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The weight explanation is so absurd that even the most cynical would be tempted to dismiss it as a lie. But what is more astounding than the mothers logic is the daughter agreeing to accept her opinion on weight. That tells you more about the girl than the mother.

I agree with others who say there is likely more at play here and the mother's opinion of your weight is being used as an excuse. In time, OP, you'll find someone who loves you.
 
Adam Blade said:
I think it's more likely that she's using her mom as an excuse to breakup with you.
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Could very well be, but it is kind of hard to judge tbh. Like others have explained, it is also very possible she does have very controlling parents. She is still 'only' 18 and might not yet have the strenght to oppose her parents.

No matter what the reason might be, it is now time for OP to look after himself. Because he is not overweight...he's (morbid) obese.
Work on yourself OP, not for your ex, not for her bitch-ass mom... but for yourself, for your own health.
 
Lamel said:
It really does depend on the maturity, more so the age.

Most people just aren't mature in the teens though, but some definitely are.
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Nobody's wise in their teens, though, that's the tough part.

She's depressed without you - nope wouldn't.

Parents elite and vain - nope wouldn't.

6'1" 340 - would but that's dangerously big. You already know this though.
 
Tence said:
Could very well be, but it is kind of hard to judge tbh. Like others have explained, it is also very possible she does have very controlling parents. She is still 'only' 18 and might not yet have the strenght to oppose her parents.
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I don't know. From everything posted by the OP, it sounds like his ex just used her mom as an excuse.

We know that she's 18. She used to date assholes, OP seems like the "nice guy" in this scenario, and he was planning on proposing to her. Maybe she thought things were going too quickly, that he was too much of a nice guy, or maybe she just lost her attraction to him due to his weight. To be honest, those all seem more likely of a reason coming from an 18 year old than "her mom made her do it".

Mixmasterchief said:
SHe's only ever dated assholes, and after her last boyfriend cheated on her I made her the promises she wanted to have made... I made through with those promises and everything else was perfect... I was going to ask her to marry me next month...
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Mixmasterchief said:
This, she didn't want to break up with me, her mom made her.

I am 6'1'', and I weigh like 340, mix of muscle and (mostly) fat.
she is 5'8'' and only weighs 125.
Her parents are a bunch of elitists, her parents tell her she's fat and that she needs to work out more than 5 days a week like she does and that I am only making her worse... Her mom is fatter than I am... makes no sense, but I've seen them like that first hand.
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^Except for this, which tells it all. Kinda hard to go against them when they're paying for your college and just being an 18 year old kid, not having any kind of idea how you'd manage to make things work and pull through otherwise and just feeling really pressured to go along with it, regardless of what you personally feel.
Mixmasterchief said:
they're paying for her college.

EDIT: Devo got it
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The second post you quoted is also revealing in that the girl's mom weighs more than the OP, yet she's hounding not only him over this, but also her own daughter, despite her only being at 125 lbs. Really just more seems like the mom looking for an excuse to break them up, not really finding one and just settling on that and a bit of projecting her own issues and struggles onto them.

And lastly, the two of them have been together for a year. If the weight were a problem at all for her, it wouldn't have lasted that long. Doubt it's the things moving too quickly thing as it doesn't seem like she knew about the proposal or anything and if it was simply the OP being a nice guy that was a problem again they probably wouldn't have even made it that long. Just sounds like it's really the mom being a bitch to me and using the financial control she has over her daughter to finally start getting her way.
 
Mixmasterchief said:
This, she didn't want to break up with me, her mom made her.

I am 6'1'', and I weigh like 340, mix of muscle and (mostly) fat.
she is 5'8'' and only weighs 125.
Her parents are a bunch of elitists, her parents tell her she's fat and that she needs to work out more than 5 days a week like she does and that I am only making her worse... Her mom is fatter than I am... makes no sense, but I've seen them like that first hand.
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Life is a stone cold bitch and people are too. Fight for what you want man. If you love the chick fight for her if that fighting isn't returned. Move on.
 
It is in my experience girls generally don't do things unless they want to do it. She probably wanted to break up with you and decided to blame her mom.
 
Damn. Sorry to hear that man. Me and my first gf in high school broke up because her mom didn't want her seeing me anymore so I can sorta relate. Sucks.
 
Lets get this straight. You weren't going to propose to her, you know that's dumb. She's just your first love and now your world is crumbling because she dry fucked your heart in the ass. She is going to college, she wants to taste the meaty fruits of the juicy forest of youth. You'll get over it, probably nearly forget about it. Life.
 
Meus Renaissance said:
The weight explanation is so absurd that even the most cynical would be tempted to dismiss it as a lie. But what is more astounding than the mothers logic is the daughter agreeing to accept her opinion on weight. That tells you more about the girl than the mother.

I agree with others who say there is likely more at play here and the mother's opinion of your weight is being used as an excuse. In time, OP, you'll find someone who loves you.
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I'm on board with this one. also...18? and proposing marriage after a year? breaking up did you a favor.
 
OP, follow EvilLore's advice and use this as a starting point to a better life. When I was 18 and went to college I made it a point in my freshman year to not fall into the "Freshman 15." While everyone around me was gaining weight I lose 50 pounds. It completely changed my life for the better. I am healthier, more confident, etc.

