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LGBThread |OT4| We're (still) Here! We're (still) Queer!

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For me I didn't figure out that I was Bisexual til a few months back, it never really clicked in my mind that I had a thing for guys and be attracted to them sexually as well til I met met up with other LGBT Furries from the area and kinda went from there. But it's been a very positive thing in my mind, as I have met so many great people from the area along with being very supportive, and will be in the fall once College starts back up again, joining the Pride and Allies club to meet others as well, and maybe next year going to Seattle Pride and such.
 

VegiHam

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For me I didn't figure out that I was Bisexual til a few months back, it never really clicked in my mind that I had a thing for guys and be attracted to them sexually as well til I met met up with other LGBT Furries from the area and kinda went from there. But it's been a very positive thing in my mind, as I have met so many great people from the area along with being very supportive, and will be in the fall once College starts back up again, joining the Pride and Allies club to meet others as well, and maybe next year going to Seattle Pride and such.
Confession time: I'm still not like 100% sure if I'm bi or not. So you know don't feel like you're too much of a newbie, some of us aren't even there yet :p
 

Kater

Banned
For me I didn't figure out that I was Bisexual til a few months back, it never really clicked in my mind that I had a thing for guys and be attracted to them sexually as well til I met met up with other LGBT Furries from the area and kinda went from there. But it's been a very positive thing in my mind, as I have met so many great people from the area along with being very supportive, and will be in the fall once College starts back up again, joining the Pride and Allies club to meet others as well, and maybe next year going to Seattle Pride and such.
LGBT Furries? Sounds colourful! Is there an OT for furries on here? (I know only one for MLP fans)

Confession time: I'm still not like 100% sure if I'm bi or not. So you know don't feel like you're too much of a newbie, some of us aren't even there yet :p

It takes time to figure out who you really are. So chill, no rush there. If you like keeping only girls (or boys), that's cool too.
 

VegiHam

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It takes time to figure out who you really are. So chill, no rush there. If you like keeping only girls (or boys), that's cool too.
Haha, I'm not rushing. But I've known I liked other boys for maybe 5 years now and I'm still not clear on what I think of girls. Can't help but feel like I've had enough time to ruminate and should have a conclusion by now.
 

daripad

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Life is pretty awesome even if bad stuff happens, guise. Cheer up!

Not for everyone. When bad stuff happens more frequently than good stuff it is just not worthy

Not saying it applies for me, but there are surely people out there that have it rough
 

Sai-kun

Banned
Don't worry about it, Vegi. My first relationship was with a guy and lasted a decent while, and I had never actually been with a girl before it, so I did a lot of questioning myself. But I got it figured out in the end :)

Love your new avatar. :)

Thank you :) <3 Album of the yearrrr
 
The best part about the modern era is that you still have literally all those things.
I think that's the coldest thing you've posted on this forum so far, CornBurrito. :(

Growing up in the deep South (very rural area, too), we had no openly gay people at my school. They would have gotten teased and likely beaten up if they had came out. There was one kid in my grade who everyone thought was gay and teased him about it. I found him later on a dating website and yup, he was gay. I was too scared/shy back then to really talk to anyone about being gay and now I regret that I didn't really talk to him or become friends. I knew I was gay since around 12-13 - or a least I knew I was attracted to other guys and felt nothing for girls. I didn't fully accept it until later (and even tried dating girls in high school - sometimes just to fit in).
I'd say it's never too early or too late to be honest with yourself, as we all come from different environments where that may not be possible. But yeah, having people similar to oneself at those critical ages would have been nice. If it weren't for the internet, I probably wouldn't have known that other gay people actually existed. It's weird growing up in an environment where something like homosexuality isn't remotely acknowledged or discussed, even with it made into a boogeyman through criminalizing it through the legal system. (I guess I still bear those scars today in some way.) I thought one girl was cool in the 4th grade, but never anything more than that, and felt totally out of the loop when people had general attraction towards members of the opposite sex as we got older. I had a few years of self-hatred that culminated in some deep depression, but I never felt pressured to date women at least; I would have rather just been alone.
 

