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egruntz said:
She's been saying weird things, I don't know. Like "good boy" when I first get my dick in.
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I have to admit, that would throw me off too.

If you really don't click sexually (and I'm not just saying, because she says "good boy" or "thank you" -- you sound really unsatisfied and incompatible with her), I would probably just dump her and move on. Life's too short, and that's too huge a part of the relationship. And she is not going to like you after however long it takes to "mold" her to your liking, if that even works. "I don't think we have any physical chemistry" is valid. You already were pushing it trying to get her off the "saving myself for marriage" thing...

I wouldn't pay much attention to the people saying what she's doing is hot and you're lucky. You don't sound lucky, and you don't sound happy. There is such a thing as bad sex, GAF, and even such a thing as girls who are weird about sex, that you don't find out about until you're in the relationship. I've been there. I'm glad not to be there anymore. My current gf is amazing, my last one was awful and weird. The giggling was a sign of her own discomfort with sex in general. Hell with that, I say.

And being honest, do you really expect to be with her for life, meaning you would be the only person she ever sleeps with? If not, maybe let her get her experiences and figure shit out elsewhere.
 
Yeah, OP I mean everyone's different but sex is pretty simple. It might be something you two can talk about/work through, but if she's already being a bit "weird" and making you uncomfortable, and it's causing you to overthink, you need to communicate and talk with her about it or consider moving on. Tbh, I've dated some people who I reaalllyyy decided I needed to move on from when their bedroom weirdness put me off or set off red flags. I'm sure everyone has their kinks to some degree, and maybe she's just trying to be playful and thinks you'll like it, but if you can't manage to talk with her effectively about it than it won't get better.
 
"She says thank you after, George"

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terrene said:
I have to admit, that would throw me off too.

If you really don't click sexually (and I'm not just saying, because she says "good boy" or "thank you" -- you sound really unsatisfied and incompatible with her), I would probably just dump her and move on. Life's too short, and that's too huge a part of the relationship. And she is not going to like you after however long it takes to "mold" her to your liking, if that even works. "I don't think we have any physical chemistry" is valid. You already were pushing it trying to get her off the "saving myself for marriage" thing...

I wouldn't pay much attention to the people saying what she's doing is hot and you're lucky. You don't sound lucky, and you don't sound happy. There is such a thing as bad sex, GAF, and even such a thing as girls who are weird about sex, that you don't find out about until you're in the relationship. I've been there. I'm glad not to be there anymore. My current gf is amazing, my last one was awful and weird. The giggling was a sign of her own discomfort with sex in general. Hell with that, I say.

And being honest, do you really expect to be with her for life, meaning you would be the only person she ever sleeps with? If not, maybe let her get her experiences and figure shit out elsewhere.
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This is a very reasonable post, I hope the OP listens because he and his girlfriend are not compatible at all.
 
Samowski said:
Now wait. A tenner is ten pounds/dollars, right?

Doesn't that seem.. weird to you?
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Yeah £10.

It's clearly a little joke between us. As in, she'll do anything if I 'pay' her. Get it?

She has told me before she'd probably get a little kick out of me 'paying' her money for sex.
 
egruntz said:
She's been saying this after. It just completely ruins the mood. Even if I've already finished, I don't know, something about it just turns me completely off, even though I'm already worn. She's been saying weird things, I don't know. Like "good boy" when I first get my dick in. And I'm just like, "....Yeah?" and start thrusting. And she goes "yeah! yeah! yeah!" and I'm like dear god woman shut up, I can't concentrate.

IDK.
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The "good boy" could just be her trying to talk kinky; I don't think it's a big deal. The "thank you" is kind of weird but the biggest issue here is what you're saying about having to concentrate.

As a general rule, if you really have to concentrate to get off, either you, her, or more likely both of you, are doing it wrong, or there's some biological issue going on.

Anyway, you can try casually saying, "You don't need to thank me for fucking you" and try to play it off as kind of joking and hope she gets the point.

Are you physically attracted to her? Are you whacking off in between sex that's making it harder to finish?

If you guys get along well otherwise, you should be able to figure this out. I mean, it's sex. When your guys' genitals make contact, the body kind of does the rest, so it really shouldn't be this much work to have decent bangs.
 
Here's a good position that will get you a genuinely thank you. Do missionary and grab her by the back of the knees and pull them all the way to get her head and tear it up. If that doesn't get you a thank you idk what will.
 
terrene said:
I have to admit, that would throw me off too.

If you really don't click sexually (and I'm not just saying, because she says "good boy" or "thank you" -- you sound really unsatisfied and incompatible with her), I would probably just dump her and move on. Life's too short, and that's too huge a part of the relationship. And she is not going to like you after however long it takes to "mold" her to your liking, if that even works. "I don't think we have any physical chemistry" is valid. You already were pushing it trying to get her off the "saving myself for marriage" thing...

I wouldn't pay much attention to the people saying what she's doing is hot and you're lucky. You don't sound lucky, and you don't sound happy. There is such a thing as bad sex, GAF, and even such a thing as girls who are weird about sex, that you don't find out about until you're in the relationship. I've been there. I'm glad not to be there anymore. My current gf is amazing, my last one was awful and weird. The giggling was a sign of her own discomfort with sex in general. Hell with that, I say.

