ChubbyHuggs
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Well, I'm half Mexican, so technically any time I date it's interracial, but since I'm white in complexion I'm sure no one cares or bothers to bring it up.
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The Interracial Dating Thread |OT|
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GhostWriter24
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The sheriff is a n--::churchbells:: One of the greatest comedies ever made, and deals with racism in the most head-on manner possible. Mel Brooks had balls the size of fucking planets.soul creator said:
TheKaeptain
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I dated a Turkish woman for a few months. Had to break up with her because of family. It was for the best though.
Not saying it isn't, just that people have always been lazy and discriminated against others for categorical differences rather than take five minutes to get to know someone and have a legitimate reason to dislike them.Drkirby said:
But yeah, I enjoy dating outside my ethnic whatever. My kids will look nothing like me.
OttomanScribe
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Don't think I like the wording of the OP.
My wife is from a different culture to me. It took 3 years of hard work to get her parents to accept the marriage.
My wife is from a different culture to me. It took 3 years of hard work to get her parents to accept the marriage.
Bay Maximus
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So for the people that have shall we say, 'sheltered families' have you ever clashed with your family about your partner's skin colour?
Let me first say I'm all for free love interracial dating, same-sex marriage so on and so forth. That said I'm part of a very tight-knit family whose opinion of me I find important. Were I to marry outside my race, it would certainly be an issue. Yeah I know, "don't care what they think", "if they were your REAL family" etc, but family effects decisions for a lot of people and it is worth being explored.
Sidenote: I'm not looking for a pep-talk to interracial date and I've dated outside my race numerous times; just curious on people's experiences.
Let me first say I'm all for free love interracial dating, same-sex marriage so on and so forth. That said I'm part of a very tight-knit family whose opinion of me I find important. Were I to marry outside my race, it would certainly be an issue. Yeah I know, "don't care what they think", "if they were your REAL family" etc, but family effects decisions for a lot of people and it is worth being explored.
Sidenote: I'm not looking for a pep-talk to interracial date and I've dated outside my race numerous times; just curious on people's experiences.
HappyBivouac
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I'm white, and somehow I just naturally gravitate towards women of any ethnicity other than my own. I couldn't really explain why if I tried. Even sexually I just somehow find it really appealing. This has mostly manifested itself in a way that looks like yellow fever, but I chalk that up to circumstance more than anything.
I guess it's sort of an old fashioned way of thinking, and really I never hear people referring to it as a point of interest, but I guess it can be an interesting topic of conversation, maybe from a psychological standpoint at least.Sullen said:
I don't think I've ever really "dated" outside my race. I've had more "relations" with white women but only really "dated", as in something meaningful and possibly longterm, one white girl. I just pulled back on this one white woman that I could have seen myself. She had kids though and that's usually a deal-breaker with me. She could have been number two.
I've alo dated an indian girl. She was nice but felt she was disrespecting her parents by dating me so fuck her.
I've alo dated an indian girl. She was nice but felt she was disrespecting her parents by dating me so fuck her.
What? Really? Light-skinned girls usually seem uninterested in me which sucks because I love light-skinned girls. Where do you live so I can get in on sme this action.BamYouHaveAids said:
spindashing
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Neither have I.Uchip said:
The closest I've been was with a girl who was half Polish and half black. A beautiful girl, I still get a little annoyed that I let that one go. But, c'est la vie.
After not dating girls of my color/ethnicity for my whole life, I desire them the most now. =(
Kuro Madoushi
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Lost my fucking post...Goddamn browsers and their maximize button being so close to "X"
1. Familial pressure. As some have noted, there are still enough traditional families out there that influence their children to date within their own race. Asian families, Jewish families, Muslim families, etc etc etc.
2. Societal and Cultural influence. These subtly create discrimination and prejudices and many people fall into their trap without realizing it. These are reinforced through the media and is often defined by people who have their own perceptions of beauty and desirability.
3. Pecking order. Whether people want to admit it or not, there's an unspoken chart for desired ethnicities to date.
In my own experience with the above
1. Mom would not want me to date black girls. My father-in-law didn't want his daughter to marry a white guy (he finds out I'm Chinese Canadian and says, "Oh, that's ok")
2. I'm Chinese and even I don't want to date Chinese girls (other Asians yes, Chinese no). I've also seen enough to know not a lot of girls want Chinese guys.
