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Home office gaming: does your other half get mad?
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it took mine a few years to learn things are not changing, but we're good now. i can relate with a lot of this thread, but i wasn't giving in when it came to gaming. she watches plenty of bullshit on tv i don't want to see, i use that time to do what i want to do.
U n i o n 0015
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This thread's equivalent of "Do you even lift, bro?"
Kind of, but remove the whipped portion and it still stands.
Lots of posts can literally be translated as, "My boring and irrational significant other can't find anything interesting to do on her own, so she gets mad that I have something like that which isn't spending time with her."
When sitting on the couch watching shitty TV counts as "social" time, time to reevaluate your relationship.
Lots of posts can literally be translated as, "My boring and irrational significant other can't find anything interesting to do on her own, so she gets mad that I have something like that which isn't spending time with her."
When sitting on the couch watching shitty TV counts as "social" time, time to reevaluate your relationship.
U n i o n 0015
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It's more a consequence of our current setup.
We've got two TV's in the house, one which is postage stamp-sized and the other a 50". It's waaaay easier for me to use technology to accommodate my hobby than it is for her to watch shows on a tiny TV.
So we can both be in the same room, doing our own thing. To me it's no different than a couple who likes to read in the same room together. It's not like we can't stand talking to each other and need activities to fill the void.
Really? What a bizarre equation.
He saw the 'whipped' portion as a challenge to manhood. Once that tone was set, the rest could really have said anything and the response would have been the same. People are sensitive.
U n i o n 0015
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It's the hyper aggressive if-your-life-isn't-like-this-then-you're-wrong attitude.
Head of Vengarl
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Definitely something I'm a little worried about.
I'm moving in with my gf next month so we'll see what happens. My PC is gonna be in our bedroom and our TV + Wii in the living room. I've already brought it up and she said she doesn't care, but I've gotta feel out the limits. I'm guessing I won't be having too many 5+ hour gaming marathons anymore. But that's probably a good thing, in any case.
I'm moving in with my gf next month so we'll see what happens. My PC is gonna be in our bedroom and our TV + Wii in the living room. I've already brought it up and she said she doesn't care, but I've gotta feel out the limits. I'm guessing I won't be having too many 5+ hour gaming marathons anymore. But that's probably a good thing, in any case.
lol true say.
FWIW - the "whipped" portion could have any gender associated with it. Man whipped by man. Woman whipped by woman. So-on. It's why I use s/o and not husband, wife, boyfriend, girlfriend.
Oh, hyper-aggressive? Give me a break. There wasn't one aggressive term in my post. Also, notice the IMO bit. Good old internet, keep on truckin'.
You guys are gonna think Im trying to be funny, or trolling the thread but this is a really a genuine suggestion.
Give your S/O some of the greatest sex in recent memory. Like set it up. Candles, Dinner before. Music. Whatever it is...
Give her some good business. Then afterwards when the battle has been fought and you both lie together for "bedtalk", Bring up your gaming habit and work through it.
Im so serious, Its like women are 500% more receptive to any negotiation after good sex.
Give your S/O some of the greatest sex in recent memory. Like set it up. Candles, Dinner before. Music. Whatever it is...
Give her some good business. Then afterwards when the battle has been fought and you both lie together for "bedtalk", Bring up your gaming habit and work through it.
Im so serious, Its like women are 500% more receptive to any negotiation after good sex.
Its the secret
Good advice, actually.
Of course, if these folks are trying to play games for 3-4 hours a day every day, that's a different story.
I can understand why it might seem like that, but what was described in the OP and a number of posts are objectively bad relationships.
Of course, if these folks are trying to play games for 3-4 hours a day every day, that's a different story.
Guess I'm also in the whipped category. Ever since the SO moved in I barely even turn on my gaming PC anymore. She also loves giving me updates on how long I've been playing something. What I'm thankful for, though, is WiiU's off-screen play for when she wants to watch her shows.
DangerStepp
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My office is my man-cave.
It does kinda separate me from the wife while she's watching television in the living room.
So I compromised and got a 3DS so it seems like we're spending quality time together while in the same room.
It does kinda separate me from the wife while she's watching television in the living room.
So I compromised and got a 3DS so it seems like we're spending quality time together while in the same room.
TheChewyWaffles
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Get divorced
Me and my boyfriend are both huge gamers so no butting heads over here unless it's an argument of why FF8 (my favorite) is a superior game to FF7 (his favorite). We both spend a ton of time together and go out so there is never any of the anti-social arguments or arguments of not spending enough time together.