VegiHam

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Don't worry about it, Vegi. My first relationship was with a guy and lasted a decent while, and I had never actually been with a girl before it, so I did a lot of questioning myself. But I got it figured out in the end :)
I'm trying not to worry. But I always feel awkward not knowing if I should say I'm gay or bi when it comes up. Like I know I'm more into dudes but am I into chicks enough to qualify anyway? Or will people be disappointed with how gay a bi dude I am? But what if I say gay and then horrify someone by getting a girlfriend or something? ;)

...I guess it's not really that important though.
Just enjoy the guys and hey, if it clicks with a girl, go for it.
This is probably the right answer. Understanding myself is what's important I guess.
 

Kater

Banned
Haha, I'm not rushing. But I've known I liked other boys for maybe 5 years now and I'm still not clear on what I think of girls. Can't help but feel like I've had enough time to ruminate and should have a conclusion by now.
Just enjoy the guys and hey, if it clicks with a girl, go for it.
Thank you :) <3 Album of the yearrrr

Which album? Name of the artist? :eek:
Thought it was just some photo of a model since I first saw it on your twitter profile.
 

Grizzo

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Just enjoy the guys and hey, if it clicks with a girl, go for it.


Which album? Name of the artist? :eek:
Thought it was just some photo of a model since I first saw it on your twitter profile.

La Roux - Trouble In Paradise

(and he's right it's a great album)
 

Sai-kun

Banned
I'm not sure how old you are, but I can definitely empathize with not knowing how to respond.

My only suggestion would be to answer however you feel comfortable. You don't need to explain or prove yourself to ANYONE, queer or not. The only thing that matters is how you feel about yourself.

The beauty of bisexuality is that it seems like we bi folk experience it in all sorts of ways. The only qualifier (in my mind, and even this is different for some people) is being attracted to the same and other genders. You don't need to have had a crush on a certain amount of girls or boys, and you definitely don't need to meet other people's expectations of bisexuality.

If anyone gives you shit over it, call them a shithead and move on.
 
I've always wondered what it would have been like in my middle school and high school days if there were openly gay people around and it was treated like anything else. Living in the deep south, it seemed like the only gay people I ever saw were the more feminine guys, and I was always too scared to try and approach them with the topic. I guess it's something to strive for in the future with kids. The worst thing about so many rural communities is that there really is just no where to go for support. One girl I knew in high school told her best friend, who then proceeded to tell her mom who then told the girl's mom she was gay and got her kicked out of the house.
 

RM8

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Not for everyone. When bad stuff happens more frequently than good stuff it is just not worthy

Not saying it applies for me, but there are surely people out there that have it rough
Yes, but - and I realize this is kind of an unpopular opinion, you basically won the life lottery if you have a working brain and working hands to properly (and freely) word how much life sucks from the safety and comfort of your house, with your access to internet. Short of having a mental condition, people with such privilege should at the very least try to focus on the many positive aspects of their (yes, non-utopian and even hard) lives IMO.

This is not really aimed at anyone here, BTW, just my general opinion on the matter.
 

Kater

Banned
La Roux - Trouble In Paradise

(and he's right it's a great album)
Will check it out. Name rings a bell, haven't heard about the album though.
Yep, but I'm not sure when people last posted in it. Probably last week -- it's not very active.
That's surprising, seeing as most other OTs are so very active. (Hell, just look at FakeGAF, you'd think the idea of a MiniGAF would die down but nope)
I've always wondered what it would have been like in my middle school and high school days if there were openly gay people around and it was treated like anything else. Living in the deep south, it seemed like the only gay people I ever saw were the more feminine guys, and I was always too scared to try and approach them with the topic. I guess it's something to strive for in the future with kids.

The flamboyant ones are just the ones who stand out more. And yeah, I'm hoping too that future generations can have some more acceptance in school at least.

Also, didn't know you posted here!
 
