Jeez, how did I not think of Beckett.
Actually, I know why. I still haven't forgiven him for being mean to my beautiful Sasha.
There's also Koi Boi in Unbeatable Squirrel Girl.
That entire issue was Sasha's fault, dammit. Beckett was right.
Jeez, how did I not think of Beckett.
Actually, I know why. I still haven't forgiven him for being mean to my beautiful Sasha.
There's also Koi Boi in Unbeatable Squirrel Girl.
Huh? The post I quoted was explicitly about that...
There was the minor character of Tony in Orphan Black. He was played by a ciswoman, but the twist is that he's a clone of other characters who are all biologically female (all played by the same actress). Some have said it was a bad character, but I didn't really mind him.
Edit: I don't actually know what trans people thought of the character, whether they thought it was a lame token, or if they appreciated the representation, or whatnot. All I remember is people in the Orphan Black OT going "WTF", which I thought was weird.
That entire issue was Sasha's fault, dammit. Beckett was right.
Huh? The post I quoted was explicitly about that...
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Asking an honest question, hopefully this doesn't sound hateful. I have had thoughts about this, so the trans women on some of the Giant Bomb casts mentioned on an episode (I think Danswers) that while on a first date with a women told her they had transitioned to female, and the date immediately said the date was over, and on the podcast said something along the lines of your shouldn't judge by a chromosome. I feel like the offended person in a scenario like that is justified if they did not know in advance.
Asking an honest question, hopefully this doesn't sound hateful. I have had thoughts about this, so the trans women on some of the Giant Bomb casts mentioned on an episode (I think Danswers) that while on a first date with a women told her they had transitioned to female, and the date immediately said the date was over, and on the podcast said something along the lines of your shouldn't judge by a chromosome. I feel like the offended person in a scenario like that is justified if they did not know in advance.
Could you link me to that? I'm thinking it was Erica/aurahack? and I'd love to hear/see more from her after first seeing her at Extra Life last November.
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Very helpful insight from someone just trying to understand another perspective.
What does knowing in advance or not have to do with judging someone based off a chromosome?
What does knowing in advance or not have to do with judging someone based off a chromosome?
As many people have pointed out, someone being trans says nothing about their genitalsedit: I see you edited your comment.
Because not being attracted to a trans person isn't a judgment of their character. If their sex organs are a make-or-break part of the deal for the person on the date, I think that's a totally legitimate thing to base a relationship off of.
If they're an asshole about it, that's a different story. It's just really hard for me to see how "surprising" someone as a trans person could work out well.
As many people have pointed out, someone being trans says nothing about their genitals
(my edit was just for grammar. forgot a question mark)
Very helpful insight from someone just trying to understand another perspective.
Dude you basically said it's cool for a someone to just abruptly end a date (can you imagine how painful that would be for the trans person) because someone said they were trans and place the blame on the trans person for what not properly identifying themselves?
Being an asshole isn't OK. It's not the trans person's fault.
But when you make a transgender 101 thread and people are coming in and asking questions about the emerging social misconceptions that will only become more and more commonplace, it seems a little mean spirited to give one word answers to people without more explanation, as if they should have known better.
What may be common sense to you or others may literally have never even crossed someones mind before.
Dude you basically said it's cool for a someone to just abruptly end a date (can you imagine how painful that would be for the trans person) because someone said they were trans and place the blame on the trans person for what not properly identifying themselves?
Also this is it ok to just not want to date trans people has literally be covered in this thread ad nauseum.
It was literally the entire last page discussing it though
If you're going on a date with someone you're sexually interested in because of their sex organs, someone being trans says that they may or not be what they anticipate.
It seems like that is relevant, is it not?
You make it sound like I created the scenario, I was just asking how others feel about what was said on the situation that occurred from the podcast.
Link to an explanation of it then? Seems like a much better solution than to be harsh and blunt in a thread that seems to be dedicated to explaining the growing understanding of trans people in the world.
Doesn't it seem to you that people may see the thread title, read the OP, and then just ask a question they have without reading the entire thread to see if it's been covered already?
It strikes me that an ornery attitude doesn't really serve anyone's best interests, at least in this thread.
Sorry If I upset or offended anyone. I have little to no experience of these things and probably shouldn't be posting in this thread.
You said, you felt justified that the guy ended the date because she was trans. And we're saying, no. He is not.
I think people would at least do a quick skim of a thread to see if their question was already addressed. Its not like its a very long thread. Not to mention, its also on this page as well that you can see we were talking about it.
Being an asshole isn't OK. It's not the trans person's fault.
But when you make a transgender 101 thread and people are coming in and asking questions about the emerging social misconceptions that will only become more and more commonplace, it seems a little mean spirited to give one word answers to people without more explanation, as if they should have known better.
What may be common sense to you or others may literally have never even crossed someones mind before.
I have a blunt response because there wasn't even a question, it was a statement, trans people need to out themselves before even thinking of dating someone and if the other person is totally in the right to just call it off on the spot because.... no reason was even given.
Well your face is going to be red when you go back and ACTUALLY READ the persons post. But hey don't let that stop you from jumping to conclusions and judging people.
