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Like I said a few months ago.. This happened with a kinect/dance game at a friends holiday party.. they used their bedroom 360 more than their living room one. They threw their early xmas dance game on for the party and .... wait.. and download.. and froze.. and restart.. and download.. and restart.. and ............... a lot more of that.. it finally worked after an hour.
Like any device, iphone, android, psn/ps3, 360/wm7/8, etc.. you don't turn it on you will have to deal with updates.. just a part of our lives now.
that seems to hold true with the OP's dilema of comparison.
PSN = Buy/download/install (god does ps3 install suck ass)
360 = only update was mentioned. So not a buying a full game comparison?
All these issues I think is a great thing about the PS4 announcement.. These are some of the things they addressed going forward. Hopefully for future ps3 owners sony and ms will make things easier.
And I too do no deal too much with updates as PS+ handles this for me, I haven't launched a lot of the games i had installed but my PS3 updates every morning between 4:00 am to 6:00 am like clockwork.
I get a smooth experience.
I also have never had a speed issue really, psn is still worse than xbl but not the way people make it out to be.. I get great upload and download speeds..