ClassyPenguin
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shouldn't an admin lock the other thread?
Science based medicine article on hypnotherapy
http://www.sciencebasedmedicine.org/index.php/hypnotherapy-for-pain-and-other-conditions/
shouldn't an admin lock the other thread?
That's a fine OP.
In the last thread, I asked for some help about staying motivated and working. I'm currently in school, but I just have such a hard time bringing myself to sit down and do my work that I end up blowing it off. All of my work requires an internet connection which is part of why it's so hard to stay motivated.
Can I get some more advice?
Hypnotherapy--is this a valid form of psychotherapy treatment?
If I could live off of quality sushi I would.
But what I wanted to ask is: how do people deal with loneliness? I live with great roommates, but I just constantly feel like I am alone. I do not have a significant other or partner, so I just spend my days alone working and then some time with my roommates and their friends. Part of me worries I am missing out on the friends people make at work/in offices/at school, but the other part of me really loves the freedom of working from home and working on my own schedule. Working in a coffeeshop is a little better than being at home, but that is not really forming the relationships that happen at school/at work.
Thanks for reading if you got this far, and I appreciate any help. I will stay up to date w/ this thread, and I would love to try and help others.
I hope you can finally find the motivation to finish developing a game. I'd be willing to beta test it, for free of courseHowdy, I am Brett. I am an on and off GAF user, and my life is always in this weird eight month cycle where I stop whatever I have going good for me and totally change it. It is probably not good to not stick things out, but it just seems to keep happening. When that change happens I tend to just shut myself in and go into some form of a depression.
I can feel another onset of depression coming, as I just left my job/current client (I develop web applications, and I was in a business partnership with another doing work for clients. It was not working out, as we wanted different things from our work lives. I had been fixing bugs for seven months straight on a project, and I got burnt out.). I have other client work lined up to a lesser extent (less than 40 hours a week, hooray. 40 hours a week of client work is too much for me), but I am feeling a bit lost right now without the feeling of having to work 9-5, chat with other people (I work from home, so group chat w/ other developers/friends/etc.) and just not having another person to go through running a business with.
Now that I do not have to do as much "work" everyday, I have more free time, which is what I wanted. However, the last time I took a big jump to have more free time to work on projects I wanted to work on, I ended up just doing the opposite and hardly working on them at all. I wanted to make video games (and still do!), so I thought it would be a good idea to try and develop indie games by myself. I realized over the course of a year that it is a huge undertaking to program the game, make the art, think about design, and even consider audio. I ended up starting a bunch of smaller game projects, but I never finished any. I had whole days to do whatever I wanted, but I ended up not doing much.
I would imagine that having some consistent client work to pay the bills will keep me more on track than when I tried to only make games, but I am still feeling weird about everything. I have some goals/dreams and projects I want to work on, but I just feel alone for a very large part of the day. I find myself worrying about that and trying to combat than instead of focusing on doing client work and fun development.
I ordered a TV and PS3 to spend some of that free time playing games (I moved about a year ago and sold mostly everything I owned). I figure playing some games would be nice to compliment reading in my free time. I also have started some open-source projects I am really into, and they will keep me busy and will help me continue to learn.
But what I wanted to ask is: how do people deal with loneliness? I live with great roommates, but I just constantly feel like I am alone. I do not have a significant other or partner, so I just spend my days alone working and then some time with my roommates and their friends. Part of me worries I am missing out on the friends people make at work/in offices/at school, but the other part of me really loves the freedom of working from home and working on my own schedule. Working in a coffeeshop is a little better than being at home, but that is not really forming the relationships that happen at school/at work.
Thanks for reading if you got this far, and I appreciate any help. I will stay up to date w/ this thread, and I would love to try and help others.
But what I wanted to ask is: how do people deal with loneliness? I live with great roommates, but I just constantly feel like I am alone. I do not have a significant other or partner, so I just spend my days alone working and then some time with my roommates and their friends. Part of me worries I am missing out on the friends people make at work/in offices/at school, but the other part of me really loves the freedom of working from home and working on my own schedule. Working in a coffeeshop is a little better than being at home, but that is not really forming the relationships that happen at school/at work.
Thanks for reading if you got this far, and I appreciate any help. I will stay up to date w/ this thread, and I would love to try and help others.
How do I deal with loneliness? It's hard but you have to come to terms with yourself that you do have people around you and the acquaintances that you don't think count. It's rough when you feel lonely when a particular person isn't around, but you aren't as lonely as you think you are...But it's tricky...It takes a lot of practice for your mind to truly realize and acknowledge the people around your life. Be persistent with this. Is it not possible to make friends with your coworkers at the coffeeshop? Like go out for a drink after a work shift with them? If you're not even in talking terms with them, try starting small with them and talk small with them like how it's raining or the lack of it, latest sport's game, etc.
