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[Woorloog]

Sorry, seems my tone was a bit more hostile than I intended (and I write stream of consciousness, so there's that). I wasn't talking about how straight men should go actively seek gay partners or what have you, or that straight men are close minded (which again, looking at my post, seemed to be what I was saying), I was attempting some sort of humor about sexuality.

So yes, I'm sorry for rambling, I tend to post things (that may actually be edited down) without thinking of how people might respond.

By the way, i think there's a classification for people with your kind of preferences: pansexual. I think. (Might have been omnisexual, on the other hand, that might be the sort who don't limit themselves to humans.)

I just find it funny to note the "don't give a shit what i like" or "i don't care for classifications" has classification.

No offence intended.

 

[Morrigan Stark]

Also, for example girl on girl is hot while guy on guy is considered nasty even by girls, at least from what i have seen.

? No. Why do you think slash fiction and yaoi is so popular with girls?

W-w-w-wait a second... darling? Is that you?

No.

Spoiler

Yes.

Spoiler

No.

 

[Macka]

I've never found the same sex to be sexually appealing. I can recognize when a dude is good looking though, always raise my eyebrows when people say otherwise.

 

[Demy]

Can't say that I have though I've tried exploring the same sex a little bit. Hats off to someone like The Lamp who can apparently have enjoy the show no matter what the weather.

 

[Snowybreak]

By the way, i think there's a classification for people with your kind of preferences: pansexual. I think. (Might have been omnisexual, on the other hand, that might be the sort who don't limit themselves to humans.)

I just find it funny to note the "don't give a shit what i like" or "i don't care for classifications" has classification.

No offence intended.

None taken! I never really liked the term pansexual, due to its use in my highschool as code for bi-curious girls. Plus something never sat right with always calling attention to whether someone was trans or not.

I think the term for me is IDGAFsexual.

Edit:

Spoiler

Or maybe I do?

 

[Woorloog]

None taken! I never really liked the term pansexual, due to its use in my highschool as code for bi-curious girls. Plus something never sat right with always calling attention to whether someone was trans or not.

I think the term for me is IDGAFsexual.

Not sure what pansexual has to do with being trans? Or is it just that its definition usually covers transgender people?


Also... IDGAFsexual?

 

[Astral Dog]

? No. Why do you think slash fiction and yaoi is so popular with girls?


No.

Spoiler

Yes.

Spoiler

No.

Thats only an example and personal anecdote
But it happens

 

[Beth Cyra]

Not sure what pansexual has to do with being trans? Or is it just that its definition usually covers transgender people?


Also... IDGAFsexual?

For some it does.

To some Trans Men and Trans Women are NOT men or women but birth gender.

So if a man is attracted to a Trans Woman some will consider that man Gay when it isn't that at all.

Pansexual is really you are open to all genders and sexualities with no need to force yourself one way or another.

 

[Ekai]

Not sure what pansexual has to do with being trans? Or is it just that its definition usually covers transgender people?


Also... IDGAFsexual?

Pansexual covers all people/all gender identities. For example, I'm a transwoman who is pan and demisexual. I'm open to relationships with everyone and I prefer them to be with people I am close to emotionally.


IDGAF is just a funny way of saying: "I don't give a fuck" what someone is. I assume so anyway.

 

[Debirudog]

I always felt attracted to quite a bit of men but I never had the courage to ask them because my gaydar is non-existent and I have too much low self-esteemed to ask them out.

 

[Snowybreak]

Not sure what pansexual has to do with being trans? Or is it just that its definition usually covers transgender people?


Also... IDGAFsexual?

I Don't Give A Fuck, hence the edit spoiler.

Edit: Beaten! By an edit! To my own Reply! Fuck!

 

[Morrigan Stark]

I am still unclear as to the difference between pan- and bisexuality...

 

[Woorloog]

For some it does.

To some Trans Men and Trans Women are NOT men or women but birth gender.

So if a man is attracted to a Trans Woman some will consider that man Gay when it isn't that at all.

Pansexual is really you are open to all genders and sexualities with no need to force yourself one way or another.

I figure people are what they as they prefer to be referred as.
Your explanation of pansexual is about how i'd describe it. Didn't, because i had no idea how to write it elegantly.

By the way, is there some good (written, detest watching vids) guide to acceptable, proper terms for transgender people? Like, is that "transgender people" okay?

 

[Ekai]

I am still unclear as to the difference between pan- and bisexuality...

Pan is inclusive to all gender identities. Bisexual doesn't include them inherently. At least that's how it's generally viewed to my knowledge. I've called myself bi/pan/demi before to avoid confusion since lots of people don't know the pan term.

I figure people are what they as they prefer to be referred as.
Your explanation of pansexual is about how i'd describe it. Didn't, because i had no idea how to write it elegantly.

