personality. And I didn't message another girl because of her lack of personality. I actually find it quite rude; for all the personality she has she does lack basic manners. You don't call a random stranger you've never met sketchy, its quite condescending.
In my reply I just said "Okay, whatever. See you!" because I wasn't about to argue with some person I don't know or care about. Ah well.
Online dating, lol.
We had agreed to meet up. Two nights or so before I texted her asking which day worked. We agreed on the day. She then asked me if I live downtown, I said no but nearby. It was very late at night and we still didn't agree on the place, so I figured I'd find a nice coffee shop in the morning. So, I sent a message saying I'd text her the next morning with some options for a place.
I put the phone away and went to watch a bit of my TV shows. I check my phone before sleep and I see this: "I gotta be honest, you give off a sketchy vibe". I literally thought "WTF?" for a moment. I looked through all the texts I exchanged with her--there were only 4 over a span of days--and confirmed that I didn't actually do anything weird.
So yeah, the irony. Its too bad because we actually had a lot in common. And I messaged her because of her personality. And I didn't message another girl because of her lack of personality. I actually find it quite rude; for all the personality she has she does lack basic manners. You don't call a random stranger you've never met sketchy, its quite condescending.
In my reply I just said "Okay, whatever. See you!" because I wasn't about to argue with some person I don't know or care about. Ah well.
Online dating, lol.
A Human Becoming
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stn can't admit to himself he's sketchy
I think I'll take a picture of me running at the gym today. I heard active screenshot are more attractive. Any other ideas?
I think I'll take a picture of me running at the gym today. I heard active screenshot are more attractive. Any other ideas?
BoboBrazil
Member
Attention whores that put in their subject they are deleting their profile soon are hilarious.
Got talking to a few girls tonight and already managed to bag two numbers, one of them even enforced the fact they 'don't give it out that often' so, um, score? Both seem pretty intelligent people but distance is a bitch on the one and the other, while no means ugly, isn't that much of a looker, mainly thanks to the teeth.
EatinOlives
Member
Yay, college town living.
This girl was thinking about meeting up, but just as finals were about to finish. We agreed to regroup back on the 6th (tomorrow) to see when/where, but honestly she's probably not going to reply to shit, it's been like 2 weeks.
Tough, considering she's the only one who's wanted to meet up so far =(
This girl was thinking about meeting up, but just as finals were about to finish. We agreed to regroup back on the 6th (tomorrow) to see when/where, but honestly she's probably not going to reply to shit, it's been like 2 weeks.
Tough, considering she's the only one who's wanted to meet up so far =(
God Dayumm
Banned
OMG. I just discovered that this cute girl from OKC who seems very intelligent is also a member from one of my Meetup groups. Mind you, I only went once bowling with the meetup and to their Halloween party.
I'm definitely attending one of these days when she goes because she didn't reply to my message I sent like 3 weeks ago, so I gotta impress her in person lol. I will have to delete my okcupid profile when I feel ready and hope she doesn't make the connection and think (accurately) that I'm a creepo. Wish me luck! She is a woman of my dreams <333
I'm definitely attending one of these days when she goes because she didn't reply to my message I sent like 3 weeks ago, so I gotta impress her in person lol. I will have to delete my okcupid profile when I feel ready and hope she doesn't make the connection and think (accurately) that I'm a creepo. Wish me luck! She is a woman of my dreams <333
johnny_park
Member
That was the first thing I thought of when I posted that.
kame-sennin
Member
Reposting from the OT:
http://m.neogaf.com/showthread.php?t=746005
This is the kind of bullshit good looking women get even when their profiles are shit. Imagine what an attractive and intelligent woman's inbox looks like. Worth keeping in mind when you write your next message.
http://m.neogaf.com/showthread.php?t=746005
This is the kind of bullshit good looking women get even when their profiles are shit. Imagine what an attractive and intelligent woman's inbox looks like. Worth keeping in mind when you write your next message.
So I finally met up with one of the girls from OKC...and now I will be more wary in the future. There were definite myspace angle vibes from the get go, and every time we had planned on hanging out I backed out. Finally last night she texted me saying she was in town near me, and I was horny/bored enough to go along with it. Long story short: we ended up watching some shitty romcom, and I just sat there counting down the minutes until I could tell her I needed to sleep.
I guess the moral of the story is this: if a girl hasn't posted a clear full body picture, there's a fucking reason for that.
my next message will just be dickpic.jpg
I guess the moral of the story is this: if a girl hasn't posted a clear full body picture, there's a fucking reason for that.
my next message will just be dickpic.jpg
HP_Wuvcraft
Banned
This was your first mistake.
StanleyStutters
Member
Any advice on how many days of messaging back and forth before you ask to meet?
Liu Kang Baking A Pie
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depths20XX
Member
Haha, what?
I gotta say okc has been interesting for me so far. I've been able to get replies from everyone I've messaged thus far and even met some cool people and am currently seeing a girl from the site.
I like to go into the first meet up just thinking if anything I'll meet a new friend. Typically from their reaction after the first meeting you can tell if you should take things further.
kame-sennin
Member
I try to get that going as soon as possible, although the tempo will vary based on the other person. Once we've briefly discussed hobbies and work, I drop my number and ask to get a drink. This is usually done in 3 to 6 messages.
thomasmahler
Member
depths20XX
Member
It could be a multitude of things. They are talking to a bunch of other people, lost interest, have dates with others, are busy.
Honestly if they don't reply after you answer their question I wouldn't worry much and just move on to the next.
EatinOlives
Member
What do I do to "casually" change the subject? We're talking about school and education/whatever right now and I can see this going nowhere fast, but at the same time I don't wanna go "yeah that's great LOOK YOU HAVE DOGS".
You ask her out on a date.
because i'd like to know that she's real and that she is the person in her pics.
StanleyStutters
Member
I was talking with a girl today and things were going really well. I asked if she wanted to meet up and she said it was a little too soon. After that we continued to message back and forth for awhile, so I think she's interested in meeting at some point, but I'm not sure and don't know how/when to bring it up again.
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