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it's lunchtime now. she likes popcorn. should i bring her a plate of mine?
Nah son, leave it in the bag. Putting it on a plate looks like you've thought about it way too hard. Who eats popcorn on a plate and not straight from the bag anyway?
 
what do? nothing? stop trying to get her attention and just act normal. Maybe she was being friendly and not necessarily trying to make a new 'friend'. So if she wants to hang out or whatever, let her come to you. Just be friendly and move on. She's not "the one". Get past that 'the one-ness' crap.
 
Hey now. Some people just know

Yeah you don't know shit in a week. But hey, I know a couple worse than the OP. They're engaged after only knowing each other for 2 weeks

To be honest, I did get married to a guy I knew less than six months, but we spent a ton of time around each other and talked for hours, I'd met his parents and siblings, and we were actually really happy. So it's not impossible, but...two weeks/one week is way way too soon.

While watching her eat plate-popcorn.

You're just jelly you don't have plate popcorn.
 
Did y'all forget that they've only been talking for a week?


a week.

A WEEK. I can't decide if I like a shirt in less than two months, but he knows that she's the girl for him in a week.

ok so why are people telling me to ask her out already? i wanted to give it more time, but it seems like it was too much time. i don't get it.
 
You're just jelly you don't have plate popcorn.

I lied above, if someone brought me popcorn in any kind of vessel I'd give them a handy.

I fucking love popcorn.

ok so why are people telling me to ask her out already? i wanted to give it more time, but it seems like it was too much time. i don't get it.

IF YOU WANT TO DATE HER THEN ASK HER OUT.

What do you want more time for? To find out if she's the love of your life? This isn't complicated. If you're looking for the wife of your future children then you need to re-evaluate.
 
Also, just be careful with popcorn. It's Friday and if things do surprisingly progress rapidly and you get a hot date tonight, you don't want both of you all bloated and gassy on your first date.

Ah, whom I kidding, lol.
 
Don't you mean the Chairman?

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it's lunchtime now. she likes popcorn. should i bring her a plate of mine?

drop off a microwave bag and keep it moving. kettle corn. That you buy at the grocery store down the street.

but no, do not do the thing you were thinking about doing, no.

edit: and maybe you should be doing nothing, on second thought.

ah sex expectation, such a weird construct.
 
ok so why are people telling me to ask her out already? i wanted to give it more time, but it seems like it was too much time. i don't get it.

Asking her out is fine and good. People are just worried you're falling head over heals for her already and making this out to be more than it really is. Stop treating things like this is some huge big love fest RomCom movie where you're both hopelessly in love with each other and just be a real person.
 
I lied above, if someone brought me popcorn in any kind of vessel I'd give them a handy.

I fucking love popcorn.



IF YOU WANT TO DATE HER THEN ASK HER OUT.

What do you want more time for? To find out if she's the love of your life? This isn't complicated. If you're looking for the wife of your future children then you need to re-evaluate.

what is so bad about getting to know someone before you ask them out? i barely know much about her still. that's why i wanted to keep talking. why would i ask someone out if i barely know them? seems like a bad idea.
 
You can get to know her by asking her out too you know....
To be honest, I did get married to a guy I knew less than six months, but we spent a ton of time around each other and talked for hours, I'd met his parents and siblings, and we were actually really happy. So it's not impossible, but...two weeks/one week is way way too soon.



You're just jelly you don't have plate popcorn.
6 months is a lot more understandable than 2 weeks and at least by that point you had developed your relationship to meeting parents and seeing how compatible you both were. :P

But yeah I really think it's hard to tell how compatible you are with someone in a week/2.
 
ok so why are people telling me to ask her out already? i wanted to give it more time, but it seems like it was too much time. i don't get it.

A date is not a contract to be boyfriend and girlfriend, it is a way to get to know each other with intentions firmly set. Asking a girl on a date is like saying, "I may like you, you seem interesting, I want to get to know you better, if you feel the same way then say yes." If you are at the point where her saying no would be devastating then you waited too long.
 
ok so why are people telling me to ask her out already? i wanted to give it more time, but it seems like it was too much time. i don't get it.
Asking her out and so starting to find out more about someone is different than this:

ever since i first saw her i was instantly attracted. she ticks off every box for qualities i look for in women.

