Yep. I never ask women what they want to do for dates apart from which day they're free. After I get a clear on that, I usually leave it at "Let's get drinks! I'll pick you up at 7." I find confidence to be a huge part of attraction.
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Asking if you can kiss a girl
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PlayALLtheGames
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Should only do when you already know the girl wants to or it's likely to turn out fucking awkward.
To a girl who likes you it'll seem sweet and cute. To a girl who isn't into you it's just going to look like what it is: you formally asking if you can engage in physical intimacy, which when coming from the wrong person is uncomfortable, regardless of how polite.
If you can't tell whether the girl is into you or not, best just not to ask. Nobody should be that desperate for a kiss. If it ends up being more dates, then you'll have the opportunity plus confidence which might help.
To a girl who likes you it'll seem sweet and cute. To a girl who isn't into you it's just going to look like what it is: you formally asking if you can engage in physical intimacy, which when coming from the wrong person is uncomfortable, regardless of how polite.
If you can't tell whether the girl is into you or not, best just not to ask. Nobody should be that desperate for a kiss. If it ends up being more dates, then you'll have the opportunity plus confidence which might help.
SmackDaddy
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I don't get the first one, but hahaha the slowness. So good
LyleLanley
Banned
It's the first thing I ask every woman I meet. It helps to make sure things are on the right track.
I bet all your friends come to you for advice.
Ah, the much vaunted GAF Effect.
TheVampire
Banned
If you really have to ask do it casually and fun like:
"Hey you wanna make out?"
"Hey you wanna make out?"
LyleLanley
Banned
This seems like it would also absolutely kill the mood. Damn it GAF! Learn to read the most basic of social cues.
ShemhazaiX
Member
That's easy for you to say, you're a monorail salesman.
Seriously though, let people be beta if they want to. There's nothing wrong with being awkward. At the end of the day, if they like you then asking isn't going to hurt. If they don't like you and you don't ask and just swoop in, then well done, you've made them feel highly uncomfortable. Congratulations.
I cringe every time.
Septimus Prime
Member
Those signatures are a few dollars apiece! How are we non-ballers supposed to do this?
LyleLanley
Banned
Just wear a go-pro helmet and film every moment with the woman.
ReturnOfTheRAT
Member
Am I crazy? Have I been watching this clip with the sound off? I can't believe that I don't remember him saying that line.
banefirelord
Banned
My opening line with my current girlfriend was "I kind of want to kiss you...are you okay with that?" Consent is important with any intimate physical interaction.
She said no.
breadtruck
Member
I have her fill out a legal document authorizing my kiss every time.
Sex is a real nightmare, let me tell ya...
Sex is a real nightmare, let me tell ya...
I agree. It sorta just happens naturally.
Why you kissin' with girls so easy to turn off? If there was a real mood there and you weren't movin' in fast enough she'd be jumping your bones.
Tatsumaki Senpuukyaku!
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dont do it like this https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Gc65NC44dSk
Ecto311
Member
Ask? I just asked my wife and she is indifferent. But she did say if I asked her then we wouldn't be together now most likely. She didn't want a dude to do that - just take the initiative and kiss her. I did that on our first date 12 years ago and we have been married 7 years next month.
Personally I don't know since its been so long since I was a part of that side of things but I don't think I would ask even now. Just do it and if the response is bad then move on.
Personally I don't know since its been so long since I was a part of that side of things but I don't think I would ask even now. Just do it and if the response is bad then move on.
trying to force a kiss from her at a Nascar event, of all places. Arrogance knows no bounds.
the people in the background crack me up.
I'm laughing too much at this gif, damn.
Anyways, OP I asked like once and that was super awkward even if I did get the kiss regardless. Usually now I just go by the non-verbal cues and go for it.
50 Shades of EviLore.
I echo it probably depends on the girl which is an answer that doesn't help much since it can be hard to tell her preference on a first date. Today is my 5 year anniversary of my wife and my first date and while that may seem like not much, in that short time dating mechanics seem to have changed so much. I'm sure OldGAF can attest.
on topic though.....first to get it out of the way.. going for a kiss is overrated. People try to do it too soon. Just have patience.
anyway.....after a long date, maybe after a few drinks, and everything is going well and she gives you nice looks.... lean forward as if you were going to kiss her, but don't. Get close to her ear, with your (hopefully) smooth skin pushed up against her (hopefully) smooth skin.... then whisper to her ear, that her lips are looking so enticing. So from here if she pulls away.. don't go for a kiss anymore bail on the plan until it is obvious she wants one..
if she doesn't pull away..slowly, while your two skins are connected, guide yourself back toward her lips... if she pulls away, again abandon plan.... if she doesn't pull away...then make your way to her lips.
there you can kiss her.... or you can be a tease like me and glide over her lips with your lips and sit back on your seat and then smile.
anyway.....after a long date, maybe after a few drinks, and everything is going well and she gives you nice looks.... lean forward as if you were going to kiss her, but don't. Get close to her ear, with your (hopefully) smooth skin pushed up against her (hopefully) smooth skin.... then whisper to her ear, that her lips are looking so enticing. So from here if she pulls away.. don't go for a kiss anymore bail on the plan until it is obvious she wants one..
if she doesn't pull away..slowly, while your two skins are connected, guide yourself back toward her lips... if she pulls away, again abandon plan.... if she doesn't pull away...then make your way to her lips.
there you can kiss her.... or you can be a tease like me and glide over her lips with your lips and sit back on your seat and then smile.
reminds me of those early Internet age sites where people could write their erotic dreams and it was 90% made up stuff
no not trying to write erotica, just got too detailed....
just unconventional advice, my friend. It's my specialty.
supernormal
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My first kiss with my current girlfriend was like that but with switched places . We were really just good friends out for drinks nothing romantic at all, and when I went to kiss her goodbye in the cheek she kinda switched cheeks mid-way and kissed me in the lips. She was super embarrassed and I was like WTF!? But then we keep going and the rest is history.
LegalEagleMike
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Hitch tells us that we go 90% of the way and if she is willing she will come the remaining 10%.
NotTheGuyYouKill
Member
Jesus Christ in heaven
outunderthestars
Banned
I was once on blind date. I was asked to fill in at the mast minute by a roommate who worked on the show.
It was a super weird experience.
LyleLanley
Banned
Am I the only one here who calls up the girls father and asks him for permission to kiss her?
NotTheGuyYouKill
Member
She didn't take a chance?
outunderthestars
Banned
Ha! We were both fill ins so neither of us wanted to be there. They had me pick her up at a fake place filled with dolls. I was supposed to wait until later and then ask her about it. They then gave us both large amounts of shitty whiskey and turned on the cameras.
It was really, really awkward.
LyleLanley
Banned
Are you sure they weren't planning on murdering the two of you?
HOLY SHIT! i just arrived at work and this already made my day
put yer lips on her lips then ask the question either she says yes and you go in or she says no but it's cool you already touched lips so that's a W
Devil Theory
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This is the only way I've seen it done:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DkoejSJ5qm0
(results may vary)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DkoejSJ5qm0
(results may vary)
I hate this so much. No idea how anyone finds it cute.
flaxknuckles
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I'd be scared as hell if anyone whispered that in my ear, human or ghost.
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