Asking an honest question, hopefully this doesn't sound hateful. I have had thoughts about this, so the trans women on some of the Giant Bomb casts mentioned on an episode (I think Danswers) that while on a first date with a women told her they had transitioned to female, and the date immediately said the date was over, and on the podcast said something along the lines of your shouldn't judge by a chromosome. I feel like the offended person in a scenario like that is justified if they did not know in advance.
"may or may not be" is the important point there. If someone is concerned about about genitalia they can ask, but that's not the scenario being described here where a date is ended the second the word "trans" is brought up.
It's also worth noting that there's a wide variety of variances in the reproductive organs of cis people (circumcision/FGM, intersex conditions, accidents, micropenis, etc) that don't receive nearly the same level of preemptive concern and hand wringing that trans people get when dating.
I have a blunt response because there wasn't even a question, it was a statement, trans people need to out themselves before even thinking of dating someone and if the other person is totally in the right to just call it off on the spot because.... no reason was even given.
They said they didn't agree with the assertion, but they started by saying they had a question. Clearly they were open to reason.
If you think you are a girl and you would like to transition then really you should put some thought into actually doing that.
You sexuality really doesn't matter, so what if that makes you a lesbian? I am transitioning within the next month while married and plan to stay with my wife, making us a lesbian relationship I guess, but that doesn't really make it any more hopeless or weird than if I was dating a guy instead.
(Also jump into TransGAF if you wish to talk, there are lots of open-minded people willing to talk!)
They have said multiple times, that they feel the date was completely justifiable to end right there and then because she was trans.
You make it sound like I created the scenario, I was just asking how others feel about what was said on the situation that occurred from the podcast.
cis hetero men who refuse to date trans women or cis hetero women who refuse to date trans men: transphobic or no?
No. Nobody can be forced to date someone they don't want to, it doesn't matter the reason, it's personal. Everybody "chooses" who to date or not to based on some preferences. C'mon, let's not create a problem out of nowhere, please.
I'll let HBP speak for themselves but I got the feeling they were advocating the position that trans people should disclose that they're trans before going on a date with someone more than they were advocating being an asshole in the middle of a date because of said revelation.
Asking an honest question, hopefully this doesn't sound hateful. I have had thoughts about this, so the trans women on some of the Giant Bomb casts mentioned on an episode (I think Danswers) that while on a first date with a women told her they had transitioned to female, and the date immediately said the date was over, and on the podcast said something along the lines of your shouldn't judge by a chromosome. I feel like the offended person in a scenario like that is justified if they did not know in advance.
You think that's a problem out of nowhere?
No. Nobody can be forced to date someone they don't want to, it doesn't matter the reason, it's personal. Everybody "chooses" who to date or not to based on some preferences. C'mon, let's not create a problem out of nowhere, please.
Why are you not attracted to any trans people? What quality is negative?I do, people have always "select" who they would date, what's the deal? Do I have to date even people I'm not attracted to?
Why are you not attracted to any trans people? What quality is negative?
Common casual transphobia(not just gaf), super generally, I'd say would be like ignoring research and experiences that trans people provide and continuing to treat something as up for debate, whether it's the dating thing for participation in sports or people going out of their way to complain "there are one billion gender identities". Often trans people just get ignored compared to other minorities and don't receive support until there's a really large argument going on. Also misgendering celebrities is common (gaf is generally pretty good at that one barring a couple people per thread that get corrected immediately). Being more nit picky some people say that a trans person is becoming the gender that they identify as when in reality they were that gender all along.When people say that GAF of all places can be casually transphobic what do they mean exactly? is it just the dating thing?
Those are good ones. With the second I even got it from my therapist. The whole "are you sure?" might mean well but it's not like I didn't spend years debating it in my head before *finally* feeling comfortable about coming forward and taking about it to someoneIt mostly has to do with language and attitude. It often comes out into the open when gender roles are discussed, since that seems to be a bit of an insecurity for people. The idea of someone transitioning from female to male calls into question the legitimacy of gender roles, but also the legitimacy of the person who is transitioning.
When people say that GAF of all places can be casually transphobic what do they mean exactly? is it just the dating thing?
Common casual transphobia(not just gaf), super generally, I'd say would be like ignoring research and experiences that trans people provide and continuing to treat something as up for debate, whether it's the dating thing for participation in sports or people going out of their way to complain "there are one billion gender identities". Often trans people just get ignored compared to other minorities and don't receive support until there's a really large argument going on. Also misgendering celebrities is common (gaf is generally pretty good at that one barring a couple people per thread that get corrected immediately). Being more nit picky some people say that a trans person is becoming the gender that they identify as when in reality they were that gender all along.
Around liberal circles there's an issue of claiming to be pro trans rights but not knowing what that entails and then fighting trans people when they are expecting help in their fights for their rights.
Basically people on GAF do the same things that others elsewhere do. GAF might be better than most places but it still has to deal with the same issues
Those are good ones. With the second I even got it from my therapist. The whole "are you sure?" might mean well but it's not like I didn't spend years debating it in my head before *finally* feeling comfortable about coming forward and taking about it to someone
Not the biggest fan of calling TERFs 'psuedo" feminists.
I mean they ARE feminists, just really bad ones.
I think people really need to learn how to own the bad people in their group instead pretending they're fake or don't exist.
How can you be a feminist if you openly discriminate against other women?