LGBT Furries? Sounds colourful! Is there an OT for furries on here? (I know only one for MLP fans)
Well Furries are a pretty colorful bunch to say the least...
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(This is from an annual local furry bowling meetup, haven't been to it, but will going in like a week or so for the next one.)
But joking aside, there are a lot of furries who do identify as LGBT in some fashion. It makes up about half the fandom if we were to put it into perspective, it used to be a lot more gay centric, but has evened out over the years to where the both LGBT and Straight are pretty 50/50. And yes there is a OT Thread for Furries, but it kinda fluctuates in terms of forum activity.
 

daripad

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Yes, but - and I realize this is kind of an unpopular opinion, you basically won the life lottery if you have a working brain and working hands to properly (and freely) word how much life sucks from the safety and comfort of your house, with your access to internet. Short of having a mental condition, people with such privilege should at the very least try to focus on the many positive aspects of their (yes, non-utopian and even hard) lives IMO.

This is not really aimed at anyone here, BTW, just my general opinion on the matter.

You were talking about us posters here? Because I would have to agree then, we have enough privileges in this world to be okay at least.
 
Yes, but - and I realize this is kind of an unpopular opinion, you basically won the life lottery if you have a working brain and working hands to properly (and freely) word how much life sucks from the safety and comfort of your house, with your access to internet. Short of having a mental condition, people with such privilege should at the very least try to focus on the many positive aspects of their (yes, non-utopian and even hard) lives IMO.

This is not really aimed at anyone here, BTW, just my general opinion on the matter.

I think people can simultaneously recognize how fortunate they are, as well as how fragile everything is. Just looking through the illusory nature of our 'peace of mind', and enjoying everything in the simplicity of how it is, are both kind of superficial in a way. Personally I think you have to do both.
 

Kater

Banned
Well Furries are a pretty colorful bunch to say the least...

(This is from an annual local furry bowling meetup, haven't been to it, but will going in like a week or so for the next one.)
But joking aside, there are a lot of furries who do identify as LGBT in some fashion. It makes up about half the fandom if we were to put it into perspective, it used to be a lot more gay centric, but has evened out over the years to where the both LGBT and Straight are pretty 50/50. And yes there is a OT Thread for Furries, but it kinda fluctuates in terms of forum activity.

Amazed at the picture of the meeting. What a mass of people in colourful costumes. Love it. (Though I personally would have a problem with sweating under that costume)
I also really like the OT header. (Also, I'm now interested in Blacksad after seeing those screens in the OP)
 

Erebus

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The feeling when you realize you're not as important to that special someone as he is to you. It hurts the same every single time!
 

Grizzo

Member
The feeling when you realize you're not as important to that special someone as he is to you. It hurts the same every single time!

awww, see the thing is most of the time you can't help it and it's really hard to convince yourself that you better let go. Hope you'll be okay. On to the next one!

There there

*hugs*


*hugs again*
 

garyBig

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Haha, I'm not rushing. But I've known I liked other boys for maybe 5 years now and I'm still not clear on what I think of girls. Can't help but feel like I've had enough time to ruminate and should have a conclusion by now.

Well, at least you're not alone. I feel quite the same way. But right now i'm just content with not subscribing to any label. If someone asks, all I can tell them are truths.

Am I into guys? - Absolutely.
Was I genuinely in love with my ex girlfriend? - Yep, totally.
Did her body alone do anything for me? - Not too much.
What are you looking for relationship-wise at this moment? - A boy.
Could you imagine ever being together with or falling for a girl again? - Why not, everything's possible, I guess.
 

Haly

One day I realized that sadness is just another word for not enough coffee.
Kinsey tells us sexuality is a gradient. So if you've had a girlfriend, and you loved her a lot, and there was physical attraction there, but all in all you prefer the dick, well, that's no big. You're probably like a 5 on the scale, so...
 
Amazed at the picture of the meeting. What a mass of people in colourful costumes. Love it. (Though I personally would have a problem with sweating under that costume)
I also really like the OT header. (Also, I'm now interested in Blacksad after seeing those screens in the OP)
Indeed, and will be seeing a lot more at end of September with Seattle's local furry con, RainFurriest, which is one of the larger ones in the country.

Anyways I was playing SMT: Nocturne today and came across this
Forgot that this was in there the last time I played, lol
 

garyBig

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Kinsey tells us sexuality is a gradient. So if you've had a girlfriend, and you loved her a lot, and there was physical attraction there, but all in all you prefer the dick, well, that's no big. You're probably like a 5 on the scale, so...

