SquiddyCracker
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It hasn't struck you that she wasn't "crazy"?
Maybe you really were being too insistent and completely missing what she wanted (you not bothering her)?
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It hasn't struck you that she wasn't "crazy"?
Maybe you really were being too insistent and completely missing what she wanted (you not bothering her)?
SirIgbyCeaser
Banned
So what, I loved her. It didn't matter to me that she was crazy.
What mattered to me, was staying. Even if her mother hated me.
If staying was what mattered... why did you insist in contacting here again and again?
EDIT: Where are you now in europe?
SquiddyCracker
Banned
Then you made your bed.
I hope this 4-month tryst of yours was worth throwing away your future.
And I was hinting at you being the crazy one, not her.
This is all awfully reminiscent of Denko and (´・ω・`)
Well when you associate with crazy people, crazy things are going to happen.
Sounds like you learned that the hard way though :/
Take the L and keep pushing. You're 23. You've got your whole life ahead of you.
This is what will make or break your story. What do you mean by you didn't? Did you continue calling and sending her emails even though she explicitly said not to contact you? And what was the gist of what you said? And how did she phrase the statement of you leaving her alone?
HappyBivouac
Member
Bad poetry
OH NOETRY
OH NOETRY
Agent Cooper
Member
I'm really confused here.
She called the police because you were contacting her when she told you not to or... no?
Maybe I'm just tired.
She called the police because you were contacting her when she told you not to or... no?
Maybe I'm just tired.
Necromanti
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Surely a restraining order would have sufficed if she wanted you to stay away from her.
HappyBivouac
Member
It's his beat poetry style, man.
SirIgbyCeaser
Banned
In person, she asked me to leave her alone. Instead I stuck around and incinerated a verbal fight with her. Where we say mean things to one another.
We were both crazy. But since when does being crazy mean you're a bad person. And the police can get involved?
No, being 4 months with her was not worth it. I want my life back so badly. And I absolutely hate her for what she did. But I met injustice and bullshit. And that shit will make you want to kill someone or yourself.
That's the system. That's what beat the shit out of me. And robbed my life.
Castor Krieg
Banned
SirIgbyCeaser
Banned
Yes. And her parents hated me for the icing on the top.
I got deported for that. Due to a bad circumstance of events.
Necromanti
Member
He said he's in Vienna, Austria.
Early ancestor of hippies that listened to jazz, spoke poetry, and dressed in black wearing shades and beanies.
Oh thanks... must have missed this.
Agent Cooper
Member
Oh. Well that sucks. :/ Sorry, bro.
SirIgbyCeaser
Banned
beat poetry: may be confessional; often a "howl of protest" against conformity and conservatism
In south america, or europe. They're not going to take a girl seriously for accusing a man of threatening her safety, when he never hit her or threatened her in writing or verbally.
Also if he has no weapons on him, no drugs. Just school books, pens, papers and a harddrive.
JehutyRunner
Banned
Necromanti
Member
I don't know about South America, but that would depend on what country in Europe you're talking about. Unfortunately, though, many countries have developed a culture where it is acceptable to harass women. Besides, you don't need a weapon to intimidate someone.
SirIgbyCeaser
Banned
First one I wanted to merry and never lose. But not the first ever. I had a longer relationship before her.
Actually that was the only person who came to court to help me. My ex girlfriend from high school. She said in testimony that i'm a gentleman. But she also couldn't bail me out. Not a canadian citizen.
I'll ask one more time; what caused your initial breakup? Surely you can stop dodging and fill in the holes.
SquiddyCracker
Banned
Okay, the crucial question:
How many texts/e-mails did you send her and how many times did you try to call her after she told you not to?
So when she told you to leave her alone and you didn't, it was during a face to face conversation in which you got in an argument with her about it afterwards? And that's it? Then the day after the police came to your door?
SirIgbyCeaser
Banned
Even after being put in jail for it. I believe I had the right to harass her without interrupting her life. It was civil. It was harassing I admit that much. But I was not going to give up.
So for that.. for actually being the guy to try to keep standing through a wave of crazy from the woman he loved.
I get thrown in jail. By people who had no fucking business to judge my relationship.
Necromanti
Member
Fair enough, but most propagators of abuse either use psychological means or more common objects. (Not saying that the OP has done this.
)Did she try to get a restraining order against you? Because I can understand deportation if you violated a restraining order, or escalated it further...
