Well, her texting pretty much seals the deal. Sounds like you both had a really good time and had no issues meeting up again.
Yeah, I didn't really pursue anything because she just isn't someone I can have that "talk" with. As you mention, she is probably just well guarded, but, as a person that has been through quite a bit, I don't think she'll understand just how different I am compared to her friends and other people she knows. She offered to give me her number, but I didn't really push taking it. I don't know if that was a mistake because she is definitely someone that i can have fun with, but there are just too many limiting factors in my head. I haven't really blown her off, I've just been leaving her advances on the back burner, which so many women hate. There's good reason for that.
There's this Latina woman that I know and she has a really cute smile and an amazing curvy body. I find myself so attracted to her that I was kind of scared to speak to her in a way. Well, I guess that the mold was cracked when she started flirting with me when I asked her if the seat next to her was taken. She said that the seat was taken by her brother and I gave a pretty concerned "Oh-shit" face and put it back, but she exclaimed she was just joking and allowed for me to take it. I don't know when people are joking or not, so I get really concerned when it's a joke along the lines of that - it's like the only innocence that remains of me. I hate doing things that people tell me not to do.
After that, we start making more and more eye contact and eventually we start speaking to each other more and more. I have her laughing and we end up talking about shot glasses for whatever stupid reason. We start talking about drinking and drugs, etc. I mention how I don't drink that much, but she clearly likes to have a good time from time to time, but does agree against drugs. My only issue is that she's only 19, and she's so adamant about drinking. We were able to talk politics well and she's majoring ethnocentric Chicano/Chicana American studies - everything else is good.
I'm attracted to her, but I guess the age is the only thing that is getting in the way of a potentially amazing woman to date.
One does not try to figure out why one was ghosted, only to accept it as a part of online dating and move on without bitterness.
She cancelled today, had a feeling. Her excuse was she had a meeting with her manager, but she didn't offer to reschedule. Either way, got a date with someone else this saturday who's really into me (calls me "babe" and "prince" a lot lol).On a date today with another girl. Not expecting much considering we're quite sporadic in texting but who knows, could be a surprise face to face. London Film Festival has started so after the date got to head off to see a couple of films, so if not much comes out of it, still will have a fun day.
Gross, I avoid princesses.calls me "prince" a lot lol
Yeah, I know. But we actually talked about ghosting. She said someone did it to her once and she was all "what the hell's going on!". She said how she doesn't understand that phenomena, and that she'd rather just tell someone it's over, if only to have finality and to keep the guy from possibly stalking her, looking for some answers. LOLSorry mate, 8/10 of these "We had chemistry, amazing date" posts end up with a ghosting based on the sample size in this topic. Never forget: http://www.neogaf.com/forum/showpost.php?p=250382624&postcount=1562
I think the #1 reason is due to the nature of online dating and the constant barrage of people, especially for women. You go out with someone and they like you just fine, but then in between dates with that person, they find/meet someone (or a few people) "better"; more attractive, more interesting, live closer... etc. and then that first person, who liked you just fine at first, will probably ghost you because they're focusing on this new person.One does not try to figure out why one was ghosted, only to accept it as a part of online dating and move on without bitterness.
She cancelled today, had a feeling. Her excuse was she had a meeting with her manager, but she didn't offer to reschedule. Either way, got a date with someone else this saturday who's really into me (calls me "babe" and "prince" a lot lol).
Call her "my pauper"Gross, I avoid princesses.
It's not a bad thing that we're different, but it's not differences on a mental sense, but a cultural sense. When it comes to relationships with Asian and White women, I feel kind there's a part of me that is a bit much to handle. I'm 100% open to talking about race with women that I'm interested in, but it's something that they lack to mention and is something that I have to bring up. On top of that, my upbringing has really fucked with my head when it comes to dating. Right now, I'm looking for something long term, and someone that can help me explore at a near level that I'm at.1.Someone being different isn't always bad. She sounds like she pushes you out of your comfort zone. Thats good for you even if nothing happens. Stop talking yourself out of it and call/text her back.
2. Just go by the golden rule 1/2 age +7. Or in reverse ((their age) -7)x2.
If you are 24 or younger then you are good to go. If older probably move on.
It's not a bad thing that we're different, but it's not differences on a mental sense, but a cultural sense. When it comes to relationships with Asian and White women, I feel kind there's a part of me that is a bit much to handle. I'm 100% open to talking about race with women that I'm interested in, but it's something that they lack to mention and is something that I have to bring up. On top of that, my upbringing has really fucked with my head when it comes to dating. Right now, I'm looking for something long term, and someone that can help me explore at a near level that I'm at.
I'll get her number, but I'm not sure when I'll see her again. I'm doing a BBQ next week, so I'll make sure she's invited to have food and relax.
As for the Latina woman, she's really someone that I have interest in despite the age. She ticks off the boxes in terms of that mixture of maturity and fun. I'm 22, she's 19, so there's that age difference. I guess I may just go for it, but her eagerness about drinking is something I want to handle, especially when it comes down to her being underage. That just brings up problems.
I also think that whatever may go down between her and I may just turn into a friends with benefits type thing. The sex and whatever is fine, but that road isn't something that is healthy for me right now, no?
Yeah, it has held me up in many ways, but it's really hard to shake. I just grew up fast, so it skews my perspective on how a 22 year old should act. I'll just let whatever goes on with her work itself out.1. Let her make the choice of if you are too much to handle. Taking yourself away from people because you think you know whats best for them is a horrible attitude to have.
