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Asking if you can kiss a girl

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I've never asked, per se.

I've said "give me a kiss" (so the girl leans in to me) and had that work numerous times, as well as going in and saying "I'm going to kiss you now" with equal success.
 
A girl asked me if she could kiss me one time... it was awesome.

In hindsight she was obviously into me and putting out blatant signs, but I was too frigid/oblivious to make a move so she got fed up and just straight up asked. Good times.
 
Should happen naturally, How can you not notice signals, getting close, touchy feely and both know what is going to happen. If you have to ask, the moment isn't there.
 
I've asked during a romantic like moment where me and my date were at a bar and it was getting close to the time where we would have to leave for the last trains back home. She got all happy and said yes
and we left for a hotel soon after
. So if the moment is right and you can tell the girl likes you, why not?
 
I asked a girl on my last date if I could kiss her goodnight, and we kissed. Prob depends on the girl, but asking is fine IMO.
 
The trick is you have to know the answer going into it. If you're asking honestly, you've already lost.

A rhetorical question, basically. A sexy rhetorical question...

Edit: first post nailed it, actually.
 
Depends if you're British. Over here you first have to start boiling the kettle before sitting there watching Pointless. You then nervously start holding hands. Eventually you build up the courage to ask her to sign the "Kiss Request" release form.

Weird meaningless anecdote: Every girl I've not asked to kiss and kissed was a one time deal and became mega awkward afterwards even though they were all mutual. Every girl I've asked to kiss (and they said yes) ended up in some kind of relationship.

Girls are weird.

Deified Data said:
If you have to ask the answer is no.
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Except for when they say yes?
 
Not a good idea most of the time.
Conveys a lack of confidence, which is unattractive.

Of course, there are exceptions.
 
I asked a chick once in high school and her reaction was "what do you think". We kissed and then she stole my virginity.

So I've never asked since then. You just gotta do you.
 
Edward said:
Not a good idea most of the time.
Conveys a lack of confidence, which is unattractive.

Of course, there are exceptions.
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well don't ask by staring down at your shoes and saying "gorsh miss do you think you could maybe kiss me that'd be swell" and sweating up a storm
 
Kyne said:
depends how you ask.

If you're sitting there sweating and you mutter "C-Can I maybe kiss you.. ? " it's probably not cool.

I've actually done it before. I pushed her hair back with my hand and stared into her eyes reminding her that she was the only thing in my world at that moment. With a confident/cocky tone I asked "Can I kiss you?"

Ofc she let me.
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damn take a bow.. that's some game.
 
Don't ask. If she says no, it will be awkward. Would you like it better if she asked you or just did it herself? I know, for a guy it's different especially if you like her.. But I think asking is something you do when you're in elementary school, or even middle school.

To try and explain when the moment is right, with text or words, is difficult.

You never ask on the first kiss. Just be confident, but not rude. Usually if she looks at your lips a lot and licks hers, means she's dying for you to make a move.

I've had girls tell me I "stole" a kiss, but it was immediately followed by more kisses. Just be sweet, don't just randomly do it, something has to lead up to it.
 
I normally don't ask. But then again I'm pretty good (IMO) at picking up signals. To me asking is weird but it may just be because college girls are younger and have more romanticized ideals of what a guy should do.
 
Well that's how I got the first kiss from my now wife. I'm a romantic charming guy even at that time when I was 130kg (70kg now) and depressed. Best thing I ever did.

Definitely depends on the situation.
 
Egh, I think it's a thing to avoid.

Granted, I think going
Date--->Kiss--->Second Date--->etc. is the best course of action. To me, if you a date or situation went well, you feel the vibe, you read the signs and you go for it. I think you should know if it's so ambiguous you need to ask, it probably isn't right.
 
Well damn. I need to get
kiss
ed so badly.

But really, with many dating questions, there isn't really a decent answer... Just be yourself, do what is natural, do what feels right. Whenever I'm asking if I can kiss somebody, the deal is basically done... I just can't think of a good "in." Don't ask it if you aren't sure... you should be sure by that point. It just comes off as desperate or unsure if it isn't a given at the end of the night.
 
Cream said:
Personally, I play it by ear, but my friends both insist is the biggest mistake.
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My general rule of thumb is, if you feel like you have to ask, then it's a no.

I've never asked, but then again, it's always pretty clear that it was ok when I did go in for a kiss. A few girls have said that they wished they kissed me earlier at one point or another but if you think about it, it's better to have a girl wanting to kiss you and not doing it, than to go in awkwardly when they don't want one.
 
I usually ask the girl to come over and watch Gladiator. Just after the family is murdered I pause it, turn her head towards mine, stare into her eyes and say, "Can I kiss you?"

Works all the time.
 
depends on the person. i've done both the staring at each other then she grabs my head and we're going at it, and also "you wanna kiss?" but it's always assuming they want to. but some people prefer the explicit verbal affirmation each time, and there ain't nothing wrong with that.
 
I always keep a notary on-call so that after dinner I can have the consent form ready to be signed back at my place.
 
Not being sexist, but I think letting a woman think about anything when it concerns dating isn't a good thing as far as attraction goes. You need to be the director. Don't ask what she wants to do, where she would like to eat, if you can kiss her, etc. Many just want to show up and let you take it from there.
 
On a date I always asked. Breaks that awkward tension and doesn't destroy you if she declines.

My current fiancee actually said "how about on the cheek."

Look who won that in the end. :P
 
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