Yeah, I've always thought of it in terms of a gradient scale. It's just really weird to struggle with pinpointing oneself on it in a world where people don't even know that there IS a scale.
But yeah: "Are you gay?" "No, I'm a Kinsey 4.8!" sounds rad. Might just try that haha
 

Dash_

Member
So I've kind of talked myself into taking on a volunteer role for a local LGBT organisation that's going to involve helping to educate GPs potentially about trans issues and distributing information around clinics. Kind of worried that I've bitten off more than I can chew considering that it's likely to be a role that is going to need someone to be very outgoing (I have SA).

Hopefully it'll be the right kick I need to get me out of this self-imposed comfort zone. Still worried I'm going to fuck it up though.
 

Haly

One day I realized that sadness is just another word for not enough coffee.
Would make things easier for a lot of "pure" gays, yeah, probably.
 

garyBig

Member
I kinda wish I was physically into women.

I felt that way when I still deluded myself into thinking I was romantically compatible exclusively to gals and physically attracted exclusively to guys. I thought all those people who are able to love their partners on both levels equally don't even know how lucky they are. Thank the gods that I'm over that phase now :)

So guys I am engaged now?...well since May.is New Mexico the closest place to Texas that has same sex marriage?

Hey, congratz!
 

Erebus

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awww, see the thing is most of the time you can't help it and it's really hard to convince yourself that you better let go. Hope you'll be okay. On to the next one!

There there

*hugs*

*hugs again*
*hugs back*

Hope my luck will change at some point. Although I'm not overly optimistic, it's always been like this for me.
 

Kater

Banned
So I've kind of talked myself into taking on a volunteer role for a local LGBT organisation that's going to involve helping to educate GPs potentially about trans issues and distributing information around clinics. Kind of worried that I've bitten off more than I can chew considering that it's likely to be a role that is going to need someone to be very outgoing (I have SA).

Hopefully it'll be the right kick I need to get me out of this self-imposed comfort zone. Still worried I'm going to fuck it up though.

As long as you are having fun educating people about these issues, that's okay. If you feel overwhelmed with the work you are doing for them though, you could always just ask the people in this organization if they could find someone else instead.
 

Dash_

Member
Aye. There are other more behind-the-scene roles I can take if so. Just feel I need to try something I ordinarily wouldn't.

If it goes wrong I've lost nothing. Lots to gain if it goes well.
 

Dany

Banned
It's funny how some people talk about California as some kind of weather paradise, but when we went there earlier this year, it wasn't much different than Seattle: beautiful one day, cloudy and randomly raining the rest of the time. Definitely muggy (yuck).

In terms of sightseeing, I'm sure you'll find plenty to keep you occupied. Make an effort to hit Craftsman & Wolves and/or Tartine, though! They're right down the street from each other.


Will try to make time for it, looks delicious thanks! :)
 
Second date, not as great as the first one, mostly because it was much shorter, he came to my place, he's either really horny or just interested in getting off but at least it's not like he just fucks me and then leaves, we cuddle, talk a lot, eat, etc...

Obviously I'm assuming the worst and thinking he just wants some casual fun but would love to be proven wrong. I cooked for him, it obviously felt great, he seemed to appreciate it. As I said I didn't think I'd see him again but he seems to still be interested. Hopefully there'll be a third this weekend and he'll stay over again.

*crosses fingers*
 

eosos

Banned
First post in here, whaats up??

Recently started kind of seeing a guy for the first time. Its pretty awesome so far. We live a bit apart, but we've met up a good amount of times. Afraid the distance will kill it though.
 

Kater

Banned
First post in here, whaats up??

Recently started kind of seeing a guy for the first time. Its pretty awesome so far. We live a bit apart, but we've met up a good amount of times. Afraid the distance will kill it though.

Hello and welcome, eosos!

I'm doing nothing at the moment. Well, outside of cooking.

And congratulations on finding someone to date. How far do you live apart?
 

eosos

Banned
Hello and welcome, eosos!

I'm doing nothing at the moment. Well, outside of cooking.

