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Feeling old at 20.....

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pixelation said:
For me its mental, but for some it can be a combination of both.
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But what exactly is the feeling. Like, do you feel like life is over, are you more focused on the future now, realizing you're mortal, or something else.

I ask because sometimes I feel the same way but then I remember, I've hopefully got a few more decades left.

Maybe you could try engaging in mindfulness and meditation. I'm just starting out but I've found it quite helpful
 
Super confused by this thread initially.

I'm 24! Was 17 when this thread was posted.

Sadly, I don't feel like I've changed that much since then.
 
Dragonborn said:
So what exactly does this "old feeling" feel like. Like, is it something physical? Just mental?
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I'm 23. Since I was 20, I've become more tired all the time, have acquired a number of small physical inconveniences in my body, and am more world-weary and less idealistic than I've ever been (and my name is a variation of the word 'quixotic', I used to be really fucking idealistic).

If I can change this much in three years, I can't wait to see what I'll be like when I'm 40.
 
Kwixotik said:
I'm 23. Since I was 20, I've become more tired all the time, have acquired a number of small physical inconveniences in my body, and am more world-weary and less idealistic than I've ever been (and my name is a variation of the word 'quixotic', I used to be really fucking idealistic).

If I can change this much in three years, I can't wait to see what I'll be like when I'm 40.
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Do you exercise and eat healthy? I was feeling "old" two years ago until I finally decided to stop being over weight and work on it. It's been a long, long road, one I'm still on at this point but I still feel way better now. Sure, my body isn't at 100%, likely never will be but it's a hell of a lot better than the alternative.

Ad for the idealism, that's harder to deal with. It's not bad that you're no longer as idealistic as you once were, it's part of growing up and seeing more of the world. I was never especially idealistic so I can't comment too much but I find nothing wrong with being realistic about things.

As for changing by the time you're 40, who knows. I think going from your teens to early 20s should probably be the biggest change, but what do I know. Maybe some older gaffers can give us some input on that

Floridian said:
I'm 20 and I feel my life is almost over.
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Why do you feel that way?
 
As a 50 year old man, I want to slap the ever loving shit outta you youngsters. Old at 20? Fuck that shit. Stop moping and go do something.


And get the fuck off my lawn.
 
I've always looked at it like this: As long as you feel younger, then it doesn't truly matter how old you are. I'm 30, but I feel, act, and look like I'm 21.
 
Dragonborn said:
Do you exercise and eat healthy? I was feeling "old" two years ago until I finally decided to stop being over weight and work on it. It's been a long, long road, one I'm still on at this point but I still feel way better now. Sure, my body isn't at 100%, likely never will be but it's a hell of a lot better than the alternative.

Ad for the idealism, that's harder to deal with. It's not bad that you're no longer as idealistic as you once were, it's part of growing up and seeing more of the world. I was never especially idealistic so I can't comment too much but I find nothing wrong with being realistic about things.

As for changing by the time you're 40, who knows. I think going from your teens to early 20s should probably be the biggest change, but what do I know. Maybe some older gaffers can give us some input on that
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I'm not overweight, I'm actually on the verge of being underweight. Yeah, I could definitely exercise more and I'm sure it would give me more energy, but you know, excuses and stuff.

I'm also a lot more anxious than I used to be, that's the worst part. I'm probably being unfair to myself though because years 18-20 were probably the peak of my life, I was the man.

edit:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BYbJmQj5VkE
"80 years old" line speaks to me
 
Dragonborn said:
But what exactly is the feeling. Like, do you feel like life is over, are you more focused on the future now, realizing you're mortal, or something else.

I ask because sometimes I feel the same way but then I remember, I've hopefully got a few more decades left.

Maybe you could try engaging in mindfulness and meditation. I'm just starting out but I've found it quite helpful
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For me it's always been like... i just feel older than my peers, even if we're the same age, and it's not a physical thing because i am in good shape (amateur boxer) and people tell me i look younger than i am, maybe i'm just an old soul.
 
ezekial45 said:
Holy Christ, why did you bump this thread?

I'm fucking ashamed of how angsty I was. Yeeesh.
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Remind me to never post anything on the internet until I am 50.
Also, if this hadn't been a necro I would have been tearing into you like an idiot. Turns out you're just one year younger than me
 
I'm doing fine now. The old saying "you're only as old as you feel" is absolutely right. If you feel 'old', try something new to break yourself out of your rut.

It's all about your outlook.
 
People always give the worst advice in threads like these. Probably on purpose too, just to further antagonize the person who's having a hard time.

Never ask advice from strangers when it comes to mental issues. They'll just use it as an opportunity to be dicks and make themselves feel better.
 
Team Alucard said:
Same here. Except I'm 23.



Its mostly the realization that the best years of your life are behind you.
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The best years, maybe if you're talking about your physical body but heck, at that age (I'm 21 right) there's still you're whole life to live. Finding that girl you settle down with, having children, growing older, stuff like that. For all we know the best years are yet to come!

