I was a grant winning art student.
Can you post some of your art? Surely you made some influenced by this relationship.
I was a grant winning art student.
It wasn't many phone calls. She didn't answer twice and I already gave up. Lets say 15 emails since she stop writing me back? One month before I got arrested for it.
Those are just numbers. The problem was in my mind. Was the things we said to one another when we would meet up. When we would talk, the stuff I have no record off. And you can't bring to court.
She's stalked me too. Around compas when I needed a break from her crazyness before. Like it was complicated. And only her and I should have had to deal with each other.
Some people move on after a month, it was pretty clear she didn't want anything to do with you.
And if you didn't go to trial, what did you expect? You plead guilty to harassing her... (I'm guessing...)
^edit: just read the above. If what you say is true, that shit really sucks. She sounds fucking crazy. Maybe legal GAF can find a way to loophole your way back into Canada? Sorry man.
It should have never come to that.
How about conflict resolution. Put these two people in a room to talk to each other.
Instead of forcing a separation with the law. I did not want to start over. I hate where I am. I'd like my life back. But that's not happening.
That's the injustice of it.
It should have never come to that.
How about conflict resolution. Put these two people in a room to talk to each other.
Instead of forcing a separation with the law. I did not want to start over. I hate where I am. I'd like my life back. But that's not happening.
That's the injustice of it.
Oh, so you not only called her multiple times after she told you to stop contacting her but you sent her around 15 emails? This may not be (´・ω・`) level of harassment, but that's still pretty damn bad man. Over a 4 month relationship no less. I think you have to realize that it is YOU who fucked up and brought this on yourself, not her. The fact that you say you wanted to marry a girl whom you were only in a 4 month relationship with is very telling. At least now maybe you can take that 1 year deportation and think about why what you did was wrong.
And this was a months period of continuous harassment? Fucking shit dude, do you not see what is wrong with what you did?
I'm actually beginning to wonder if that 4 months includes that 1 month of harassment as well....
What if she didn't want to be in a room with you? What if she felt threatened from you?It should have never come to that.
How about conflict resolution. Put these two people in a room to talk to each other.
Instead of forcing a separation with the law. I did not want to start over. I hate where I am. I'd like my life back. But that's not happening.
That's the injustice of it.
No man, I'm on your side now. I made that response before all of these harassment posts were made. From the sounds of it, it seems like the girl was in the right here. It sucks that it got him deported, but he should have known better than to pester someone who obviously wanted nothing to so with him anymore. In this case, the most extreme consequence played out.Please no. OP obviously is lying about something. Canadian Immigration is pretty soft, I find it hard to believe that the deported him over nothing. Toronto has enough social problems, we don't need any "beat poets".
Seems to me there's some emotional stuff going on mate that you should really try and get some help for.
And that relates both to how you handled this relationship/break-up and the depression you got as a result from that and having to start over.
At any rate, your story regarding your ex makes you come of as excessively needy, it shouldn't be near as hard to say goodbye to someone you've only be dating for 4 months. Normally one would get angry, go on a drinking spree for a night or two and move on. Seems to me you had a way bigger attachment to this girl then a 4-month relationship should warrant, so I'd suggest you'd at least get some professional help for that, because stuff like that will bugger you the rest of your life.
I'm beginning to think the relationship was actually only 3 months and the 4th month was the month of harassment before she finally called the cops.
I feel we're not getting the full story...
I'm not going back to canada. I got a conditional sentence. I could. But now I have a criminal record. Me life robbed from me. For fighting with an ex-girlfriend.
I dared her to call the police. That was a mistake eh? She probably wouldn't have if I didn't actually dare her too.
We probably would have been back together in the summer, like she told me we could.(In this month since we broke up)
No man, I'm on your side now. I made that post before all of these harassment posts were made. From the sounds of it, it seems like the girl was in the right here. It sucks that it got him deported, but he should have known better than to pester someone who obviously wanted nothing to so with him anymore. In this case, the most extreme consequence played out.
She's not in the right. I got my whole life robbed. I lost my apartment, my education, my life. My friends, half the things I own.
