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[suzu]

5'2" here. I wish I was at least 5'5". I like tall lean guys, haha.

 

[Munch]

I barfed. Exactly the reason why I stopped watching!

What next? Blair and Dan?

A lot of people are rooting for that! :lol

 

[Vox-Pop]

Gossip Girl was fun to watch for like 2 seasons then when the 3rd season hit, I suddenly got extremely tired of the high-school fickle "romance". I despise shows where the guys and girls can't stick to one person.

Plus, Serena was sooooo annoying. I hated her :<

Vampire Diaries is my go-to chick show now.

The pilot was the only good thing about GG.

 

[Kyoufu]

A lot of people are rooting for that! :lol

Not gonna lie, I wanted it to happen the entire time I was watching because

Blair >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>> Serena

and Dan is a really nice guy. *sigh* these shows rarely go how I want them to

I dunno anything about Gossip Girl, but I sure do like your avatar, Kyoufu.

thanks!

 

[wRATH2x]

I dislike how whenever someone stands up for women, they start making fun of them, like RiskyChris. He's become a laughing stock for most douchebags here on GAF. It's sad really, but hey what can you do? Assholes would always be assholes, no matter what.

RiskyChris might have been defending you but its more in a "Girls are fragile, poor souls who can't speak for themselves. They never choose their lives and are forced into things"

If I was a woman I would have been pissed off.

 

[Ashhong]

What can possibly go wrong?

"Oh my god there's blood everywhere!"

lol, well i would probably wait till the end. anyway, didnt mean to bring girl-age into here, the title confused me

on a side note though, if a girl breaks up a 3 year relationship, how long is her mourning period?

The pilot was the only good thing about GG.

i watch pretty much every chick flick show, so maybe i can have a place in here! gossip girl season finale was pretty damn good, especially compared to the episodes before it. it has redeemed itself i think.

 

[Inanna]

RiskyChris might have been defending you but its more in a "Girls are fragile, poor souls who can't speak for themselves. They never choose their lives and are forced into things"

If I was a woman I would have been pissed off.

I don't know about that. Granted, I haven't read each and every topic he's posted in but that's really not the impression I get from some of his posts that I've read..

 

[Cyan]

Get Rid Of Slimy gaferS?

 

[fanboi]

Girls... how in hell do you always manage to vaginalize your men?

I have no free will anymore :<

 

[y2dvd]

I met a girl who's Asian and 5'10 which is rare. Good thing I'm 5'11. I noticed I tend to size up my height by any girl I walk by who looks around the same height. I gotta be taller! :lol

 

[JessicaPadkin]

I'm... 5'3" (I think; it's 162cm in sensible measurements anyway), and I definitely prefer short men! I've had a couple of boyfriends who were tall so it doesn't bother me that much, but I just don't find it particularly appealing. I like 'em cute! The guy I'm (sort of) seeing at the moment is more or less my height, maybe just slightly taller.

I don't know about that. Granted, I haven't read each and every topic he's posted in but that's really not the impression I get from some of his posts that I've read..

I agree with you; I didn't see him say anything particularly unreasonable either. I find the whole zomg White Knight thing really irritating, because a lot of the time when women DO complain about these things themselves they're dismissed as self-serving, probably man-hating, feminazis or something. What can you do?

 

[Inanna]

I agree with you; I didn't see him say anything particularly unreasonable either. I find the whole zomg White Knight thing really irritating, because a lot of the time when women DO complain about these things themselves they're dismissed as self-serving, probably man-hating, feminazis or something. What can you do?

Tell me about it! I still go into topics about women and post my opinion, even though I know it is going to fall on deaf ears. Which reminds me, I was once called a white Knight, too. :lol Guess they didn't know I'm a female!

 

[Sibylus]

Get Rid Of Slimy gaferS?

It always brings a smile to my face to see a Calvin and Hobbes reference on these here forums. Bravo, sir.

 

[Thunder Monkey]

Tell me about it! I still go into topics about women and post my opinion, even though I know it is going to fall on deaf ears. Which reminds me, I was once called a white Knight, too. :lol Guess they didn't know I'm a female!

They just hating to be hating.

I've never gotten it myself.

But I do tend to make completely inappropriate jokes about fondling penis. Strange.

I'm not even Catholic.

 

[hey_monkey]

It always brings a smile to my face to see a Calvin and Hobbes reference on these here forums. Bravo, sir.

