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Has your significant other ever said you can rape them?

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Clott said:
My X girlfriend was like this, best sex I had in my life by far, she was very religious in her everyday life, so when it came down to business she was so damn kinky!!
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Thats what I forgot to add, my X was religious too. Goes to church every Sunday etc.

She's got some other dude now to slap her around during sex, so, I'm happy for her.
 
BladeoftheImmortal said:
Because mine has. She's a small woman and one glass of wine sends her straight to blackout territory. During that time she always asks for it, but she'll fall asleep easily during said time, so I normally abstain. Then in the morning one time, she got upset and said that next time i ask you while drunk you can do it.


Which is just crazy. So, we drank wine again tonight and she just passed out...what do???

I know not to do anything
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I was going to say:

BladoftheImmortal real life identity confirmed:

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Then I read the spoiler. Which negates my theory.
 
I've gotten that twice. With one girl she actually would be like "no no" and I'd stop. And she would ask me why? And I said that when I hear a female say no or stop in a sexual setting I back the fuck off as not wanting to end up in jail or do somethign she doesn't want.

Turns out she actually had a fantasy about it and wanted me to just "take it" despite her protests.

She was batshit insane.

My fiance scoffs at the notion that I could do such as thing. Since she believes "it's yours anyway...if you want to take it, take it"
 
beelzebozo said:
right, i suppose if his wife wanted to catch him into some kind of ashley judd-esque legal imbroglio, that would be a possibility. i doubt that's what she's trying to do, though. i guess i was speaking more from a psychological p.o.v. than a legal one, so that should be taken into consideration when reading my comments. it's fair that if a law says it's rape, it's rape. fair enough. that seems more a safeguard to err on the side of caution than an actual definitive statement that it is undeniably rape.
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From a psychological p.o.v. it's subjective, and the OP labeled it as rape from his perspective.

So the question is, what kind of negative psychological effect would it have on him if any.
 
I haven't had this happen and i don't think it's something i would be into anyway.

bengraven said:
- I don't want to derail the thread anymore, but basically he was exiled from the family instead, since people didn't really believe the story
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A similar thing happened to my partner except she was exiled from the family (not explicitly but most of them act pretty cold towards her/blame her/don't believe her). They even told her off for not being more supportive of him when he was having trouble with drugs (which he and his wife were taking whilst having their kids which combined with the domestic violence has really fucked them up).

She constantly tries to forgive them but goddamn do i feel like just letting fucking loose on these people sometimes.
 
AdventureRacing said:
A similar thing happened to my partner except she was exiled from the family (not explicitly but most of them act pretty cold towards her/blame her/don't believe her). They even told her off for not being more supportive of him when he was having trouble with drugs (which he and his wife were taking whilst having their kids which combined with the domestic violence has really fucked them up).

She constantly tries to forgive them but goddamn do i feel like just letting fucking loose on these people sometimes.
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This is an "every weekend" thing to me. When I see her family I want to jump at them and reenact the ape beating from 2001.
 
Rape role-playing is something you should conduct only, and ONLY if you've been in a long-term relationship, and have run out things to fulfill on you desires.

Its best to just start with non-physical rape:get your partner/victim and yourself to stand naked facing each other, and while she shouts 'NO', you should bring yourself to climax while staring at her in a non-threatening, but plainly obvious-you-want-to-penetrate-her manner.
If this is successful, you can move onto the second stage, which is a slightly more combative form of the aforementioned.

Remember to be safe, and you won't be in danger.
 
Look if it is a fantasy of her it really is ok; it's not rape, you both are just roleplaying. It's fun territory.

As for being accused, you take the same risk every time you have sex. It would take a pretty crazy woman to end up in that scenario.

Just be sure you know her well enough and have enough trust in each other.

And if you feel really uncomfortable doing it just say it.
 
bengraven said:
This is an "every weekend" thing to me. When I see her family I want to jump at them and reenact the ape beating from 2001.
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What stops you (i'm not saying you should do anything)? For me it's basically that i feel as though i will just push her family further away, that plus i think it would be selfish if i did.

Kinda doesn't help that the guy in question is a smug asshole. The way he speaks and acts in front of me, my partner and family members who know what happened....fuck.

At first i kinda avoided going anywhere near who family because it made my blood boil. Now i always go with her because i realized how hard it is for her.

Anyway that's probably enough venting and i don't wanna side track the thread too much.
 
It's not rape. If it's something you really don't want to do and something she really wants then maybe the two of you aren't very sexually compatible.

Mammoth Jones said:
I've gotten that twice. With one girl she actually would be like "no no" and I'd stop. And she would ask me why? And I said that when I hear a female say no or stop in a sexual setting I back the fuck off as not wanting to end up in jail or do somethign she doesn't want.

Turns out she actually had a fantasy about it and wanted me to just "take it" despite her protests.

She was batshit insane.

