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SlipperySlope · Jul 22, 2013

My wife and I had our first successful attempt at anal on Saturday. Went in with a condom. Today she told me she is really raw.

Kinda worried it might scare her away from anal forever. She enjoyed the last half of it when she loosened up.

We used tons of lube. Question is: What can remove her raw sensations in the future? Do I need to go slower? It was her first time doing anal (and mine also). Will the raw sensations go away naturally if we do it enough? If so, how long does it take to "break in"?

Andrew. · Jul 22, 2013

Stet · Jul 22, 2013

Username..........

Sill4 · Jul 22, 2013

Slippery Slope

Trigger · Jul 22, 2013

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EDIT- I can't believe I was beaten!

darkwing · Jul 22, 2013

first post again

WorldStar · Jul 22, 2013

Twilight Gap · Jul 22, 2013

Shagwell · Jul 22, 2013

Just stick with the vagina. God made it awesome for a reason

User 100115 · Jul 22, 2013

To my understanding, there is always going to be some soreness in the days after. Maybe spend more time preparing her? IE: Stretch her out a bit more with fingers before erm...going all in.

Count Dookkake · Jul 22, 2013

More lube, try a different condom, go easy on her until she adapts.

CrankyJay · Jul 22, 2013

Shagwell said:
Just stick with the vagina. God made it awesome for a reason

This man knows what he's talking about

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Borgnine · Jul 22, 2013

The rawness comes from her sphincter straining to close around your tiny dick.

BakedPigeon · Jul 22, 2013

You could try ;peeing into the gape. I dunno.

TommyT · Jul 22, 2013

All joking aside - Did you just go in dick first without warming it up with a finger? It could also have been something she ate (and subsequently pooped out) making the inside not-so-ready for anal. Bad reaction to the lube; have you used it before vaginally? Same thing with the condom; do you use those vaginally? The condom, if too loose (no size jab here), could bunch up and rub her the wrong way on the inside.

edit: It could have been a combination of those as well. Depending on your size (mostly girth) and this being her first time it will probably be rough for her. It's pretty normal her to feel 'weird' the next day or so because ya know, she had a penis in her butt and that's new to that area. Raw though, as in it hurts when she poops isn't particularly normal.

DBT85 · Jul 22, 2013

Sorry I'm from the UK and I'm not able to see the thread to answer your question thanks to the new internet rules.

Jason's Ultimatum · Jul 22, 2013

Toss the salad.

t-storm · Jul 22, 2013

Everybody quote his username, altogether now!

kehs · Jul 22, 2013

Probably shouldn't have gone full penile on her first try.

It's possible you used the wrong kind of lube too, most of the stuff for regular vaginal is horrible for anal.

Give it a week or two until she's not sore anymore and try again but maybe just fingers/small toys. Gotta work it up gradually.

Doc johnsons anal lube is a staple.

Papytendo · Jul 22, 2013

Don't worry guy! Just keep at it and before you know it, it'll be like throwing a hot dog down a hallway. Cheers!

Woody Invincible · Jul 22, 2013

Fiction said:
To my understanding, there is always going to be some soreness in the days after. Maybe spend more time preparing her? IE: Stretch her out a bit more with fingers before erm...going all in.

Yeppers, fingers first.

Jedeye Sniv · Jul 22, 2013

Make sure she's had a few orgasms first, that whole area is a lot more pliable once it's all warmed up.

Thai · Jul 22, 2013

Jason's Ultimatum said:
Toss the salad.

and that's how we get ants!

Raistlin · Jul 22, 2013

BakedPigeon said:
You could try ;peeing into the gape. I dunno.

Count Dookkake · Jul 22, 2013

Does she eat a lot of peanuts?

EnderWiggles · Jul 22, 2013

Use her tears as lubrication

Jason's Ultimatum · Jul 22, 2013

Woody Invincible said:
Yeppers, fingers first.

Nobody wants poop on their fingers.

ghst · Jul 22, 2013

ReadingRambo · Jul 22, 2013

Feed it pizza?

dbztrk · Jul 22, 2013

SlipperySlope...