Which is why all of Cyan's posts are so welcome!

Well, that and Cyan's like, cool and all. But mostly, it's the adorable face of Hobbes.

 

[Confused101]

on a side note though, if a girl breaks up a 3 year relationship, how long is her mourning period?

If you ask my ex, probably only a couple hours. She broke off a 7 year relationship with me and only experienced a single evening of mourning. I, however, was distraught for weeks.

 

[JumpJeff84]

in my experience, women get over us QUICK.

Or maybe they just get over me quick....

 

[hey_monkey]

Sometimes we like to have something else lined up before we make a step like that, guys. The girls will probably kill me for spilling our secrets, but some girls don't like to be alone, especially coming out of a big relationship, and will ensure there is someone waiting in the wings. Then we do the mourning beforehand, in secret, so that when the relationship is over, we seem very cavalier.

Not all girls, of course. Probably not even most. But I've done this, sad to say, and have seen many other a female do it. Some guys, too, so it may just be the idea of having a safety net coming out of something.

 

[The Librarian]

If you ask my ex, probably only a couple hours. She broke off a 7 year relationship with me and only experienced a single evening of mourning. I, however, was distraught for weeks.

How does one get out of a seven year relationship? If you're together for that long, what the hell happened?

 

[JumpJeff84]

Sometimes we like to have something else lined up before we make a step like that, guys. The girls will probably kill me for spilling our secrets, but some girls don't like to be alone, especially coming out of a big relationship, and will ensure there is someone waiting in the wings. Then we do the mourning beforehand, in secret, so that when the relationship is over, we seem very cavalier.

Not all girls, of course. Probably not even most. But I've done this, sad to say, and have seen many other a female do it. Some guys, too, so it may just be the idea of having a safety net coming out of something.

yeah, I've done this too. Got out of a 7 year relationship last year, and by the time the breakup happened I had already done my mourning. I grieved for about 24 hours and then moved on.

 

[JumpJeff84]

How does one get out of a seven year relationship? If you're together for that long, what the hell happened?

In my case, she kinda had a meltdown (depression yay!) and that's what caused the breakup.

 

[The Librarian]

In my case, she kinda had a meltdown (depression yay!) and that's what caused the breakup.

A meltdown in what way? Was it the way she acted to something bad?

 

[Confused101]

How does one get out of a seven year relationship? If you're together for that long, what the hell happened?

Here's the short version. Her brother got stabbed multiple times defending a friend from a jealous ex-boyfriend at his college. Once the brother got home, he told my ex that he felt I wasn't right for her and felt he needed to share his opinions because of his near death experience. Mind you, he and I always got along great. So the following day she came over and gave me a list of everything she didn't like about me and said she was taking a break. A fucking list. It was front AND back of a piece of printer paper. The break turned into a break-up because there was no way in hell I was going to turn some miracle and change all that stuff.

So what was on the list? Well, I'll say this. Over the 7 years, half of those issues she had with me were NEVER brought up. The other half were discussed and I thought I had been improving. I guess not. Blood is obviously thicker than water.

So as if I wasn't insecure enough about myself, now she's completely destroyed my self image and I'm scared to get into another relationship because I believe my flaws will ruin that as well.

That's how a 7 year relationship goes to shit.

 

[Londa]

I just found this thread but its been going on for a little while. Better late than never. Hello fellow females.

 

[Tinabina]

Damn she actually handed you a list, that's fucked up. Youre prolly better off now anyways.

 

[JumpJeff84]

A meltdown in what way? Was it the way she acted to something bad?

She suffered from depression, anxiety etc. Not really anything to do with me, but she had to try and get some help. Went to therapy and all that. A shame, really. Don't feel too bad for me though- she did try and get me back 2 months later, so my ego was able to remain intact.

EDIT: Confused 101's story is way more interesting than mine.

 

[The Technomancer]

Sometimes we like to have something else lined up before we make a step like that, guys. The girls will probably kill me for spilling our secrets, but some girls don't like to be alone, especially coming out of a big relationship, and will ensure there is someone waiting in the wings. Then we do the mourning beforehand, in secret, so that when the relationship is over, we seem very cavalier.

Not all girls, of course. Probably not even most. But I've done this, sad to say, and have seen many other a female do it. Some guys, too, so it may just be the idea of having a safety net coming out of something.