You don't know shit about her after a week, other than casual interest, dating is a way to establish if you really are right for each other, a little bit at a time.


Have you seen Frozen? You're Anna, she's Hans.


You can get to know her by asking her out too you know....

6 months is a lot more understandable than 2 weeks and at least by that point you had developed your relationship to meeting parents and seeing how compatible you both were. :P

But yeah I really think it's hard to tell how compatible you are with someone in a week/2.
A lot of people still thought it was way too soon. :)
 
what is so bad about getting to know someone before you ask them out? i barely know much about her still. that's why i wanted to keep talking. why would i ask someone out if i barely know them? seems like a bad idea.

Asking them out is a way to get to know them. Don't overthink the importance of a first date, its usually just two people having drinks and learning more about each other or some shit
 
Op, You shouldn't focus on her to much, but rather than yourself. Just be a friendly co-worker and practice on being sociable. If there are other cute girls, talk to them, but don't spend too much time on just one. It's not the end of the world.
 
what is so bad about getting to know someone before you ask them out? i barely know much about her still. that's why i wanted to keep talking. why would i ask someone out if i barely know them? seems like a bad idea.

yea keep waiting for some dude with confidence to step up, then cry and feel regret for not asking her out
 
what is so bad about getting to know someone before you ask them out? i barely know much about her still. that's why i wanted to keep talking. why would i ask someone out if i barely know them? seems like a bad idea.

Big part of dating is just getting to know someone. That's the idea of the first few dates.

Status update on the popcorn situation?
 
what is so bad about getting to know someone before you ask them out? i barely know much about her still. that's why i wanted to keep talking. why would i ask someone out if i barely know them? seems like a bad idea.

It's just a freaking date man, it's not going to make your future children fade out of existence Back to the Future style.
 
what is so bad about getting to know someone before you ask them out? i barely know much about her still. that's why i wanted to keep talking. why would i ask someone out if i barely know them? seems like a bad idea.

You're not asking her to be your boyfriend, you're asking her out to get a drink and get to know each other. See if you like the same things, see if you can get along outside of the work environment, etc.

Don't even call it a date, just ask to hang out, get a bite or a drink.
 
what is so bad about getting to know someone before you ask them out? i barely know much about her still. that's why i wanted to keep talking. why would i ask someone out if i barely know them? seems like a bad idea.

You ask people out to get to know them. If it doesn't work, you're out some cash and some time, but that's it. She didn't start talking to you to audition for you.
 
it's lunchtime now. she likes popcorn. should i bring her a plate of mine?
Dude, no. You're over analyzing this, and you're making a production out of it. You're giving actions more meaning than a normal person would even guess at.

Just go talk to her. Ask her if she is ok. but just calm down. It's not a big deal. You barely know her, so it's no lose if she does wander out of your life.
 
what is so bad about getting to know someone before you ask them out? i barely know much about her still. that's why i wanted to keep talking. why would i ask someone out if i barely know them? seems like a bad idea.

You're going to get to know her on a date! That's how you advance your situation. Getting to know her for weeks and weeks before you muster up the courage to ask her out is a sure way to get yourself stuck in the friendzone. By the time you work up the nerve, it will be too late.
 
Ignore her....If she doesnt want to talk to you, her loss.
If she plays hard to get, you play harder! :) I would ignore her, she will come back when she misses your jokes.
 
She probably wanted you to ask her out and you completely missed her hints which pissed her off.
If this is true then fuck girls. She's mad at you for something she wanted you to do that she didn't tell you she wanted you to do. You were just supposed to know and read minds.
 
But how will you talk to her now?!

Popcorn was your only chance.

i just went downstairs to go outside to my car and she jokingly said "you are not allowed to leave" i said "no, you aren't allowed but i can". and she smiled.

is our date for tonight back on??
 
i just went downstairs to go outside to my car and she jokingly said "you are not allowed to leave" i said "no, you aren't allowed but i can". and she smiled.

is our date for tonight back on??


Wait wait wait.

Did you ask her out on a date or a friendly hangout?
 
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