-
Hey Guest. Check out your NeoGAF Wrapped 2025 results here!
GAF, Have you ever been on a "break"?
- Thread starter shacklesmcgee
- Start date
- Status
entremet
Member
That usually requires two people committed to fighting for the relationship. Not a one sided codependent doing all the work.
Turn off your computer, put in a movie you either want to see or love watching repeatedly , take a long shower, get a good nights sleep. You are in my thoughts, I'm sure you will do just fine.
I dont know if it was just the video games + anime + social media situation but like i have a perfect picture in my mind of the kind of girl she is and she just sounds amazingly childish.
Not that any of those things make someone childish but the way she comes off is amazingly so.
EDIT: Hey OP, when i broke up with my ex i took up working out and walking around my city taking pictures of places ive never been. It was awesome and completely kept her off my mind.
Not that any of those things make someone childish but the way she comes off is amazingly so.
EDIT: Hey OP, when i broke up with my ex i took up working out and walking around my city taking pictures of places ive never been. It was awesome and completely kept her off my mind.
Clockwork5
Member
Been there, dude. You are better off. Please think on that and remember that. I wish i had when I was in your position.
Schwarzbier
Member
Yeah dude, you are better off.
Anybody who airs their dirty laundry on social media, whether or not they intended you to see it is not emotionally mature enough for an adult relationship.
It sucks, but it'll get easier and you'll meet someone much better.
Anybody who airs their dirty laundry on social media, whether or not they intended you to see it is not emotionally mature enough for an adult relationship.
It sucks, but it'll get easier and you'll meet someone much better.
shacklesmcgee
Member
And I never ever ever ever would, but I'd love for her to see this. Im pretty sure she has no idea how badly she's acted. But I'd never send/show it, that's just childish shit to get back at childish shit.
But in some universe out there....
Just got out of Jurassic World, I liked it, it was dumb entertainment.
Texted an old buddy, and meeting up with another old friend (female) tomorrow. Gonna keep my mind off things for a bit
But in some universe out there....
Just got out of Jurassic World, I liked it, it was dumb entertainment.
Texted an old buddy, and meeting up with another old friend (female) tomorrow. Gonna keep my mind off things for a bit
Zeyphersan
Banned
Listen man, I'd usually be with you on this, that GAF is too quick to tell people to end a relationship at the first sign of trouble and all that, but this isn't the case here. OP should definitely break it off
VaultBoy101
Gold Member
No I haven't, because a "break" doesn't actually exist.
prelude514
Banned
Once, when I was 14.
Break up with her.
Break up with her.
You're single now, remember.
Dagobert Duck
Member
I'm always reminded of this
On a slightly more serious note - sorry for the loss, OP. But now that you're free, you can enjoy single life! You're better off without her
Came here in order to post a friends reference...seeing it has been doen already...OP already broken up...nothing to see or do here...
boiled goose
good with gravy
This
TheSchwab_7
Member
Yeah I did a break once, but it didn't work out.
Saw that she broke up with you through email after 2 years? Psh. Shows you how much she really cared. Take some time for yourself. Do some hobbies, surround yourself with friends and family. It'll sting for awhile, but you'll meet someone else who will be right for you.
Saw that she broke up with you through email after 2 years? Psh. Shows you how much she really cared. Take some time for yourself. Do some hobbies, surround yourself with friends and family. It'll sting for awhile, but you'll meet someone else who will be right for you.
SoulUnison
Banned
Just say no to breaks.
They almost invariably mean "I've got somebody else lined up but I want to come back if it doesn't work out."
They almost invariably mean "I've got somebody else lined up but I want to come back if it doesn't work out."
Yeah... if she's doing all this stuff via texts and emails, this was a ticking time bomb that was better to end sooner rather than later.
I've never met either of you, but if I may make a prediction based on what's presented in this thread, it sounds like during these past 2 years, you've matured while she hasn't. This happens to couples from time to time.
(And yes, "matured" applies to adults. It applies to us all, no matter what age we are. ^_^)
Cheers to everything going up from here.
oneils
Member
Hahahahahah
Yeah, something just clicked.
Now...guys...I can handle a lot of things....
BUT THEY CANCELLED HANNIBAL!
Uh wut? Seriously? They cancelled Hannibal!? Oh noooooooo.
True Savior
Member
I'm always on a break. Maybe i shouldn't call it that.
Stereogatari
Banned
No. My life isn't a TV show.
Princess Carl
Member
I'm really curious what you aren't telling us that led to this. She's sounds like multiple people I know who had to break up with as little contact as possible because they were afraid of what their now-ex might do.
Usually I'm all for advising that breaks aren't a breakup in disguise but this doesn't sound like it has the best circumstances to pick up again if she is actively telling the world how free and relived she is.