By the way, is there some good (written, detest watching vids) guide to acceptable, proper terms for transgender people? Like, is that "transgender people" okay?

PFLAG's "Our Trans Loved Ones" pdf has a glossary of some general LGBT terms. Though it feels a tiny bit inadequate to your specific question. I'll say transman/woman/transgender individuals, myself. Transgendered as discussed earlier isn't proper English. Nor does it make sense because one doesn't become trans, they just are.

 

[Ekai]

Edit: Sorry for the double post.

 

[Beth Cyra]

I am still unclear as to the difference between pan- and bisexuality...

Bisexuality tends to be that the Sex is still a legitimate thing be it a turn on or preference.

Pan it generally doesn't play a role at all or extremely minimal and it's all about the person.

 

[Woorloog]

While talking about definitions... would someone define demisexual?
IIRC, it means something akin to "gotta develop attraction over time" or "gotta know person well".

Might be mixing it with something else, there are many terms after all.

 

[Ekai]

While talking about definitions... would someone define demisexual?
IIRC, it means something akin to "gotta develop attraction over time" or "gotta know person well".

Might be mixing it with something else, there are many terms after all.

Sure.

As I said demisexual is when one only feels sexual attraction/is in a relationship to/with people with whom they are emotionally close to. I admit to commenting that some people may be attractive (tho I don't tend to have any urges for them or anything) but honestly I need that emotional connection for there to be anything. Basically it can be boiled down to "you gotta know the person well".

 

[Woorloog]

PFLAG's "Our Trans Loved Ones" pdf has a glossary of some general LGBT terms. Though it feels a tiny bit inadequate to your specific question. I'll say transman/woman/transgender individuals, myself. Transgendered as discussed earlier isn't proper English. Nor does it make sense because one doesn't become trans, they just are.

Eh, difficult to ask what i'm asking, i think. Since i got no idea in the first place. Sorta.
Will google that PDF. Sounds like what i'm looking for, probably.

Sure.

As I said demisexual is when one only feels sexual attraction/is in a relationship to/with people with whom they are emotionally close to. I admit to commenting that some people may be attractive but honestly I need that emotional connection for there to be anything. Basically it can be boiled down to "you gotta know the person well".

Right, forgot that emotional connection. But then, usually you have some sort of emotional connection to people you know well.

As i noted earlier, i figure i'm asexual... but i might be demisexual. Unsure about that though. Figuring that out seems kinda difficult, especially for someone who is not a people-person.

 

[How About No]

I identify as at least 90% straight and If they look girly enough and look good in a wig sure why not

K maybe 85% straight

I'd also totally suck dick

...75%

Yes. I identify as gynephilic so traits that register as feminine to me are attractive regardless of an individual's sex.

Oh so there's a word for it neat!

 

[Team Alucard]

By the way, is there some good (written, detest watching vids) guide to acceptable, proper terms for transgender people? Like, is that "transgender people" okay?

Transgender is an adjective, so "transgender people", "transgender man", "he is transgender", etc are all correct usage.

"Transgenders" or "transgendered" are not, and make no sense grammatically. You would not refer to a group of attractive women as "attractived" or "attractives".

But that's just grammar, it's not something to get worked up over. Just avoid using thr offensive porn terms like tranny, she-male, dick-girl, lady-boy, etc. and you're good.

 

[Chmpocalypse]

For some it does.

To some Trans Men and Trans Women are NOT men or women but birth gender.

So if a man is attracted to a Trans Woman some will consider that man Gay when it isn't that at all.

Pansexual is really you are open to all genders and sexualities with no need to force yourself one way or another.

The last paragraph describes me. The first sentence just makes me shake my head.

 

[wumster3000]

No, I can't. My brain tells me that women are the only thing that are attractive. Nothing against people that have, but I love the look, smell and feel of a woman.

Men do not attract me at all.

 

[Discotheque]

I have like a million man crushes but none have been sexual in nature so I guess...no?

Just never clicked with me to go team bi or gay

 

[Kurita]

From time to time women attract me, but when I fantasize what it would be actually like I lose ALL interest. Don't think I could ever go through with, but it's hard for me to imagine anyone could be 100% in either direction unless they were a robot.

That's where I'm at but with guys

 

[Woorloog]

But that's just grammar, it's not something to get worked up over. Just avoid using thr offensive porn terms like tranny, she-male, dick-girl, lady-boy, etc. and you're good.

I think i wince every time i see terms like those, and wonder if people use those out of ignorance or willfully.

 

[Aztechnology]

I definitely can admire the beauty of a man. facial features, physique etc. But I don't really have any sexual attraction to them. That being said I like Tomboys. But that's more of a blurred line with gender preference than a difference in sex.

