I really wouldnt, but they will find a way to watch it anyway.Would you let your 12 year old watch porn for say “experimental” purposes?
I really wouldnt, but they will find a way to watch it anyway.
So how do you explain that what they see in porn isn’t real?
I know how awkward I felt watching porn with my friends, I couldn’t imagine watching with my parents.There's an ep of Freaks and Geeks that covers this. Screening it with parental guidance might help.
You had to work for your porn back in the day and it was censored and less extreme. If what the kids are seeing now is what they are trying to emulate then that's going to change their perception of what sex is like.It probably has honestly. I remember a time where you would be excited to get your hands on a nudie mag or an old school regular sex porno. These days almost all porn is way to hardcore. Best of luck. I’d try to explain that a lot of porn is overacted, and way more intense?
I’m super concerned now, my kids are both hitting puberty. I’ve tried to explain to them, that porn is an act for the camera, and real sex is not like this.
I’m hoping they both get the message, and figure it out before it’s too late.
I know how awkward I felt watching porn with my friends, I couldn’t imagine watching with my parents.
I know how awkward I felt watching porn with my friends, I couldn’t imagine watching with my parents.
Logically, shouldn't people also be concerned about romantic movies?
I mean, if you just let them read an Angular post, your kids will definitely forfeit sex for a while. 100%, it just works.I’m super concerned now, my kids are both hitting puberty. I’ve tried to explain to them, that porn is an act for the camera, and real sex is not like this.
I’m hoping they both get the message, and figure it out before it’s too late.
Do you let your kids proof-read your posts before hitting post reply for experimental purposes?Would you let your 12 year old watch porn for say “experimental” purposes?
... what exactly isnt real?So how do you explain that what they see in porn isn’t real?
... what exactly isnt real?
We are watching very different porn then..."Am I a bad girlfriend if I don't want anal sex, or threesomes, or to bring in a midget and a donkey?"
Do you really think that the average person's sex life is going include those 40 minute pounding anal sessions with no visible lubrication and the finish on the girls face? Look, I get that it is a male fantasy thing....but I think young and inexperienced males have a jaded view of real sexual encounters and the spirit of give and take that is involved. Can both males and females think that what they see in porn is a standard of performance they are supposed to live up to...? "Am I a bad girlfriend if I don't want anal sex, or threesomes, or to bring in a midget and a donkey?"
Also, just to be able to see loveless, animalistic sex all the time on demand has got to have an effect. I'm not a psychologist, but there is no way something so powerful could not change the way people relate to each other.
I think if you're a guy and you can't look at the male role in porn in relation to yourself (body size, penis size, sexual stamina, physical dominance) and not conclude that what you're watching is completely fabricated, heavily edited, and either unrealistic or not remotely typical in every way, then you're probably not too bright.
I think if you're a guy and you can't look at the male role in porn in relation to yourself (body size, penis size, sexual stamina, physical dominance) and not conclude that what you're watching is completely fabricated, heavily edited, and either unrealistic or not remotely typical in every way, then you're probably not too bright.
I remember being 12 years old, and watching toy commercials, now having over a decade of life experience that told me "that toy probably isn't going to work like that." "Those kids look much older than kids who would actually enjoy that toy." "Sure, it talks, but it probably has a very limited set of pre-recorded options."
But there's a difference between cynicism and just learning to base your expectations around reality. I think if you're raising kids with that in mind, and encouraging their critical thinking skills, they're going to be able to extrapolate that understanding to more situations than just children's toys.
Good episode, with Biff as the sex-ed teacher, as a bonus.There's an ep of Freaks and Geeks that covers this. Screening it with parental guidance might help.
We are watching very different porn then...
Plus,your kids will need to release some steam and porn can help with that
Watching porn with your children while possibly a crime, is also a good way of turning them off ever watching porn again and the start of some deep seated psychological issues that will follow them for life.*Would you let your 12 year old watch porn for say “experimental” purposes?
"Around the World in 80 Hoe's" is a very good study of geography, other cultures, and tolerance. Would recommend for the 10 and over crowd. Just a shame that it bombed in the overseas box offices, so we will probably never get the sequel - "Around the World in 80 Hoe's 2: The search for Spaceballs 2: The search for more money".*A group of dudes standing around a woman and blasting all over her should teach your child a lot about the world.
Linking a Hulk Smash or a Flipendo to porn could be an interesting way of education.Porn is fantasy. Would you use The Avengers or Harry Potter to help your child understand the world?
I know how awkward I felt watching porn with my friends, I couldn’t imagine watching with my parents.
How could it not?
I'm not making a moral judgment either way. But how could it not? Sexuality is deeply personal, where even the most inane snippets might be highly erotic to someone going through puberty. Anything a person learns about sex during their formative years will have an impact on their sex-life and sexuality for the duration of their lifespan.
Desensitization toward the visual/audio elements of the sex act is a natural byproduct of watching porn. Again, I'm not making a moral judgment either way. It's simply the case.
The question is if it leads to dysfunction. Similar claims have been made about desensitization towards violence through media and the evidence for desensitization and it translating into unhelpful behavior is weak. However it's possible porn is different as sex is a private activity with taboos and uncomfortable feelings against discussion in contrast to open norms against violence. I don't really know that literature (but neither do the people repeating conservative, feminist or "nofap" talking points about harms of porn)
There’s nothing healthy about jerking off every day or watching porn. I speak from experience. It’s bullshit. I remember back in high school they preached that garbage that masturbation helps prevent testicular cancer. Total nonsense. Porn also gives you the whole “she’s hot so I must smash if possible” mentality. Sexual compatibility or attraction should be the absolute last box you’re checking off when looking for a potential mate. We’re being programmed to make it the first and then wonder why relationships don’t work and kids are left with single parents.
Desensitization is the natural psychological response to any high-impact stimulation.The question is if it leads to dysfunction. Similar claims have been made about desensitization towards violence through media and the evidence for desensitization and it translating into unhelpful behavior is weak. However it's possible porn is different as sex is a private activity with taboos and uncomfortable feelings against discussion in contrast to open norms against violence. I don't really know that literature (but neither do the people repeating conservative, feminist or "nofap" talking points about harms of porn)
Linking a Hulk Smash or a Flipendo to porn could be an interesting way of education.
...... Oh nowwwww i get why Hulk said ''Hulk sad'' in one of the movies.
I think the point was that all of that - excluding the donkey - is freely available to absolutely anyone and at any time.
There is literally so much free porn out there that one couldn't even go through them all in one lifetime.
And today the rougher stuff is right there along with all the other porn. One video might be softer stuff but the next might have brutal anal sex and throatfucking. Hell, deepthroating with out-of-breath teary eyed garglegargle is something that is part of many of the "normal" porn films today. Back in the day if you wanted to see something like that you had to look for special videos that were aimed for the viewers into more extreme stuff.
Also back in the day when we were able to check out stuff on the internet it was mostly pictures we were able to watch. If you wanted a video, you had to be prepared to wait for tens of minutes to take a look at one short clip. It's very much different to see things in pictures than in videos, and today people can look at videos even faster than we were able to load the pictures. You click on a video and it starts to stream instantly. It's all there, ready for you, on a computer, on a tablet, on a phone and even on video game consoles...
Desensitization is the natural psychological response to any high-impact stimulation.