Try loosening her up with a toy. Also, please use plenty of lube. The wetter she is, the less of a raw feeling she should have.

Mr.Ock · Jul 22, 2013

Jason's Ultimatum said:
Nobody wants poop on their fingers.

To be fair, I'd rather not have it on my dick too (condom or not) lol

Foxix Von · Jul 22, 2013

Give it time. Use lots of lube, and more importantly is warm up time and foreplay around that... area to get things ready. It can take a while to get those muscles to relax, especially if the person is anxious or tense because it's a new experience. Just give it more time and take it much, much slower.

Vashetti · Jul 22, 2013

This is my kind of thread.

Subbed.

ronito · Jul 22, 2013

slope wasn't slippery enough.
BTW, liberals do it better.

Andrew. · Jul 22, 2013

Fiction said:
To my understanding, there is always going to be some soreness in the days after. Maybe spend more time preparing her? IE: Stretch her out a bit more with fingers before erm...going all in.

TommyT · Jul 22, 2013

Jason's Ultimatum said:
Nobody wants poop on their fingers.

If they got some poo in there and you're going in, you're either doing wrong or you're doing it right.

Count Dookkake said:
If you guys are married and monogamous, ditch the condom.

End game, definitely. First time for both? Probably not. Hard to get over that shtitgma.

Count Dookkake · Jul 22, 2013

If you guys are married and monogamous, ditch the condom.

CriscoDisco · Jul 22, 2013

Goddamn I love NeoGAF

peanutbutterlatte · Jul 22, 2013

Count Dookkake said:
If you guys are married and monogamous, ditch the condom.

Monogamy doesn't prevent bacterial infection.

Scofield94941 · Jul 22, 2013

SlipperySlope said:
My wife and I had our first successful attempt at anal on Saturday. Went in with a condom. Today she told me she is really raw.

Kinda worried it might scare her away from anal forever. She enjoyed the last half of it when she loosened up.

We used tons of lube. Question is: What can remove her raw sensations in the future? Do I need to go slower? It was her first time doing anal (and mine also). Will the raw sensations go away naturally if we do it enough? If so, how long does it take to "break in"?

DrM · Jul 22, 2013

ghst said:

Normal summer day on GAF

captive · Jul 22, 2013

Andrew. said:

second time i've seen this today, what is it from?

Count Dookkake · Jul 22, 2013

MasterBalls said:
Monogamy doesn't prevent bacterial infection.

Decent hygiene does an adequate job.

Borgnine · Jul 22, 2013

Have her switch to a full curry or baby food diet.

akira28 · Jul 22, 2013

condoms cause different friction from skin on skin. You might try a different kind of lube too. Like not KY, but something silicone based with lower friction. You might try slower because there really shouldn't be a lot of pain.

You may have to gently massage her and wait until she's completely relaxed.

Fingers and tongue I mean.

Learn 2 enema and get rid of the condoms and use silicone gel and you're in like Errol Flynn.

Monsieur · Jul 22, 2013

Tell her to man up and take it.

Andrew. · Jul 22, 2013

captive said:
second time i've seen this today, what is it from?

The Master

shakin_haitian · Jul 22, 2013

Work your way up. Don't start off with the D, that's usually too big. Start off with small dildos and shit. Think about it.

Ferrio · Jul 22, 2013

SlipperySlope said:
My wife and I had our first successful attempt at anal on Saturday. Went in with a condom. Today she told me she is really raw.

Kinda worried it might scare her away from anal forever. She enjoyed the last half of it when she loosened up.

We used tons of lube. Question is: What can remove her raw sensations in the future? Do I need to go slower? It was her first time doing anal (and mine also). Will the raw sensations go away naturally if we do it enough? If so, how long does it take to "break in"?

Use a silcone lube.

moggio · Jul 22, 2013

Count Dookkake said:
If you guys are married and monogamous, ditch the condom.

Well maybe but not necessarily, especially if he intends to put it in her vagina afterwards.

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