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[Rentahamster]

You're her fucking boss? Just stop, please. Find someone else.

 

[Brinbe]

Christ almighty... Leave her alone! For your own sake/mental health/bank account, if anything. There is ALWAYS someone else out there. Move the fuck on.

 

[Gragen]

I once had this same problem and said fuck it and treated her like a stranger.

3 kids later...

 

[LowlySmokeGuy]

Actually, you've done something extremely creepy and possibly illegal.

Illegal? Like what? That's quite a leap.

 

[ISOM]

Ask them out and get rejected or get a date. It's the only way you will have closure. At least you have the opportunity to do this.

 

[Jeronimo Jones]

I clicked to see what oneitis was, now I wanna know what OP did to get here.

 

[hitme]

Stop being selfish OP.

Let life be lived and distract yourself with work/activities/other people.

 

[capitalCORN]

Ask them out and get rejected or get a date. It's the only way you will have closure. At least you have the opportunity to do this.

He's already a step too far. Asking her out will put him in the streets,

 

[Earthbound64]

I've become completely infatuated and obsessed with this girl..thinking about her 24/7 and spending restless nights thinking about what she's doing or who she's with...

she created a new Facebook account and has added all her friends back except me..

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I haven't done anything creepy.

basically borderline ruining myself financially for this girl. Buying her iPhones , giving her for car repairs...

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[MattyG]

Well this backfired quickly.

 

[Maiden Voyage]

Check op's history:

You're her boss?

This poor woman

I remember poking fun at OP for creating threads all the time a while back:

Is one of your jobs making threads?

Funny that he is still at it.

 

[Nickle]

I think she likes you

 

[Apple Turnover]

Illegal? Like what? That's quite a leap.

At the very least it's unethical if he's their boss

 

[DrSlek]

I came here expecting Futurama jokes.

 

[zeemumu]

Back in my day we called that a Lifetime Original Movie

 

[ISOM]

He's already a step too far. Asking her out will put him in the streets,

I did not know he was her boss. OP might need to just move on.

 

[TheSpoiler]

Hi page 2! Just to get you up to speed here"

OP is madly in love with a girl
OP is the boss of said girl
OP has been pining for this one for quite some time
OP has bought her car repairs, an iPhone, etc.
OP is currently getting ghosted, as everyone else on his friends list is getting added while his friend request sits dry.
OP revealed all this in the first page, which is odd, because usually it takes like three pages to get to this point.

So there you go.

Edit: OP's infatuation apparently has kids? Dunno if she's married or in a relationship or whatever.

 

[Nose Master]

Find a new obsession.

EDIT: Jesus, OP. You want her to send you a singing telegram saying she's not interested? You'll live, move on.

 

[Septimus Prime]

 

[PingPongvonLaserstein]

Do you feel guilt or regret?

His only regret is that he has oneitis.

Edit: dammit.

 

[Aquavelvaman]

Find a new obsession.

Preferably something like model trains or vape rigs, not employees

 

[PartTimeWarrior]

There's other fish in the sea

 

[Jawbreaker]

She's just a bag of flesh housing guts and other gross things that's going to wrinkle and rot in the end, too. Jerk off, meet new people, remove yourself from her life in all possible ways outside of the unavoidable, and stop treating her like she's worth more than anyone else. You're being a creep.

 

[stump sock]

I haven't done anything creepy.

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[Sojgat]

Check op's history:

You're her boss?

This poor woman

 

[TheSpoiler]

Oh fuck is this the dude who wore the dirty shirt to work?
Damn dude your chances are over give up.

 

[tiebreaker]

If your obession is ruining you, yes it is, go seek help. Go see a shrink.

Off topic is on fire tonight.

 

[Tender Joe]

If your obession is ruining you, yes it is, go seek help. Go see a sink.

Is this the new "go kick rocks"?

 

[MattyG]

OP, I was in a similar spot last year. I was pining after this girl for two school semesters straight, was convinced she'd change her mind and that she was so amazing and wonderful. Over a year later and I still cringe in embarrassment at what a creep I was and question what I even saw in her, and I'm with someone who I love for reasons beyond "omg I'm obsessed with you and got the idea in my head that you'll make my life better and I'll die without you."

