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Do most heterosexual women want to feel protected by a man?

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My gf is 5'2" and very attractive, and she says when she is alone she gets cat calls and hit on often. Even with me I can see the stares but she says she feels way better when I am around cos guys back off/don't act the same with me there lol.
 
Generally speaking, in my experience, yes. They also like when men "take charge". But with the understanding that they have Veto power and use it liberally :P
 
Most of us do. That's why acting helpless it a tactic a lot of women use to attract men.

Remember falling for that one back in the day haha.

Telling me they were "scared" whilst at a club to get me to hurry up, getting there and seeing them having a great time with her friends and finally going back to being "scared" again when we get together.
 
My wife says she knew I was "the One" when I put my arms around her and she felt the safest she'd ever been. I'm 6'2", hairy and of biggish stature.

But it's horses for courses. Some like that feeling, some don't. I remember trying to pull a girl who was my height for ages, got nowhere. She ended up with a 5'6" bloke who weighed about 9 stone piss wet through. I ended up going out with her friend for a while who was about 5'4" and tiny, but she did look like Natalie Imbruglia, so all was forgiven.
 
I'm tall for a woman, and in my experience some men can be very insecure about their height.

I'm taller than my husband in heels and we get strange looks sometimes because of it.
 
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Aren't they insinuating God, or the elite, or something? please don't tell me Nirvana were "fedora" men?
 
Replies like this don't contribute anything to the discussion. The OP asked specifically about what most women want, not all; of course there are going to be exceptions.
I don't think that reply doesn't not contribute anything because the question proposed by the OP is a flawed one; most people, I imagine, want to feel protected.

But yes, different people like different things.
 
I don't think that reply doesn't not contribute anything because the question proposed by the OP is a flawed one; most people, I imagine, want to feel protected.

But yes, different people like different things.

Women want it more, that's the point of the question and in most people's experience that is true. Mentioning there are exceptions practically ignores the OP's post and thread title.
 
Every woman that I have ever known wants to be able to be protected (in some manner) by the man they are with. Granted this is just my experience but the average woman lives with a certain amount of fear at all times that most men can't comprehend. I have been asked to accompany women places just based upon my physical presence alone. Which isn't all that scary or anything but I do carry myself in a certain manner.
 
Although this varies for every person there is no doubt that most women like the feeling of security. Every girl that I have been with has expressed that they enjoy feeling protected and financially secure.
 
Correlation yadda yadda yadda, but there are plenty of studies that show that the nearly universal preference for taller men is directly related with the desire of feeling protected.
49% want taller mates and that's universal? I think you may have misunderstood what that word means. The link you just posted suggests that more than half of women don't care about whether the person they date is taller than they are.

In contrast, nearly half of the women – 48.9 percent – wanted to date only men taller than they are
 
Yes, humans are genetically predisposed to have particular behavioral traits. These traits don't always fit in our modern society, but they are still there.
 
49% want taller mates and that's universal? I think you may have misunderstood what that word means. The link you just posted suggests that more than half of women don't care about whether the person they date I s taller than they are.

But the study you linked to shows that most - that is, not the majority - don't care if a dude is shorter than them.

Keep in mind that that 49% only want to date men taller than them. Then you have the the other half, of which you can be more than sure they exhibit different degrees of preference for taller men, even if they are also open to shorter ones.

Part one, which used data from the Yahoo! personal dating advertisements of 455 males (average height of 5 feet 8 inches and average age of 36 years) and 470 females (average height of 5 feet 4 inches and average age of 35 years) from throughout the U.S., found that 13.5 percent of the men wanted to date only women shorter than they are. In contrast, nearly half of the women – 48.9 percent – wanted to date only men taller than they are.
The second part of the study included 54 male (average height of 5 feet 9 inches) and 131 female volunteers (average height of 5 feet 4 inches) recruited from a U.S. university. The participants answered open-ended questions in an online survey. The findings were similar to the first part of the study: 37 percent of male respondents wanted to date only women shorter than they are, while 55 percent of female respondents wanted to date only men taller than they are.