And congratulations on finding someone to date. How far do you live apart?
Thanks mate!

We live about 40 minutes apart currently. But we're going back to school soon which will make it a few hours apart. There are also a myriad of other issues. But its no big deal, Im having fun with it for now!
 

Kater

Banned
Thanks mate!

We live about 40 minutes apart currently. But we're going back to school soon which will make it a few hours apart. There are also a myriad of other issues. But its no big deal, Im having fun with it for now!

I'm sure you can figure something out. Maybe some sweet letters. I know, that's a bit old times, but it's as personal as it can get if you are that far apart.

http://www.cinemablend.com/television/Could-Walking-Dead-Daryl-Dixon-Gay-66760.html

I seriously would love to see the drama over this if it became true.

Tina &#8226; 7 minutes ago

I get so tired of hearing people complain about the relationship, sexual encounters etc between these people because they are still humans, they are still trying to make sense in a world that doesn't make sense anymore!! They wanna feel alive.. We have to get to know these characters... Feel for them, or we wouldn't care or have that shock factor when one of them dies, or gets in a bad situation.. They still feel, they still care some if they didn't we wouldn't watch them or connect to them.. They keep us wanting more week after week.. I am a huge huge Walking Dead fan!! Never ever ever have I ever been so addicted to a show!! I'm pretty sure of it ever gets canceled I'll need therapy!! It killed me when Sopia died, Hershel died, felt like I lost part of the family.. I take up for this show all the time on Facebook, blogs, Tweeter, chat rooms, etc.. But if they turn Daryl's Character gay I do believe it will be time for myself and our whole family that all have a big Walking Day Family get together day with bonfire, weenie roast, smores etc every Sunday to find something else to watch and sadly give up the best show that has every been made..

Tina &#8226; 25 minutes ago

You have a HUGE fan base of women that are Daryl fans.. They are "in love" with Daryl.. I believe its such a high number that it would really hurt your fan base.. Nothing against gay men or the gay community at all!! Some of my best friends are gay and I have a few gay family members.. but no one wants this big tough hero who turns out to be Peter Pan...

Uncontested &#8226; 41 minutes ago

How does the saying go? If Daryl dies... i mean... is gay; we riot.

kedlharris &#8226; an hour ago

The gay population in the U.S. is somewhere between 2.5% to 5%, depending on whose data you want to believe. The gay population on TV is something like 30 to 40% (seems more, every show has to have a gay character now, and they always need to be the most noble of the characters). So this is a fantastic show, I'll keep watching no matter what - but it would be so politically correct and even stereotypical for TWD to make the big badass hero guy that we all admire Gay. And that would be disappointing.
*Rolls around on the floor, laughing*

*rolls eyes*

*closes tab*
 

VegiHam

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I'm not sure how old you are, but I can definitely empathize with not knowing how to respond.

My only suggestion would be to answer however you feel comfortable. You don't need to explain or prove yourself to ANYONE, queer or not. The only thing that matters is how you feel about yourself.

The beauty of bisexuality is that it seems like we bi folk experience it in all sorts of ways. The only qualifier (in my mind, and even this is different for some people) is being attracted to the same and other genders. You don't need to have had a crush on a certain amount of girls or boys, and you definitely don't need to meet other people's expectations of bisexuality.

If anyone gives you shit over it, call them a shithead and move on.
Haha, I'm almost 20 now; but I guess that's still kinda young right? Don't need to have everything figured out. I suppose I'm most comfortable with Bi, since I am attracted to guys and girls.
Thanks for the advice Sai-sensei ;)
Well, at least you're not alone. I feel quite the same way. But right now i'm just content with not subscribing to any label. If someone asks, all I can tell them are truths.

Am I into guys? - Absolutely.
Was I genuinely in love with my ex girlfriend? - Yep, totally.
Did her body alone do anything for me? - Not too much.
What are you looking for relationship-wise at this moment? - A boy.
Could you imagine ever being together with or falling for a girl again? - Why not, everything's possible, I guess.
Hurray for the complex tapestry of human emotional/sexual experience and yay for other people who are a little lost in the margins! :p
 
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