Ahhh, of course, how didn't I guess...no one wants to be a racist so 27 pages of mental gymnastics.
Shame.
Ahhh, of course, how didn't I guess...no one wants to be a racist so 27 pages of mental gymnastics.
By equating them to what gender people are attracted to.
And you actually expect people to take your "argument" seriously.
Denying your baby/child a medical procedure that can vastly increase their quality of life because you're afraid of cultural drift is completely unacceptable to me. The point is "maintaining culture" can lead to a lot of morally reprehensible decisions and this is just one of them. I don't even want to get into, for example, arranged marriages or coerced polygamy, and those are cultural too.
I'm big on cultural relativism by the way, but I have spent a lot of time thinking about these things and I have lines in the sand drawn all over the place so I can't and won't grant people a blanket "well it's their culture" license.
You feel sexual preference is a choice?
You're attempting to argue that it's OK to refuse to date a gender (I think you mean ”sex", gender is something enteriely) due to physical attributes, but it's NOT OKAY when those physical attributes belong to a race.
I don't see how having a sexual preference is much difference than a physical preference, when both are pretty similar.
Absolutely not. It's not a choice.
Some people in this thread are trying to say you can change what you're attracted to, by I assume, some sort of ”conversion therapy".
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Conversion_therapy
Which is sickening.
Absolutely not. Its not a choice.
Some people in this thread are trying to say you can change what youre attracted to, by I assume, some sort of conversion therapy.
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Conversion_therapy
Which is sickening.
And I argued that you cant control what skin color nor physical features youre attracted to.
I just dont see how that makes you a racist.
Nope nope nope[generic pretty boys]
You can't force someone to change who they find attractive.
This goes for more than just race. This is not a just racism issue.
It's ridiculous. Some of the things in this thread sound like they're coming from hyper conservatives which is something I did not expect from this forum.
This is something that's difficult to articulate but I do get it.
I'm open to dating anyone that I'm attracted to. But I do admit that when I date non-black (and particularly, black american) I do miss the solidarity aspect of being with a black woman. There are certain shared experiences as black people living in the south that we joke about, talk about, and communicate to each other non-verbally that is comforting and even romantic/attractive.
And yes the example you listed about you both having nappy hair is something me and my black girlfriend also joke about and share together. Just yesterday she had a story about her job, pay, and her natural hair (where she is the only black woman) that she could unload in a way that didn't involve a lot of explanation. And there are probably 1000 other little every day things that she has never had to explain to me academically about her experience, and vice versa. We just get it. And it's comforting to come home and have that.
The free flowing, 'you're in my head' conversations we have after watching Insecure, or Get Out, or a black comedy special, or see Viola win best actress, or see a police car behind us, and the way we communicate using shorthand words, phrases, black movie quotes, looks, grins, contextual use of the n-word or other black slurs like jigaboo etc is just something I really enjoy. And it's something that, in my experience with dating non-black women, has been something I missed. Sure I could get it from friends and family, but it's just different not having it as strongly with your partner.
Again that's not to say I wouldn't date non-black women. I have. I would. And it's also not saying all experiences with a black woman would be the same (I dated a Nigerian girl and we didn't really share what I just listed above). My relationship with my current girlfriend is largely dependent on her as an individual, not solely because she's black. But I'm not going to act like I don't get what you're saying.
Absolutely not. Its not a choice.
Some people in this thread are trying to say you can change what youre attracted to, by I assume, some sort of conversion therapy.
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Conversion_therapy
Which is sickening.
Lets take a stab in the dark and suggest there might be a history surrounding race, not to mention current implementations of racist systems, that makes it different. The key failing that's coming up again and again in this thread, with no justifications, is reducing race to a physical attribute.
No, people in this thread are saying that attraction can have a social basis. Which is demonstrably true, your petty attempts at childish strawman moralizing aside.
Of course all of this is irrelevant because you've still yet to even attempt to establish why not having control over something would make it not racist anyway.
Oh mY GOD you're intentionally being dense.
I already discussed in my original post that it's okay to refuse to date a race based on physical attributes, but it's not okay, and pretty racist, to refuse a race based on the rest of the definition.
Absolutely not. Its not a choice.
Some people in this thread are trying to say you can change what youre attracted to, by I assume, some sort of conversion therapy.
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Conversion_therapy
Which is sickening.
when he keeps on coming back to this point I can only assume he's throwing out cries of homophobia in order to distract from not only his own racism but his lack of willingness to confront it, regardless of whether or not he is aware of it.
Absolutely not. Its not a choice.
Some people in this thread are trying to say you can change what youre attracted to, by I assume, some sort of conversion therapy.
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Conversion_therapy
Which is sickening.
So, becoming more tolerant and open to the world around you is the same as "gay conversion therapy"?
Man, some people just really want to dig their heels in about being racist.
Culturally, I can accept that. Racially, no. I don't see why dating someone of a different race should require extra time and energy vs same race. Unless race is a big part of your life and you make a big deal about it at every opportunity, then again I'd have to ask why it's so important to you.