Not that one should infer definitive conclusions, but I think the general picture is quite clear.
 
Keep in mind that that 49% only want to date men taller than them. Then you have the the other half, of which you can be more than sure they exhibit different degrees of preference for taller men, even if they are also open to shorter ones.

Preferred doesn't mean only.
 
Most of us do. That's why acting helpless it a tactic a lot of women use to attract men.

I hate this. It's probably the biggest turn off for me.

Luckily, it's not true that every woman wants to feel "safe", though the number is pretty high in my experience
 
Keep in mind that that 49% only want to date men taller than them. Then you have the the other half, of which you can be more than sure they exhibit different degrees of preference for taller men, even if they are also open to shorter ones.

Not that one should infer definitive conclusions, but I think the picture is quite clear.
How is the picture clear? How are you sure that women prefer taller men because men are taller, on average, than women and not because they want to be protected?
 
Yes, humans are genetically predisposed to have particular behavioral traits. These traits don't always fit in our modern society, but they are still there.

Exactly, mostly everything can be answered by genetic predisposition. Now does that invalidate environmental stimuli? Absolutely not, but the core of our behavioral patterns and needs goes back to the genetic level.
 
Keep in mind that that 49% only want to date men taller than them. Then you have the the other half, of which you can be more than sure they exhibit different degrees of preference for taller men, even if they are also open to shorter ones.

Not that one should infer definitive conclusions, but I think the general picture is quite clear.
I think the general picture that what you stated is directly at odds with the study you posted, yes. Near universal preference was your phrase, not mine.
 
I want to agree with this, but I haven't seen a single instance in this thread yet where a heterosexual woman has said she prefers shorter men.

I've posted this several times in a variety of threads but at 5'4 I'd rather a guy who was a few inches taller than me over one who was a foot taller, all other things being equal. I'd rather be with someone taller than me than with someone shorter but it's in no way a deal breaker.

And for me it's not so much about physical protection as it is being with someone who makes me feel safe, someone who I can be vulnerable (emotionally or otherwise) with and know they've got my back.
 
How is the picture clear? How are you sure that women prefer taller men because men are taller, on average, than women and not because they want to be protected?
I usually prefer to believe evolutionary reasons. It doesn't have to just be about protection though. I believe guys want to feel like they are protecting their woman even though that isn't necessary 99.9% of the time.

Maybe it's a bit cynical, but whatever makes us humans is just a cocktail of chemicals in my eyes and I don't think we have nearly as much control of the outcome as we may believe.
 
Preferred doesn't mean only.

Precisely why I bolded "only". Half of the women questioned operate in very exclusive terms, whereas the others will exhibit different degrees of preference. In the end, there's a very clear predisposition.

I think the general picture that what you stated is directly at odds with the study you posted, yes. Near universal preference was your phrase, not mine.
I honestly fail to see it, but I'd appreciate if you could show me where I err.

How is the picture clear? How are you sure that women prefer taller men because men are taller, on average, than women and not because they want to be protected?
This is actually a very good question.

Studies (not just the one linked) show a certain tendence to equate (or at least relate) height with protection, but at the same time this goes very much against the current societal trends in respect to what we expect from the other sex. Said expectations have been evened incredibly fast and profoundly in recent times, yet this particular issue remains, and not just in America. I think it's fair to assume that there's a rather complex mix of factors at play, including some of the most ingrained and invisible aspects of patriarchy.
 
To answer OP's question: Yes. Most do. At least from my anecdotal experience.
This goes for a lot of these traditional gender roles. Sure, progress in feminism is good and all but sometimes women want to still be treated like special lady's and thats fine.

My girlfriend considers herself a feminist but she still wants me to leave home and get her just so I can walk her home, she still wants me to take her out on dates (ie pay for her) And at the same time she says she loves cooking for me.