Yeah, I know a girl like this. I don't think she's been truly single over the course of the last 5 years. Every time she breaks up, she ends up with someone else less than two weeks later.

So, opinion time: is this healthy behavior? Unhealthy?
I personally think its bad, because when she doesn't have someone lined up immediately, she falls into depression, because she can't stand to be alone.

This should be an interesting thread, even for guys like me, because it might be a chance to discuss the sexes and cultural behaviors in a mature, intelligent way. If, of course, the resident girls don't mind.

 

[Munch]

I just found this thread but its been going on for a little while. Better late than never. Hello fellow females.

'Ello Londa!


As for the breakup things, well, Confused's makes sense. Whoomp though, dude. She had mental issues shouldn't you have like supported her? She had legit reasons.

Anyways, I don't normally have someone waiting in the wings for me. Most guys do not find me attractive, so it's rare to even find someone to begin with. Over the course of my life, I've had....3 guys like me. And I mean actually like me. I'm currently in a relationship (six years!) with the second guy to like me and I'm friends with the 3rd.

Maybe its my Battlestar Galactica t-shirts scaring the guys away? I don't know, hell its hard for me to make friends. People on Temple's campus are very clique-y.

 

[Confused101]

Damn she actually handed you a list, that's fucked up. Youre prolly better off now anyways.

I've heard this a lot and I'm just now starting to believe it... a year later. From what I've heard, she's gone back to her self-destructive ways even more so than before. Smoking and drinking excessively (to the point of blackouts) and god knows what else. Her parents had even told me that I really helped her out with her bad habits. So much for that.

So I am probably better off, but I feel like a job applicant that got fired from his last position. I feel like other women are wondering what I did to have my SO of 7 years break it off and it's like they look at me as damaged or a liability. Kind of like an employer wondering why this applicant was terminated from his last job. Is this the case? Is that the first thought that pops into your mind when you find out about the liquidation of a past relationship?

 

[JumpJeff84]

'Ello Londa!


As for the breakup things, well, Confused's makes sense. Whoomp though, dude. She had mental issues shouldn't you have like supported her? She had legit reasons.

Anyways, I don't normally have someone waiting in the wings for me. Most guys do not find me attractive, so it's rare to even find someone to begin with. Over the course of my life, I've had....3 guys like me. And I mean actually like me. I'm currently in a relationship (six years!) with the second guy to like me and I'm friends with the 3rd.

Maybe its my Battlestar Galactica t-shirts scaring the guys away? I don't know, hell its hard for me to make friends. People on Temple's campus are very clique-y.

I did support her. It was her choice to end the relationship. I was nothing but 100 % supportive the whole way through. She would tell you the same thing.

And I'm sure you've had guys that have liked you but kept it a secret. Not all men are as confident as I am.

 

[Confused101]

So, opinion time: is this healthy behavior? Unhealthy?

I say unhealthy. It has to be if you're so dependent on someone else for your happiness. I can't see that as ever ending well and I believe that reliance on another person could cause undue friction.

P.S. Your avatar makes me laugh every single time I see it. :lol

 

[JumpJeff84]

I've heard this a lot and I'm just now starting to believe it... a year later. From what I've heard, she's gone back to her self-destructive ways even more so than before. Smoking and drinking excessively (to the point of blackouts) and god knows what else. Her parents had even told me that I really helped her out with her bad habits. So much for that.

So I am probably better off, but I feel like a job applicant that got fired from his last position. I feel like other women are wondering what I did to have my SO of 7 years break it off and it's like they look at me as damaged or a liability. Kind of like an employer wondering why this applicant was terminated from his last job. Is this the case? Is that the first thought that pops into your mind when you find out about the liquidation of a past relationship?

I think the fact that you were in a relationship for 7 years shows other women that you are capable of maintaining a commitment. I think you're looking at it the wrong way.
Dude, almost every relationship dissolves at some point. You can't feel bad about it, unless of course you did something really shitty. And sounds like you didn't. I find it hard to believe that a girl interested in you would hesitate because your last relationship 'only' lasted 7 years.

 

[Confused101]

I think the fact that you were in a relationship for 7 years shows other women that you are capable of maintaining a commitment. I think you're looking at it the wrong way.
Dude, almost every relationship dissolves at some point. You can't feel bad about it, unless of course you did something really shitty. And sounds like you didn't. I find it hard to believe that a girl interested in you would hesitate because your last relationship 'only' lasted 7 years.

