The point is that you do not feel like the sex you are born with so you become the opposite sex, not some in between attention seeking virtue signaler
Truth is, many people are born attention wh,.. seekers. Whatever gender identity or sexual orientation they may have. I'm no expert but I expect when you go through transitional surgery you don't get a 2-for-1 discount to also get treated for that, so the people are just there.
And unfortunately most groups suffer from vocal people with radical ideas not reflective of the whole group, often with that 'strong desire to be heard' that paints the group they belong to in a bad light. Feminists, Atheists, Weed smokers, you name it.
Basic human decency. No reason not to treat other people with basic kindness. It's what helps keep society from devolving into madness lol.
Could you imagine going to a grocery store and every person was just blurting out crude judgements of everyone else in the store? It'd be nuts.
I don't think it is basic human decency at all.
If a person asks to be referred to by he or she, it would be basic decency to comply. All the more easier if that person mostly looks the part, otherwise a slip of the tongue is almost inevitable. The real issue that still does need work is for people who clearly dress as a particular gender, but where either it is still visible to not be the original gender or simply known to be the case and you purposefully and out of disrespect/disgust/judgement you choose to use the original pronoun.
But using a made up pronoun goes, way, way beyond decency. I live in Germany now, as a non-native speaker, and let me tell you just in common usage, those pronouns are not easy. And this is being surrounded by people using them correctly all the time. Having made up pronouns you never get to practice and are not part of actual language is very taxing on the part of the speaker. If it were me, I'd probably would not go along with it.
And the thing is, language mostly fixes itself, but in cases where words are used. The fact that many pronouns are proposed for/by people who don't want to or can't identify with a single gender and non stick is telling. I would be totally open for neutral pronouns, but it would need to take a more prominent position in society first for the language to evolve around it. It is a shame that 'it' currently also has meaning to be 'non-human', instead of 'non-male and non-female'.
The neutral pronoun would not just be useful for people who emotionally feel a disconnect to a certain gender, but also people born with sexual characteristics of both genders - which is actually quite common. Right now it is very common for the parents to just 'pick one' and have the other bits surgically removed, which has social benefits but is often not in the best interest of the child. Especially because puberty will happen and can hit hard for those affected. For the over one in 2000 babies born that way society could open up more to accept 'undefined' as a gender. (There are more people born with intersex characteristics than with red hair)
When intersex is used and gets a place, when people are treated with respect and people in general understand this to be the case, hopefully parents with young babies born with a 'uuhhh I don't know'-baby are not as likely to quickly cut of bits that could have been very useful 18 years later.