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Asking if you can kiss a girl

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I've never asked. Just pay attention to the mood, get her close to you, watch her body language, lean in like a ninja and do ya thang.

If she's game then yall will make out for a bit then end up like so

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When you're in close and the time is right and you're looking at her and she's looking at you, then I think it's okay to just go for it. But, I think that this approach is really only for people who can read body language well, because those are the kind of people who can see a "no" and appreciate it for what it is.
 
It's relative.

I've asked a few girls if I could kiss them because I was head over heels about whatever they just said and I knew that it would be cute.

I've also dug right in. I've probably kissed a girl without asking 95% of the time. It's slightly unexpected and sexy, even if the date is going well (and a kiss is expected); and if you're good with timing, it's a great way to lead to other things pretty quickly.
 
The only girl that I haven't asked for a kiss is my girlfriend, so I guess I got that going for me, which is nice.
 
If you're like 12 years old on your first date? Sure.

If you're a grown up, it will be apparent if it's a go or no without asking.
 
It can definitely work; it did the last time I tried it. You have to say it in the right way and with the right timing though.
 
wenis said:
If you're like 12 years old on your first date? Sure.

If you're a grown up, it will be apparent if it's a go or no without asking.
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I had more of a Notebook like romantic moment in mind. Where you know you can but you ask anyway with your voice trembling, about to cry, and she just nods yes then you almost knock each others teeth out when your faces mash together uncontrollably while trying to underss each other to make hot, sweaty, passionate love.
 
i feel like if you're in a position where you feel like you'd need to ask, you probably shouldn't anyway.

When you feel like the moment's right, I'd just go in for it slowly. Then they have time to push you back or whatever if they're not into it.
 
Is this for real? You don't ask someone this. It happens naturally when you are both in the mood for it to happen, you'll end up just leaning in and then you kiss, if it's what both of you want then it just happens. If not, then it doesn't, you don't force it or ask for permission. Jesus I'm cringing here.
 
it's not about *needing* to ask it's about *wanting* to ask

what's better than someone telling you they want you?

make 'em tell you they want you
 
There is no clear cut answer (gasp, shocking I know).

I was "successful" with both approaches, it very much depends on the mood and the situation. It also depends on you - if you're a charismatic and empathic individual, asking can be a "weapon", if you're not, it can be a handicap.

I'd definitely encourage everyone to try and be spontaneous, especially if you're more on the introverted side usually. Life is too short!
 
I am sure there are people here that read my last thread. Never ever ask to kiss a girl. Girls like men who make decisions and know what they want. A man who takes initiative and shows her that he likes her. But not too much. It should be a mystery for the girl how much you like her.

Also, if you kiss her, you will know tight away how things stand. Wait for a moment when close together. Best way to do it is let her talk, you nod and smile, get closer, she keeps talking, look at her lips then her eyes and kiss. I fucked it up some weeks ago and have since then done the right thing and had succes.

A man doesn't ask for a kiss. Pussies do.
 
shaki123 said:
I am sure there are people here that read my last thread. Never ever ask to kiss a girl. Girls like men who make decisions and know what they want. A man who takes initiative and shows her that he likes her. But not too much. It should be a mystery for the girl how much you like her.

Also, if you kiss her, you will know tight away how things stand. Wait for a moment when close together. Best way to do it is let her talk, you nod and smile, get closer, she keeps talking, look at her lips then her eyes and kiss. I fucked it up some weeks ago and have since then done the right thing and had succes.

A man doesn't ask for a kiss. Pussies do.
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That last sentence shows you have it all figured out.
 
shaki123 said:
I am sure there are people here that read my last thread. Never ever ask to kiss a girl. Girls like men who make decisions and know what they want. A man who takes initiative and shows her that he likes her. But not too much. It should be a mystery for the girl how much you like her.

Also, if you kiss her, you will know tight away how things stand. Wait for a moment when close together. Best way to do it is let her talk, you nod and smile, get closer, she keeps talking, look at her lips then her eyes and kiss. I fucked it up some weeks ago and have since then done the right thing and had succes.

A man doesn't ask for a kiss. Pussies do.
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Good thing you got a kappa avatar so I can just assume you're trolling.
 
OP..it depends. Dont rationalize. Sometimes it can be appropriate , other times might be strange. It depends of the nature of the girl , the relationship , yourself , the context. Who knows. I did it a bunch of times as we were sorta bantering previously. Other times no. Just dont think too much. You'll get paralyzed over it.