3. Related to the above, I think it was some dating site that put Chinese guys and...was it black women at the very bottom?
Interracial dating is a good thing imo and should be promoted, but I think it'll be a long while before these influences go away.
1. Familial pressure. As some have noted, there are still enough traditional families out there that influence their children to date within their own race. Asian families, Jewish families, Muslim families, etc etc etc.
2. Societal and Cultural influence. These subtly create discrimination and prejudices and many people fall into their trap without realizing it. These are reinforced through the media and is often defined by people who have their own perceptions of beauty and desirability.
3. Pecking order. Whether people want to admit it or not, there's an unspoken chart for desired ethnicities to date.
In my own experience with the above
1. Mom would not want me to date black girls. My father-in-law didn't want his daughter to marry a white guy (he finds out I'm Chinese Canadian and says, "Oh, that's ok")
2. I'm Chinese and even I don't want to date Chinese girls (other Asians yes, Chinese no). I've also seen enough to know not a lot of girls want Chinese guys.
3. Related to the above, I think it was some dating site that put Chinese guys and...was it black women at the very bottom?
Interracial dating is a good thing imo and should be promoted, but I think it'll be a long while before these influences go away.
thesoapster
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Uchip said:
(I'm white)
Same. I haven't had a gf, though...just dates. Only time it had a chance of actually being a relationship was with a black African girl.
Steelrain said:
Misogynist! (lol)
My girl is Asian so yeah...I pretty much have dated every ethnicity I can think of so now Im making sure they can cook before I get in a relationship. Current girlfriends is like a fuckin chef, my last girlfriend was Mexican, and the girl before that was White but couldn't cook worth shit so that didn't last long.
People are just people man. Unless they can't cook. Then they're garbage.
People are just people man. Unless they can't cook. Then they're garbage.
demosthenes
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White here. By high school most of my friends were Asian. Dated 4 Chinese girls and currently dating a Korean. Yeah....I don't know how this has happened, it just has.
Silphonica
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So far in my life I've dated:
2 Caucasian
1 Japanese
3 Chinese
My next hopeful adventure lands me with a Dutch-born Chinese.
I admit, I like my orientals. I'm white btw.
In case anyone asks: I live in Scotland where you don't see that many Chinese/Japanese, however I would say my uni has the highest concentration of Chinese students in Scotland.
My family try their hardest for my to date White Scottish chicks, they don't like the idea of me being with anyone else.
2 Caucasian
1 Japanese
3 Chinese
My next hopeful adventure lands me with a Dutch-born Chinese.
I admit, I like my orientals. I'm white btw.
In case anyone asks: I live in Scotland where you don't see that many Chinese/Japanese, however I would say my uni has the highest concentration of Chinese students in Scotland.
My family try their hardest for my to date White Scottish chicks, they don't like the idea of me being with anyone else.
Mr.Squirrel
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My penis is a racist so black only for me
TacticalFox88
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I'm black. Have dated mostly outside of my race, mostly white. However, I know if I ever married a white female, my mom would in the back of her mind and not out loud, hate her guts and to an extent my children too.
ThoseDeafMutes
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Chinner said:
I'm ecstatic you got tagged for that
Black Republican
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im counting on you to spreading the blasian invasian!Luminate said:
Raguel said:
Lol, what's with the asian girl hate?Kuro Madoushi said:
Anyhow black guy here: I lost my virginity to a Chinese girl (fob) but she did not have a strong accent. The first girl i ever went out on a date with was Mauritian and i still lust after her curves to this day. She however payed hot and cold so much it was annoying. I had yellow fever for a brief phase during uni and a little while after. I don't know why i kinda just found Asian girl sexy. The Chinese girls at my uni i think thought i thought they were servile or some shit, lord knows why, and i once got rushed (somewhat playfully0 by a girl i knew. One of my boys was a Ghanaian guy in a long term relationship with a Chinese girl told me of some of the shit he went through with her as well as her dad. He was a medical student and her dad still hated him. He also told me of some of the dumb shit she did, i saw this Korean chick cheat on her man (some black dude who wanted to wife her up and she got scared since she was younger) and rumours of other girls doing scurvy shit. if i ever thought Asian girls were these cute girls who did not get up to anything, i realised from uni that that's far from the case. As for my to her dating history, i have gone out on dates with everything. I used to be scared shitless of talking to white girls cos my parents drummed into me the things they 'd do to me if i dated a white girl. I now don't care and talk to girls of every ethnicity. I have slept with a girl of almost every race although not a black girl curiously enough. It's not like i don't fancy black girls or that they don't like me, it just hasn't happened. My friends at uni game me so shit for not going for this black girl who was apparently crazy over me, but i was too concerned with a non-black girl who was not all that into me. I still laugh about it to this day. "Bleepey, you have the perfect black girl wanting your knob. Smart, intelligent sexy, non-ghetto, curvey with a great womanly body and probably the sexiest black girl in our uni if not the sexiest girls in our school. And you go for a girl who is not interested in you and is no where near as cute. This is how i know you're gonna marry a Chinese girl. You fool!" Nowadays i mostly seem to get white girls numbers. Now that's surprising. My pre-uni self only looked at black girls, my uni-self pretty mostly tried and failed to talk to oriental girls and my post-uni self just does not give a fuck.
