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[entremet]

One of my favorite DJs is spinning but my friends are a either out of town for the holidays or not club types, should I hit the club solo. I can do bars solo, but I've never done the club solo. I'm a social guy, but seems strange doing so. Weirdly, I cannot do movie solo, yet I'm contemplating a club solo.

 

[CarpeDeezNutz]

One of my favorite DJs is spinning but my friends are a either out of town for the holidays or not club types, should I hit the club solo. I can do bars solo, but I've never done the club solo.

What does he/she spin?

 

[potam]

What does he/she spin?

records.

I don't think I could do it, but if you're into the music being played, why not?

 

[CarpeDeezNutz]

When I go to a club it's either if I spin or someone I like is spinning. And I just stand there watching their technique. Don't go solo though.

 

[Sanjuro]

It all depends. Club environment is a bit tougher to mingle, but at the same time you probably won't even be noticed. Your call.

I prefer bars myself.

 

[daffy]

This reminds of one time I went clubbing alone and just started randomly hanging around and dancing with a group that I had never met or seen before. Didn't really say a word until the club was nearly closed. They were super cool and I met 4 awesome friends, one of which is now my roommate. Go for it op.

 

[Bam Bam Baklava]

Probably a bad idea. Unless you're cool with just hanging around doing nothing.

 

[linsivvi]

I'd never do it, but I've seen both men and women went clubbing alone, especially at underground clubs. After a couple drinks you probably wouldn't care.

 

[Einhander]

I'm amazed at how many people are uncomfortable going to the movie theater alone. Just go and enjoy the movie.

As for going to the club alone, the same logic applies as above, go to enjoy the music, and have a couple drinks.

 

[Eidan]

You can't do a movie solo? That's strange. It's the easiest thing in the world, especially since the point of the movie is to watch the movie, not really to socialize.

 

[Battlezone]

None of my friends these days are into DJ's or clubs (we're all old married dudes), so when I go, it's usually by myself. It probably helps that I have a ton of contacts from my promoting/clubbing days, so I never have to deal with lines, covers, or any of that shit, and I can basically just hang out behind the DJ booth. I don't know if I'd bother, otherwise.

I don't think there's anything at all wrong with going by yourself-it really just depends on what you want from your evening.

 

[Gorillaz]

Ehhh depends on the type of club I guess? I mean if it has a bar(duh) then there will probably be people by themselves just enjoying their time. if I go to the bar it's a hole-in-the-wall type of place, where I can just realize and watch the game. If your friend is spinning why not? you have a reason to be there.

 

[Sinfamy]

You're gonna be that guy.

 

[Mario]

One of my favorite DJs is spinning but my friends are a either out of town for the holidays or not club types, should I hit the club solo. I can do bars solo, but I've never done the club solo. I'm a social guy, but seems strange doing so. Weirdly, I cannot do movie solo, yet I'm contemplating a club solo.

I did this for the first time years and years ago when two friends left me high and dry on a planned big night out. Annoyed, I went out anyway, and had the best night of my life.

Since then, I've actually gone out clubbing more often than not by myself, locally and when traveling. I tend to meet way more people that way, am not beholden to the annoying and cumbersome nature of group decision making, and can do whatever the mood takes me. Ultimately, I tend to enjoy myself more.

Do it, and see if you like it. One night out by yourself is not going to scar you for life.

 

[WorldStar]

I often went to clubs alone while backpacking through Europe

had lots of fun tbh

 

[FairyD]

If its your favourite DJ you should go. It's just like a bar by yourself except it's louder.

But the weird shit is you not being able to go to the movies by yourself, but you are considering a club?

 

[entremet]

If its your favourite DJ you should go. It's just like a bar by yourself except it's louder.

But the weird shit is you not being able to go to the movies by yourself, but you are considering a club?

I've always enjoyed chatting about the movie afterward.

 

[MIMIC]

PERSONALLY, I wouldn't. I always go to the movies by myself, but I've never gone to the club by myself.

But if you just wanna have fun, who cares, right?

 

[Kvik]

I've done this a few times in the past and ended up making a few new friends, exchanged numbers, went for a couple of dates etc. Great fun if you're not an introvert in the first place. It could be hard at first, but you'll meet plenty of people with the same interest if you know where to look/go.

Although I'm more into underground house/techno, therefore most people there are generally in there for the music, so I can't really speak for other genres.

 

[freenudemacusers]

how much swagger do you have OP?

 

[Servbot24]

Going to a club alone makes more sense than a bar to me. At a bar its just groups of people talking, if you're not in a group than why are you even spending money there. At a club people are usually open to dancing with strangers and meeting random people.

 

[hanzo]

"Da club?" You already lost by saying that.

 

[Alphahawk]

Depends on how much the cover is.

 

[DTLIONS1013]

I went to a 3 day festival alone to see my favorite DJs. Do it

 

[Arkos]

How different is going to the club solo from going to a bar or a movie or a restaurant solo? If you are going for the artist and not for the social interaction I'd think you'd be cool going solo, because fuck it you aren't even there to hang out.

 

[Social]

When you guys say "spin", you mean pressing play on their computer, right?