If you want to try anything write her again and say you'll agree to a break as long as you can have an open and honest discussion about why she feels she needs the break and agree on a time frame where she should have made up her mind, also tell her how you will feel about it and react if she sees other guys during the break. It's important that both of you are aware of what kind of situation you are entering into and what expectations you have to it and tachometer during the break. If you can't talk about that then breaking off is probably the right thing to do.
If you want to try anything write her again and say you'll agree to a break as long as you can have an open and honest discussion about why she feels she needs the break and agree on a time frame where she should have made up her mind, also tell her how you will feel about it and react if she sees other guys during the break. It's important that both of you are aware of what kind of situation you are entering into and what expectations you have to it and tachometer during the break. If you can't talk about that then breaking off is probably the right thing to do.
AyaisMUsikWhore
Member
I had one guy who literally asked me as we were driving home from a date, which got real heated, that we should take a break.
I broke it off with him that night. I'm young and getting it. Fuck a break and the whole concept of it. I'm not going to wait around because either you want to have your moment to think things through, and I'm not pausing to really think if I need to think things through. I'm very blunt about the way I feel about things so if you can't take it then there's no reason to be together. So in that instance OP, nope.
If it's asked for, it's just a chain to hide feelings and it's already gone bad. And you don't want to get to the point where you aren't even on talking terms or the occasional rules of a "break" (ie. You can't talk to anyone else, etc etc.)
Edit: Didn't see the recent update. Welp, that's real messed up of her to just break up with you in an email. That's real balsy too. Shameful tbh, especially after yall been together for so long. Just forget about it and look to the future. Get out, hit a concert or two, play some games and just erase her from your mind. Please just don't get to the bitter stage where you start to hate because of what went down. Hopefully you keep your chin up and move forward.
I broke it off with him that night. I'm young and getting it. Fuck a break and the whole concept of it. I'm not going to wait around because either you want to have your moment to think things through, and I'm not pausing to really think if I need to think things through. I'm very blunt about the way I feel about things so if you can't take it then there's no reason to be together. So in that instance OP, nope.
If it's asked for, it's just a chain to hide feelings and it's already gone bad. And you don't want to get to the point where you aren't even on talking terms or the occasional rules of a "break" (ie. You can't talk to anyone else, etc etc.)
Edit: Didn't see the recent update. Welp, that's real messed up of her to just break up with you in an email. That's real balsy too. Shameful tbh, especially after yall been together for so long. Just forget about it and look to the future. Get out, hit a concert or two, play some games and just erase her from your mind. Please just don't get to the bitter stage where you start to hate because of what went down. Hopefully you keep your chin up and move forward.
John Kowalski
Banned
The years aren't gone bruv, all relationships end. They were well spent.
dlbeast
Member
Hey GAF,
Worst week of my life these last couple days, my GF asked for a break last Tuesday, and I've been a complete wreck since then. After having not the best weekend, and saying something really stupid Tuesday morning, I was supposed to go over and she asked me not to. I felt so bad I bought her some things and left them on her doorstep to say sorry, but I didn't actually see her. Later that night, she texted me about how she had sent me an email explaining the situation. The email said she wanted a break, and some stuff about our relationship, but not a whole lot. I emailed back asking if she wanted to break up, she called saying " i dunno, I need time".
So, it was bad enough I don't really know what's going on with her, she's been posting stuff online about us that really, really hurts. Stuff like "I'm FINALLY going out" or " for the first time in 2 years...." (we've been dating two years).
I've jumped from every single emotion, and have no idea what's gonna happen when we do talk....if she asks to meet in a public place, I'll just die.
Not sure what I'm looking for here, just kinda wanted to vent....but GAF, have you ever been on a "break"? Did it work out? Was it for the better? Or was it just prolonging the inevitable break up?
Thanks everyone
tuff stuff bro. Id just consider the "i need time" her way of moving on. Id just give urself some time, sometimes looking at things from the perspective of" everything happens for a reason" and keep busy so as to keep your mind off of things. Dont go after her...just do your own thing for a while......if its meant to be....things have a way of fixing themselves. No matter what i tell you .....your going to have to go thru all your own thoughts/feelings/emotions on your own....but end of the day you will be ok.
Keep us posted on ur sanity...GAF IS HERE FOR YA!
DistortionOfReality
Member
I'm not going to tell you to break up with her. But posting that kind of shit on social media is super childish.
In my experience, anyone I have been 'on a break' with I ended up breaking up with in the end. Take from that what you will.
Hugs OP
In my experience, anyone I have been 'on a break' with I ended up breaking up with in the end. Take from that what you will.
Hugs OP
TimorousPanda
Member
From what I've read, you seem better off without her. She sounds like a jerk.