I know it's just a "hobby" but gaming will always be a part of my life and i honestly don't see myself being with someone for the rest of my life who doesn't support my hobbies. I dated a guy many years ago who was just completely against gaming and complained all the time because i spent MY hard earned money on "toys" as he called it. If you can't accept what i love i can't be with you plain and simple. Sucks for people who have SO's who complain but to me, is someone loved you they would support your interest/hobbies long as those interest/hobbies were logical and you don't completely ignore him/her. It's just like my motorcycle, my boyfriend doesn't love the idea of me riding and owning one but completely supports it 100%. Granted, i have dialed it down and only ride it on weekends (compromise) but again. If he couldn't accept it i wouldn't be with him.
I won't give up the things i love for someone and i know some people will think that is outrageous but again, if someone truly loves you, you will come to a compromise. They should support you in your interest/hobbies as long as they are reasonable.
I know it's just a "hobby" but gaming will always be a part of my life and i honestly don't see myself being with someone for the rest of my life who doesn't support my hobbies. I dated a guy many years ago who was just completely against gaming and complained all the time because i spent MY hard earned money on "toys" as he called it. If you can't accept what i love i can't be with you plain and simple. Sucks for people who have SO's who complain but to me, is someone loved you they would support your interest/hobbies long as those interest/hobbies were logical and you don't completely ignore him/her. It's just like my motorcycle, my boyfriend doesn't love the idea of me riding and owning one but completely supports it 100%. Granted, i have dialed it down and only ride it on weekends (compromise) but again. If he couldn't accept it i wouldn't be with him.
I won't give up the things i love for someone and i know some people will think that is outrageous but again, if someone truly loves you, you will come to a compromise. They should support you in your interest/hobbies as long as they are reasonable.
figure out a way to wire an HDMI cable from your PC to your tv
Strife In a Teacup
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ass to ass.
Lol.
Edit: My wife is fine playing The Secret World while I play whatever. Currently Saints Row 4, Two Worlds 2 (steam sale!), Might & Magic X & some Dota 2. And some Killing Floor when my good friend logs on.
We're both nerdy so it works out nicely.
dragonflys545
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My other half plays PVZ2 all day... Well pretty much any cute tower defense games.
That or an alienware, same amount of lights and you get to pay double for it.
I like my alienware laptop
I think the eternal quest for witty responses have made people lose all perspective of what is humorous, not to mention appropriate.
It doesn't handle that by itself at this point(except for IR), so you need a separate control-transfer - I personally use BlueTooth/RF. IIRC it's also possible to do USB over powerlines now, as far as solutions without extra wiring go.codswallop said:
Inputs aside - this also enabled me to avoid separate HTPC-box, NAS or such things, as the central PC can easily handle all media-needs in addition to games, and as I noted, PQ with this is pretty much on par with Wired HDMI setup. In fact I'm tempted to move consoles out of the way this way too (it's only disc games that make that setup a bit annoying).
CosmicQueso
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OP, I was in your spot once.
The divorce that resulted was actually the best thing that ever happened to me.
True story.
The divorce that resulted was actually the best thing that ever happened to me.
True story.
Pop
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My wife was SUPER RESENTFUL when I basically played video games for a living as a freelancer. It was almost impossible to play anything for my enjoyment and often difficult to play for an article I was writing with her home.
Pro-Tip: Marry a gamer. If you can't, flip a coin and consider that hookers aren't necessarily more expensive than the first few years of a relationship
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If you don't put gaming first then what gives your other half the right to get upset over your gaming time. Make sure your other half has a hobby are your so called gaming time will be a disaster. I didin't matter if I game in the office room, bedroom or living room. Handheld, console or pc. She didn't like me spending time doing what a loved to do on my free time, no matter what. It took me 5 years to figure that out but I sorted it out.
spatenfloot
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You could take up fishing, buy a bass boat and trailer, and be gone every weekend. Bonus points if you make her clean the fish.
Mechanized
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My GF hated it. So I'd only either do it when she needed some alone time or when she was working. Wasn't really that big of a deal for me, I probably would have spent too much time isolating myself otherwise. Not really a good thing when you're in a relationship. Compromise is a big thing, and your idea of compromise being, hey lets play games together is a cute, but pretty shitty compromise from her perspective I'd reckon. I'd say either get a handheld, move a pc into the room you spend the most time in together, spend your time wiser, or get a new hobby.
You could always leave your partner but I think that would be a really shallow thing to do. I don't know the kinds of things you and her have been through together and shared as a couple. So I can't make a real judgment call on that.
I'd say just talk it out with her. If it means a lot to you then she should understand, but also reflect on this and make sure you're not spending too much time on this hobby. When you and her aren't working how much time do you spend together?
Look at it from both sides.
You could always leave your partner but I think that would be a really shallow thing to do. I don't know the kinds of things you and her have been through together and shared as a couple. So I can't make a real judgment call on that.
I'd say just talk it out with her. If it means a lot to you then she should understand, but also reflect on this and make sure you're not spending too much time on this hobby. When you and her aren't working how much time do you spend together?
Look at it from both sides.
This is it right here. Small 40 m^2 apartment = your spouse is always right next to you; no problems!
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