Dark Octave said:
Novels can never be "cinematic", games can.
I would argue that games can't either.
A cinematic is a mini movie, not a game. It ceases to be a game when it takes control away from the player, the same as if the game were interrupted by several pages of text it'd stop being a game and become a novel for the duration of that scene.
You mention how jarring it is if the player decides to jump around in circles like an idiot during some emotional scene, certainly that's true. And in my ideal game the NPCs would react realistically when the player did stuff like that, and conversely, I'd give the player relevant actions to perform while those scenes were happening.
It's also jarring, however, to go from one scene where the characters are giving fully motion captured, fluid, choreographed performances, and then suddenly the next moment, when control is finally relinquished to the player once more, the characters are once again inflexibly tethered to the game world, generally incapable of motions and movements they, we are expected to accept, they were just performing moments prior.
You also assume that game stories are best served by the same approach we are accustomed to in other media: expository dialogue.
My point is games are a completely different medium, and just as early movies started out simply being stage plays recorded on film before they developed their own set of relevant tools and approaches, I think games are aping movies, hopefully until they come into their own.
I think learning about the story by changes in the game world, by catching glimpses of television broadcasts, by overhearing enemy troops talking to one another, by seeing the posters and graffiti of that lived-in world that you are supposed to be experiencing and engrossed in is a far more suitable approach.
I'd rather be the player character standing there, looking up and *seeing* the bridge begin to fall down on top of me, and subsequently having to run for my life, than watching some lame Hollywood action scene cinema of the same event unfolding.
Also, I understand people have different tastes, which is why I prefaced all of this by saying it was just my opinion (which should be self-evident).