Also, I'm glad this happened so you didn't get the chance to ask her to marry you. A year is not long enough to decide that, especially at 18.
 
Calion said:
OP thinks 18 is a mature age. Jesus.
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Yep, dang 18 year olds always thinking their so mature and adults. Drives me crazy. Come on man, you should be out acting crazy and having fun, peeing in mop buckets and stuff. You have plenty of time to grow up. Enjoy your youth while you have it.
 
Love comes in all shapes and sizes. They deserve their miserable existence. You will find someone that will love you for you. That said, your weight isn't healthy but that shouldn't be a deal breaker for a relationship.
 
Mixmasterchief said:
My girlfriend of just shy of a year split the other day and I broke me down. I've been trying to reason with her and remind her of how happy she is now (she was depressed when we got together). We started texting again and we met after I got off of work to eat dinner and we had a fantastic time together. I dropped her off at home, drove to my house and called her once I got into bed and she was balling, so I asked her what was wrong and she told me that her mother said we can no longer see or even talk to each other. We spent the whole night talking, a six and a half hour phone call about how things were perfect and that she wishes she hadn't split up with me because it wouldn't have led to this. Now, only after a day, I can't even stand to look in the mirror... The reason for the forced split is because her mom doesn't like that I'm overweight.
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How old are the two of you?
 
Moving a bit fast eh... ? You said she was depressed when she met you? Hmmm...Not good signs at all.

If you really want her, lose the weight. You can do it in 3-4 months easy.
 
I avoided even clicking on this thread until now. ....

Well OP, she's either strong enough to decide she loves you or she isn't. If she isn't don't waste any time or tears, just realize some things that are now plainly displayed in front of your face. I don't think there are any mysteries here, unfortunately.


You will one day laugh bitter laughter over this, probably in the company of a woman that you love.

IceCold said:
Lose the weight and bang the mother.
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Masterclass.
 
Mixmasterchief said:
This, she didn't want to break up with me, her mom made her.

I am 6'1'', and I weigh like 340, mix of muscle and (mostly) fat.
she is 5'8'' and only weighs 125.
Her parents are a bunch of elitists, her parents tell her she's fat and that she needs to work out more than 5 days a week like she does and that I am only making her worse... Her mom is fatter than I am... makes no sense, but I've seen them like that first hand.
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You are morbidly obese, take care of your health before even thinking of being in a relationship
 
Not to be a dick or anything but I feel 18 definitely is too early to be committing to a marriage. I know I'm not the only 18 year old who feels their really not mature enough for that yet.
 
Mixmasterchief said:
Well, she called me from a friends phone last night and we talked until like 4 am. She misses me and I miss her. I started my work outs this morning too, I'm busting shit up and working my ass off.



give me your secrets
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stop drinking calories, eliminate all sugar, and dont eat processed foods and simple carbs. Drastically reduce your intake of carbs in general, because if you are like most americans, that takes up like 70% of your diet, which is just way too much
 
I don't know man, you might have to seriously consider breaking it off.

At the end of the day though, it's your choice. If you love this girl too much to let go, that is your decision.

Please continue on working to get healthier. You need to care for yourself, it can only benefit you.
 
Mixmasterchief said:
Well, she called me from a friends phone last night and we talked until like 4 am. She misses me and I miss her. I started my work outs this morning too, I'm busting shit up and working my ass off.



give me your secrets
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Quit talking on the phone til the wee hours of the night/morning. Lack of sleep is a big cause of overeating / being overweight. Get your beauty sleep.
 
Mixmasterchief said:
Well, she called me from a friends phone last night and we talked until like 4 am. She misses me and I miss her. I started my work outs this morning too, I'm busting shit up and working my ass off.



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Good for you dude. Keep it up.

Edit: the working out I mean. Not the phone calls.
 
At my biggest I was 6'2 350lbs. I can tell you that no matter what anyone says, you do need to lose weight. Thats way to much extra weight. You're waist line is like 46" right?
 
Lamel said:
She broke up because her parents pay tuition, not because she wanted to. I know of firsthand accounts of this in multiple cases. Not much you can do.
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I never understood this. Unless her parents have a camera in her dorm room and/or check her phone/fb/chat logs, how can they stop a college-aged girl from banging whomever she wants? Just...lie. It's easy. "I was definitely studying last night." See?

Unless she lives at home.
 
Mixmasterchief said:
This, she didn't want to break up with me, her mom made her.

I am 6'1'', and I weigh like 340, mix of muscle and (mostly) fat.
she is 5'8'' and only weighs 125.
Her parents are a bunch of elitists, her parents tell her she's fat and that she needs to work out more than 5 days a week like she does and that I am only making her worse... Her mom is fatter than I am... makes no sense, but I've seen them like that first hand.
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5'8" at 125 is skinny, those are my wife's stats. Her parents are insane.
 
I was 342 April 1. I'm 276 today and still losing 3-5 lbs a week.

My mother in law was all over me about my weight because she feared I was going to die of a heart attack and she'd be stuck taking care of my family.

I'm 33 and 6'2", BTW
 
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