SirIgbyCeaser
Banned
It wasn't many phone calls. She didn't answer twice and I already gave up. Lets say 15 emails since she stop writing me back? One month before I got arrested for it.
Those are just numbers. The problem was in my mind. Was the things we said to one another when we would meet up. When we would talk, the stuff I have no record off. And you can't bring to court.
She's stalked me too. Around compas when I needed a break from her crazyness before. Like it was complicated. And only her and I should have had to deal with each other.
SquiddyCracker
Banned
There you have it, you harassed her and thought you were entitled to that (and you're calling her crazy).
No wonder her mother hated you, and no wonder she hates you.
I'm sorry bro, but I think you messed up.
Agent Cooper
Member
Okay, I'm starting to feel less sorry for you every post....
Doesn't that kind of prove that she had to take extreme measures to get away from you? I really wish your ex posted here so we could get both sides of this story.
But it wasnt a relationship anymore at the point you were doing this.
And anyway, as was proven by your deportation, you were wrong to belive you have the right to harrass her. Harrassment is a serious crime that ruins lives and causes intense emotional damage. There as no such thing as 'civil' harrassment that doesn't interrupt soemeone's life.
SirIgbyCeaser
Banned
No pleading guilty and to sentence to leave the country. Lead to the deportation.
No chance for a restraining order. Which I would have kept too. Her story which was bullshit did that to me.
If I knew at the moment about peace bonds. and ect. I would have been ok. But I didn't know. I had no clue how to defend myself.
And I had a lawyer who won me a ticket home. but didn't want to fight, a trial to see if I could keep my life.
Oh yes, they are going to take her seriously. Stalking is already a criminal offense before violence or threats are involved. You sound like you were stalking her and she became scared of you and she did what she had to do: call the police.
There's so many plot holes to this melodrama and instead of addressing them the OP continues to keep regurgitating the same incoherent nonsense. Likewise I can't speak for your actual poetry, but based on this thread I can say without question your writing style is fucking awful.
Just remember that break ups happen to us all. You will move on. Just be happy it only lasted four months. Four months is a very short period of time. You weren't meant to be together. You're both crazy. The more you dwell and rage over this it's only going to get worse. Please get some help.
Just remember that break ups happen to us all. You will move on. Just be happy it only lasted four months. Four months is a very short period of time. You weren't meant to be together. You're both crazy. The more you dwell and rage over this it's only going to get worse. Please get some help.
SirIgbyCeaser
Banned
Nah that's just me now.
That right there is bullshit. She knew me, and I was hurt. If it lasted for a year, I'd understand. But it was just a month. And like I said, she had the motive to deport me. For not listening to her warnings. So she went ahead and lied, to the authorities which is an even bigger crime.
But i didn't go to trial. So I lost. I could have proven her bullshit. But you're put in jail. And all you want to do is get out.
And you think this is fair?
PeakPointMatrix
Member
Wow, this got a lot more messy with only a few more details.
OP, if someone tells you they no longer wish to have contact with you, and you insistently continue to call/email/confront them, that is harassment, period. Do you not see how this would scare a woman? Also you say she's unstable, so you were harassing an unstable person. Did you not see what a bad combination this is? I think your reaction was a little overboard for a 4-month relationship.
OP, if someone tells you they no longer wish to have contact with you, and you insistently continue to call/email/confront them, that is harassment, period. Do you not see how this would scare a woman? Also you say she's unstable, so you were harassing an unstable person. Did you not see what a bad combination this is? I think your reaction was a little overboard for a 4-month relationship.
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Deleted member 1235
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that sounds like it's pretty tough to take. however....
it sounds like you didn't leave a girl alone after banging her a bit in University when she wasn't as interested as you.
NinjaBoiX
Member
Oh, you only harassed her for a month. Well yeah, she clearly over reacted then...
Some people move on after a month, it was pretty clear she didn't want anything to do with you.
And if you didn't go to trial, what did you expect? You plead guilty to harassing her... (I'm guessing...)
You should probably let any future women you date know that you feel it's unacceptable to stalk a woman for over a year. They'll be relieved.
Also, you seem to think it staggeringly unjust that she warned you that if you continued harrassing her she'd call the police, then when you did continue harrassing her, she did call the police. That's not unfair in the slightest. Actually giving you a warning was beyond what she had to do.
Also, you seem to think it staggeringly unjust that she warned you that if you continued harrassing her she'd call the police, then when you did continue harrassing her, she did call the police. That's not unfair in the slightest. Actually giving you a warning was beyond what she had to do.
PeakPointMatrix
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