The only thing that will come out of you not dropping this here and now and leaving her alone is future embarrassment, regret, and a potential job loss.

 

[Ihyll]

This girl knew I liked her...and kept coming to me whenever she needed something...hence the iPhones , car repairs and all that stuff. We went out for drinks a couple of times and one time we came back to my place.

This is the reason why I say I haven't done anything creepy.

I know its not something I should pursue because it will never work out....but it's just difficult to get it out of my mind..which I need to do asap for my well being

 

[Earthbound64]

This girl knew I liked her...and kept coming to me whenever she needed something...

So she knew she could take advantage of you, so she took advantage of you.

 

[zeemumu]

You know you got it bad when you're stuck in the house
You don't wanna have fun
It's all you think about

 

[Bahorel]

Go see a therapist and leave her alone. This is the answer.

 

[LookAtMeGo]

Sorry OP. Its happened to me too.

 

[Captain Pants]

I haven't gone as deep as you have down the financial rabbit hole, but I can realize that it won't work. She's taking advantage of you, and you as her boss were looking to buy your way into her life. It's toxic. Move on.

 

[Kino_]

Meditate to help you cultivate detachment. I'm recovering from oneitis myself even though I still think about her 5 months after beginning no contact. But that's the thing, she's just another piece of thought in my head - nothing more than that. Move on bruh.

 

[Ihyll]

So she knew she could take advantage of you, so she took advantage of you.

But hey I'm the creep right?

 

[III-V]

Sounds like your both creepy, OP. But don't make a contest out of it.

 

[Earthbound64]

But hey I'm the creep right?

Right.

 

[brianjones]

But hey I'm the creep right?

its shitty to lead people on but if you let that turn into bitterness and rage its not gonna end well..

also sometimes people innocently misinterpret signs of friendship

the fact she's married with kids should have told you she was off limits from the start

 

[Bahorel]

But hey I'm the creep right?

Did she really ask you personally to buy her a phone or did she say I need a new phone in your precense and you took that as a message to get her one?

 

[gaiages]

But hey I'm the creep right?

The whole "we got drinks a few times and went back my place once" is still pretty sketchy, man.

 

[AudioNoir]

Hi I'm a girl and I say if she's leeching on you and you're also sort of creepy-obsessed, fucking drop it all and move on.

Both sides seem fucky.

 

[Biske]

Just jerk off a lot


A lot. Until you just want to sleep and then you realize, eeeeeeeey I can jerk off instead of giving a shit

Spoiler

this is probably a bad idea, but hey it's within reach

 

[UpDownLeftRight]

This girl knew I liked her...and kept coming to me whenever she needed something...hence the iPhones , car repairs and all that stuff. We went out for drinks a couple of times and one time we came back to my place.

This is the reason why I say I haven't done anything creepy.

I know its not something I should pursue because it will never work out....but it's just difficult to get it out of my mind..which I need to do asap for my well being

Well clearly you're not doing a good job of it. A good way to distance yourself would be stop being her safety net hoping to get it wet. Just do yourself a favour and accept she's not 'the one'. The further you go down that road the closer you'll be to doing creepy shit.

Eiher you're pining for sex or company so watch some porn or make some new friends. There's nothing she has that you need so bad that you're constantly thinking about her. Also she's sending you signs. Probably best to drop it before you get your ass in trouble as her boss.

If I had to guess I'd assume you've created a self damaging cycle where your hope of getting something going with her has further excluded you from other opportunities exacerbating the issue.

 

[TheSpoiler]

But hey I'm the creep right?

What she did wasn't creepy. It was shitty, but you enabled it, so you are just as much to blame as she is.

Since you literally gave her shit.

 

[Advocatus Diaboli]

Why do all of these threads turn out exactly the same fucking way?

 

[Biske]

Why do all of these threads turn out exactly the same fucking way?

These situations are all more or less the same, same reactions, same solutions.

Life is a never ending wheel of the same old shit

 

[gaiages]

Why do all of these threads turn out exactly the same fucking way?

At least it didn't take like 8 pages this time

 

[RoyaleDuke]

Jesus OP.

I don't know where to begin.

Why do all of these threads turn out exactly the same fucking way?

Because none of us can be normal people.

Spoiler

except for you and me right.