Just because feminism is progressing doesn't mean that the old cultural gender roles and traditions are bad and need to go away;
 
I usually prefer to believe evolutionary reasons. It doesn't have to just be about protection though. I believe guys want to feel like they are protecting their woman even though that isn't necessary 99.9% of the time.

Maybe it's a bit cynical, but whatever makes us humans is just a cocktail of chemicals in my eyes and I don't think we have nearly as much control of the outcome as we may believe.

Indeed, you and I are on the same page when it comes to that mindset. The genetic code lays out an overall blueprint of how we function in this world, but the finer details get ironed from individual to individual. That said, everyone still has instinctual feelings. Personally, I do like to feel like the protector and provider - but that's how I was raised. So is it nature or nurture?

We can safely say it's a hybridization of the two with a bias towards nature.
 
I'd say it's people who like to be protected. I know I do. Everyone wants to feel safe. And I'd imagine for a women in a threatening scenario, a tall, strong man would help that feeling. However, so would pepper spray or a female police officer, I'd imagine. To say that women desire a man to protect them might not be all that accurate. While that could do the job, so could many other substitutes

As for height, my girlfriend is taller than I am, and we've never had a problem. I know that she feels more safe when I'm around, and I'm in no way a great physical specimen. I think just the presence of someone you trust can make you feel safer.
 
I usually prefer to believe evolutionary reasons. It doesn't have to just be about protection though. I believe guys want to feel like they are protecting their woman even though that isn't necessary 99.9% of the time.

Maybe it's a bit cynical, but whatever makes us humans is just a cocktail of chemicals in my eyes and I don't think we have nearly as much control of the outcome as we may believe.

I've never been convinced by the science of evolutionary psychology. Mostly I see it used as a way to justify societal expectations.
 
Most people want to feel protected.

How tall someone is has nothing to do with that

To answer OP's question: Yes. Most do. At least from my anecdotal experience.
This goes for a lot of these traditional gender roles. Sure, progress in feminism is good and all but sometimes women want to still be treated like special lady's and thats fine.

My girlfriend considers herself a feminist but she still wants me to leave home and get her just so I can walk her home, she still wants me to take her out on dates (ie pay for her) And at the same time she says she loves cooking for me.

Just because feminism is progressing doesn't mean that the old cultural gender roles and traditions are bad and need to go away;

It means that old cultural gender roles and TRADITIONS need to go away and people be treated in a "people by people" case.

Your girlfriend is a person who is happy with THIS PART of the old gender roles. Does not mean that it should be forced to everyone.
 
Listen, if my husband wasn't taller then me, the entire top shelf of cupboards in the kitchen would be useless to me. USELESS.
 
My gf is 5'10" and I'm 6'3" and she told me the height thing is about feeling feminine and safe. She likes to wear heels too, so she wants the man to be taller than her even with big heels on.

She's tried to date guys close I her height but just can't do it. It always gets in the way of the attraction for the guy.

While lost women take it into account, I think it's a bigger deal for some women, like my gf.
 
How do you measure that?

As you're a man, please tell me more what women want.

It's been demonstrated and spelled out for me on a number of occasions. Obviously this is a generalization but the answer is still yes. If I asked you if men want sex, could you answer that one?
 
Looking up the study cited by Funky Papa, I found this article that cites more research with similar conclusions:

Heterosexual couples in which the man is taller than the woman have been the norm for years now. In 1980, researchers looking into the trend examined height data from 720 U.S. couples’ bank-account applications, and found that only one couple had a woman who was taller than her partner, The Atlantic reported. Fast forward 33 years and researchers are still finding that women prefer taller men, and that, on the off chance that a woman is with a shorter man, the height difference is usually small.

For the two-part study, researchers first looked at data from Yahoo! personal dating ads, which comprised of info from 455 males and 470 females, with an average height of 5-feet, 8-inches and 5-feet, 4-inches, respectively. The researchers found that 13.5 percent of men only wanted to date shorter women, while 48.9 percent of women only wanted to date men who were taller. For the second part of the study, the researchers questioned 54 men (average height of 5-foot-9) and 131 women (average height of 5-foot-4) about their preferences. These participants answered similarly, with 37 percent of men wanted shorter women, and 55 percent of women wanting taller men.

