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Age gap in relationships
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realalbedo
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Almost always i dated someone slightly younger than me. Last one was 16 years old though.
King Cobra
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She isn't aware, but even if she did know it's not as if she will leave.
7 is the number I've been hearing for years now. My last long term relationship just barely met that criteria (20 & 26) and I still felt creepy sometimes.
terrisus
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Hey. thanks for posting a "rule" without any justification for it, and which has been discussed multiple times throughout this thread!
"Your rule" and "the youngest you [specifically you] feel you should be dating," if that's what you want, fine.
But, there is no such imaginary universal rule.
Yeah, I find a person's wisdom, skillset, perspective, etc. attractive, and older women usually have those down better than younger women, so that's what I was mostly talking about.
I'd rather date younger women. First because in the case of child birth, there are less complications if they are younger, and second, because women tend to age worse than men (lower collagen density in skin, makeup use, sun bathing habits, etc.)
Obviously, if I meet the right girl and she's older, I won't care. This is just a preference, not a rule.
Obviously, if I meet the right girl and she's older, I won't care. This is just a preference, not a rule.
Bam Bam Baklava
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As a man who is now just turned 24 what age range should I be going for that doesn't creep people out?
stufte
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Welp.
I dated a girl 5 years younger than I am recently and it had pros and cons. (I am 28 btw). The sex was out of the world incredible. Like straight from the porn sex(she watched it a lot and knew what she liked), it was the best and most fun sex I have ever had. And the oral skills, jesus, Cock worship level.
The bad? She was extremely needy, constantly wanted my attention and she had an abrasive personality, which I enjoyed, but it enabled her to be a huge dick and be joking and then in the same instance actually be upset at me for something I said yet I had no idea because her emotions never changed. It wasn't until later(over text) when I found out she was unhappy.
She was committed to the family thing(I have a daughter), she was pushing for something pretty serious early on, like REALLY early(first few months) and the she bounced and ended it in the blink of an eye. Apparently I didn't make her feel number one and she always felt last in my life(I have my kid, work, college as my biggest priorities so I was busy a lot which I explained in the beginning) so she left and when I tried to talk to her about the problem, which came from nowhere, she ignored me and never replied. Been awhile since we spoke so it is safe to assume it has been over.
On the flipside, dating a woman in her 30s is a whole other ball game. They know what they want, what they like, and they will tell you exactly wtf it up. So OP be prepared if she says something and you think she is being an asshole, she is just being honest lol.
Usually age gaps, as an outsider, are no biggie, but after being on both ends, I prefer the women either closer to my age or slightly older.
Calm down tiger, "moral mathematics" should have tipped you off to the level of seriousness of my post.
terrisus
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Fair enough, mea culpa.
It's just that there are so many people who do actually take that sort of thing seriously.
Switch Back 9
a lot of my threads involve me fucking up somehow. Perhaps I'm a moron?
I'm dating somebody a good deal younger than me, and while at first it was great the age difference is starting to show.
Like the one guy said, the sex is amazing, easily best I've had in ages. But now the age thing is really beginning to grate on me, especially when it comes to music, books, movies etc... Outside of a few sports we mutually enjoy we don't have a hell of a lot in common. So take that as you will.
Like the one guy said, the sex is amazing, easily best I've had in ages. But now the age thing is really beginning to grate on me, especially when it comes to music, books, movies etc... Outside of a few sports we mutually enjoy we don't have a hell of a lot in common. So take that as you will.
No worries mate, although, it's a decent rule of thumb considering maturity / life experience are hard to quantify but are probably more important than age in most cases. Two consenting adults etc...
vonStirlitz
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I hear ya. But, outside of the differences in music, books and movies, do you make each other laugh? Do you have good chats? Do you just feel right? In my view, all the cultural stuff is nice to have, but the important thing (aside from the sex obv) is are you compatible?
Reason I ask, is that I was in a similar position. I can be an appalling music, film and book fascist, and I found it difficult that all my tastes were completely different. Worse, my tastes had become historic! But as I thought about it more, it is easy to get in a comfort zone, where you only like the stuff you know and grow up with. One of the advantages of being in a relationship with a big age difference is that both parties get to learn something new, expand their tastes, and stop living in the cultural dead zone.
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