Also if you get a slap....you're really in the same exact position before you tried.
 
blame space said:
Did that guy just imply that I was a pussy?
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No. I just say that pussies ask for it and men don't. Maybe my wording was a little too harsh. I was a pussy myself brother. There is not a single reason why you should ask for it. If you do ask for it, in the girl's eyes you have already failed. You are not a man who can make his own decisions. if she had any attraction to you, by now it will at least be 50% less.

Not kissing or asking is the same. Just do it. You have nothing to lose. You gain credits (taking first step), you show that you can take initiative and know what you want (like a real man) and you will know if she likes you. As I said before, I fucked up as well. learn from it and never ever ask for a kiss.

Bam Bam Baklava said:
Good thing you got a kappa avatar so I can just assume you're trolling.
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If you think I am trolling (and you read my thread) surely you must been doing it wrong all these years.
 
shaki123 said:
No. I just say that pussies ask for it and men don't. Maybe my wording was a little too harsh. There is not a single reason why you should ask for it. If you do ask for it, in the girl's eyes you have already failed.

Not kissing or asking is the same. Just do it. You have nothing to lose. You gain credits (taking first step), you show that you can take initiative and know what you want (like a real man) and you will know if she likes you. As I said before, I fucked up as well. learn from it and never ever ask for a kiss.
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You are dead wrong , or just a bad communicator who have never been through that. I've been with girls who verbalized their own teasing. It felt very very appropriate in those situations.

Naturally if you're shy , if both are quiet or something of that sort , asking will only sound awkward.
 
RageWaffles said:
Yes, ask. Asking is always good.

You don't always have to, but it never, ever hurts to ask.
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Yes it does hurt to ask, some just want you to go for it. Take the chance.

Anyway if you can bait her into moving closer for a kiss then you can be sure that she wants to. Just pretend to go and you'll see her reaction before you touch her lips.
 
RageWaffles said:
Yes, ask. Asking is always good.

You don't always have to, but it never, ever hurts to ask.
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This is the worst advice you can give OP. The girl will automatically think: "Why the shit does he ask me for a kiss?". It is a big big turn off. You give the girl control and a decision to make. Girls don't like that. Take the lead, be a man, take initiative, show her your confidence and kiss her.
 
shaki123 said:
This is the worst advice you can give OP. The girl will automatically think: "Why the shit does he ask me for a kiss?". It is a big big turn off.
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I don't know about that. I just asked a real live girl and she said:
RageWaffles said:
Yes, ask. Asking is always good.

You don't always have to, but it never, ever hurts to ask.
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Ultimately, and as with anything else, it depends on whom you're trying to kiss. It can be a big big turn on, too.
 
RageWaffles said:
I don't know about that. I just asked a real live girl and she said:

Ultimately, and as with anything else, it depends on whom you're trying to kiss. It can be a big big turn on, too.
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Dude, what girls say and think (especially when a man asks for it) is not what they want. Of course she said that (she probably likes romcom's as well and might picture ehrself with one of those perfect "Hollywood" guys from the movies as well) but it is not what she wants and needs and will be attracted to. Girls don't know what they need untill it is right in front of them. Girl like men who act like men.

You cannot make someone "love" or "like" you. But you can make sure you say and do the right things. Asking for a kiss is a terrible idea if you are looking for a girl that should be attracted to your personality. Make your own decisions and for sure don't let her decide if she wants to kiss. You want to kiss her? Kiss her.
 
TIL NeoGAF is alpha as fuck.

I guess I need to pump my testosterone levels up a bit more before I can hang out in these threads properly. :[

shaki123 said:
Dude, what girls say and think (especially when a man asks for it) is not what they want. Of course she said that (she probably likes romcom's as well and might picture ehrself with one of those perfect "Hollywood" guys from the movies as well) but it is not what she wants and needs and will be attracted to. Girls don't know what they need untill it is right in front of them. Girl like men who act like men.
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This is like... pick up artist tier. "THIS IS HOW YOU PICK UP GIRLS, WORKS EVERYTIME, THEY'RE ALL THE SAME" ---> proceeds to only work on like, 5% of women.
 
I always ask when I kiss new girl, purely because the one time I didn't she went on to say I attempted to rape her to her friends and it was all round a pretty inconvienient day.

Now I will make sure I have clear permission to do anything, and I'll make sure there is a witness nearby to testify it. If she says no, hey ho.
 
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