The study’s results support other research showing that women are more likely to enforce this “rule.” A 2008 study of 382 college students found that only four percent of women would be in a relationship with someone who was shorter, compared to 23 percent of men who would date a taller girl. “Women’s cultural vision is being feminine, having a man big enough to make her feel protected. Many women hold this sterotype to a point where it excludes a lot of people they might be interested in otherwise,” Dr. Pepper Schwartz, a sociology professor at the University of Washington in Seattle and chief relationship expert at PerfectMatch.com, told The Huffington Post in 2012.

Women who were surveyed for the current study gave similar reasons. “As the girl, I like to feel delicate and secure at the same time,” one 5-foot-3 participant said, according to a press release. “Something just feels weird in thinking about looking ‘down’ into my man’s eyes. There is also something to be said about being able to wear shoes with high heels and still being shorter. I also want to be able to hug him with my arms reaching up and around his neck.”

George Yancey, the study’s lead author and a professor of sociology at the University of North Texas, said in the release that these ideals stem from societal pressure and stereotypes, adding that being tall is an asset for men and a liability for women. “The masculine ability to offer physical protection is clearly connected to the gender stereotype of men as protectors,” he said in the release. “And in a society that encourages men to be dominant and women to be submissive, having the image of tall men hovering over short women reinforces this value.”

Source: Yancey G, Emerson M. Does Height Matter? An Examination of Height Preferences in Romantic Coupling. Journal of Family Issues. 2014.

Bolded part does make it seem like this preference is nearly "universal."
 
My girlfriend considers herself a feminist but she still wants me to leave home and get her just so I can walk her home,
Has she given you a reason for this? Because if it's to be protected, I don't think that results from some "instinctual" need to feel protected, but because American society as a whole values the male gender over the female, so on average more men cat-call and stare creepily at women a lot .I've been subject to both on numerous occasions. And she wants to feel safe by having another person with her.
 
I've never been convinced by the science of evolutionary psychology. Mostly I see it used as a way to justify societal expectations.
By all means, don't listen to people that use evolution to explain away all if their specific vices. But they shouldn't discredit the actual science. Evolution doesn't explain our very specific desires like "As a man I need to make more than my woman," they explain that men need to feel dominant. Us men aren't genetically predisposed to want to make more money, just to be dominant. Society shapes the idea that more money = more dominant. That leads us men to want to make more money than our female partner.
 
I've never been convinced by the science of evolutionary psychology. Mostly I see it used as a way to justify societal expectations.
That's the same thinking climate deniers have :P

Sexism, Racism, etc are all wrong in the eyes of our society, as they should be, but don't deny that they have very clear connections to our evolutionary history.
It means that old cultural gender roles and TRADITIONS need to go away and people be treated in a "people by people" case.

Your girlfriend is a person who is happy with THIS PART of the old gender roles. Does not mean that it should be forced to everyone.

yeah not all of the old gender roles are good, but a lot of them are harmless if people just take some common sense to them. Taking your girl out on a date shouldn't be some kind of taboo. Whats taboo is when it gets crazy and she expects you to pay for EVERYTHING. Or if I expected her to cook for me ALL the time.

Has she given you a reason for this? Because if it's to be protected, I don't think that results from some "instinctual" need to feel protected, but because American society as a whole values the male gender over the female, so on average more men cat-call and stare creepily at women a lot .I've been subject to both on numerous occasions. And she wants to feel safe by having another person with her.

It depends. Sometimes she just wants to see me sooner and have a nice walk with me. Sometimes she doesn't want to walk home at night and wants to feel more safe. Her walk home is brightly lit and populated for the most part. But there was a time I did surprise her by meeting her on her walk, and I ended up coming up to her while she was talking to this dude who kept asking if she had a lighter or cigs and how to get to a certain place I forget... But he was clearly high or something. Probably harmless but she was still on edge about it.
 
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