 

[Golgo 13]

Nothing against any LGTB people obviously, but no, it never occurs to me. When I see a beautiful woman, it literally takes my breath away. Seeing an attractive guy and I just shrug and think "I wonder how much sex he gets". I also have had women around comment on a man's attractiveness and 99 times out of 100 I don't see it, so to be honest, I don't even know if I can tell.

Everything about the female body is just so inviting and alluring. It screams "touch me". Men are just dudes -- hairy and gross. Blegh!

 

[Beth Cyra]

I think i wince every time i see terms like those, and wonder if people use those out of ignorance or willfully.

It is something to be avoided.

However there are those in our circle who wish to reclaim those so even our community doesn't always agree.

 

[Morrigan Stark]

I identify as at least 90% straight and If they look girly enough and look good in a wig sure why not

K maybe 85% straight

I'd also totally suck dick

...75%

I think you need to change your username to "How About Yes", then

 

[foxuzamaki]

Attracted sure, but not sexually. It's more like admiration or envy. Like I can see a dude and be star struck by their attractiveness and everything but like upstairs or downstairs it does nothing for me sexually. It's a total flat line.

I think this is me

 

[freenudemacusers]

i just want to take a moment to remind everyone that im not gay

 

[Woorloog]

It is something to be avoided.

However there are those in our circle who wish to reclaim those so even our community doesn't always agree.

Basically, some think they should have "N-word privileges" to those terms? And others think they're offensive regardless of who uses them?

 

[The Lamp]

No, I can't. My brain tells me that women are the only thing that are attractive. Nothing against people that have, but I love the look, smell and feel of a woman.

Men do not attract me at all.

The smell of a woman?

You mean pheromones or her perfume?

 

[Beth Cyra]

Basically, some think they should have "N-word privileges" to those terms? And others think they're offensive regardless of who uses them?

Sorta.

However I don't think it equals the N Word law.

It's more like Queer where the community has reclaimed that and some Trans Folk are okay with Tranny/SheMale/ect.

 

[Sohter.Nura]

Yes, I consider myself bissexual, even if I've never acted on it.

 

[Saganator]

I know a good looking dude when I see one, but I've never been like "wow I want that guy."

 

[Nealand Liquor]

I can find men attractive, but I have no interest in banging them. In fact I think a young Brad Pitt is unbelievably handsome, although I am repulsed by the idea of kissing him or having sex with him. This takes nothing away from how I can admire his looks.

 

[Woorloog]

Sorta.

However I don't think it equals the N Word law.

It's more like Queer where the community has reclaimed that and some Trans Folk are okay with Tranny/SheMale/ect.

I see.
Something to research some day. I figure trying to understand stuff like this is a good thing.

 

[bbd23]

I find a lot of guys attractive but I wouldn't bang any of them

 

[Sinoox]

I always felt attracted to quite a bit of men but I never had the courage to ask them because my gaydar is non-existent and I have too much low self-esteemed to ask them out.

You should try a hookup site. I sure can respect gay guys that try to ask out other guys in person. Only issue is that the chance is too high that the person you're asking out isn't gay. This was a pain of mine in high school. It really sucks when you're attracted to all Christian boys lmfao

 

[Monocle]

Man, look at that pose. He works hard for his money.

No I can't say that I have been. I find dudes kind of gross really.

Check out better dudes. As a gay guy I can say that at least 8/10 of the men I see on an average day do absolutely nothing for me. At least. There are a lot of schlubs and average joes and old people out there who are a hard pass. Nothing wrong with being selective unless you take it absurdly far.

 

[How About No]

Well, a guy needs to be at a certain level of feminine attractiveness for me to not mind that he has a penis.

Take for example Chinese crossdressing cosplayer Alice Haoge

I'm not into cosplay, but when I first stumbled upon pictures of him I couldn't believe it was a dude.

Would I go out with a guy like that? If there was mutual interest then absolutely.

....fffffffff

 

[LookAtMeGo]

i just want to take a moment to remind everyone that im not gay

Dammit!

 

[Charles Alan Ratliff]

Not yet, but I plan on having sex with a guy at least one time in my life, so we'll see.

 

[Merc_]

Nah, I'm not into dudes.

 

[Monocle]

Nah, I'm not into dudes.

I mean there's so much male variation out there that this is a little like saying you're not into vegetables.

 

[hurricanes]

Ace rolling by...

To be serious, I spend more time searching for beautiful women than beautiful men just to appreciate their beauty.

 

[blame space]

i just want to take a moment to remind everyone that im not gay

🤔

 

[Sinoox]

Not yet, but I plan on having sex with a guy at least one time in my life, so we'll see.

I think this is the attitude open minded people should have with sexuality. Sex isn't nearly as big of a deal as people make it out to be. It doesn't change a man overnight no matter who you go with. Why not just try it once?

Homosexuality use to be big in a lot of cultures. It wasn't until recently (in human history) that it became an issue.