That's a good point. I guess I never saw it like that. And you're right, I didn't do anything shitty. I don't really have anything to feel bad about except the fact that she didn't want to continue the relationship with me.

Thanks for that. It kind of put things in a different perspective for me.

 

[JumpJeff84]

That's a good point. I guess I never saw it like that. And you're right, I didn't do anything shitty. I don't really have anything to feel bad about except the fact that she didn't want to continue the relationship with me.

Thanks for that. It kind of put things in a different perspective for me.

When talking about your ex with other girls, don't slag her. Express regret at the situation, and compassion for what she's going through. Have a positive attitude, show some playful self-deprecation, but be confident. You'll be irresistable.

 

[Confused101]

When talking about your ex with other girls, don't slag her.

This is something I never do. She acted out of her best interests even though they ruined my world for a while there. How can you talk bad about someone who does what they feel is right for them? There was no animosity between the two of us. There still isn't. Though I'm sure it helps that I live in a different state now.

And no, I didn't move because of her. In fact, her leaving opened up an opportunity for me to change some things in my life that I wasn't satisfied with. But I was happy dealing with them if it meant still being with her. Interesting trade-off there.

 

[JumpJeff84]

yeah, you'll be fine.

 

[Confused101]

*bro-fist*

 

[JumpJeff84]

You can't bro-fist in the girl thread...just wouldn't be right. We'll meet up in a girl-age thread and fist each other there, deal?

 

[Confused101]

:lol Deal.

 

[Munch]

You can't bro-fist in the girl thread...just wouldn't be right. We'll meet up in a girl-age thread and fist each other there, deal?

I..no, wait. I WANT TO SEE THIS. SOMEONE, QUE THE PORNO MUSIC!:lol

 

[JumpJeff84]

I..no, wait. I WANT TO SEE THIS. SOMEONE, QUE THE PORNO MUSIC!:lol

Hey, if we're not allowed to ask y'all for pics, no way can you watch us fist each other. Fair's fair, ladies.

 

[Inanna]

They just hating to be hating.

I've never gotten it myself.

But I do tend to make completely inappropriate jokes about fondling penis. Strange.

I'm not even Catholic.

Who doesn't like to fondle a penis? It just looks so... fondle-able. :lol

I just found this thread but its been going on for a little while. Better late than never. Hello fellow females.

Hey, girlie!

So, opinion time: is this healthy behavior? Unhealthy?

It really depends on the last relationship; was it long-term? Were you invested in your ex? Did you love them? I was with my ex for almost 3.5 years, when we broke up I took some time off to clear my head. I didn't love him but I had gotten so used to having him around that I felt bad for breaking things off. I didn't feel comfortable dating right after because I didn't think I was ready mentally and emotionally. I took almost two months, and I probably would have taken much longer if I was really heartbroken.

Some people think that getting involved right after a messy break-up is a good way to get over your ex. That attitude is very unhealthy, imo. You need time to heel so that you don't drag the emotional baggage along into a potential new relationship. How many girl-age topics you've read where guys have problem with girls who had just split up and they spent the entire dates talking about the issues of their past relationships? You need to clear your head so that you can focus all your energy into that new relationship.

But then again, I've never been into casual dating scene. I've only been with two guys. Only broke-up once, but it was still hard. I felt guilty and that's probably why I took that long. Been together with my guy for almost over two years now.

 

[The Technomancer]

It really depends on the last relationship; was it long-term? Were you invested in your ex? Did you love them? I was with my ex for almost 3.5 years, when we broke up I took some time off to clear my head. I didn't love him but I had gotten so used to having him around that I felt bad for breaking things off. I didn't feel comfortable dating right after because I didn't think I was ready mentally and emotionally. I took almost two months, and I probably would have taken much longer if I was really heartbroken.

Some people think that getting involved right after a messy break-up is a good way to get over your ex. That attitude is very unhealthy, imo. You need time to heel so that you don't drag the emotional baggage along into a potential new relationship. How many girl-age topics you've read where guys have problem with girls who had just split up and they spent the entire dates talking about the issues of their past relationships? You need to clear your head so that you can focus all your energy into that new relationship.