This I can accept, I guess, but at the same time, the path of least resistance often means maintaining the status quo, and if the status quo is racism then...
Hypothetically, yes, but when generic white girl/white guy on Tinder has "no blacks" on their profile, I would have to stretch my imagination to think that they're really interested in keeping alive their minority culture (like, what, Irish? Italian?, Germanic?) and not just blatantly shallow or prejudiced. Also, if they really were interested in, you know, keeping the culture alive, they wouldn't use "no PoC", they'd use "only <my race here>", but how often do you see this versus the opposite?
You can't force someone to be attracted to someone else.
You keep name calling, but you have no facts.
How arent they racist again?
Please tell me youve seen Boondocks and are familiar with uncle ruckus.
You keep name calling, but you have no facts.
You can't force someone to be attracted to someone else.
Over 1,300 comments over a topic that should be pretty cut and dry. Of course it's racist. You're disregarding an entire segment of the population due to skin color. That's racist.
You keep name calling, but you have no facts.
Absolutely not. Its not a choice.
Some people in this thread are trying to say you can change what youre attracted to, by I assume, some sort of conversion therapy.
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Conversion_therapy
Which is sickening.
I will downgrade from dats racist to ignant if y'all will cut the bullshit.
I will downgrade from dats racist to ignant if yall will cut the bullshit.
But it's not as cut and dry for some people. That's why this thread is the length that it is. It's okay for people to converse with others and share ideas.
No deal. Ignorance is the new "choice or preference" in all things race related.
Shhh theyll never learn if you dont coddle them!But if they're ignorant while refusing to learn and digging in their heels about what they ignorantly think, what does that make them?
While there has been tremendous progress over the last fifty years on this front, let's not pretend that it's all roses out there for interracial couples. And not everyone is built to want to endure looks, harassment, weird questions etc that comes with the territory, not to mention the challenges of raising a mixed/bi racial child.
I think people have lost track of what this thread is actually about.
We're discussing refusing to date people of a certain race.
Race meaning a number of things;
A classic definition:
”an arbitrary classification of modern humans, sometimes, especially formerly, based on any or a combination of various physical characteristics, as skin color, facial form, or eye shape, and now frequently based on such genetic markers as blood groups." via Dictionary.com
Many people are saying it's racist to not date people based on these attributes:
”any or a combination of various physical characteristics, as skin color, facial form, or eye shape"
Usually, when dating someone, you find them attractive, no?
I find it odd are trying to force the ”you have to find all races attractive, or you're racist!" in here. People are allowed the freedom of liking different things.
It doesnt have to be so black and white. (No pun intended)
Unless you are using a superficial modern definition where it means literal bloodline, which is of course racist.
But we aren't discussing that.
god your post is so annoying
the topic is about whether or not it's racist to not date people because of their race, and you're being annoyingly pedantic about it.
god your post is so annoying
the topic is about whether or not it's racist to not date people because of their race, and you're being annoyingly pedantic about it.
it's not that deep
It seems like everyone has their own definition of it.
I'm using the ones straight out of the English dictionary.
I think people have lost track of what this thread is actually about.
straight out of the English dictionary.
He isn't even being pedantic about it, about three seconds of thought can poke some massive holes in that definition and I hardly feel like dictionary.com should be taken as an authority on racism.
He isn't even being pedantic about it, about three seconds of thought can poke some massive holes in that definition and I hardly feel like dictionary.com should be taken as an authority on racism.
When someone isn't arguing in good faith I just ignore them. You should do the same.
Then I guess myself and a great many people whom I interact with are deemed racist.
Since we're not using official definitions
what's your personal definition of race?
Maybe that'll explain why you're not understanding my post
Where are these "official definitions" coming from?
Race refers to an imagined social group category, people are placed into these categories for a wider variety of reasons but they are generally understood to be theoretically based on presumed familial connection to an some ideal type member of the group. Of course that isn't true in practice. All races are at the end of the day is social labels that people place on themselves and each other. They have meaning only insofar as they are given operative social meaning. If you push too far on race you find nothing but the people that have been identified as members of that group.
I understand your posts, I don't think I've said anything that would indicate I do not. I disagree with both your understandings of these topics and your arguments.
The definitions are from dictionary.com
But by your definition, it is 100% racist.
Thats why I think this thread is so mixed and argrued; because everyone is using a different definition of race.
You keep name calling, but you have no facts.
You cant force someone to be attracted to someone else.
Conjecture: Segregation is a self perpetuating phenomenon as the isolation creates cultural rifts between the segregated peoples which in turn acts as a further barrier to them intermingling which in turn means they drift further and further apart by each generation.Culturally, I can accept that. Racially, no. I don't see why dating someone of a different race should require extra time and energy vs same race. Unless race is a big part of your life and you make a big deal about it at every opportunity, then again I'd have to ask why it's so important to you.