 

[keuja]

When you guys say "spin", you mean pressing play on their computer, right?

When you say "computer", I think you really mean MacBook.

 

[Servbot24]

When you guys say "spin", you mean pressing play on their computer, right?

This is a well thought out post that is sure to stimulate good conversation relevant to the thread and we all thank you for taking the time to write it.

 

[Kisaya]

You should go, especially if you don't want to miss out on that DJ.

Only reason why I'd avoid going to a club by myself is because of unwanted attention, which I don't know if that's a concern of yours or not.

 

[RiccochetJ]

No one cares or will remember you. Majority of the time people are doing their own thing and don't give a second thought about you unless you make them.

 

[Chichikov]

Of course you should go, you think it's awkward because you worry about what other people will think, and -
a. you shouldn't, because fuck living like that
b. no one will fucking notice or care; think about it, when you go to a club, do you look carefully to make sure everyone came with a group?

 

[Noshino]

While going to clubs with friends is fun, going alone is soooo much better..

It is far easier to meet other people when alone, you dont have any extra baggage, easier to be introduced, and you dont have to worry about anyone but yourself.

The only way I would recommend not going on your own is when you don't want extra attention, if you dont like to socialize in crowded spaces, or if you dont think you can handle a few drinks.

 

[Vigilant Walrus]

I wish I was better at going to bars alone... I only have bullshit excuses for why I am not good at it. I think being able to go to a crowded bar and just talk to people casually with no agenda, being able to tune into the vibe of the bar shows social maturity, because you're resting in yourself.

In a club I could never see myself interacting meaningfully with anyone as long as the music is that loud. In those places I just go out and dance and try to get into the music.


My thing is going to a bar alone and being bad at approaching groups of people.

 

[wondermega]

I think I prefer clubbing and bar hopping alone much of the time. Although I refuse to go see a film alone

 

[Chuck Norris]

I often go solo when I'm out clubbing with friends. If the club is big enough we all usually split up and I'll go do my own thing, meet people etc

But it's nice to have friends around still to bump into. And it's hard to meet and talk to new people

 

[Arjen]

Did it once, also because the line-up was to amazing to miss.
Didn't really like it, it's much more enjoyable with friends.

 

[Izayoi]

Nothing wrong with going alone. Makes it much easier to leave with someone on your arm, in my experience.

Wow, that bump. My apologies. I lost track of the thread I was in. :lol

 

[Salmonax]

Saw Feed Me by myself since none of my friends like him. It was a great show, but ultimately I don't think I'll do it much.

 

[thezerofire]

I go to clubs by myself all the time. I figure going alone would still be more fun than sitting at home

 

[Nevasleep]

Just get absolutely smashed, to the point that you won't care if you're on your own.

 

[potam]

I go to clubs by myself all the time. I figure going alone would still be more fun than sitting at home

Not when people point you out and laugh with their friends and make you cry

 

[Bedameister]

Just get absolutely smashed, to the point that you won't care if you're on your own.

this. I was in the same situation once and I didn't go. Regretted it afterwards. If it is a club and there is a good DJ who cares if you are alone. Just dance and enjoy the music

 

[Sobriquet]

I don't think I've ever gone to a club alone, but I do tend to wander off and hang out with strangers.

When you guys say "spin", you mean pressing play on their computer, right?

No, because he said it's a DJ.

 

[YoungHav]

Don't go. Other people will think you're a loser and you should validate yourself through what people think about you. Stay home and listen to the DJs CDs to save face.

 

[kick51]

Not when people point you out and laugh with their friends and make you cry

nobody will notice you, unless you stand out for some odd reason. like if you're 6' 10" or something

I've gone to concerts at smaller bars alone quite a bit, since I always wanted to go to more shows than my friends. That's a little different. Everyone has something to focus on and enjoy together, then you leave when it's over. I stopped caring but sometimes during set break, it was odd. The one thing I miss about smoking in bars is that it was very easy to just sit down and start chatting over a smoke with some people, so waiting for the next band was no prob.

a club might be weird

 

[nocturnedelight]

I'd say just go, but maybe you first have to miss out to get that push not to let those circumstances get in your way.

I missed out on Disclosure in March because I couldn't find anyone to go with me till the tickets sold out. Then when they announced coming back in October I bought two tickets in July without looking for anyone to go with me till days before the show, fully prepared that I would go alone and just sell the extra ticket.

If you go, don't worry about meeting people or not. Just "worry" about having fun. You might end up meeting people that, but if not who cares.

 

[Bam Bam Baklava]

So did OP go or not?

 

[ViewtifulJC]

So did OP go or not?

his alt account was the "I'm at the club surfing GAF pls help" OP

 

[∇NKNOWN SHΔPE]

Make new friends in (front of) the club so you are not alone.
And if not, just get drunk and dance till dawn, do not be the guy who just hangs around and tries to look cool.
I often go alone and I always meet interesting people.

 

[Symphonia]

Probably a bad idea. Unless you're cool with just hanging around doing nothing.

I don't know about you but I've never gone to a club and just done nothing. Even when I go with a group of friends, the group always splinters and gets talking to new people. Isn't that the whole purpose of going out and socialising? Like, it's literally the definition.