electricshake
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This just sounds bizarre. Did your "friend" tell them you had an STD or something?
I don't know exactly what was said but I think it was something along the lines of 'if you hurt her I'll beat the shit out of you'.
This just sounds bizarre. Did your "friend" tell them you had an STD or something?
I'm just wondering how to go about asking a girl out through Facebook. She has been a friend (her request) on Facebook for awhile now. I've also known her for quite a long time, as we used to attend school together. I'd rather ask in person, but have no opportunities to do so.
Ask for her number or Just ask her out then get the number?
I'm just wondering how to go about asking a girl out through Facebook. She has been a friend (her request) on Facebook for awhile now. I've also known her for quite a long time, as we used to attend school together. I'd rather ask in person, but have no opportunities to do so.
Ask for her number or Just ask her out then get the number?
There is a way to make this work: Make her miss you.
How would that work better than talking to her?
Affection grows stronger when there's a lack of presence. That's why you shouldn't be too available, it's boring. Same with long ass conversations and/or skype calls in LDR's.How would that work better than talking to her?
Maybe it was his way of finding you on facebook?did this guy just fool me?
so this guy who i have sort of a crush on asked me for my name. i had already in the past gave him my name. so i answered him but then he said something like "no, i mean your last name"
i cant stop replaying this encounter in my head
Maybe it was his way of finding you on facebook?
I don't know exactly what was said but I think it was something along the lines of 'if you hurt her I'll beat the shit out of you'.
Wait so your "friend' who turned the guy away from you is also a male? Maybe he's jealous or madly in love with you. Either way I would talk to them to get some more details, and possibly cut contact after that.
I would go with the facebook thought as well. I usually like to go for a 1-2 combo of Phone #/FB.
I dunno, sounds like classic tactics to get a name that you've forgotten.
Girl I like seems to hate me now. She was having a bad day and I said "That blows, but, shit happens, you'll get over it". All of her white knight friends jump on me and call me emo and an asshole, and she seems angry calling me a real jerk. I was just telling it how it was. I thought girls liked jerks that didn't stroke their ego like that. I'm not a nice guy, I'm mostly emotionally distant to people. I'm not emotionless, I'm just distant is all.
I don't want to constantly be having someone hover around me, or hover around them.
"I could make it better"
that's the kind of tone i go for on the "bad days"
TLDR (You don't want to see the non TLDR version. We'd be here for days)
For context, both of us (me being a male) are early twenties and in school.
Talked to girl for months. Girl asks me out for coffee. We begin dating. Wants to take things slow as previous boyfriend was one of her first and was really messed up. Within a few weeks /dates, at second base and spending a lot of time together. Her just as in to it at this point as I am, including her messaging me a ton.
We then go to a party together where she won't let me close as she isn't used to public intimacy. After said party she freaks out and says we're going too quick and she wants to try again and start over as friends. After this, she doesn't talk to me for a week, says she was out of the city, apologizes. Another week goes by, she texts me after I ask her if something is wrong and apologizes for being busy the times I've texted her. We chat a bit. Says she isn't avoiding me, had personal stuff to deal with and was busy. Says she isn't ignoring me and wants to spend time together but has been busy.
New years eve, she's apparently babysitting and I can't come. No message from her NYE or today.
I feel there's a wall there now that wasn't there before, as she won't discuss her personal issues with me and I don't want to push any more. She could indeed be busy, but it's been weeks and I haven't seen her and barely spoken to her. I'm thinking GAF's response to this is going to be bail out time, so have at it.
I'm thinking GAF's response to this is going to be bail out time, so have at it.
Just don't contact anymore. If she wants you, she'll get in touch with you.