Kwixotik said:
I'm not overweight, I'm actually on the verge of being underweight. Yeah, I could definitely exercise more and I'm sure it would give me more energy, but you know, excuses and stuff.

I'm also a lot more anxious than I used to be, that's the worst part. I'm probably being unfair to myself though because years 18-20 were probably the peak of my life, I was the man.

edit:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BYbJmQj5VkE
"80 years old" line speaks to me
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I hear you on the anxiousness. I went through a 6 week period of pretty bad anxiety back in early November where all I could think about was the future ( I'm close to graduating so that made it a bit worse). I just couldn't stop thinking about what would happen, loosing my parents, growing old, etc. It was awful but thankfully I was able to pull through.

Every now and then it hits me but I just close my eyes and remind myself that there's no point in worrying. Why waste even a second of the present worrying about something that won't happen for years? And in 2p years when I'm 40, why wate time worrying then. And when I'm 70, or 80, well at that point I'd think that I would definitely not want to waste a single moment.

If you haven't, try looking into meditation. It could really help clear your mind.



Floridian said:
Jk/Exaggerating. I don't know what to feel honestly. I have a lot of time left obviously, but it's what I do with it that i'm unsure of.
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Yea, that feeling of wasting time is bad stuff. I sometimes feel I should be doing more but you know, I'm entertained, I'm happy. If something makes me happy then I don't think I should see it as a waste of time.

pixelation said:
For me it's always been like... i just feel older than my peers, even if we're the same age, and it's not a physical thing because i am in good shape (amateur boxer) and people tell me i look younger than i am, maybe i'm just an old soul.
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I've had the same feeling but mostly as a result of me being very curious, which led to me knowing just a lot more than my peers. For a long whole I definitely felt older than them but know I feel like I'm not old enougH.

I talk to an adult and I still feel like a child for some reason. it's weird
 
ezekial45 said:
I'm doing fine now. The old saying "you're only as old as you feel" is absolutely right. If you feel 'old', try something new to break yourself out of your rut.

It's all about your outlook.
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What has happened in these last 8 years? I am genuinely interested in hearing what changed. Was it school? romance? did you just come out of your shell?
 
sheesh this thread was created 10 days after I registered for this crazy website.
If you're reading this, past me, you fucked up.
If you're reading this, future me, I got so much more fuckin up to do you wouldn't BELIEVE.
 
This is actually a pretty funny game. Find a really old post on another forum of someone complaining they are old, make sure they are an active member, and then bump it to remind that they are way older now. Just did it on another forum with a 13 year old thread :)
 
Well, there's nothing much to say, really. I graduated college, got a lot of debt, had a few relationships that didn't work out, lost a few jobs, ended up getting a job writing about Videogames, learned to drive and managed to do so across several states on my own for a mini-vacation, and I ultimately found out I had a lot to offer people. A part of that was learning to rebuild my self-confidence. I came to realize that no one is perfect, no one truly has the perfect life, nor do they have things figured out. My parents are pushing 60, some of the smartest people I know, and they don't have it figured out yet. I'm a decent guy, I have friends and family that love me, and I met a lot of great people. And I'm still feel myself growing as a person.

As for now, I'm currently single, working two jobs, living in the Bay Area, and I'm still pretty awkward. And that's ok. Am I where I wanted to be at 28 when I was younger? No, and that's just fine. Looking back now to my late teens/early twenties, I cared a lot about shit that doesn't matter. Filling my head up with concepts and ideas of what I should be doing at a certain age, and honestly life just doesn't work that way.

I learned a lot in my twenties. I'm turning 28 next month, and I still want to try new things. And no, I don't feel old. If you're feeling that way only a couple years out of high-school, then you've got the completely wrong outlook. You're young, and you have more power and control than you realize, take advantage of it.

So yeah, that's me. I'm doing OK. Thanks for asking. :)
 
ezekial45 said:
Well, there's nothing much to say, really. I graduated college, got a lot of debt, had a few relationships that didn't work out, lost a few jobs, ended up getting a job writing about Videogames, learned to drive and managed to do so across several states on my own for a mini-vacation, and I ultimately found out I had a lot to offer people. A part of that was learning to rebuild my self-confidence. I came to realize that no one is perfect, no one truly has the perfect life, nor do they have things figured out. My parents are pushing 60, some of the smartest people I know, and they don't have it figured out yet. I'm a decent guy, I have friends and family that love me, and I met a lot of great people. And I'm still feel myself growing as a person.

As for now, I'm currently single, working two jobs, living in the Bay Area, and I'm still pretty awkward. And that's ok. Am I where I wanted to be at 28 when I was younger? No, and that's just fine. Looking back now to my late teens/early twenties, I cared a lot about shit that doesn't matter. Filling my head up with concepts and ideas of what I should be doing at a certain age, and honestly life just doesn't work that way.

I learned a lot in my twenties. I'm turning 28 next month, and I still want to try new things. And no, I don't feel old. If you're feeling that way only a couple years out of high-school, then you've got the completely wrong outlook. You're young, and you have more power and control than you realize, take advantage of it.

So yeah, that's me. I'm doing OK. Thanks for asking. :)
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