Well, shit. Remember how I was saying tonight I have a date with the final one of so many women I had lined up over the past few months? Last one's the charm, I guess!
Beyond having a great time where 4 hours flew by, and beyond connecting and having chemistry (though I believe chemistry comes with some time), I feel this is the first woman that actually "got" me. Sure plenty of women eventually "got" me, but never on a first date, not this quick. She was funny, full of personality, smart as fuck. And I got the sense she was into me as well (agreeing to a 2nd date with an immediate "hell yeah", and locking it in her calendar). We were equally attentive and engaged by each other - no one dominated. I had zero hopes/expectation for this date, but it surpassed every first date I've ever had. It is a numbers game after all.
But man, after sleepwalking through so many dates, it's nice to be woken up and surprised like this. Fingers crossed!!
*edit... I didn't think to text her when I got home, mostly 'cause it's late, but didn't wanna "overdo" it and bother her or whatever, but she just texted saying she had a wonderful evening with me... swoon!
Sure. But that wasn't my point.been there
we've all been there probably
you're setting yourself up to get one-shot by a critical hit
Sure. But that wasn't my point.
But my point was how the last date I had scheduled after so many, and the one I had the least expectations from, is the one that was head and shoulders better than the rest.
Guys i'm conflicted.
So lets assume you've got this friend. Your friend is really close with his little sister (legal drinking age). They're like best friends. He's also kind of got a protective attitude concerning her.
lets say you finally meet said sister, a few drinks happen, you hit it off. Nothing too intimate happens, but by the end of the night it's really obvious that you both are into eachother, and this is acknowledged. You've agreed to go out for drinks with said chick sometime later. your friend probably does not know this, and his sister probably wouldn't have told him anyway.
do you pursue or naw
I think it depends on how you treat women around him. If he knows you well and knows that you'll treat her right, then I don't see the big deal. Just be weary, if anything goes down between you two, it might mess up the relationship with your friend.Guys i'm conflicted.
So lets assume you've got this friend. Your friend is really close with his little sister (legal drinking age). They're like best friends. He's also kind of got a protective attitude concerning her.
lets say you finally meet said sister, a few drinks happen, you hit it off. Nothing too intimate happens, but by the end of the night it's really obvious that you both are into eachother, and this is acknowledged. You've agreed to go out for drinks with said chick sometime later. your friend probably does not know this, and his sister probably wouldn't have told him anyway.
do you pursue or naw
Guys i'm conflicted.
So lets assume you've got this friend. Your friend is really close with his little sister (legal drinking age). They're like best friends. He's also kind of got a protective attitude concerning her.
lets say you finally meet said sister, a few drinks happen, you hit it off. Nothing too intimate happens, but by the end of the night it's really obvious that you both are into eachother, and this is acknowledged. You've agreed to go out for drinks with said chick sometime later. your friend probably does not know this, and his sister probably wouldn't have told him anyway.
do you pursue or naw
One does not try to figure out why one was ghosted, only to accept it as a part of online dating and move on without bitterness.
that race dating thread is bonkers.
So many of us are influenced by society using white women as the standard of beauty but jesus fucking christ their are beautiful women (and men) of all colors and backgrounds.
I met this beautiful Venezuela women at an art gallery and she is coming to my house on friday for some dinner im making. I cannot fucking wait.
that race dating thread is bonkers.
So many of us are influenced by society using white women as the standard of beauty but jesus fucking christ their are beautiful women (and men) of all colors and backgrounds.
I met this beautiful Venezuela women at an art gallery and she is coming to my house on friday for some dinner im making. I cannot fucking wait.
Because I majored in Asian Studies, people assume I'm into Asian women. I'm not, generally. I actually tend to go for South American women. For my money, Peruvian girls tend to be the most beautiful.
But yeah, that's the benefit of living in an international city. We have all flavors of people here.
that race dating thread is bonkers.
We pretty much just have scandinavian girls around here. But I like them so it's cool.
My "types" are clearly: Jewish girls from Jersey, (dyed) redheads, and Brazilians. Y'all can have the blondes. I'll pass.
They always are. They always are man. Lol.
This is the only thread with a community atmosphere. And it's relatively self-policing. None of us tolerate toxic viewpoints.
scandinavian girls are pretty cute most of the times are they not?
For some reason any dating / relationship thread outside of this one seems to be really toxic.
My best friend dated my sister and he is no longer my friendGuys i'm conflicted.
So lets assume you've got this friend. Your friend is really close with his little sister (legal drinking age). They're like best friends. He's also kind of got a protective attitude concerning her.
Guys i'm conflicted.
So lets assume you've got this friend. Your friend is really close with his little sister (legal drinking age). They're like best friends. He's also kind of got a protective attitude concerning her.
lets say you finally meet said sister, a few drinks happen, you hit it off. Nothing too intimate happens, but by the end of the night it's really obvious that you both are into eachother, and this is acknowledged. You've agreed to go out for drinks with said chick sometime later. your friend probably does not know this, and his sister probably wouldn't have told him anyway.
do you pursue or naw
scandinavian girls are pretty cute most of the times are they not?
scandinavian girls are pretty cute most of the times are they not?
Got a date in a couple of hours, going in with no expectations
I was into my best friend's sister a few years ago, told him while I was pretty buzzed and he was cool with it, we had all known each other since we were kids. Before that first date we both decided it probably wasn't worth the potential drama. Ymmv.
Got a date in a couple of hours, going in with no expectations
Got a date next Wednesday. Should I text her at any point between now and then? I was just thinking maybe the night before to confirm the plans?