CarpeDeezNutz
Member
The cowards way out. 2 and a half years she should at least tell you face to face.
Do not do what I did and fall apart, cos a decade ago I was a mess and a few years ago was like "why the hell did I let myself die like that when there were so many other women to meet!?"
And now I have a beautiful wife and kids. You go through shit in life but with strength and courage it can get better
And like the wise sage that was my cousin said to me "Yo, if she was willing to break up with you she was never really down with you in the first place."
Lionheart1827
Member
Good for you man. Just keep on doing things to take your mind off it. You seem to be taking it well so far. Better than a lot of posters on here that break up. She sounds like trash imo and its probably her loss in the long run. Get out there and kick some ass. Just remember to spend some time on you.
There also may be times where you will regress but just try your best to sit with it and you'll be fine.
shacklesmcgee
Member
The worst are the dreams every night...
She's with me and things are back to normal...then I wake up
Ugh every day is another 16 hours of confusion, pain and sadness. And wondering what I can do to not think about it. Every moment my head has a second to itself, I just go right back to wondering what happened, and how long is "a long, long time" that she's felt this way, etc.
I know I can't win her back, and I'm not trying to, I just want closure. What happened? 2.5 years gone without a conversation between us. It's not right.
She's with me and things are back to normal...then I wake up
Ugh every day is another 16 hours of confusion, pain and sadness. And wondering what I can do to not think about it. Every moment my head has a second to itself, I just go right back to wondering what happened, and how long is "a long, long time" that she's felt this way, etc.
I know I can't win her back, and I'm not trying to, I just want closure. What happened? 2.5 years gone without a conversation between us. It's not right.
The Albatross
Member
It's hard OP, but break up with her. It's inevitable any way, and best just to tear these bandaids off.
It's hard, but you'll get through it and be stronger, wiser, better off. Few breakups are easy.
It's hard, but you'll get through it and be stronger, wiser, better off. Few breakups are easy.
Hey GAF,
Worst week of my life these last couple days, my GF asked for a break last Tuesday, and I've been a complete wreck since then. After having not the best weekend, and saying something really stupid Tuesday morning, I was supposed to go over and she asked me not to. I felt so bad I bought her some things and left them on her doorstep to say sorry, but I didn't actually see her. Later that night, she texted me about how she had sent me an email explaining the situation. The email said she wanted a break, and some stuff about our relationship, but not a whole lot. I emailed back asking if she wanted to break up, she called saying " i dunno, I need time".
So, it was bad enough I don't really know what's going on with her, she's been posting stuff online about us that really, really hurts. Stuff like "I'm FINALLY going out" or " for the first time in 2 years...." (we've been dating two years).
I've jumped from every single emotion, and have no idea what's gonna happen when we do talk....if she asks to meet in a public place, I'll just die.
Not sure what I'm looking for here, just kinda wanted to vent....but GAF, have you ever been on a "break"? Did it work out? Was it for the better? Or was it just prolonging the inevitable break up?
Thanks everyone
I'm in a similar situation OP. GF of 2 and a half years wanted a break. Came out of nowhere.
Just respect the space but make sure you aren't in limbo. Ask her what the deal is. Seeing other people, when do you want to meet back up by. Etc.
I've known people that took breaks in their relationship and are back together. I know of a couple who took a break for 2 years, saw other people, found each other again and are married with kids now.
It's a weird situation. I don't know how its gonna work out with me and my gf. Just give it time.
thiscoldblack
Unconfirmed Member
After those social media posts, I don't think I would want anything to do with her. I mean, in other words, she's so glad you're out of the picture. I truly understand you would like to close things down in person like mature adults.. but those childish messages. Nope.
Gentle Rodriguez
Member
Who emails their SO?
Who breaks up through email?
What year is it?
Who breaks up through email?
What year is it?
Spiderjericho
Member
That's the best thing to do. Just work on yourself, keep yourself occupied and surround yourself with those who care about you.
It's not going to be easy at the moment. You're going to be sad. But time heals all wounds. Just don't stew. There are plenty more fish in the sea. And realize relationships aren't easy but you're going to find someone who will appreciate you.
Baka Sempai
Member
TheBaldEmperor
Member
You'll drive yourself crazy trying to figure it out. I've had closure in some relationships and not in others and I'm not sure either is all that much different when it is over. Might be best to keep moving.
The thing is you are better off without her. Atleast it was only 2.5 years and not 10 or 20 years like a lot of people have gone through. You are still young and beautiful so you can find someone else who is a definite fit and appreciative of you, instead of her where she bashes you on facebook and dumps you via email. That chick is gonna go lots of places in life, but probably not any good ones. Good luck to you!
terrisus
Member
If only >.>
- Status