Holy crap... I just read this and it's a real eye opener for me. Don't know how I missed it. For the most part, I thought me being a douchebag was what caused my relationship to collapse years ago. Things that went through my head were that I didn't pamper enough, or spent too much time doing my stuff, and among other thoughts. Who knew I was actually doing the right thing for the most part? I guess I can be a little thoughtless sometimes, but this post really opened my eye!
got this girl to take me to the gym so i could play basketball while she did cardio.
then she offers to carry me to my front door.
she gets about halfway and asks for a break so i'm just like ok let me carry you back to your car (she is light as a feather).
semi-serious question: should i have kissed and fucking taken her right there? (this is actually the same girl that little joke came from haha)
Made a mistake Gaf,
A few weeks ago I went to a party with my buddy, his girlfriend, and two of her friends. Everyone was having a good time, and sometime in the night my buddy's girlfriend comes and tells me that both of her friends want to get with me, and it's up to me to decide. It was my first time meeting these girls, so I didn't really know them that well, so I just went with the one who I thought was hotter.
We chilled as a group more often after that, and that's when I came to realize that the girl I chose is actually horrible, and the other girl is an amazing person.
Now I kinda have a crush on the other girl, and would like to ask her out, but it seems like an awkward situation and don't know how to go about it. Should I just take my losses and move on from the whole thing? Or is managing something like this even possible?
Breakup textwalls welcome here?
Breakup textwalls welcome here?
That just makes me sound like one of her pathetic white knight boyfriends. I'm not a nice person, it's hard for me to feign compassion for something as minor as her issues. She was complaining about her car getting towed.
Breakup textwalls welcome here?
Made a mistake Gaf,
A few weeks ago I went to a party with my buddy, his girlfriend, and two of her friends. Everyone was having a good time, and sometime in the night my buddy's girlfriend comes and tells me that both of her friends want to get with me, and it's up to me to decide. It was my first time meeting these girls, so I didn't really know them that well, so I just went with the one who I thought was hotter.
We chilled as a group more often after that, and that's when I came to realize that the girl I chose is actually horrible, and the other girl is an amazing person.
Now I kinda have a crush on the other girl, and would like to ask her out, but it seems like an awkward situation and don't know how to go about it. Should I just take my losses and move on from the whole thing? Or is managing something like this even possible?
I agree and disagree with the post you linked. By that, I mean that I disagree with the idea that we need to emulate characteristics of the Diva/Bad Boy (i.e. play a game) in order to have a successful relationship.
However, I do agree that a healthy relationship is built on mutual respect and love (keyword being mutual), which as mentioned in the post involves a two way investment from both parties. Where an individual respects himself (and in turn values himself enough) to expect his partner to offer him the love and attention that he deserves. At the end of the day, how can you expect someone else to value and respect you, if you don't respect or value yourself.
Now on an unrelated note, I disagree with the idea that being a "nice guy" is somehow bad. My own personal principle is that I act as the person I am and I follow the values that I hold. This includes being polite and dependable and generally just being the nice guy. If that means girl xyz turns me down, then that's her loss. I don't think I should compromise my values just to be with a girl that didn't necessarily see the value in who I was. I think you are deceiving her and deceiving yourself if you compromise on who you are I order to score some tail. Personally, being yourself and being comfortable and confident with who you are should be your foremost priority. Sure, if you just want random hookups, you can play the game. But if you want a healthy relationship, be yourself and if you are compatible with the person, he/she will see you value and if she doesn't, it wasn't meant to be in the first place.
TL;DR : if you want to be nice, be nice. Just do it for the right reasons and eventually you'll meet someone that genuinely values you as a person.
It is? Might explain why we have 45000 views already.Sure, just know that Dating Age is the laughing stock of the OT.
You'd be less of a nice guy if you stopped feeling things like that.I was called a nice guy twice by two girls I wasn't trying to hit on at my NYE party (I had met both before but didnt know them terribly well). Needless to say it felt like my balls retreated into my stomach, suffered instant atrophy and vanished into the abyss.
A girl I hadn't seen and barely contacted since 2011 because she friend-zoned me phoned me after new years eve at 4:30 AM, she was absolutely wasted and was telling me that she's sorry. I told her straight up that she's really drunk and that she doesn't know what she's talking about. She then said she'd call me later and hung up. She never did call back since then, but I'm tempted to call her tomorrow evening to see if she wants to hang out.
Back then she friend-zoned me because "I'm an ex to one of her best friends". That was a long time ago now so...
Should I call her tomorrow?
No. If she wants you, she'll call; if not, leave it be. No point in you calling since she probably was drunk.