My fiance scoffs at the notion that I could do such as thing. Since she believes "it's yours anyway...if you want to take it, take it"
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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=za7jQ1s1BV0
 
As others have said. This isn't really rape. I've woken up to a bj before and it's awesome. The bottom line is it's your penis, and if you don't want to do it, don't do it.
 
Osietra said:
Its best to just start with non-physical rape:get your partner/victim and yourself to stand naked facing each other, and while she shouts 'NO', you should bring yourself to climax while staring at her in a non-threatening, but plainly obvious-you-want-to-penetrate-her manner.
If this is successful, you can move onto the second stage, which is a slightly more combative form of the aforementioned.
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:(
 
The_Technomancer said:
Whats the technical distinction? If a girl at a party said you could have sex, and then she passed out and you fucked her anyway, would that be rape?
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Well in this case his wife has given explicit consent that she wants him to have sex with her while blacked out. She even says this while sober. Unless your girl at the party has said the same it can't be accepted that just because she gave consent for sex while conscious that she would want it while unconscious.
 
electroshockwave said:
Well in this case his wife has given explicit consent that she wants him to have sex with her while blacked out. She even says this while sober. Unless your girl at the party has said the same it can't be accepted that just because she gave consent for sex while conscious that she would want it while unconscious.
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Fair enough
 
Yup and it was recently. She had to slap me repeatedly me in the face to get it out of me. We did things straight out of some hardcore porno. Best sex I ever had in my life. Also: whiskey is your friend.
 
The_Technomancer said:
Whats the technical distinction? If a girl at a party said you could have sex, and then she passed out and you fucked her anyway, would that be rape?
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is that an open ended invitation? She says 'we can have sex' but you don't make a move, can you just grab her in a dark alleyway one night and have your way?

no of course not.
 
My current girlfriend really enjoys rough sex and dominant/submissive role play. She hasn't asked me about indulging a rape fantasy yet but I am confident she will at some point in the near future. And like you OP I am wondering how to commit myself enough to the act so that she will actually be able to suspend disbelief and feel like I am some stranger raping her.

Anyone have any tips for me?
 
Osietra said:
Its best to just start with non-physical rape:get your partner/victim and yourself to stand naked facing each other, and while she shouts 'NO', you should bring yourself to climax while staring at her in a non-threatening, but plainly obvious-you-want-to-penetrate-her manner.
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This can be very traumatizing for some people. I do much the same, and I even shout "NO" so the lady does not have to do anything, yet still they run. It really hurts my feelings and makes me feel unwanted. Plus the treatment I then receive at the hands of the police or Park Authority is not helpful in the least.

Mammoth Jones said:
My fiance scoffs at the notion that I could do such as thing. Since she believes "it's yours anyway...if you want to take it, take it"
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Attaboy!
 
If she tells you she wants to do it, then it's not "rape," it's just a roleplaying fantasy.

IIRC, a sizable % of women when surveyed said they have had some form of similar fantasies or thoughts. Naturally, though, I wouldn't dare actually indulge that kind of roleplaying unless you really trusted the girl, and she wasn't crazy.
 
WorriedCitizen said:
Sound like a fetish or fantasy for her so why not? She gave you her consent so it's not actual rape but a role play.
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What if she changes her mind?

"Yeah it would've been okay then, but not now!"
 
BladeoftheImmortal said:
Because mine has. She's a small woman and one glass of wine sends her straight to blackout territory. During that time she always asks for it, but she'll fall asleep easily during said time, so I normally abstain. Then in the morning one time, she got upset and said that next time i ask you while drunk you can do it.


Which is just crazy. So, we drank wine again tonight and she just passed out...what do???

I know not to do anything
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Dude, it's a fantasy, it's not rape. You're not doing anything wrong either way because it's with her consent. Thinking this is rape is like saying that people who like BDSM role play or spanking like beating women. She says "you can do it" because it's her fantasy and doesn't know how to tell it to you any other way.


leadbelly said:
What if she changes her mind?

"Yeah it would've been okay then, but not now!"
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Same can happen with many, many sexual fantasies even normal sex. If the woman is an idiot you're fucked anyway.
 
Do it and film it so she can enjoy it when she wakes up. Turn off the camera and then use some super huge dildo on her so when she wakes up she walks funny and then she will be pissed she was asleep lol.
 
BladeoftheImmortal said:
Because mine has. She's a small woman and one glass of wine sends her straight to blackout territory. During that time she always asks for it, but she'll fall asleep easily during said time, so I normally abstain. Then in the morning one time, she got upset and said that next time i ask you while drunk you can do it.


Which is just crazy. So, we drank wine again tonight and she just passed out...what do???

I know not to do anything
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Wait, does she want you to have sex with her while she's asleep or does she just want some roleplaying stuff?
 
The_Technomancer said:
Whats the technical distinction? If a girl at a party said you could have sex, and then she passed out and you fucked her anyway, would that be rape?
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That would be date-rape, methinks.




Man, this topic is getting pretty awkward...
 
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