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Do most heterosexual women want to feel protected by a man?

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The other thread where the guy's batting average seems to be affected by his stature, got me thinking about the thread title.

Maybe its taboo to say it, (as a result of the progress with regards to feminism), but perhaps its still a thing? I don't know...just curious what everyone else has to say about it.

"Women don't need men that can fight bears and hunt for food", but they prefer them?

Relevant:http://www.aoltv.com/2010/08/18/louie-moment-louie-gets-threatened-his-date-gets-turned-off/
 
This has nothing to do with height. Women want to date men who are at least their height when they're in heels so they don't feel like giants.
 
Stet said:
This has nothing to do with height. Women want to date men who are at least their height when they're in heels so they don't feel like giants.
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You mean height has nothing to do with "feeling protected" as much as it does insecurities.

Besides my thread topic was only inspired by that height thread, so would you maybe chime in on the actual topic/question?
 
My wife tells me that women want to feel safe, all the time, when she's talking about her friends and their dating problems.
 
blame space said:
Everybody wants different things.
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Yes. Nevertheless, people, not just women, are generally attracted by displays of confidence, health, and general "strength" (by which I do not only mean physical strength).
 
I can't speak for other heterosexual women, but I've always preferred to be with a man that is at least my height or taller. I'm just under 5'7", but I have dated guys that are shorter than me as well. I find my husband to be incredible sexy. He's got broad shoulders, is about 6 feet tall, and hairy (good hairy).

As others have already said, people like different things.
 
I never make a point of it but some gal said something along those lines the other night, 'you can protect me, it's fucking hot'.
 
ElTorro said:
Yes. Nevertheless, people, not just women, are generally attracted by displays of confidence, health, and general "strength" (by which I do not only mean physical strength).
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Not a lot of people are attracted to short men who are skinny to be honest, it goes against our evolutionary coding.

Broad shoulders, height, confidence and profession counts. There are exceptions and every person is unique but pretending these things do not matter is just foolish.
 
My wife does say that she feels "safer" around me, and will look to me to investigate anything that goes "bump" in the night.

One specific instance that comes to mind was when a bag of dumdums (lollipops) she left on our kitchen counter decided to spill out all over the floor, slowly, at 3am one morning. I guess the argument could be made that it kindof sounded like someone trying to come through the blinds in the window, but all I know is my ass was locked outside the bedroom door when I went to go check.
 
Of course everyone wants to feel safe and protected, especially by their spouse or significant other. As for whether women want "protection" in that they cannot do anything without a man, I think times are changing. Sure it's nice to have someone big, strong, able to stand up for you or themselves, but the expectation just because they're a woman, they can't protect themselves is a bit outdated. I know women who've grown up taking taekwando, have been on firing ranges, taken self defense classes etc.

As for height, I do think women tend to look for guys at least as tall as, if not taller than themselves. Tall women, also tend to go for taller guys. Not always the case and everyone is different and for some height doesn't really have a bearing.
 
My wife does. That's all the women I can say for sure that feel that way. I don't think it is matter of height though. Just the perception that you're capable.

Icefire1424 said:
...but all I know is my ass was locked outside the bedroom door when I went to go check.
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Haha, she's taking the lifeboat and leaving your ass to sink.
 
Icefire1424 said:
My wife does say that she feels "safer" around me, and will look to me to investigate anything that goes "bump" in the night.

One specific instance that comes to mind was when a bag of dumdums (lollipops) she left on our kitchen counter decided to spill out all over the floor, slowly, at 3am one morning. I guess the argument could be made that it kindof sounded like someone trying to come through the blinds in the window, but all I know is my ass was locked outside the bedroom door when I went to go check.
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hahahhaa i feel like i've lived this exact scenario recently, only i think was the dishes settling in the drying rack
 
I think people in general like to feel safe.

Also, according to GAF it seems like if you don't fit a certain mold you will end up alone so this is probably not the best place to generalize anyone.
 
kiguel182 said:
yeah, every relationship thread always revolves around "you have this problem so nobody will like you".
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i've read like a hundred threads on relationships and i've never seen that...

i've seen a lot of good advice about how presenting yourself better and becoming a more well-rounded individual doesn't mean compromising who you are, though.
 
Kinyou said:
All heterosexual women want a male partner.
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Stet said:
This has nothing to do with height. Women want to date men who are at least their height when they're in heels so they don't feel like giants.
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My height in heels is still 5'3" at best. I like my men 6'.

Can't articulate why though.
 
I'd leave it as "a feeling of safety and security is something most humans desire on a very primitive level." How that feeling of safety and security is achieved is a different question.

I suspect some people experience this safety by proxy, sure. Some women probably feel safe because their man feels safe. However, I'm sure a lot of women feel safe and secure because they can put a roof over their own heads and put lunches in their kids' backpacks. Without needing to put a man in to the equation.
 
jon bones said:
i've read like a hundred threads on relationships and i've never seen that...

i've seen a lot of good advice about how presenting yourself better and becoming a more well-rounded individual doesn't mean compromising who you are, though.
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That's not what I've seen. At least not on general.

This recent one about height it's a good one, with tons of "women won't date short man". That's not good advice, it's not true and it doesn't help anyone.
 
Kept thinking about this a bit after my last post. Not just women, but I do think that both men and women look for some sense of security from their partners - even if not physical protection (say, protection from rogue dumdums or dishes in the kitchen sink), but "protection" in that there will be someone there to support them emotionally, back their decisions, and essentially be "in their corner", no matter what.

I am very protective of my wife (and daughter), but know that she will "protect" me as well by being my anchor when I need her. It just so happens that my 6'1" 190 pound frame is better suited to offer physical protection than her 4'11" 1XX pound frame should the need arise.
 
I think for some women not all, it definitely is a turn on that they get that feeling of being protected. I had a girl mention to me that she was glad when walking her home late one night that I was there, like she felt much safer and she made a reference to my size. Can't lump all women together however, just like you couldn't do it with all men.
 
Nah its just a coincident that shy guys are basically fucked and every "how to get a girlfriend" thread on the internet revolves around countless people going on and on about confidence lol
 
Finaika said:
Do most heterosexual men want to protect women?
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You know, I honestly hate that I "have to".


However, there would never be a situation where I wouldn't. Even if it means I'm probably going to get myself killed.

I don't know what it is, what innate thing this is, that allows me to shut some logic cores off and enter ooga uh uh booga mode.
 
Am I the one who is gonna have to say the elephant in the room?

Fact: Women on average are physically weaker than their male counterparts. That is not a sexist opinion, but one which is based on quantifiable fact.

What women wouldn't want the added benefit of a man who can protect her? The topic doesn't ask if this is true for all women, no, that wouldn't do because generalizations usually don't work when stated "all ____ like/think/do ____ " (and yes, I realize that too is a generalization). But I'm willing to bet that most women would prefer the protection of a man. And to those saying they too would want a protection of a woman, you are trivializing the question. I willing to bet the percentage of heterosexual women seeking protection from men is higher in their general populace than the percentage of heterosexual men seeking protection from a woman.
 
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