I have read your post, you seem like an OK person. I hope you stick around with us to help. We can use all the help we can get.
I hope you can finally find the motivation to finish developing a game. I'd be willing to beta test it, for free of course
I don't deal with loneliness. Or more precisely, I don't cope with it well. It brings me down, and makes me feel worthless. I have friends, but don't see them too often. I talk to my coworkers and family, yet I still feel completely alone. Don't get me started on relationships, just the mention of the topic can make me feel like shit.
I think everyone deals with loneliness in their own way. If nothing's on I spend my time learning things that interest me, or playing games that I really enjoy, or even reading books on programming and psychology. Basically distract myself by having fun with things I can do on my own.
On the other hand, I also like to go to various evening classes such as dancing and put myself in social settings, you get to know a lot of people and it's a really nice way to deal with feeling lonely.
I think that's the key - putting myself in a social setting. Since I work from home and am not in school, doing volunteer work or taking classes like yoga or screen printing could help. There is always that initial hangup I have of wanting to do those things but then just not doing them when the time comes. It helps to do things like that with others, so maybe I should suggest doing things like that with another.
Ah that is the thing, I do not have any coworkers. I just kind of do my own thing. But that is true, making an effort to say hello and converse with others around me in coffeeshops is definitely possible. Thanks for your advice, I appreciate it!
I do have a question - has anyone had any experience with mindfulness-based cognitive therapy? I've recently gotten into mindfulness but I'm having a hard time sticking with it.
FillerB insists that I don't need to thank him, but he did an amazing job making some cool banners for the thread!
Aw shucks. It's the least I could because reading/lurking the previous thread was pretty good help for me.
Fantastic OP. Good compilation and not a single forced angle.
A limited contribution of references for now:
Dealing in part with (especially in the Western world) stigmatization, the pitfalls of diagnosis and the over-emphasis on medications. Leaving it here merely as reference not necessarily as endorsement.
The other thing I notice is that we chose "mental health" over "mental illness" for the title, ut the thread is currently all about mental illness. Moe information and resources about maintaining mental well being, outside of disease states, would be great. The book about exercise fits in that category nicely.
On the issue of renaming it Mental Health GAF, I'm hearing a lot more about anxiety disorders. I eventually developed some minor, periodic anxiety issues after so many years with depression, but it's not my main area of interest. I'd really appreciate more help writing about anxiety, listing resources, whatever you've got. I feel like it needs more focus based on community interest.
That was really what I liked about CBT - the emphasis on monitoring your own thoughts and being more aware of what you were thinking and why. I know mindfullness has become kind of its own thing, but you end up with a lot of that in the CBT framework. Learning about cognitive distortions can be so helpful in watching your own thoughts, and in helping others.
I added Mind Over Mood to the post on resources on the first page. That's a really nice intro to CBT, in a workbook format. I used that in outpatient therapy and during my hospital stay. I haven't kept up with doing it in a formal way, but I use the things I learned all the time. It has really helped me to be more mindful.
I'd love to see some more mindfulness resources, too!
This past year has taken a heavy toll on my own mental health. I used to consider myself emotionally resilient and intelligent, but nowadays I go through daily bouts of sadness, anger, frustration, and hope. I know this is unhealthy and that I need to take care of myself in order to support her, but it's hard to break out of the cycle. I have tried looking for support groups for spouses of people with bipolar disorder, but most of them just are people telling their own personal horror stories with little actual help.
Sorry this is so long. Just needed to write.
Decided to move my life forward, and try and volunteer at a thrift store Its sad this is what my life has been devolved too. Sadly staying at home in the basement is no longer an option.
I applaud your effort in that.I've been mulling over what you've said. I know my own bias is STRONGLY pro-psychiatry, pro-medication (not that everyone should take them, just that they're another tool to consider), anti-alternative medicine, and, despite being one of the few (somewhat) religious people in the thread (that I know of), I avoided even mentioning seeing any kind of religious leaders for counseling (which is a fairly popular choice). I also avoided listing faith-based organizations that offer things like crisis lines. I may still find that stuff, but there's a tension between providing information and pushing any kind of agenda, even inadvertently.
Likewise, I originally had some examples of things I consider quackery, but I cut them out. I won't endorse any of that stuff in the OP, but people should feel free to discuss it.
I do think the thread could use more resources that go against traditional western biomedical principles of mental illness. I'll write the blurb for Foucalt's History of Madness to point out how it challenges the idea of mental illnesses as, well, illnesses. The book you linked, jackbugs, seems like another good entry for that category.
The other thing I notice is that we chose "mental health" over "mental illness" for the title, ut the thread is currently all about mental illness. Moe information and resources about maintaining mental well being, outside of disease states, would be great. The book about exercise fits in that category nicely.