And being honest, do you really expect to be with her for life, meaning you would be the only person she ever sleeps with? If not, maybe let her get her experiences and figure shit out elsewhere.
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Agreed. I think there are things going on that the OP isn't really acknowledging or even is aware of. The whole thing about her being adamant about waiting until after marriage and then putting out after she got the necklace kind of seems odd. It may be a case of her not really being comfortable she is with sex and she is only doing it to please the OP.

But the OP should talk to his gf about it and see what's going on. A simple, "Are you happy with things?" could be a way to get her to open up.
 
I'd be more worried about her not being willing to learn. It isn't good that she gets upset when you try to tell her what to do/not to do. It's perfectly normal and it doesn't mean she's bad or anything.

I do/did this with my girlfriend all the time. I'd say things like a little lower/keep it wet/don't ever touch that again/Harder, Better, Faster, Stronger/ honey, leave the pets out of this, and so on. Perfectly normal. You really need to talk about that.
 
Sounds like she is enjoying a BBC or two and she says Thank you after sex because if you never guilted her into having sex with you with that $1,000 necklace her tuna hole would have never felt the pleasures it feels now from the thick, long, veiny shafts that fill her up when you are not around.

At least that’s what I get from it.
 
egruntz said:
She's been saying this after. It just completely ruins the mood. Even if I've already finished, I don't know, something about it just turns me completely off, even though I'm already worn. She's been saying weird things, I don't know. Like "good boy" when I first get my dick in. And I'm just like, "....Yeah?" and start thrusting. And she goes "yeah! yeah! yeah!" and I'm like dear god woman shut up, I can't concentrate.

IDK.
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good boy? Am I the only one that thinks this is fake? Seriously, a lot of weird stuff goes down in GAF. I don't think I've ever encountered any of these wild stories in real life.
 
Sevarus said:
Don't get married to someone you're sexually incompatible with.
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Pretty much.

There is no way I'd last 12 months with a girl without sleeping with her, that's just crazy talk to me.

And the fact that she acquiesced simply because you bought her a dress is pretty messed up too, I'd find that really off putting to be honest.
 
Acinixys said:
Guys my GF is coming over tonight and after i do the deed i will say thank you and report back on her response

For science
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I just remembered that sometimes, after a couple of really good orgasms, I've been known to say (kind of jokingly) "Thanks for that." Got a (also not totally serious) "It was my pleasure" in return. Sex is kind of goofy when you think about it... it's good to have a sense of humor.
 
I once dated a girl while I was in San Diego who was kinda like that too, except we never had sex since she was also all about religious stuff and waiting for marriage and all.

She also had this general good boy attitude which was a complete game breaker for me, got hurt when I tried to talk to her about it and that's where we ended, so this all seems too familiar to me. You best just try to bring it up the softest way you can, say it just doesn't flow for you, and hope she doesn't get hurt by you just trying to work out something that bothers you in your relationship.
 
Violet_0 said:
tbqh, your life sounds rather boring. Everyone else on GAF is having a wild time
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Er, I never said my life was boring. I guarantee you I'm getting more pussy than you. I bet you don't even have abs.

but seriously, I'm talking about friends having the same weird, strange problems, besides cheating.
 
Super_Cobra said:
Here's a good position that will get you a genuinely thank you. Do missionary and grab her by the back of the knees and pull them all the way to get her head and tear it up. If that doesn't get you a thank you idk what will.
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baardhimself said:
i had a better idea.. i kick your wife in the back of the legs and fuck her bareback doggy style, just as i am about to nut i whip out nintendoggy 2 and using the dsi i record me covering her mouth and busting up her nostrils as she fingers my taint. bitch.
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Hope she thanked him afterwards >.>


Sevarus said:
Don't get married to someone you're sexually incompatible with.
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Great, now you tell me :þ
 
terrisus said:
Great, now you tell me :þ
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Aw :(

It almost happened to me, actually. I kept thinking "It's going to get better, we're going to click at some point, something must be wrong with me." There was a lot of guilt surrounding the whole act; I felt pressured, she felt unloved. I realized that I couldn't get married to someone I only had sex with 2-3 times a year. There are some things all the communication in the world can't fix.
 
Sevarus said:
Aw :(

It almost happened to me, actually. I kept thinking "It's going to get better, we're going to click at some point, something must be wrong with me." There was a lot of guilt surrounding the whole act; I felt pressured, she felt unloved. I realized that I couldn't get married to someone I only had sex with 2-3 times a year. There are some things all the communication in the world can't fix.
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Yeah, plenty of guilt and pressure and feeling like there's something wrong for me too.
To be fair, it really is basically all my fault, I can't really blame her.

Meh.
 
Maybe sex isn't that appealing to her, at least with you.

You're making it such a big deal that to her, maybe it's just plain funny?
 
terrisus said:
Yeah, plenty of guilt and pressure and feeling like there's something wrong for me too.
To be fair, it really is basically all my fault, I can't really blame her.

Meh.
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Rarely does the blame solely fall on one partner.

I thought I had no sex drive, actually questioned my sexuality for a while. We just weren't good for each other. We both found new people and we're both a lot happier for it.
 
If it bothers you, you should find a way to tell her. Maybe try to get her to go in a new direction while making sure you're not ruining the fun for her.

EDIT: Next time she says "good boy" say "woof woof"
 
You are a waste OP. This girl is practically begging to be defiled and you lack the sexual imagination to surface her inner freak. Take up religion and give up the sex you saint.
 
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