But then again, I've never been into casual dating scene. I've only been with two guys. Only broke-up once, but it was still hard. I felt guilty and that's probably why I took that long. Been together with my guy for almost over two years now.

Yeah, she's been in three long term relationships, spanning anywhere from 9 to 14 months, and every breakup has been painful. (The 9 month one may end up longer, as they're considering getting back together, even after she cheated. ugh)
Okay, so I'm not the only one who thinks its bad that she never takes a break or learns how to deal with being single. Cool.

 

[Confused101]

Nope, not the only one.

A good friend of mine once said that you must learn to love yourself before you can love another. It's good to have some single time.

 

[Dan Yo]

I don't know about that. Granted, I haven't read each and every topic he's posted in but that's really not the impression I get from some of his posts that I've read..

He's an absolute nut job. I don't care if you're male or female, it should be very apparent. You'd have to be at least a little bit crazy yourself to think he's reasonable.

 

[Inanna]

Yeah, she's been in three long term relationships, spanning anywhere from 9 to 14 months, and every breakup has been painful. (The 9 month one may end up longer, as they're considering getting back together, even after she cheated. ugh)
Okay, so I'm not the only one who thinks its bad that she never takes a break or learns how to deal with being single. Cool.

She cheated on him? Why is he taking her back? I thinks it's her bf who needs to learn to love himself first!

He's an absolute nut job. I don't care if you're male or female, it should be very apparent. You'd have to be at least a little bit crazy yourself to think he's reasonable.

Yeah.. I have an opinion about you too, but let's not get into that..

 

[JumpJeff84]

She cheated on him? Why is he taking her back? I thinks it's her bf who needs to learn to love himself first!


Yeah.. I have an opinion about you too, but let's not get into that..

Opinions are like assholes...I want to taste everyone's.

EVERYONE.

 

[The Technomancer]

She cheated on him? Why is he taking her back? I thinks it's her bf who needs to learn to love himself first!


Yeah.. I have an opinion about you too, but let's not get into that..

Because she's at college, and in a moment of passion she succumbed, but she's sorry, and hates herself, and he was angry, but understands, and...and...
You know what? They're both messed up as fuck. I actually could go on a rant about how unstable and emotionally volatile she is, but I won't subject you guys to that.

 

[Jin34]

I dislike how whenever someone stands up for women, they start making fun of them, like RiskyChris. He's become a laughing stock for most douchebags here on GAF. It's sad really, but hey what can you do? Assholes would always be assholes, no matter what.

Yeah the White Knight thing is overdone here and used anytime a gaffer defends a girl, however there are some guys that are truly what the meme pokes fun at. The first time I saw it being used was in an anal sex thread where there were these guys saying they would never do that to a girl because "would you like it if they did to you?":lol Thats were the "delicate flower" comments come from, from stupid assertions like those.

First of all in a relationship there is a give and take and you will do somethings for the other person you might not like and vice versa. Second, and most importantly, what the hell makes you think that only the one doing the penetrating gets any pleasure out of it? There are plenty of girls that love it.

 

[Inanna]

Because she's at college, and in a moment of passion she succumbed, but she's sorry, and hates herself, and he was angry, but understands, and...and...
You know what? They're both messed up as fuck. I actually could go on a rant about how unstable and emotionally volatile she is, but I won't subject you guys to that.

Personally, I'd never take a cheater back, no matter what.

Yeah the White Knight thing is overdone here and used anytime a gaffer defends a girl, however there are some guys that are truly what the meme pokes fun at. The first time I saw it being used was in an anal sex thread where there were these guys saying they would never do that to a girl because "would you like it if they did to you?":lol Thats were the "delicate flower" comments come from, from stupid assertions like those.

First of all in a relationship there is a give and take and you will do somethings for the other person you might not like and vice versa. Second, and most importantly, what the hell makes you think that only the one doing the penetrating gets any pleasure out of it? There are plenty of girls that love it.

Actually, guys would enjoy being on the receiving end much more than girls because they have the prostate gland in there.
And trust me, some girls really don't like it as much as regular sex. It's uncomfortable no matter how much lube you use, feels like you're poo'ing. Some women get off on it because it's dirty and taboo. But you can never truly "get off" on just anal alone, you have to have other type of "stimulation" during the act.

Also, I wouldn't do something I didn't like just because my SO loved it. I'm sure he wouldn't want me to do something that I didn't enjoy.