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Your wife slept with over 20 guys in college, she tells you 20 years later
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Winterfang
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Not really, maybe in my lifetime if anything, not in a period of 4 years.
Well that's the thing, she only sleep with 9 people but she fooled with a lot more than. So i'm assuming that if she sleep with 20 different people, she must had fooled with a lot more than, God knows how many men.
I don't see why it should matter, especially if everything is happy right now.
Boom. This.
Boom. This.
I don't follow. To be honest this is one those subjects where people will have a pretty wide spectrum of feelings - often irrational. My feeling towards sex is that it's something you want to try and save for the right person - if have sex with somebody as part of a long term relationship and then that breaks down then it's fine, but I always tried not to sleep about just for the sake of sex (I'm a bit of an old geezer by the way). Luckily my wife feels the same way and we discussed history etc before we decided to get married.. so yer, if she turned around and said in anger that she'd slept with a ton of guys I'd be pretty pissed.
No offence meant to those of you who like shagging around, if life gave me three lives I'm sure I'd have done the same in one of them.
If she said she had 20 different boyfriends, I'd be worried. But just hooking up? This is a new world. People have sex these days, instead of making up all of these fake constructs to justify it and getting frustrated, breaking down and having sex anyway.
If she had a wild few years, as long as she was safe, and as long as I'm the only one she wants then, what, can I ask could you possibly have an issue with?
Lets hear it.
If she had a wild few years, as long as she was safe, and as long as I'm the only one she wants then, what, can I ask could you possibly have an issue with?
Lets hear it.
if she told you that she slept with three guys in college instead of the twenty mentioned in this thread, would you still feel that way?
orientalNoodle
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It is all depends on the quality of the dicks. Was she banging high quality dicks? If so I would be OK.
dark_chris
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Tell her not to suck any dicks on the way out.
fuzzyreactor
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Certinty
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Haha! That's a good one.
Patrick Bateman
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Hate to break it to you, but most people have the majority of their sexual partners during highschool/college. As you get older, long term relationships become more common.
Cold-blooded, damn lol
well that's the beautiful thing about human sexuality. some people want to have more sex, some people want to have less. doesn't change a thing.
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jonnyp
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Who cares?
SteveWinwood
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How old are you?
Exactly.
I find that people today aren't having that much more sex than people maybe a few generations ago. Or at least they're not more innately sexual. I just think people nowadays are less pressured to justify the sex. The girl's no longer "waiting for the callback," as it were...
I didn't take into account the 20 years thing...I think that would be interesting. I guess it depends on the marriage, if it was a romp and roaring life then it would be a drop in the bucket.
If we were just waiting to see who died first, I guess this would be another bag of salt for the fields? I guess if it's an issue, something went wrong.
If we were just waiting to see who died first, I guess this would be another bag of salt for the fields? I guess if it's an issue, something went wrong.
Half and half
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Go see a doc about some Zithromax.
hypostasis
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How long must a woman wait to have sex before 'devaluation' no longer occurs? Through what means did you ordain this objective principle?
haha, wow. there's a lot more to "wife material" than just placating your sexual insecurities.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NFnKgIptbq0
No freakin' way.
I was virgin once too.
Dark Octave
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I'll be honest in saying that I'd be taken back a little.
I wasn't someone who took sex lightly back then and just slept around, so I would expect my partner to have a similar mindset on that.
After 20 years though it's not like I'd leave over that or anything.
I wasn't someone who took sex lightly back then and just slept around, so I would expect my partner to have a similar mindset on that.
After 20 years though it's not like I'd leave over that or anything.
Jackben
bitch I'm taking calls.
30 but forever 12 mentally
Anton Sugar
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And you're expecting a woman in her late 20s/early 30s to have slept with less than 5 people? Unreal.
Do you have a S.O?
My little brother was going through this a few years ago in his late teens/early 20s. He was intimidated by sexual experience and was always bitching about it being hard to find "pure girls". Then he realized the women with 20+ previous partners were more likely to sleep with him. Now that seems to be his type.
What are you doing thinking about sex young man? Get back to your room!
freenudemacusers
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20 guys in 4 years is only five bros a year. Meh.
Fwiw I've only boned like 6 people total.
20 years after marriage I can't see giving a fuck. Surely those cells are long gone by now.
Fwiw I've only boned like 6 people total.
20 years after marriage I can't see giving a fuck. Surely those cells are long gone by now.
Cow Mengde
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Ask her how I my performance was compared to them.
User 100115
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As long as she was safe about it, what's the big deal? It wouldn't be an issue if it were a guy who said he slept with 20 women in college.
Best post.
If you are dating women your age, and assuming most people lose their virginity at around 17 years old, that less than one person every 2 years. A girl could be serially monogamous with every relationship lasting more than a year and be over that number.
brianjones
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orientalNoodle
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Ok, 20 boyfriends or 100 one-night-stands, which is easier to hear from your SO?
Winterfang
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I don't think wanting to have lots of sex is a problem. This future wife could had told me she had sex 1800 times in college, with 4/5/6/7 different sexual partners and I wouldn't give a single fuck. 20 different sexual partners in 4 years is a lot for me, but I understand that not everyone thinks the same.
I slept with ten times the amount of people my gf/fiance has.
I went through some tough times and used random hookups and booze to make myself feel better it sucked.
Why would I judge someone else if they did the same thing but for fun instead of self destruction? (assuming they are now clean/these sexual partners were not while cheating on someone.)
Basically grow up.
I went through some tough times and used random hookups and booze to make myself feel better it sucked.
Why would I judge someone else if they did the same thing but for fun instead of self destruction? (assuming they are now clean/these sexual partners were not while cheating on someone.)
Basically grow up.
20 boyfriends is way too much.
Shit I'll take a girl that's sucked 300 dicks and only 2 serious relationship.
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