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Are shorter men more insecure and unattractive?
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LegendofJoe
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daakusedo said:
lol, I used to think this was true before I started dating someone who is both taller and heavier than me. She's less than an inch taller than me and probably outweighs me by about 10 lbs. I am very well conditioned, so I don't think she considers it a deal breaker. Although I've been trying to get her to work out with me, so I guess we'll see where that goes.
Nard Bagman
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5'8. I feel secure and confident. I also feel like it's hard for me to be embarrassed so that might be a factor. Height is superficial to character in my eyes.
MWS Natural said:
Not always true, there are plenty of taller women who go for shorter guys. I'm 5'9" and a half myself (gotta add that half inch in there
) and I have dated a number of girls approaching 6'. As long as you don't make height an issue in the slightest, it's not a problem at all.You're not short though as your height is the average male height.djtiesto said:Not always true, there are plenty of taller women who go for shorter guys. I'm 5'9" and a half myself (gotta add that half inch in there
I'm laughing at people who think they're short, but list their heights at around or above the average male height.
LegendofJoe
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perfectchaos007 said:
There are millions of things about yourself and the world that you cannot control, the less time you spend worrying about them and concentrating on the things you can control the better off you'll be brother.
discrimination can be based on gender, nationality, pregnancy, etc.. why not include height too ?blame space said:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Height_discrimination
I find people treat you differently depending on your height. I am 5"10' and have been since the 7th grade. So when I was a kid I was always one of the tallest people in my class. People were always very friendly to me and frankly deferential. But then when I stopped growing and became average height (which has even been described as short somehow) about midway through my sophomore of high school people's attitudes completely changed. It was an odd experience.
I have to say height in men is the equivalent of skinniness in women. A lot of default attitudes are based on it.
I'm not sure how it affects my "confidence" (as a side note I've never really been sure what confidence was supposed to mean). I feel absolutely sure about myself in my skillset, am never automatically deferential, and frankly really enjoy leadership positions - but I am aware that people are more dismissive of me simply because I am not of above average height.
I have to say height in men is the equivalent of skinniness in women. A lot of default attitudes are based on it.
I'm not sure how it affects my "confidence" (as a side note I've never really been sure what confidence was supposed to mean). I feel absolutely sure about myself in my skillset, am never automatically deferential, and frankly really enjoy leadership positions - but I am aware that people are more dismissive of me simply because I am not of above average height.
Slappers Only
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5'10" and I blend in like an extra-medium T-shirt on the clearance rack. Whatev.
BaltimoreLarry
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I'm 5'8'' and my wife is 5'6''. She just left me for someone 6'2'' and she said "she always wanted someone tall".
I was pretty confident until that one. Perfect timing with the thread, GAF!
Obviously, there were other reasons.
I was pretty confident until that one. Perfect timing with the thread, GAF!
Fuck, that's harsh.LegendofJoe
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In my experience women on average are more shallow and vindictive than men Larry, so don't let that comment get you down. She probably just said that because she knew it would hurt you, fuck that kind of treatment man you'll probably be better off down the road.
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Oozinator said:
yeah, i got you.. but you said 'racist'.
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chinner how tall are you really
i'm 6'3''
i'm 6'3''
6'1" here. My parents are much shorter, but my grandpa was 6'4" or something so we figure that's where my height came from.
I know that my height has given me some advantages in life, but I don't think it's as big a deal as some of you make it.
By the way, just had this convo...
ME: would you still have dated me if i were, say, 5'6"?
GF: yes
GF: because I'm 5"2
ME: what if i was 5'3"?
GF: you can never really answer these questions -- are you going somewhere with this?
So apparently 5'3" might be a problem for her. She also mentioned that if I were shorter, she wouldn't have noticed me in the large group of people that she did (she sort of made the first move), which I found interesting.
I know that my height has given me some advantages in life, but I don't think it's as big a deal as some of you make it.
By the way, just had this convo...
ME: would you still have dated me if i were, say, 5'6"?
GF: yes
GF: because I'm 5"2
ME: what if i was 5'3"?
GF: you can never really answer these questions -- are you going somewhere with this?
So apparently 5'3" might be a problem for her.
She also mentioned that if I were shorter, she wouldn't have noticed me in the large group of people that she did (she sort of made the first move), which I found interesting....seriously?BaltimoreLarry said:
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do you want to form a comedy team
BaltimoreLarry
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Enco said:
5 Years, 2 kids.
She told me I didn't do anything wrong, just that I was always her second choice to this guy (who was a close friend).
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"tell me about the ducks."
LegendofJoe
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Chiave said:
You're right. What happened to Larry made me angry so I went a little overboard. I toned it down a bit when I edited the post.
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Socreges said:6'1" here. My parents are much shorter, but my grandpa was 6'4" or something so we figure that's where my height came from.
I know that my height has given me some advantages in life, but I don't think it's as big a deal as some of you make it.
By the way, just had this convo...
ME: would you still have dated me if i were, say, 5'6"?
GF: yes
GF: because I'm 5"2
ME: what if i was 5'3"?
GF: you can never really answer these questions -- are you going somewhere with this?
So apparently 5'3" might be a problem for her.
...seriously?
I think simply not being noticed in a crowd is a big part of the problem. I do my best to make up for it in other ways. Dressing well and knowing how to talk to people can help a lot. I still need to work on the talking bit. lol
With all the guys talking about the lack of success at a club, I oddly had success the only time I've ever been to one. I'm 5'7" and the girl asked her friend about me and got my number. I was a little surprised to receive a call from her and we dated for a year. I was also as skinny as a stick back then too. Not that attractive at all and she did modelling. I was quite blown away by the whole thing.
Anything is possible.
That's exactly what I don't understand! Sure there were other reasons but the fact that she would even say that intrigues me. At what point does a man stop being "short?" I think if you are 6'1 and above you are insulated from ever being called short, right?BaltimoreLarry said:
BaltimoreLarry said:
She would have said something like, "you were ugly anyway" or "you were bad in bed" if you were a tall guy. Like I said, she said it to hurt your feelings, because apparently that makes her feel better about herself. Just brush her off and you'll find a girl that deserves you.
lunchtoast
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I'm almost 6'4. Both sides of my family are tall people, so I always saw my height as average, and everyone else is just short. I am not a confident man though.
I'm 5'8, but I'm a good looking guy, usually in decent to good shape. I'm about as lacking in confidence as you can get (lol i got problems), but I've been hit on by enough girls (some seriously attractive, some slightly taller) to know that height, ultimately, doesn't mean much. I'm sure there are girls out there for whom height really is a deal breaker, but fuck'em. One day they'll be 30+ with a fat ass and will get a taste of their own medicine. 
Devolution
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BaltimoreLarry
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Wow, thanks for the support everybody. I guess I'll cancel my order of lifts.
6'5'' checking in here
Being tall sounds fun, but once I went to this Latino caucus party with one of my friends and felt like Gulliver amongst the Lilliputians. I was really uncomfortable and had a terrible time. So if you're short my suggestion is to hang out in big groups with other short people to gain strategic advantage over solitary tall people.
Being tall sounds fun, but once I went to this Latino caucus party with one of my friends and felt like Gulliver amongst the Lilliputians. I was really uncomfortable and had a terrible time. So if you're short my suggestion is to hang out in big groups with other short people to gain strategic advantage over solitary tall people.
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