It's not right.
I was her boyfriend not to long before. I was a part of her life, and instead of staying with me, of being responsible for the attachment she created. She went by the wishes of a muslim parent. And got rid of me. With lies and the authority.
No man, I'm on your side now. I made that response before all of these harassment posts were made. From the sounds of it, it seems like the girl was in the right here. It sucks that it got him deported, but he should have known better than to pester someone who obviously wanted nothing to so with him anymore. In this case, the most extreme consequence played out.
feeling threatened does too. being convicted of a crime rightfully, should humble you
No man, I'm on your side now. I made that response before all of these harassment posts were made. From the sounds of it, it seems like the girl was in the right here. It sucks that it got him deported, but he should have known better than to pester someone who obviously wanted nothing to so with him anymore. In this case, the most extreme consequence played out.
She's not in the right. I got my whole life robbed. I lost my apartment, my education, my life. My friends, half the things I own.
It's not right.
I was her boyfriend not to long before. I was a part of her life, and instead of staying with me, of being responsible for the attachment she created. She went by the wishes of a muslim parent. And got rid of me. With lies and the authority.
I doubt international students like him are eligible for welfare, though.No it doesn't. Canada needs to deport far more people. I would imagine most "beat poets" receive welfare. We pay far too much tax here to just let anyone in.
This is all awfully reminiscent of Denko and (´・ω・`)
She's not in the right. I got my whole life robbed. I lost my apartment, my education, my life. My friends, half the things I own.
It's not right.
I was her boyfriend not to long before. I was a part of her life, and instead of staying with me, of being responsible for the attachment she created. She went by the wishes of a muslim parent. And got rid of me. With lies and the authority.
Yes, I think it is fair she called the police when your behaviour went so far as to scare her. Justice was served. It was harsh, yes, but you are in the wrong. You need help, and not because you need to start over, but to understand what you did was wrong.And you think this is fair?
With everything you have said here, it is quite clear she wasn't lying.The police should never have been involved. Not when someone is lying to hurt them.
Once again did she tell you to stop talking to her at the end of the 3rd month of the relationship or the 4th month of the relationship?
You make it sound like your relationship was her obligation.She's not in the right. I got my whole life robbed. I lost my apartment, my education, my life. My friends, half the things I own.
It's not right.
I was her boyfriend not to long before. I was a part of her life, and instead of staying with me, of being responsible for the attachment she created. She went by the wishes of a muslim parent. And got rid of me. With lies and the authority.
It's not right.
I was her boyfriend not to long before. I was a part of her life, and instead of staying with me, of being responsible for the attachment she created. She went by the wishes of a muslim parent. And got rid of me. With lies and the authority.
Do you even realize how every single one of your posts you're playing the victim? How everyone has done you wrong. Perhaps if you had just left her alone and not acted like a psychopath, then maybe you would still have your life (minus her).
People were afraid of you. She didn't want to be with you. Stop all this madness before you do something even worse.
You are allowed to make mistakes, and women are allowed to call the authorities when they are being harassed.This is what I don't believe in. Who are you to tell me or assume i'm going to do something worse?
I am a victim. I am allowed to be hurt. I am allowed to be attached. These are human qualities. I'm allowed to make mistakes.
She shouldn't be allowed to get away with lies. To hurt me in a fit of rage. To use the authority. To get what she wants. Which I know from after I got deported and correspondence she regrets.
Also, you sound like every character in Cosmopolis
You do kind of sound like a stalker, OP.
The most crucial question of all has not yet been asked:
OP, York or UofT?
Also, you sound like every character in Cosmopolis.
And we are getting a clearer picture with each of your posts.What I sound like, does not necessarily mean i was.
I know what I did, I was there.
People get hurt in a fit of rage in relationships all the time, it's called a heated argument. Sometimes they end the relationship.She shouldn't be allowed to get away with lies. To hurt me in a fit of rage.
Anyhow, how/why did you end up in Vienna, and what are you doing there now?
The Don DeLillo book that Pattinson's in?