kitsunelaine
Banned
My mother openly wondering why we didn't eliminate all of the maori, because we were "the conquerers" and they "have no right to complain about anything [because we let them live]".
Assuming this was a joke, I'd say this one is more innocuous than 'openly racist'? I can see how it'd be annoying ("hurr hurr basketball jokes"), but it doesn't seem inherently mean-spirited to me (of course, I'm white so I realize my perspective is very limited).
The others in the list are all kinds of fucked up though.
I got a few.
-In two separate instances, got asked directly by a young kid if they could call me a chink. First time was from a kid living in the same neighborhood and the second time was a random kid in a McDonalds while I was at the soda fountain.
-In high school, was sitting by the door of a classroom minding my business and random kid walks by the door and makes ching chong noises.
-Driver's ed teacher told me "we drive on the right side of the road here".
-Waiting in checkout line at a store with some relatives, old guy standing directly behind us with probably his family says "What is this the Mekong River?"
As a younger person, I would more likely take these things more personally, but as I've gotten older, I see these more as instances of uneducated, unenlightened, dysfunctional patterns of thinking unconsciously passed on spewing out into the world. People pick up and learn these things.
I see. I'm sorry if I came across as insensitive. I was just genuinely wondering if, by itself, it was really that bad or just a lame and tired joke. I certainly wouldn't put "your hands are too black" (seriously, WTF) in that category.Funny, talked to that same coworker about the other guy saying my hand was too black and that was his exact response.
An Aunt making some "Ching Chong Ching Chong" joke about my Chinese girlfriend.
My girl friend's mother constantly says shit about me to her when I'm in the same room, like "how could you be with someone not Chinese."
Overall the level of racism is lower than I'd expect for an interracial relationship, but I guess white guy East Asian girl is one of the most socially "acceptable" pairings.
How many of y'all have had people tryna touch your hair?
Like what is with that shit
The jappier members of the Jewish side of my family tend to use the word Schwarze instead. It's a classic Yiddish way to be a racist shitbag among gentiles without them knowing it.
The thing that gets to me the most though isn't getting called the N-word. It's working with different non-black people over the years and always being told I'm not like other blacks or I don't act black. The reality is they don't really know many black people apart from the stereotype's they see on TV.
As a Dutch-Turkish guy growing up in the Netherlands.
When I wanted to play soccer:
"No you can't play soccer with us, nobody likes Turkish people"
When I got my first car cops stop me two times same night:
"where are you going? Home. Do you have something in your trunk?"
At work someone tells my boss:
"why would you hire a foreign guy when there are so many real Dutch people unemployed?"
So much more.
I'm Sri Lanka heritage But was adopted by Australians and live in Australia.
I was going for a run and had a drink (alcoholic) thrown at me.
Been called plenty of things on the sporting field. (opposition players sent off on the different occasions).
Getting served last and with attitude at bars (a woman I was with pointed this out to me).
Getting kicked out of a bar for "whistling" at a bar maid - I didn't and she was making it up.
My friends have had a few "where the hell is guy from" comments from people who I've just met behind my back.
Accused by a fellow Australian of not being Australian and faking my accent in a hostel in Mexico.
I've been bullied at school for being different (I was the only person I'd colour my year at my private school).
The thing that I hate the most is the assumption that I'm less Australian than others. I was adopted and my parent's families have been in the country longer than most. So I have laughed a couple of times when there have been comments along the lines of "your family doesn't fight for Australia" and I can reply with "actually, they did".
Thankfully ain't been through a lot
"You sounded white over the phone"
"You're so articulate"
"You're black, but you're not BLACK"
"You're a credit to your people"
"You're one of the black guys I could bring home to my family"
(After telling my life story to a sea of white faces)"You said that story so nice, with a little 'hustle' to it"
Having a woman pull her purse to the other side as I walked by
Someone locking the door as I passed their car
Being followed in stores
Bout it rn
How many of y'all have had people tryna touch your hair?
Like what is with that shit
I'm a white guy in denmark, so I've never really experienced anything directed at me.
But the worst thing I've seen personally was at my local pizzaria where a few weeks back some old fuck started telling the staff (middle eastern folks, nice people) that we speak danish here after one staff member said (in danish) to another, that my pizza was ready.
Only time I've seen an open display of racism here though. Hate to admit that I didn't call him out on it, I was so thrown off by it that I didn't know what to do in the moment.
Wait, he told them to speak Danish after they spoke Danish? Wth?