Just stepped off the scale and see that I'm 77 pounds lighter than I was in January. Now, I'm still a lardass at 273 pounds, but I used to be a 350 pound lard ass who didn't know the big secret.
The big secret, as has been stated in this very thread, is caloric restriction. I don't even want to think how many calories I've been eating each day my whole life. 3,000? 4,000? I used to eat two packets of Ramen for dinner every night for YEARS.
In mid-March I started jogging and trying to eat healthy. In July I started using the Myfitnesspal app to count calories and have been keeping under 1,500 calories a day with a religious fervor. I also gave up drinking anything but water and black coffee.
Honestly, I don't jog and lift weights as often as I should. I jog maybe 2 or 3 times a week and life weights about that often. The weight loss is thanks to sustaining a calorie deficit, even of it isn't always easy.
For instance, I was an idiot today and wound up with 138 calories I could eat left in the day at like 1:30pm. So I had an orange for lunch, an egg for dinner and, bam, ended my day with 18 calories to spare.
I made just about every fucked up dietary mistake you could make until earlier this year, and I'm just posting all this because it was all, for ME at least, due to the moral failure of a weak will.
Maybe I'm lucky, I've changed my diet and lifestyle and the weight is melting off. I've heard horror stories of people working their asses off to no effect. Every day I'm terrified I'll plateau and have to go through Hell trying to find the ONE secret thing that will kickstart my body into weightloss again.
Being gay is obviously something you are born with. I do think that there may be some genetic predispositions towards obesity for some folks, but I'm willing to bet for most folks that obesity is a learned lifestyle.
My main point with this post was that every single person I've come across who has seen the change, every single one, has been nothing but supportive and encouraging.
I work at a very large healthcare facility and a day doesn't pass where someone I don't know or may just see in the halls doesn't stop me and tell me what a great job I'm doing.
Maybe I'm lucky, but I haven't seen any real bigotry against me as an adult for being fat. And, as I said, when people see I'm making a positive change they've been just great.
Eating healthfully is cheap and easy, but I'm speaking as someone who isn't in a food desert. Eggs, dry beans and lentils, and fruits and veggies are all relatively cheap. But again, not everyone has access to decent options.
Speaking as a fat guy (though hopefully not for too much longer), no amount of chiding or shit-talk will help someone change. It has to be a choice they make. For me, it was just time for a new chapter in my life. But everyone will have their own moment of clarity.
If you want to help a fat person, for fuck's sake don't comment on their weight. Trust me, they know. Like someone said, invite them to join you in healthy activities, support positive choices they are making.
There are tons of ways you can help if you want to, but being a dick is never going to be one of them. Sorry if this has been rambling, but weightloss is something I've learned to be very passionate and excited about.