Bay Maximus
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Black Republican
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Bleepey said:
i swear the black/asian and the white/black interracial stories are the funniest shit you'll ever read, haha
I'm black my girlfriend is white. Previously I dated multiple races, mostly black though. Never really had a preference, just whoever I'm attracted to at the time. My current relationship has been the best 3 years of my life and we're going to get married some day. Both of our families have accepted us with open arms so no drama there either. We've had some rude moments in public with strangers judging us but considering we're in the South (new Orleans) it's not as bad as people think it is.
EDIT: Too late, but still.
I'm black and grew up in the burbs, so by coincidence my first girlfriend was white. Being raised in a highly integrated community exposed me to many different cultures at a young age. I've basically had my share of everything. I just can't see myself exclusively dating one ethnicity of women, nor could I imagine myself being exclusively attracted to one either.
I'm black. I have gone out with most girls went through a period of serious asian obsession been out and been in women of
Indian
Pakistani
Chinese
South Korean
Japanese
Lots of women of different european standards both black and white.
I just love women i can't say i have a 'type'. Maybe growing up in london makes it less strange because there are so many chances to come across many different ladies and hang out.
women of Indian
Pakistani
Chinese
South Korean
Japanese
Lots of women of different european standards both black and white.
I just love women i can't say i have a 'type'. Maybe growing up in london makes it less strange because there are so many chances to come across many different ladies and hang out.
scar tissue
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seriously? not dating certain kinds of people is discrimination?captmcblack said:
if you truly think that and don't date men, ugly girls and fatties i've got some bad news for you...
as for me, i'm white and only attracted to white and hispanic girls
black and asian girls do nothing for me, barring certain very rare exceptions
scar tissue said:
He's basically saying keep an open mind in regards to who you pursue. Because yes we all subconsciously discriminate, like you said with fatties, etc, but because we do that already, why must you narrow it down even more? Eventually when you do enough of it you'll shrink your dating pool to something ridiculously small. Think about it of all the 3.5 billion women or so, if you are an average male (lets say in america with a population pool of about 308 million people). If you stay in the states, but are able to travel to any which state you please, than you already have a pool of 308 million people. That's fine right, but only if you're bisexual. Let's assume half of that are females. So about 154 million females to select from. Not bad, but the pool is getting smaller. How many of those woman are of legal age, or an age desirable for sexual activity?
If you're starting to understand than you realize that your pool of woman suitable for you get smaller and smaller. So let's say you only date Indian woman between the ages of 18-50. That selection pool is EXTREMELY TINY. By pursuing such rare woman, and cutting off the other few millions, you're making life for yourself needlessly stressful. People usually say "oh I can never find the girl for me". Those people are so picky that their pool of women can only take up a n incredibly small fraction of the population.
So maybe mc phrased it wrong, and a better way would be to say: "Don't discriminate more than you already subconsciously do".
I hope you understand, and if you need me to elaborate I will try
EDIT: Another example is if you're only into white girls, but somehow all the ones you ever dated, never seemed to jive with you. But you meet a black girl who you say you're not attracted to, but her personality melds very well with you. You would be doing YOURSELF a disservice by ignoring such a compatible mate.
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