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GAF, I'm afraid something may be something may be wrong with my penis penis

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Protein

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I need your help GAF. I've gone flaccid twice in the past two weeks the times I've had sex with my recent significant other. Insert congratsonthesex.jpg? Wrong. It's taken a blow to my ego especially when you have to see the face of disappointment in your significant other's face. Twice.

It was like a healthy ground hog suddenly killing over and dying halfway into his hole. The awkward moment where you hopefully try to rub life into your piece like a dying puppy in hopes of reviving it. To the awkward "So.. how was your day?" conversation you have when you lay back down next to her while she's twiddling with her hair.

I'm terrified at the notion that I may have some type of erectile dysfunction at the young age of 24. Seeing a specialist is not an option being that I fall under the 'cup noode-eating, poor college student' category. My more optimistic side sees that it may just be 'porn-induced sexual dysfunction' [see GAF thread] due to the fact that I masturbate regularly to porn. It's a rare occurrence. This has happened before in the past, but not as often as it is happening now.

I am easily able to get erections at the most random times. I have an erection as I type this at work, in fact. I also seem to be able to get erections easier while I'm clothed or especially when I'm spooning with a girl. It's insanely hard for me to get an erection when I'm naked, unless I already had one beforehand or if I look at porn. If I go flaccid before sex, the only thing that can revive me is some sort of stimulation being lotion + hand or oral sex.


I'm a drinker, I don't smoke cigarettes, and I rarely use pot. No other drugs. Has anyone ever experience flaccid-based failure? And how did you fix it? Any input is much appreciated.




Update: my penis is alive and well. I stopped jerking since I last made this thread and it seemed to increase my performance.

New problem: my girlfriend is getting too wet during sex that I'm losing sensation, and she's put on some weight and I'm finding it hard to get aroused by her. Oh boy.

And I don't recall having "penis penis" in the title.
 

Protein

Banned
Work-related stress is not really an issue for me. I do stress during work, but I never bring it home. I'm much more active on the weekends, the actual times I spend with my significant other.
 

grumble

Member
To fix, generally:

Quit the heavy drinking, it damages your dick and testicles.

Sleep enough. If you are absolutely trashed, your dick might not work. Same thing in regards to stress.

Eat better. If you are malnourished eating nothing but ramen, then eat better. At least take a men's multi, and try to get some animal meat in you. Liver is cheap if you're poor.

If you're obese, lose the weight. Get fit. This will help immensely.

If you do these things and are treating your body with respect and it's still crapping out on you regularly, go to the doctor and get checked. You might have low testosterone or something.

You also may not be that attracted to your partner.
 

Alebrije

Member
You came to the right place , GAF experts will give you better advices than any doctor....


You have a big problem and the only solution is amputation ASAP , sorry there is not other chioce.
 

Chris R

Member
If you are actually a college student taking at least some classes go to the medical clinic on campus, it might be free and if it isn't it should be cheaper than going to a hospital at least.
 

Kinitari

Black Canada Mafia
Happened to me a few times a few years back. I was 24 as well and just got back on the market after being with the same woman for a long time.

I'm pretty sure it was nerves the first time, it being the first time I got intimidate with another girl ever. After that, it was still nerves, but now it was me always worrying about my dick.

Soon as you let it get to you, you're in trouble.

My recommendation? Explain it to your lady, tell her you've been stressed and that it would help if you could have no expectations just fooling around.

Fool around, and if you get hard - don't insert it anywhere. Ignore the erection, have a bit more fun and taper off. Do that again one or two more days, then just "go for it".

it's all about removing expectations.
 

Seanspeed

Banned
I am easily able to get erections at the most random times. I have an erection as I type this at work, in fact. I also seem to be able to get erections easier while I'm clothed or especially when I'm spooning with a girl. It's insanely hard for me to get an erection when I'm naked, unless I already had one beforehand or if I look at porn. If I go flaccid before sex, the only thing that can revive me is some sort of stimulation being lotion + hand or oral sex.
Sounds like stage fright, honestly.

Happened to me a few times a few years back. I was 24 as well and just got back on the market after being with the same woman for a long time.

I'm pretty sure it was nerves the first time, it being the first time I got intimidate with another girl ever.
Had the exact same thing happen. First girl I was with after breaking up with my ex(of 6 years), I couldn't keep it up for very long the first two times we tried to have sex.

Doesn't like anything alcohol-related or ED or anything OP. Just a bit of nerves like Kinitari pointed out.
 
Sounds exactly like me, except I don't do any drugs at all. Every time with my ex was just disappointing to me (and her a little, too). I will be watching this thread...
 
OP.

It's likely anxiety over your 'dysfunction.' You won't believe me right now. But if you go to the doctor, they'll probably tell you it's at least partially mental. You'd be surprised how much anxiety can completely take over your body.

Do not lose hope. Try not to panic. Go to a doctor if you're really worried.

You'll be okay.
 

Ushae

Banned
- Exercise a lot, stimulate your testosterone
- Improve your diet, cut all the shit out. You can still have an enjoyable diet.
- Stop wanking/masturbating
- Stop checking out porn, full stop
- Seeing a specialist should be free if in the UK, if not umm dunno :(

Don't get disheartened bro, it happens at least once in a bluemoon for most. If it's frequent then get it looked at pronto! Where there's a will there's a way.
 

TheGrue

Member
Just came in here to brag that this has never happened to me and I am 40 years old. My little soldier can always stand at attention. I do fear the day that it happens, though. Probably sooner that I think.
 

Protein

Banned
Update: my penis is alive and well. I stopped jerking since I last made this thread and it seemed to increase my performance.

New problem: my girlfriend is getting too wet during sex that I'm losing sensation, and she's put on some weight and I'm finding it hard to get aroused by her. Oh boy.
 

EviLore

Expansive Ellipses
Staff Member
Update: my penis is alive and well. I stopped jerking since I last made this thread and it seemed to increase my performance.

New problem: my girlfriend is getting too wet during sex that I'm losing sensation, and she's put on some weight and I'm finding it hard to get aroused by her. Oh boy.

"Hey babe, I'm starting a new diet and workout plan, can you help me stay motivated by doing it with me?"
 

android

Theoretical Magician
penis penis..eh eh eh
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IISANDERII

Member
Do you use a condom? You may be weirded out by the excess wetness so trying a condom for a while may help you relieve anxiety and then you can eventually go free.
 

grumble

Member
"Hey babe, I'm starting a new diet and workout plan, can you help me stay motivated by doing it with me?"

That works sometimes, but definitely not all the time!

Motivation to improve yourself comes from within, external motivation is transient
 
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